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fight between friends
hey. i hope that you can help me. one of my best friends and i have been in an on-going fight for more than 2 weeks. ive been apologizing, and it doesnt seem to be changing anything. she always finds a reason to be mad at me. idk whats going on. shes been spreading rumors about me, too. and threatened to have people jump me! weve been best friends for almost 9 years. should i just forget that she ever existed, or should i keep begging for her forgiveness?
*Katie
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don't beg, just shy off for a bit. if she doesn't come back don't worry, your better off then b/c now u aren't fighting. hope i helped please rate! -manda
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My two best friends and I have recently gotten through a huge battle and are now in "recover mode". I've been through your situation many times before and I know that you are probobly feeling a rush of emotions right now. Part of you wants to forget about her because she's being such a major jerk and lousy friend... however, the other part wants to forgive her so you two can go back to the good life: shopping malls and sleepovers. I wish life was that simple but sadly, it's not. You're friend sounds like she is in a bad way right now and it's probobly better if you give her some time to cool off. I know that right after I get in a fight with my friends, I'm steaming mad and I need some time alone to myself. If I were you, I would find some other friends because it's always good to have someone else in the long run. Also, you can hang out with them and get to know some other people because you won't be attatched to your other best friend. Think of it as no strings attatched. While you're doing this, she'll have a chance to truely miss you. Once you've said sorry once (which it sounds like you have), she'll have a chance to feel bad. Good luck and I hope things work out for the best. If you ever need any advice on love/friendship, feel free to ask me on my advice column. Remember: <3 *iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG* <3
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to be completely blank and honest.. she aint worth your time.. youll find that if she ever does "forgive you" she will just go back to habits and spread rumours.. and be really mean to you.. and are you sure its your fault you are in an arguement.. maybe its not you who should ask for forgiveness. i think its her.. dont apologize anymore. dont talk to her anymore.. and no more begging and pleading.. all it says to her is that she has you tied around her little finger and can do whatever she wants.. cut the rope and go hang with other people... youll see she isnt worth your time.. and she will realise what she has lost.. but whether its too late for her is up to you.. BE IN CONTROL!!
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girl don't beg if you didn't do anything wrong. if she keeps tuanting you and threatening you she definitely does NOT deserve to be your friend and you shouldn't put up with it. maybe its time to find a new best friend. layter
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Hey Katie. DON'T beg for her forgiveness. If you do, she's going to haunt you more and more. She'll keep doing it. At school, giver her the cold shoulder and trust me, it works. After a week or so, she'll be kissing your butt and she'll be begging you for forgiveness. I sat on the internet for five hours and IMed my best friend begging for forgiveness. Never worked. I started giving her the cold shoulder. After a week, she wrote a note saying "I'm sorry! I've been a total jerky friend. Will you ever forgive me? Is there anything I can do to make it up to you?" HAHA! I was laughing like crazy! I couldn't believe it. Ignore her. She's not worth the fuss and fight and breath. She'll treat you like dirt but once she finds out that you're not letting it bother you, she'll be like, "What's going on?" and she'll be so confused. I've been through this a million times with a million people. Trust me. This one girl in high school about 22 years ago (I'm 37 now) spread rumors about me. She told people that I watched pron and that I was a leasbian and it's not even true! Then she stole my boyfriend! To this day, she's begging me for forgiveness. LOL. Trust me. Rate me. It works ok? Best of luck.
~~~Kayla~~~
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definitely just move on, shes obviously a terribal friend and not worth the effort
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Hey I'm so sorry! This has happend to me before but I think that you should not forget about her but give her some space if shes not ready to apoligize and be friends again thats her fault. I think you should just let her mello out and cool down and I know if you guys have been friends for that long then I know you will make up you guys should be friends not rivals. Good luck to you hun! <3 American Girl
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I agree with what most of these people have said already.. Talk to her one more time.. tell her it's really hurting you that she's so mad at you for no apparent reason. If this doesn't work.. honestly? I'd give up on her. She's not much of a friend if she spreads rumors and threatens you.. Sorry hun! good luck though and if you need anything IM me..
Hope I helped!
~Lana
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well I'm in a fight with my best friend and it's gone on for 2 months.... but keep begging....
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Hey..im actually in a similar position ...you should definatley stop appoligizing because i tried the same thing and it didnt work. What you should do now that shes having people threatening to jump you is go up to the bitch and curse her ass out. Tell her what you think of her. Playing mr. nice isnt going to get u anywhere. Tell her to stop disrespecting you liby spreading immature rumors about you. Make sure you stick your ground and if she swings at you grab the bitch by the hair and keep punching her in her face. Then i gurantee shell stop spreading shit around about you. I know exactly how you feel and if you need to talk im me at xselenebeenx..maybe we can share advcice on that! Hope i helped!
*selene
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Well first thing first, I would get her a gift. I have had this question a couple of times. So, after giving her the present, ask her if you can have a little talk with her. Make sure you include why are you mad at me, I just don't understand, can we talk about. That is what I would do, it happens to me all the time. If she doesn't tell you anything, then talk to your parent, a councelor, anyone who you think that can give you advice different than what I'm telling you right now. You know what, make some new friends, try to make her jealous, don't talk to her for a while. Probally after two months of not talking to her, I would stop, but she might get over it. Hope this advice works!!
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hmmm. Does she have a reason to be m at you that she hasn't told you? Something really serious? If ont, im not sure what her problem is. She might be going through a phase of some sort.
I would stop begging for her forgiveness if you haven't done anything wrong. just let her steam and be by herself for a while. she'll probably get over what ever and start being friendly to you. Don't be mean back though, just let things slide. Say hi in the halls, but don't sit with her at lunch, talk on th ephone with her or things like that. she probably only needs some time to herself.
I hope this helped! Good luck! :)
-Carissa
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ditch her, seriously, if anything most of the time you got NOTHING to apoligize for, for instance, me and my friends were hanging out one night and in the morning i went home and later that same night i left them, they called me up making fun of me saying they hate me, and i have nothing to apoligize for, so i'm not going to do anything about it, we have been friends like ever since i moved here, for like 11 years.. and now this?! and if they hate you so what its their loss not yours, and when they say that their going to jump you, their not actually going to do it.. out of everyone who says it only like 2% not even actually do that, their just trying to scare you. stop begging for her forgiveness, if they really want to be friends with you you shouldnt have to beg them, find some new friends who actually are considerate of you and like you. x0 i hope things work out.
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wow. this could get serious. i dont mean to act like a mentour or anything, but have you tried talking to someone she listens too? if she has an older sister maybe you could get her to ask if she is really mad @ you, for some "unknown reason" if you are getting in fites over stupid things(hehe i like ___. no i do. i hate you!) or if its on the internet you should have made up at school and be happy. if this is never-ending, maybe you should just give her some time. If things get bad, you might want to tell your teacher, dont retaliate, cuz that could get things worse. Oh and dont forget this is just advice you dont need to go out and be drastic =)
Hope everything works out.
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2 weeks.. i would just ignore it.. doesnt sound like a best friend to me. I learned that some of my friends arent worth it. Because all they do is backstab my other friends and me to. This may be how your friend is. I would just ignore it for awhile and run it off. If that doesnt work just sit down with her go to her house n tlk it out-trix plz rate
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