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i have this boyfriend or basically did...but ok he broke up with me cause the feelings were there, and he nneeded time to mayb see if they would come back. and then yeah so we went to school and he seen me but didnt say anything and he told my friend that he didnt wanna get to attached cause he has college soon, and he feels really bad and really sorry and stuff and the thing i dont get is he told her"if we were met to be together then we will get back together" so what do u think?

please help ill rate!!

Sorry you're in this situation. I'm pretty sure I know what he means by that. I think he means that if you two were meant to be together, like soul mates, then you would cross paths again. Basically, he wants to let fate has his way. It seems like he still has feelings for you though, he just wants to let your lives run their course and see what happens.

♥ iCY

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where did u get dat cell picz

I made it on a program called Paint Shop Pro =)

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how did u make up a name like icy?? i mean really ICY LMAO please answer this question its serious I need to make up a name.

I like names that are original and unique. Also, I don't like numbers and stuff so I wrote a list down of random words that I thought were cool. I also like short, simple words so WA LA! Here are some ideas to get you started:

1) Flip through magazines, books, newspapers ect. and circle random words.

2) Check out names of lipglosses or perfumes (mainly if you are a girl) because they usually have awesome and cute names.

3) Write out your name and for each letter put a random word. They can even describe you!

Hope this helps! ♥ iCY

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where did you get tat cell phone pic???

I made it =)

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he showed the side he usually keeps to only his "brothers". it showed me what i'd have to deal with. i wasn't ready to let go, because that sweet caring and surprisingly gentle(if you don't know him) side is SOOO that, he cares for me and loves me sooooo much. he's going to call me in a few days, but i'm pretty sure it's over. i did it because i don't want all these problems happening. he drives a wedge between me and mom, mom drives a wedge between me and him....it just wouldn't work, but idk, we're going to talk about it because he has this weird memory thing, and he forgot what he did that made me feel like i had to break up with him. we will talk it out later, but we won't be bf/gf anymore, we might make it as friends.....i don't know. but yeah, here's your update......comforting would be appreciated.
Kat :(

Thanks babe for letting me know what's going on. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Sometimes life can be so unfair. My advice to you is to try the friendship thing. That was a very mature move for you to end it. He had to pick his priorites and since you didn't like his job, he had a choice. You seem like a very sweet girl and I only want you to have the best so just keep your head up high. Since there was alot going against you, maybe it wasn't meant to be. I know that there is a Prince Charming out there waiting for you, you just have to find him. Best of luck! I'll always be here for advice, just remember that. Also, I'm sure everything will be okay. Sometimes it just takes someone to say, you'll be alright. It can make a HUGE difference. ♥ iCY

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I want to get married. I know im only 14 but still i feel like this guy is right you know? anyways can you help me on what to do and how to get married at the age of 14? Thanks

Hey hun! Well let me start off with a congratulations! It looks like you found your Prince Charming and that must be a great feeling. I know love can make people feel wonderful and want to make all their dreams come true however, 14 is a little young. I bet he's a wonderful guy but hang in there a little longer. Go to school, experience life and if he's the best guy he'll stick with you. Just make sure that you don't let love force you to forget about yourself because you should have commitments and priorities too. If he's Mr. Right then ROCK ON GIRLFRIEND! I wish you the best of luck with him. Although, I don't know how you can get married at age 14, I know you can just have fun dating and being in a relationship and then when you're a tad bit older, you can make a full on commitment. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG

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it's metalkat86.... he said he "had" to because when he is at "work" (beating lowlifes, drug dealers and gang members up) i'm his conscience telling him "no, that's illegal, don't do it" and he can't have that right now because he has a lot of work to do. he says he might come back, he just can't handle my voice in his head....of course, you and i know it will still be there, but anyway. do you think i should wait for him a while? idk what to do, we were going to get married in a few years, he was going to propose in a month or so. answer back fast please!!. thanks icy
♥Kat

Sorry you're having a hard time with this. Guys are so complicated. Tell him that you really don't like the work that he does and that you don't understand why he does it. Be honest with him and tell him how much he means to you. It always helps when you talk. Hopefully he'll consider his priorites. Good luck hun and I'm always here if you need any advice! You know that! ♥ iCY

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he's coming over today so we can talk about it. idk what will happen, though, but i hope it will be good. i'll keep you posted

Okay hun. I look forward to hearing from you ^^

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hey, it's metalkat86, and i was wondering how you get those little hearts on either side of your signature "icy is listening"? think you could tell me? Metalkat86@hotmail.com. later,
Kat

Yeah you just write & hearts ; without the spaces. ♥ iCY iS LiSTENiNG

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hey
ok theres this guy and i really like him!!! but he dont like me... and like i wanna no how i can get him to like me. b/c we r like perfect for eachother its not even funny!!!! and he is just so cool and hot and perfect. i dont no why he dont like me though he told my friends that theres nothing wrong with me but obviously there is if he dont like me. can sum one please give me adivce on wat to do about him i like him ALOT!! thanks < i rate >

Guys are complicated because they don't talk about their feelings easily. Only a rare boy will come out and admit he likes someone. There's barely any chance that he would be that forward with your friends so don't give up home. And something doesn't have to be wrong with you for a guy not to have feelings for you. For all I know, you could be the prettiest girl on the planet or the sweetest. It's all about chemistry. The same way that you feel about him, he may not feel that way because he doesn't react to you that way. Maybe it's because you two are so perfect for eachother. Maybe you are better off as friends. However, if you flirt and forget you like him, he might really START to develop feelings for you. Let me elaborate, guys like it when girls can talk to them and be comfortable around them. However, when you like someone, you are usually very self concious around them and what helps for me is to pretend he's just a guy friend. That way you'll be able to communicate better and won't have to worry about getting all nervous. This may be hard and it takes some practice but it should work out just find. Good luck hun! If you ever need any advice, feel free to ask me a question directly at my column. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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Ok one of my best friends best friend went out with this guy for about 3 months and they broke up about 2 weeks ago. While they were going out I started to like him a little more, and now since they have broken up I like him ALOT. But the problem is I havent ever really talked to him before. He is in 1 of my classes, how do I get him to notice me? Then just a couple of days ago I just found out my best friend likes him and she is the "it" girl of the school like all of the guys like her and everything. And she knows that I like him. Knowing her she is probably ganna ask him out sometime and he is probably going to say yes. what do I do about that too...anyways He is tall cury hair fast runner and hott ( kinda like an abercrombie or some type of modle) lol and I am short blonde blue eyes and ya. Well I would really like some help! thx a bunch!! I rate high*

Here's some insight about friends. When it comes to love, crushes and relationships, they totally disregard what others feel, think, or do. Your friend who is the "it" girl isn't going to care what you do because her goal is to get the guy. Whatever you do, make sure you show confidence around her and don't act threatened. Walk around knowing you have the same amount of chance that she does. In order to get him to notice, talk to him! Since he is in one of your classes, ask him for his screename in case you need help with work at home. Talk to him about stuff that the two of you have in common. You might need to do a little hunting to find out what he likes if you don't know. Ask a close friend who DOESN'T like him and who is comfortable talking to him if you would preffer not to. I know what you are going through. I have a friend that always gets the guy and when I found out she liked the same guy that I did, I paniced. I mean, she's gorgeous, smart and great to talk to. How could he NOT like her? However, I used this in a postive way by being confident and sure about myself. And HEY, I ended up with the guy liking ME. Too bad I don't have feelings for him anymore. Good luck and if you need anymore help, please ask my a question directly at my column because I would love to give you some more advice. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG

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my best friend new i liked this kid and she still went with him and i told her i still like him nd she like rubes it in my face so i told him... and now she i smad and thinks im stealing him.. wut should i do?

Love. It's one of those things that can both make and break friendships. Why does it have this mysterious power over us? Because it's a feeling, a sensation, and something we cannot stop. Love is uncontrollable, unmatchable, unbeatable and immortal. Sounds like both you and your friend are captured in its math. Don't panic because not all friendships come to a crashing end because of feelings but your friend looks like she's not trying very hard to keep the puzzle pieces together. Let me elaborate, if she is rubbing it in your face that she's the one dating him, then she obviously is trying to get back at you. Maybe she is envious because perhaps he has feelings for you and he's feeling threatened. I bet your friend thinks if she makes you feel bad then maybe you'll give up and she'll have him all to herself. The key to figuring out this situation is to pretend like it doesn't bother you at all. Your friend will eventually stop because she will relize it doesn't do anything to you. Whatever you do, don't fight her on it or admit to any anger whatsoever. Your friend will be mad knowing that it's not breaking you. Show her you're stronger then she thinks and won't fall for her little foolish games. Oh, and good luck getting the guy hun ;] If you ever need advice, feel free to ask me directly at my column. ♥ iCY

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Hello, I'm a 17 year old girl who has a problem, guys. I don't have any self-esteem issues so i agree I'm good looking (many guys think so also), I do really well in school (one of the top ranks), and I am devoting most of my school week time to studying, keeping my grades up and preparing for the SAT. However, on weekends I go out, party , socialize, have fun and forget about school work. So i would have to say my life is kind of balanced although I have a lot of school work. This is just some background information. Now, my problems are guys. I have no trouble getting guys interested/attracted to me without even trying. Most of the boys my age, and those a bit older (i tend to get along better with guys who are 2-3 years older) are interested, maybe cause of my looks, I don't know. Something always goes wrong though. I am the type of girl who likes the chase, who likes guys that are harder to get and have something different about them. I don't like to be an ordinary person. I never have serious relationships, and I am kind of glad because I dont want it to interferre with my school work, but it would be nice to date once in a while. I am not gullible or easily deceived, therefore "sweet talks" or any false attempts don't really work with me cause i can see right through it. However, the two past guys i've been interested in HAVE turned out pretty deceiving. First guy I deeply connected, date went well, but in a few days he decided to "ignore" me at one of our get-togethers/parties and kiss somebody else. Of course I would never put up with that, so the very next day when he tried talking to me I told him off. Second guy had been interested in meeting me for quite a while, and after the "1st guy altercation" we met kind of a double date sort of thing. Everything went well and it was extremely fun, until I found out he's been in a VERY serious relationship with someone for quite a while (but they cheat on each other quite often??? i don't get that). I was glad I was able to stop both cases before getting hurt. What really bothers me is the fact that I couldn't realize the way these guys were (i can usually read everyone) and I still can't clearly see it. It really bothers me I was gullible like that, and that I go for these kinds of guys!! What do u think about this? Sorry its extremely long.!

Guys can be such a pain. Especially since they are always doing things to get girlfriends. They are desperate and that's because they have nothing better to do then decieve. Don't be hard on yourself because some guys really spend time trying to get girls. They cook up stories and you're deffinately not the first girl to fall for it. All I can tell you is to become friends with someone first. Once you two are friends, you'll really figure out alot about them and know whether you want to proceed into a relationship. People can seem nice at first impressions but that doesn't mean they won't change later. My friend told me some very wise advice once and that is You Can Take A Risk, or Not Take One, Which Is Actually a Bigger Risk. Don't hold back because you're afraid of going through that again because some guys are really genuine and sweet. It's just the scummy ones that we have to beware of. Good luck and I'm always there if you need any other advice hun. iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENING ♥

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Why does my fucking family fucking hate me my dads like o u peice of shit and my mom ignores me and my brother and sister always get the atention and im like confuse wat to do i want to like die man. so please answer this and sorry for my language.


crap of a life

I'm sorry that it sounds like life isn't that good right now. Sometimes, it can feel as if everybody's turned against you. My advice to you is to change your outlook on life. The saying Good Things Come To Those Who Wait should be changed to Good Things Come To Good People because this is true. If you wake up every morning and smile past the bad things, then you will probobly be accepted into your family. I don't know why they rejected you but I'm sure you are unique and a wonderful friend. Just talk to them. Tell them how you feel and how unhappy you are. I know that things will get better for you, you just need to keep your head up high. Life's a roller coaster, will you hold on for the ride? Remember, life's a precious thing so if you are the best person that you can be then others will want to be around you. If you ever need any other advice, feel free to ask me because iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG!

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ya but last time i told my friend that i liked alex which is my crushes name she told him and he didnt talk to me for like a year and this is our last time at this school together HELp me and this is the one who just asked u a question duh! its bobs pizza place WEEEEEEEE.

LMAO! I remember Bob's Pizza Palace! Can I take your order! We're serving up one freshly baked answer for you to solve your problems. You see hun, he's probobly feeling a little insecure. For example, there's a kid at school that likes me right now and I feel weird around him because I know that he feels this way. Alex probobly likes you back and that's why he is being so distant. Talk to him. Communication is the key babe and once you get past the fear of discussing something like a possible relationship, then you'll be good. I bet he's a really nice guy that is waiting for his Cinderella to come along and you just might be the one he's looking for! ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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My school is starting soon and I want to tell my crush that I like him. The only problem is that I have a boyfriend which I dont like anymore. And I want to break up with him its just that i havnt talk to him in like a month and I dont want to hurt him. If i do break up with my boyfriend should i tell my crush? Ive know him since i was 2 and a half and i dont know what to do thanks!

Yes, you should break up with your boyfriends. It's no use being with someone when you have feelings for someone else. Just be honest with your boyfriend and explain what happened. And yes, you should be honest with your crush and tell him about your past love life. He probobly will find it flattering that you broke up with your bf just to be with him. And since you've known him so long, it will be easy for you to talk to him and be around him. Good luck hun! You can ask me questions whenever you need help, directly at my advice column. Remember, communication is the key to a happy relationship! ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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Me and my girlfriend are going out.We have goten in trouble twice for macking out in school and people are spreading rumors about us . We both want to stay yo gether but its going in the back of our mind that we want to break it off too. We also cant hangout with each other.I dont think its fair to the both of us . should i break it off or try to keep the relationship

Talk to her about it. Usually when I give people advice, I reccomend communication. Why? Well, talking to people gets both sides of the problem out and often helps bring out the solution. That way feelings are stated and put together like a puzzle. Ask your girlfriend if you guys can talk this out. Since I'm a girl, I know that girls like to bottle up their feelings so once you talk to her, I bet your girlfriend will have alot to say so be patient and listen closely. Assure her that you won't get mad about it and make sure she makes the same promise to you. Trust is also a big issue. Then discuss how you feel, why you want to break away, and what the result would be. If you need anymore advice, feel free to ask me directly at my column. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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Okay..well theres a guy im going out with and its been a month and a half and well, i need to know a way i can break up with him, and well ive seen many questions like this asked before, plz dont tell me to tell him the truth..becuz everyone is saying that, all i need is to know what i should say to him but in a way where he wont hate me because we go back..we are good friends and im afraid if i break up with him it wont be the same :( but ill rate high!
Plzz just gie me some ideas.

Signed, confused4life
xoxo

Dear confused4life,
I had to go through the same situation. Friendships are precious things and sometimes the fear that relationships will ruin them pressure people into making bad decisians. Tell him you value him as a friend and that he's like a brother to you. Tell him that you liked it when the two of you could hang out without you worrying how your hair looks or what you're wearing. Tell him you know he deserves better (even though that's probobly not true because I'm sure you're great). Guys like it when girls like us tell them they mean alot to us even if we're dumping them. Play it cool and tell him this was the hardest decisian you've ever made but it had to be done. If you ever need any other advice, feel free to ask me a question directly at my column. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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my boyfriends ex IMed me the other day and we started talking...shes really nice and stuff but i know she still likes my boyfriend...she says she doesnt but i know she does...and like she said he broke her heart and she just wants to be friends now and so she asked me to talk to him and just say that she sayd hi and i did and like they made up now...my boyfriend is over her and stuff but she flirts with him now...(she lives 45 minutes away now so she cant see him in person) but like on his myspace she is like hey ur sooooo hott and all this stuff and always putting little hearts on it and then she puts "j/k" but shes not!! i know it!! its pissing me off too...and she like always tells me "about the sweet things he did for her when they were togther"....what can i do about this??

Ignore her if you have to. People like that have evil up their sleeve and most of the time, smart people like YOU can spot it. It's pretty clear that, like you said, she still likes him and for some reason it looks like she's really trying to rub it in your face. You could either talk to her about it which would be the smart thing to do but it might be kind of scary. Just tell her that you are with him now and it's clear that she likes him and you don't want to be bothered with the past. Say this nicely so she isn't offended by it though because when communication is put to use, sometimes people's feelings can be hurt. Do the right thing and if you can't talk to her, just ignore her. If you need anymore advice, please ask me a question directly at my column because I would love to help out anytime. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENiNG ♥

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Hi, I'm 14/f and I've been in dance for 9 years. The only thing is, I really suck. I'm not just saying this, I really do. I'm one of the worst in my class, and I get cruddy parts in my recitals. My teacher plays favorites, and I'm not one of them, because I'm not good. A lot of the people who are really good are huge snobs about it. They're like, obsessed with themselves. My other friend is in the same situation. (we go to the same dance school). We want to quit, but we can't, for a number of reasons. We'd be leaving some of our friends. We might as well just wait until we graduate, because that's when most people quit. (when someone quits before they graduate, my dance teacher talks badly about them, and all the snobby girls laugh). Our moms would get mad. Also, they both say if we quit, we have to join something else, but we don't like anything else. We're not good at sports. I don't even like dancing because I'm not good. And even if I was, I don't think it's really my thing. But don't tell me to quit, because I just can't. I just need help. I want to get better, because I think if I get better, I'd feel better about my self. (I'm very self concious about my dancing) But my teacher doesn't like me and my friend, so I can't ask her for tips. (like, if we're doing something wrong, she just says that's wrong and doesn't tell us how to do it) Does anyone know any exercises to get your leg higher in your arabesque, get your feet in 5th position, do splits, have balance, etc.? Thanks, I really appreciate your help. Sorry about the length, but I really need help. Thanks. I rate.

I can help you hun because my mom was a dancer for 9 years when we was little. I don't know what kind of dance you do but I know my mother was a ballerina and a very good one. She taught me that the most important thing is dance is concentration. It should be fun for you and your friend not upsetting. If you are the "worst" in the class then I bet you can become the best if you put your mind to it. Let's say you watch 2 hours of TV each day. You could spend that time stretching in front of the TV so you can improve your splits. Things like stretching can be uncomfortable at first and that's why they should be done in small proportions. Before cheer/dance tryouts, my friend and I got together and practiced. We made up routines, played around and even kept a handy "Stretching Chart" where we could keep track of our progress. You may think that things like charts and graphs should stay in math class but they come in handy when trying to reach a goal. Set a daily/weekly/monthly pace for yourself so you can get better and SEE the results. Good luck hun and if you have any more questions feel free to ask me directly at my column. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENING ♥

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