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Q: Ok, i don't know what to put this under ..
Prom is coming up and i have my dress and all ..
But it shows my shoulders/back .. I brake out on my back SO bad i can only get it cleared during the summer b/c i lay out in the sun/tanning bed ..
Any way to get it clear in like 1 month or less ??
Thanks Bunches !!

you could be using a soap or shampoo that irritates the skin on your back. Try a shampoo or soap made of all natural things. I use a lot of those, and the body soap actaully worked better than a bar of soap. i have natural shampoo too, and it works great too! Try some of those, you can usually get them from health food stores and stuff like that.
you could also go tan, you'd be tan, and have no break outs. :) double goodness. I'm not sure why tanning would prevent the break outs, but if it works, do it!

Q: my friend is going out with a guy. she is like my BEST FRIEND EVER, and this guy is 16 and shes 12. im worried because we both know this is an illegal relationship. what should i do?

When i was twelve, i was going out with a 15 year old. It was ok, not terrible or anything. He didn't try to get in my pants or anything, he was real sweet, and genuinely liked me. He turned out to be bi and was anerixic and crap like that. But oh well. i did end up hurt, even though i broke up with him and stuff, it made me feel bad that I would leave this older guy who liked me even though i was younger. So, if he's a good guy, and you believe he isn't trying to take advantage of her, just tell her, she's likely to get hurt in this relationship, just like any, but it's her decision. But if you think he is trying to slepp with her or something you think is not right, tell her parents, but only if you're almost for sure. You don't want her to be mad at you if there was nothing wrong.
I hope this helped! Good luck :)
Cris

Q: ok there's this guy that my best friend is hooking me up with...his 18 and i'm 15...his really nice and really sweet but sometimes i feel like his no going to want to be with me because my paretns hardly let me do anything...well it's kind of a confusing situation! but one min i think he likes me and the next his putting me down ((but he doesn't know he puts me down)) my best friend tells me that he doesn't mean to and blah blah! i just wan't to know if i should just stop talking to him or what?!
please help...ill rate!

I was in the same situation a few months ago. It didn't turn out well. If you guys aren't even going out yet (which is the impression i get) and he's already putting you down about your parents and stuff, then I would have serious talk with him. Tell him that if he loves/likes you enough to date/go out with you, he should respect the fact that you are younger than him, and that girls that are younger generally don't ge to do as many things as girls his age. If he decides that doing those things is more important than being with you, then he was wasn't right for you. But if he really likes you, and isn't just being pressured into talking to you because of your friend, he most likely will give up doing those things with you for a while.
And, don't do this because your friend wants you to, this is your life, your time, energy, heart and body. Don't be with someone you relaly don't want to be with, just because of your friend.
If he continues to put you down, and you have made it clear to him that when he says those things, it hurts you, you should break up or stop talking to him. I made the mistake of staying with my older guy until he really hurt me, and my parents and all my friends hated him for what he said to me. i just don't want this to happen with you.
Good luck, I hope everything works out well. :)
-Carissa

Q: i'm 13(male). my brother is 10(male).

i've shared a room with him since the day he was born. when i was 7 or 8, we switched to bunk-beds. the ladder up to the top is prety much the only place of privacy i have, other than the bathroom. my family isn't the richest in the world, but we're in a pretty good financial situation compared to others (my mom is a college professer, my dad is a newswriter). my question is, am i selfish for asking for my own room. we've been searching for about a year give or take, and have been outbid in 3 situations so far. currently we're in the midst of bidding.

sometimes i do feel selfish, because my parents are slightly older, and i feel that i'm taking away too much of their retirement funds. (this isn't exactly all for me, the neighborhood we're in now is pretty bad for them, for ex: my view from my room is at my neighbors dark green pool, 10 feet away, and theirs noise pollution from the other side from a stupid bird, which drives my parents nuts.) so am i asking for too much?

I don't think so. If your parents want to move as well, and are not looking just so you can have your own room, I think it's fine to ask if they could buy a house wih an extra room for you.
Good luck,
-Carissa

Q: okay so me nd my boyfriend have been dating for like 2 months but there is this one boy that i went out with last year..we went out for like a year and i still really like him..i like cant stop thinkin about him and he asked me back out but i really like me boyfriend now and i dont know what to do..the boy i like is movin somewhere far away and i will probly never see him again(hes movin over the summer) and i reallllyy like him but if i dump the boy i am with now that i really like too he will probly never go back out with me but i dont wanna miss my chance with the boy that is moving

Don't go out with your ex, you won't be able to stay with him long, and you current boyfriend wouldn't ever go out with you again. At least i would hope not.

Q: hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie

hmmm. Does she have a reason to be m at you that she hasn't told you? Something really serious? If ont, im not sure what her problem is. She might be going through a phase of some sort.
I would stop begging for her forgiveness if you haven't done anything wrong. just let her steam and be by herself for a while. she'll probably get over what ever and start being friendly to you. Don't be mean back though, just let things slide. Say hi in the halls, but don't sit with her at lunch, talk on th ephone with her or things like that. she probably only needs some time to herself.
I hope this helped! Good luck! :)
-Carissa

Q: Alright, I broke up with my ex that I had been with for 7 months, I really loved him but We both changed and we barely saw eachother and yeah I broke up with him. And i'm seeing this new guy that is amazing and wonderful and everything my old boyfriend wasen't....it's been 3 months but...when I heard that he made out with one of my friends I completely freaked out, I just dont understand why I'm feeling this way. Please Help -Adrianna 14 f.

I understand how you feel. The same kind of thing happened to me. When you break up with someone, even if you're positive you don't want to be with them anymore, you still don't want to think about them being with anyone else. Espcially if that someone is one of your friends who knows how you used to feel about you ex.
You also said that your new guy is everything you ex wasn't, that was the same with me. It might be that you're missing some of the qualities that your ex has but your new boyfriend doesn't have. You might even miss the things you didn't like about him.
I don't really believe that you ever fall out of love, you always care for people who've loved. You just forget what it felt like to love that person, or become distracted with someone else's love. The best way to forget is to not talk to you ex, and not mention him aorund your friend. If she wants to bring it up, let her, but don't talk about him too long. It'll just hurt. It took me a long time to learn that.
I hope this helped, good luck! :)
-Carissa

Q: I'm 6'11" 430lbs Male. I need a plan for weight loss, and i need to lose it soon. My doctor has suggested surgery, and i do not want to go there until i absoulty have to. It is literally killing me. Please give me some low cost solutions on losing weight. Thanks.

Dont eat. i mean, eat, but like veggies, and NO JUNK FOOD! eat slow, because it takes your body 20 minutes to decide its full, so for twenty minutes of being full, you can still feel hungry and keep stuffing yourself.
Also, move a bit, if your the kind of person who spends hours playing video games or watching tv, and get your excercie by walking to the kitchen to get food, you probably should stop doing that. Go on a walk, go up and down the stairs while u watch tv (if u can see it from te stairs). Maybe you should give basketball a shot, your pretty tall.
This may sound weird to you, but use positive affirmations. instead of thinking, "im so fat, i wish i could lose weight..." say things like, "I'm eating better, and exercising more, I'm losing weight..." It may sound stupid at frist, but if you do it for a while, it'll make what you're doing to lose weight work better, at least I think so.
I hoped this helped. Good luck. :)
-carissa

Q: Ok, well, let me start off by saying i'm a 7th grade girl. Today at lunch this kid named derek passed me a note and said it was from my friend brian. I took one of my girl freinds, tara, to the bathrooom and read the note. It was really orny and soft....it read, "Roses are read, Violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you......will you go out with me?". My friend tara started cracking up while i was numb and shocked from the note. I threw it in the trash and ignored brian the whole day. Now, me being quite popular (not rele popular, but popular as in knoing everyone in our grade and tlk to them and hang) and brian being shy and non-social. It's really weird and almost gross that he asked me out.....i rele don't know how to tell him that i don't want to go out with him at all so that he on't get embarrased and i won't get embarrased. Pleask tell me what i can write to him so he on't get hurt.
Thank-you so much for the help

I wouldn't write note, because anyone could see the note and read it. You probably should call him on the phone, that way no one else could see or hear what you tell him unless he wants them too. Just tell him that you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you, but that you still want to be friends(if you do), and that you are really flattered that he likes you and all. But stop ignoring him, that is really hurtful.
I hope this helps, :)

Q: i used to go out with this guy. he wasnt exactly a loser but some ppl thought he was. so i got really insecure about it and stupidly dumped him. this happened about 4 weeks ago. lately i have started to regret dumping him and i miss him so much!! should i tell him this?

you probably should. Tell him that you are sorry you dumped him, and that mostly you did it because of what other people thought, and that it was your insecurities that made you, not completely him. If he's mad about it and hasn't been acting friendly toward you and such, you might want to be careful telling him, since he might be angry with you, and reget whatever you say. But on th eother hand, if he's still talking to you, and isn't acting very resentful, I would tell him!
He might want to go out with you again if you told him, so I'd go for it!
Hope everything works out for the best!
-carissa