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i hate dance
Hi, I'm 14/f and I've been in dance for 9 years. The only thing is, I really suck. I'm not just saying this, I really do. I'm one of the worst in my class, and I get cruddy parts in my recitals. My teacher plays favorites, and I'm not one of them, because I'm not good. A lot of the people who are really good are huge snobs about it. They're like, obsessed with themselves. My other friend is in the same situation. (we go to the same dance school). We want to quit, but we can't, for a number of reasons. We'd be leaving some of our friends. We might as well just wait until we graduate, because that's when most people quit. (when someone quits before they graduate, my dance teacher talks badly about them, and all the snobby girls laugh). Our moms would get mad. Also, they both say if we quit, we have to join something else, but we don't like anything else. We're not good at sports. I don't even like dancing because I'm not good. And even if I was, I don't think it's really my thing. But don't tell me to quit, because I just can't. I just need help. I want to get better, because I think if I get better, I'd feel better about my self. (I'm very self concious about my dancing) But my teacher doesn't like me and my friend, so I can't ask her for tips. (like, if we're doing something wrong, she just says that's wrong and doesn't tell us how to do it) Does anyone know any exercises to get your leg higher in your arabesque, get your feet in 5th position, do splits, have balance, etc.? Thanks, I really appreciate your help. Sorry about the length, but I really need help. Thanks. I rate.
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Hello, I'm also a dancer and I LOVE IT! Anyways... most dancers are big BITCHES!! No offense to them.... lighten up and DITCH the place!! Find a different dance studio!! I hate it when dance teachers pick favorties!!I use to go to a studio in a way... umm a place like that lol. And also my god kid build up your confidence and practice!! practice!! practice!! practice!! Strech more for a higher arabesque. Forget all about those snobs! i always sit down and strech my legs for a peroid of time. Force yourself in ways so you could get better at flexibility. You could also go home and say hey im the hot bitch in this class and i dont care what you guys think of me in this class after this year im ditching this place finding a different dance studio and finding better friends and teachers. In my dance class we have to do the spilts for like 3 min's... i suggest you should try it. Then hey if you wanted to at your new studio... you could try and get into competion and make all your so called friends mad. Then you never know they might see you and be like omg why are you at that place? Then you could shrug your shoulders and maybe say "this place actually appreciates me and treats me like great!" No one is perfect.. so please keep trying and dont EVER DOUBT YOURSELF! You are strong...
and dont be nervous on recital just have fun!!!! Mines coming up soon!
I hoped this helps in some ways!!
!LIZ!
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I've been dancing for 10 years now and have been to various studis and can tell you that the teacher really makes a diffrence and what your teacher is doing to you is not right. Maybe you could switch out of that class and take another class there or go to a diffrent studio. You guys can tell your mom about whats going on and maybe she can talk to the teacher or switch you out! Hope I helped! xoxo -KrIsSy*
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i'm 14 and i take dance classes but i've only been doing it for 4 years..i really do love it though but i have some advice...the right instructor can make all the differance. You may be doing badly because your teacher isn't instructing you correctly. Dance is a great way to meet people and stay in shape, but if you dont enjoy it you should either switch classes & teachers or switch dance studios. If you go to a different studio and take classes at a beginners level you may find that you really like dancing.
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im a dancer... its been about 11 years now .. i started when i was 2 so i know the basics lol. if you ask your teacher for help, she'll notice that you're really interested and willing to learn. you're going to have to stretch our your legs to get them higher. put your leg on a ballet bar or sumthin else and try nd reach it. if you can try nd reach farther. splits hmm.. are you flexible? if not .. get flexible lol .. try spreading out your legs like a strattle up against a wall. try reaching your toes on either side. blanace was a toughy for me cuz i had no grace what-so-ever. try walking on a very low balance beam or on a straightline. if you take pointe, try standing on one foot and slowly lift up your other one to the back. and make sure you have a good posture. so like in school, make sure your back is straight against the chair. make sure you keep your shoulders back. Hope I helped! * Feedback is greatly appreciated! * Love Always, Ali
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Hey... I am a dancer and I started about 7 years ago. Ya thats really not right what your teacher is doing to you guys. Well the advice that i have for you is stretch just a little bit everyday like when your watching tv ro right before you go to bed to make yourself a little more flexible. I would sugest lunging in everydirection. Standing up with your legs spread into a second position and bending down over each leg and then into the middle.. also stretch your back.. and to stretch your legs sit on the ground in a strattle but have one leg tucked behind and stretch over the one leg that is out then when you are comfortable with that put both legs out into the strattle and do the same thing. To stretch your turn out out your legs in a butterfly stretch and lean over. ooo.. ya .. also to stretch your legs (this one is hard but it works) Lay on your back and you pull one leg bent into your chest and you and leave the other leg out in front of you staight or bent(on the ground) then you straighten the leg that is up to your chest pulling it toward you. Your splits will get better just by sitting in them.
Dance takes a lot of determination and dedication.. so try really hard to get better... I believe in you.
&hearts You can leave me an message in my inbox any time :) &hearts
~Becki~
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Um Practice ALOT
Oh and also tell your teacher when she says you are doing it wrong tell her to show you how or just tell her how you feel and how she is being mean.
But yea just practice ALOT
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You just have to keep practicing. Observe other people in your class and ask them how to do certain things. Dancing is hard, and it takes dedication. I know how you feel, sometimes I don't feel very good while I'm dancing. If worst comes to worst, maybe you should research other schools in your area, as hard as that may be. You deserve a better dance education than that. If you need to talk some more, feel free to IM me or send me a message.
xox Kristen
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If you want to get better, why don't you corner a snob/good dancer? Ask them for advice. It will put them in a sort of power position, but you will benefit by being a better dancer. The more stretching and strenghtening you do, the more things you can do with your body. I am sorry that I don't know any specific stretches, but a little more practice on your own and tutelage will help bunches. Beg your teacher to show you what you should be doing. Sometimes they try to be hard on you on purpose to make you a better dancer. It's does not necessarily mean that she hates you. You get out of anything exactly what you put into it.
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I know exactly what you are talking about. I started dance really lately so I felt as if I was really bad because I wasn't at the same level as other people my age. For the fifth position, try doing the frog exercise. You lay down on your stomach with your feet touching. You move you feet up so that your hips are still touching the floor. You have to have your knees on the floor. Your feet do not need to be touching the floor though. The more you practice and the more flexible you get the farther up your feet will go. This should help with your fifth position.For splits, just stretch a lot normally and then try holding your splits. Eventually, you'll get down farther. Just don't put yourself at first because you don't want to pull anything. I can't really tell you any exercises for balancing, but I know it always helps to lower your shoulders, keep your butt and legs tight, and stretch your stomach/center up. That might be hard to do and I'm really sorry if none of this made any sense. I had trouble explaining it. Sorry if I wasn't any help at all.
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Ok hun i used to be in dance and i was terible at it, when i started i would be in a cxlass with kids younger than me but i kept working at it, and when your doing something wrong and your teacher says you are, ask her "well how can i fix it i really want to get this right" and stand up for yourself, when the good girls talk just tell them that you are working and getting better at it and that you are having fun and thats all you need, tell them that its alright if your not perfect, but that dancing makes you happy and have tons of fun. Also some good excerisizes could be to keep your center while you bring your foot into arabesque and doing turns while keeping your center, like doing quarter, half and full turns and a great way to get your splits down is to start out with your back leg tucked in go out to runners lunge position and have your front leg straight and extend your back leg out, it was a good technique to help me start to get lower... hope you do great and dont underestimate your strenght and talent
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I can help you hun because my mom was a dancer for 9 years when we was little. I don't know what kind of dance you do but I know my mother was a ballerina and a very good one. She taught me that the most important thing is dance is concentration. It should be fun for you and your friend not upsetting. If you are the "worst" in the class then I bet you can become the best if you put your mind to it. Let's say you watch 2 hours of TV each day. You could spend that time stretching in front of the TV so you can improve your splits. Things like stretching can be uncomfortable at first and that's why they should be done in small proportions. Before cheer/dance tryouts, my friend and I got together and practiced. We made up routines, played around and even kept a handy "Stretching Chart" where we could keep track of our progress. You may think that things like charts and graphs should stay in math class but they come in handy when trying to reach a goal. Set a daily/weekly/monthly pace for yourself so you can get better and SEE the results. Good luck hun and if you have any more questions feel free to ask me directly at my column. ♥ iCY iS ALWAYS LiSTENING ♥
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