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i'm 16/f. is it okay to date a guy that's younger than me? i like this guy but hes 2 years younger than me, i'm a junior...hes a freshman. Thanks guys!
YA its totally ok.. plenty of people in highschool date people in different grades.. i no plaenty of people that are dating that are two years apart!! Dont worry.. if u like the guy then go out with him!!
Hope I helped!!
&hearts Becki
well, my friend told me that before you use a tampon there is a piece of skin that the tampon wiil break! I am 14 and i haven't started my period yet! Does it hurt the first time you put a tampon in? Is there a piece of skin? Thanx 4 helpin!
Hey omg.. i am fourteen and i havent started yet either.. i thought i was like the only one.. ok.. well ya there is a piece of skin and its called the hymen (or cherry) and even if you have sex or put in a tampon it might not break.. it depends how far up it is.. it could break tho.. it could also break from like physical activity like horseback riding.. basically anything tho.. ive heard that it does hurt a little.. but not much.
i know it's still possible to get pregnant when you have your period, but say someone has sex during her period, preferably near the END (and still wears a condom) will that lessen her chance of conceiving? or is there a certain day where you are highly likely to get pregnant?
I mean I guess it is possible to get pregnant but i think that it is very unlikely because usually an ovum isnt released until like two weeks after you have your period and that is usually when you can fertilize i think around day 14 or something. And there is really only a 24 hour period when you can fertilize the egg... so i dont think that you are pregnant. =) hope I helped.
~Becki
on ym advice column where all the questions and advice is there in a big huge ugly blue box and i dont no how to get it off. plz help ill rate high
Im confused.. did u want a different background... cause if u want a different backround then in the column when you are viewing the questions all the way to left and click on column settings and then go down to your own column colors. Also if you dont have html you can click on the link that says over here and it will bring you to the page with all of the colors in html code. Hope I helped if this didnt answer your question leave me a message in my inbox =)
~Becki~
Does anyone know how to make the hearts. Like some people put it in after they've answered a question. Does anyone know how to do that? Thanks!
Ok you type the symbol & (the number 7 with the shift button) and hearts ... dont put any spaces... so you should see
& hearts (no space)
When you click submit it will look like this:
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I am going to a competion tomarrow i am so scard what do i do to calm my self?
O Really?? AWESOME! I have a dance competition tomorrow!! Ok.. calm yourslef I would go over your routines several times in your head before you actually perform it that way you can reasure yourself that you wont mess up... Also when I perform.. I don't like to look at the people in the audience. I try to look at a back wall or something. Everyone gets nervous... just try not sweat it you will have many more competition after this one... also a tip for you is when you are on the floor performing try not to try TOO hard because you usually end up looking worse just pretend that you are in class.. Well I have to go but if you have any more questions you can leave them in my inbox :) &hearts
~Becki~
Hi, I'm 14/f and I've been in dance for 9 years. The only thing is, I really suck. I'm not just saying this, I really do. I'm one of the worst in my class, and I get cruddy parts in my recitals. My teacher plays favorites, and I'm not one of them, because I'm not good. A lot of the people who are really good are huge snobs about it. They're like, obsessed with themselves. My other friend is in the same situation. (we go to the same dance school). We want to quit, but we can't, for a number of reasons. We'd be leaving some of our friends. We might as well just wait until we graduate, because that's when most people quit. (when someone quits before they graduate, my dance teacher talks badly about them, and all the snobby girls laugh). Our moms would get mad. Also, they both say if we quit, we have to join something else, but we don't like anything else. We're not good at sports. I don't even like dancing because I'm not good. And even if I was, I don't think it's really my thing. But don't tell me to quit, because I just can't. I just need help. I want to get better, because I think if I get better, I'd feel better about my self. (I'm very self concious about my dancing) But my teacher doesn't like me and my friend, so I can't ask her for tips. (like, if we're doing something wrong, she just says that's wrong and doesn't tell us how to do it) Does anyone know any exercises to get your leg higher in your arabesque, get your feet in 5th position, do splits, have balance, etc.? Thanks, I really appreciate your help. Sorry about the length, but I really need help. Thanks. I rate.
Hey... I am a dancer and I started about 7 years ago. Ya thats really not right what your teacher is doing to you guys. Well the advice that i have for you is stretch just a little bit everyday like when your watching tv ro right before you go to bed to make yourself a little more flexible. I would sugest lunging in everydirection. Standing up with your legs spread into a second position and bending down over each leg and then into the middle.. also stretch your back.. and to stretch your legs sit on the ground in a strattle but have one leg tucked behind and stretch over the one leg that is out then when you are comfortable with that put both legs out into the strattle and do the same thing. To stretch your turn out out your legs in a butterfly stretch and lean over. ooo.. ya .. also to stretch your legs (this one is hard but it works) Lay on your back and you pull one leg bent into your chest and you and leave the other leg out in front of you staight or bent(on the ground) then you straighten the leg that is up to your chest pulling it toward you. Your splits will get better just by sitting in them.
Dance takes a lot of determination and dedication.. so try really hard to get better... I believe in you.
&hearts You can leave me an message in my inbox any time :) &hearts
~Becki~
I enjoy watching tv series on DVD. Ones I have enjoyed are "Soprano's", "Sex & the City", "Star Trek TNG", & "Dawson's Creek". Can anyone recommend a new series for me to watch with a continuing story line; not a comedy like "Sienfeld."
Ok well you may think this is gay or whatever but me and my friends are obsessed with Buffy, Angel, Friends, and Smallville... also I think that Gilmore Girls is an awesome show. O also my friend loves charmes... But the two main ones that I love are Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Gilmore Girls... Hope I helped!! &hearts
~Becki~
The dance isn't until February. The next dance coming up is the Valentine's dance. But I'm still dying to ask him. Is there anything that he'll do if he likes me that will tell me for sure that he likes me? Any more?
Well I mean I told you mostly what he would do.. he hasnt shown you any signs yet?? Well all I can really say is its really good if you start out as best friends to ensure that nothing will go wrong if you do go out. I think that you should have a friend talk to him and you should maybe hint to him that you like him. You should also talk to him about the dance early so that another girl doesnt ask him first... it sucks when that happens... Ok hope I helped &hearts
~Becki~
Hiya i'm a girl and 14 and i really love m&m's but i eat so many and get hyper. WHAT SHOULD I DO????
=)
Wel.. Hyperness is awesome so I say eat your M&MS!!! Andrea you are awesome!! LOL
ok...for the last day of school, before break, i wore white pants...because they were white, i work a thong...im not a slut, so i dont let it hang out, and i usually wear a belt with my pants, but these were nice pants that i didnt need a belt for...well during lunch, i was walking up to my friend and my guy friend wanted to hug me from behind, but ended up steping on my pants adn everyone saw i was wearing a thong. he didnt pants me, but some people saw the string...i know its not bad to wear thongs, but that was a pretty embarassing situation, and i didnt want everyone knowing. tommorow i go back to school, and i dont want everyone laughing at me...what do i do?
Dont worry I dont think that anyone will laugh at you. Its normal for girls your age to wear thongs. Plus I mean you probably pulled your pants back up before anyone really noticed. Dont worry about it i really dont think that anyone will laugh. &hearts
~becki~
I want to have sex with my boyfriend but he doesn't even live in my state and i love him but im only 16 and idk if he'll cheat on me if i dont have sex with him im worried he'll cheat but i love him withall my heart and i think im ready i just dont wanna get pregnant or stds...help.
I dont think it is a good idea to have sex with your boyfriend because you are only sixteen and it doesnt sound like you have a very healthy relationship since you are worried about cheating on eachother. I think that you should talk to him about having sex a lot before you actually do to make sure that you are both ready. Sex is a big thing and it shouldnt be taken lightly. If you are not absolutely positive you are ready dont do it. When you have sex make sure that you USE A GOOD CONDOM with no rips. And i would also be on the pill just to make sure that you do not get ready. Remember sex comes along with a lot of emotional stuff ... all i can say is.. make sure you are ready! &hearts
~Becki~
Okay me and my x b/f went out for like 3 months.. and even thou that doesn't seem like that long it really was.. we really had something.. but i feel like i screwed it all up bc towards tha end i wasnt really acting like his gf and stuff.. but now its been like 2 months and i still like him sooo much.. and i wanna know how he feels but i dont wanna ruin our friendship that we have by mentioning something so what do i do?? and i know that if we went out again then i would change everything.. but plz HELP!
Hey .. i had the same problem.. I went out with this guy named mike and it lasted a little longer and we broke up... because we werent really doing anything.. and when we broke i realized how much i liked him.. and i kept liking him for a while.. but i was too afraid to ask him.. now i feel like i missed out on something that could have been really good. So i suggest that you talk to him. Maybe you could have a friend ask him what he thinks of you so that when you talk to him you wont feel like an idiot if he doesnt feel the way. But i say GO FOR IT. I hope I helped and I hope that it works out.. keep me updated &hearts &hearts &hearts
~Becki ~
Well, I shop a lot at Abercrombie. And some of my friends aren't allowed to shop there. They'd be like 'Oh cute shirt, where'd you get it?' and then I would be like 'Abercrombie' and then they'd tell me that they weren't allowed to shop there. I don't see what's wrong with the place and shopping there. Can anyone tell me what's wrong or are my friends just being too closed minded?? Thanks and I rate.
My mom is like that too... we were at the abercrombie in maine its like a huge store.. and my mom is wierd like that and there were all the hottt models on the walls with out shirts.. and she made my family leave the store.. and we had to go to like gap... UGH i hate it.. well then there was abercrombie and fitch at the malll and i told her it was for younger people and she let me shop ther because the pictures werent that bad.. also when i go shopping, i usually dont go with my mom.. so i try to buy stuff without the logo which i no is really hard so that my mom wont no... but now she doesnt really mind if i wear there merchandise because i told her abut abercrombie and fitch.
Hey, I have Insomnia. Every night I'm up late trying to sleep. I've tried everything!!! Reading, singing, counting sheep(lol), and I don't drink that much soda. Please tell me what's wrong,b ecause I've been tired lately and I'm getting bags under my eys.
Hey well when your like 13 and 14 your mind races and its hard to fall asleep... it's totally normal. It happens to me too. I have this friend who has serious insomnia and she has this cd that helps relax her.. its some type of hypnotic cd... you could ask a cd store... and it comes with steps that help you fall asleep for example clearing your mind and telling everypart of your body to go asleep.. it really works.. you should try it. Also when you are trying to fall asleep try not to think of stuf.. dont try to think of stuff.... hope i helped.
~Becki~
My husband and I of 1.3 years of marriage got into a huge fight yesterday and he hit me several times, twice in the head. He kicked my butt real hard, threw something at my leg or my arm-can't remember which over something that was really stupid. I did say somethings I know I shouldn't have like I didn't love him, hated him and wanted a divorce. But does my saying those things warrant him hitting me? And that wasn't the first time. He normally hits me real hard on the legs when he gets real mad or he feels I've pushed his buttons.
Last night, he went to a motel with his son to get away and he would not talk to me at all. I didn't even know if we were going to be together. I was hurt and upset about the whole situation and did something real stupid. I filled out one of those eharmony personality profile things. I didn't chat with anyone or nothing like that. I just did it, don't know why. I was depressed and I did pop a lot of pills as I have tonight to try and sleep. None of it his an excuse. He found the eharmony thing today when he came back and now he won't have anything to do with me. I love him and want to work it out and I know I have to change also, not just him. All the times he's accused me of doing things I never ever did, I guess I just filled out that eharmony thing out of spite. He has called me a slut and a whore and that I'm so big now vaginally wise that no man could do me any good. I have apologized for filling out that personality profile. It was dumb of me. How can I save this marriage and convince him that I don't want anyone else, PERIOD. I love him and want to work this out more than anything in this world. Help me please.
OMG never stand for anyone physically abusing you!! That is totally wrong. There is never a good enough reason for that. He could seriously hurt! You can't stand for that. Tell him that if he doesnt change your leaving. Get him some help like anger management or something he SHOULD NOT be physically abusing you.
p.s. I hope he doesnt see that you have been on advicenators.
Good luck i hope u make the rigth desicion :(
Okay , I like this guy, and he just told me that he likes me too, we have a problem. Me and him arent sure if we should start dating because Im friends with his sister, and his sister will NEVER buy the fact that me and him were dating...and we wouldnt be able to tell our parents because we wanna have sleep overs and stuff, but i mean we dont plan on doing anything at the sleep overs, we just wanna see each other because we live an hour away from each other, but anyways, my question is, should we date behind his sisters back or tell her with the fact we both know shes not gonna buy the whole thing...???
help :(
I rate everyone a 5
Well secret relationships don't really work so I would tell her and if she is a good friend she will probably understand. But if she gets really freaked out or something i think that you should go out with this guy because having a good friendship is soo much more important than having a boyfriend because i have seen way too many times that when bf/gf break up they are complete enemies. Hope I helped!
~Becki~
Theres this boy I like, Josh. I have liked him since the school year started and we've been flirting like crazy. My friends say that he's really crushin on me because when other guys flirt with me, he gets all bothered and defensive. All my friends keep asking me if me and him are going out yet and even my TEACHER(gym class, only class I have with Josh) asks me and Josh continually if me and Josh are boyfriend/girlfriend. He even told us to get married over the weekend. Everyone thinks me and him like each other and are either going to, or are secretly going out. Now, even after all this, I was and kind of still am unsure of his feelings. I know he flirts with me a lot and he acts differently around me than around girls. Since the beginning of the year, too. Thats about 4½ months. We talk on the phone and he's just sweet and funny and goofy around me. Now, what I want to do is ask him to the dance coming up but I don't know how to exactly ask him so that I won't be directly letting him know I like him but still letting him know I do, in a way. If that makes sense. I mean, in a way, where, if he doesn't like me like that, I can easily deny it and be believable. Im really confused about all of this and I really want to go out with him. We danced at homecoming and we already act like we go together already..I just want my daydreams to come true but I don't know what to do. How can I "test" and make sure he likes me without him getting any idea? What "signs" should I definately look out for? Any advice would be strongly appreciated. Thanks.
Hey, this guy obviously digs you, but i understand that you are feeling uncertain. If I were you and i were unsure about a guy I would just be like "you going to the dance friday?" and see what he says. If he says yes you could say i'll see u there. If he says why are you askin you could tell him that you were going and you wanted him to go to. Some signs are if you see him looking at you, if your sitting alone somehwere and he comes and sits with you when there are plenty of other girls around... you said that you talk to him on the phone a lot and that you spend a lot of time togehter... those are signs also. I hope I helped! If you have any more questions leave them in my inbox.. I would also like to hear if he went to the dance with you!
My left foot feels really strange. It feels af if it doesn't get enough blood flow, because it feels numb, but on the top side of my foot. It has been doing this for a long time now. My right foot feels normal though. Also, I play tennis, so I'm usually on the courts about 5 times a week. Tennis requires lots of footwork, including mainly smaller steps. We also do lots of conditioning. Sometimes I step on my left foot wrong, and it hurts very badly. I think that I've strained it once before and it hasn't totally healed yet. It's a different pain than the other one I first mentioned. It's like a muscle limping type pain and it hurts very badly. It's been like this for a long time. I'm not really sure what I should do. My mom said that we might go see the doctor sometime, but does anybody know any thing that I can do at home to ease the pain. And don't tell me to lay off tennis, because I'm not about to do that. Please help and I rate.
You should defitiley go to the doctor.. also whenever you are not playing tennis try not to put any preasure on the foot..that might help. Also, do you take tylenol or anything to ease the pain while you play? That might be a good idea. Also an ace bandage is a good idea.. so that you dont twist it the wrong way again while you are playing. Good Luck.. I hope your foot feals better!!
~ Becki ~
I've been talking to this one guy named Andy for a few weeks. And he really likes me and I just don't really want a boyfriend right now and he knows that. I mean I really like him and all. But then lastnight I went with my friend to a party at her church and I met this guy named Justin...and we like clicked. I mean we started talking at like 2 and didn't stop until like 5. I really like him now...like when I was with him I was getting those little butterfly feelings and I just felt all happy and stuff. And I realized...I don't feel that way around Andy. I mean I'm not going to go out with Justin right now b/c I don't know him very well....but what do I do about Andy? thanks...
- Zero
Well i think that you should tell Andy, that you know that he likes you but you don't feel the same way about him. You're glad being friends. I mean if I had a friend that i could talk to about anything and he was a guy I woulnt go out with him because i have seen way to many times that when i guy and girl break up they stop talking to each other and they are enemies.. and i dont want that to happen to you andy. Now that you dont have to worry about andy, i would try talking to that guy a couple more times and see if you still get the butterflies.. if you do. i would say ask him out :) hope i helped!
~ Becki ~