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Q: okay I just went golfing today and I was good but I want to get better so how do yuo get better at golf
iwill rate 5's for any answer that is good

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Q: i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
I rate high

You shouldn't criticize or hate him for ANY reason. You can still be good friends! Gay guys are the BEST friends a girl can have. They're really fun to hang out with and stuff. He may have been your boyfriend but you should feel important because he told you his deep and dark secret.

He trusted you enough to tell you this and you should really respect that.

Still be friends with him even though you don't feel right because I agree with you... I mean, THAT'S YOUR BOYFRIEND for pete's sake but you HAVE to accept him for him. He respected you (obviously) and you WERE happy with him (obviously).
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kay kay

Q: okay I had a plant and it was growing real good then my cat that is allowed to go out side knocked over the whole pot and now my flowers are gone what should I do and saying not to let the cat out is not a option because we have a dog door and I am really disapointed what should I do

put it somewhere where no one (especially the cat) can get it. There are plenty more flowers... just plant more and put it somewhere else!

Q: ok..so there was this girl and she was like my best friend all thro 8th grade...then my b/f broke up with me and she went out with him a DAY later. how horrible is that?! well..he is so mean to her and he talks so bad about me and my other friends..but she wont stick up for us..AT ALL! she sits there and laughs about it. she said she was sorry and i was like.ok..and i have forgiven her and everything but now its like evrything she does gets on my nerves i cant stand this girl. and its hard because she still thinks we are best friends and i dont know how to just tell her..Hey girl..we arent friends...i thought it would be easier to forgive her but it keeps getting harder cause she is like the fakest person in the world. idk what i should do because now we are in a huge fight and she is making it seem like its MYYY fault.and ignoring her doest work because she is good friends with another one of my best friends so its like everywhere i go with my friends she is there too..ughhh please help!

Well,
fake friends are definitly not needed in life... you need true friends and if she can't be that, she doesn't need to be your friend. She doesn't deserve you because obviously, you're a true friend because I know you wouldn't do that to her and the fact that she just does it to YOU for no reason is awful! The best thing you can do in this situation is to talk to that girl and tell her how you HATE that she's talking about you and since she did this, I'm not going to tell you to be nice or calm while saying this. lol. Express yourself and tell her EXACTLY how you feel and don't keep anything from her because she needs to know and maybe you guys can become fiends once again and she'll understand. If she does get mad, than, she doesn't deserve to be treated like a friend anyway. You're better than her and whatever you do, don't cry in front of her or anything like that. Just don't let her bother you at all because the more she knows it's bothering you, the more she's going to try to make you mad by talking about you more and more. If you need more advice, you know I'm here to answer any questions that you may have. You can also email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: My friend and i have been best best friends since we were about 4 years old... same school, lives down the road, you know. then she left public school in 6th grade for private & i ended up going to the same private HS as her in 9th grade. since i knew only her there i just wound up hanging out w/ who she did (which were annoying, prissy, catty, gossipy, fake girls) and eventually she got tired of their crap, so she ditched them. but i still hung out w/ them so in the process she was ditching ME. so then i ditched them but not for her, i just needed to & i'm GLAD i did. but she STILL won't even talk to me. on the bus we used to sit & have nice long detailed talks and now she doesn't even ackowledge me at ALL accept when her "new" friends aren't on the bus. i never EVER said anything to get her upset or mad, and even if i did, she should give me the decencey to TALK to me about it FIRST since we're BFF, right?? i don't get it, and i already lost another BFF this year & losing her hurts a LOT. i don't understand why... i don't know what to do. should i forget about it and just leave it at "we grew apart, that happens" or talk to her (w/out pissing her off) and work it out... or something else? ahh PLEASE help, i miss my best friend! =(

Well,
I DON'T think you should just say "We grew apart, that happens" because you guys are best friends and best friends don't just throw it away and go on. When best friends fight, they TRY to work it out and solve their problems. If you miss her, you should really try to gain back what you had. She's obviously not mad at you. She just kinda drifted away from you after a while. Since she's excited that she found someone new for her to hang out with, she ditched YOU because she wants new friends and I'm guessing that she's the kind of person that when she makes new friends, she forgets about her old ones. You just have to remind her of the good times you guys had and how close you guys were. You have to talk to her (calmly) and tell her that you MISS hanging out with her and calling her on the phone and emailing her every day and being her B.F.F. Tell her you don't MIND if she has other friends but you want her to be yours too. If you need more advice or want to talk, email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com or email me in my advice inbox.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: okay do you have any hair styles I can use to make my hair pretty???? I know there are some styles I just can't think of them...... Please help me I will honestly appreciate it if you do so!!!!!!! I will rate you a five if you give me a good answer!!!!! : )

Love
~~~~Ashley~~~~~~

I Like your column......

Oh my gosh...
O.K...
I have to really think on this one because I mostly wear my hair in a high ponytail or down. Sometimes, I wear my hair in a half ponytail or some up, some down. I don't really know any other hairstyles but if you go to google or yahoo and click images and type in "hairstyles", it'll show you all these cool things you can do with your hair. I'm really sorry I can't help you... I just don't want to reject your question because I don't want it to go unanswered. You can also buy little things like hair clips and berrettes and sometimes, I buy little diamond ponytail-holders and stuff. I'm really sorry but I don't know any "professional" hairstyles. You can also go to places and get it styled and they do a really good job... it costs about $10-$15. I hope I helped you a LITTLE. lol. Ask me a question any time or email at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: do guys like it when girls make the first move or do they want to? also...when making out-do u like the girl to be on top or you to be in control?thanks babes...

It all depends on the girl. Most girls like the guy to make the first move because it's more... romantic. Also, girls like the guys to be on top when making out.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox!
♥ Kayla

Q: what age/grade will your friends start to act more mature, and start being more than just someone to laugh with. you know, when will it be easier to find that one true friend, cause i'm pretty young, and i dont think anyone is that mature enough that they are the kind of friend that will give you a shoulder to lean on when your sad, or you can call anytime just 2 talk, you know that kind of stuff. does anyone know what age>

I, personally, think it's fun to laugh with a friend but I know what you mean. The age my friends started being mature is about... 15. They start thinking that the stupid stuff is... stupid. Trust me... it's hard to find the ONE TRUE FRIEND. You can't shop around like finding an outfit. You have to be EXTREMELY close to someone. If you're friends with someone for a long time, you should be close, even through fights and stuff. Trust me when I tell you that friends are someone who you CAN laugh with but also, when you're having boy troubles or a family problem or something, they understand and try ANYTHING to help you out. That's what a friend is. You can talk to your friends and tell them how you feel and if they are true friends, they'll listen.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox!
♥ Kayla

Q: ok so i've gone out with this guy before and i've liked him for about a year now. we've gone out before but the first time i dumped him because i found out some really bad things he did. the last 2 times he dumped me because he "just wanted to be friends" but told me he wanted to go out in the future. the thing is..i've tried to get over him soooo much and it's not working and it's like no matter how many bad things he says or does to me i still like him. Now i have a new boyfriend who treats me with respect and stuff but i still can't get the other guy off my mind even then my new bf is more reliable. i dont know if i should tell the other guy that i still have feelings for him or what..what should i do?
I'll rate 5s for good answers! thank u!

Well,
you should tell your current boyfriend that you still have feelings for the other guy because lovers can't keep secrets from each other. If you like BOTH of the guys, you need to tell the truth. Tell the other guy that you still like him and tell your current boyfriend that you like him BUT you like the other guy too.
You can't keep this secret from ANYONE because it will backfire on you.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com if you want to talk or need more advice. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox!
♥ Kayla

Q: okay, during the day i have nothing to do, i am so bored. school years aren't so bad because i have school and homework and stuff like that, but the summers are unbearable! I have nothing to do. i can't get a job even though i want to because of those damn child labor laws and i don't have a driver's liscence so can anyone think of stuff i can do during the day?

You may not be able to get a PROFESSIONAL job with like... employees and stuff but there is NO LAW that says you can't have a BABYSITTING job. First of all, you can have fun with the little children and second of all, you make MONEY! If you don't want to do that, invite a friend over or go to a friends house and go to an amusement park or something. I know how you feel, by the way. I'm bored this summer, too. Just ask your mother/father/aunt/.uncle/grandma/grandpa/ whoever drives you around to drive you somewhere like a friends house. There are also LOTS of camps you can go to. Those are really fun, if you don't get homesick. Well,
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: my older sister is 15 and i am 13, and i can't stand her! like she just bugs the hell out of me. she tries to be like her "own person", she is obsessed with animals, mostly horses, and reading. but i am the exact opposite, i hate reading and i like partying, boys, music, and tennis. she is trying to act like me though. i mean she likes country music, and i like rap hip hop and r& b. now she is starting to like maroon 5 and stuff that i like it is pissing me off and its just cause she is trying to be cool because she knows she is really annoying. and my mom is making me spend the day with her at the pool tomorrow, which i really don't want to do because there are only 2 days until i go to camp and i would rather spend my time with my friends! how do i get out of it?!?! please help me!

Well,
sisters are annoying. I should know. I have one. But just because she's doesn't mean you have to try to get out of things because one day, she could drift away and you might not be able to see her again. You want to be close with your sister when you get older. You don't want to fight with her all the time. My dad and his brothe3r hate each other to this day and they fought so bad that my dad's brother threatened to kill him! I know you would rather be with your friends but believe me when I tell you this... you should charish the good and bad time that you have with your sister, even if you don't want to. She'll always be your sister and ALL she wants to do is spend "quality time" with you. Another thing I would do is tell her that you WANT to go to the pool with her but you have already promised your friends that you would go with them tomorrow. Try to reschedule the pool trip until the next day. You may not want to do this but it is very important for you to send time with your sister. If she starts annoying you THAT bad, tell her how you feel about her doing things just like you and trying to be like you. Tell her that SHE'S older and SHE needs to be the example, not YOU. I mean, you're younger! How can the YOUNGER sister be the all-time role model? I have never heard of that. So tell her that! I'm sure she'll understand.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

If you REALLY like him and THINK you can trust him, tell him that you like him and ask him if he likes you. See what he says. Guys try to avoid things when they like you so if he tries to change the subject or say "I gotta go." pull him down and tell him to stay there until you're done talking. LOL. That's what I do. Ask him the questrion again and he surely will respond. If he says, "Kinda", don't bother because he's asking for trouble. If he says "No."... you know what to do... slap him. LOL. "If he says "Yes."... self-explanatory. I don't want to burst your bubble or anything... but this COULD be a possibilty... he COULD just like because of your breats size... Be careful with him because he COULD hurt you. I'm serious.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: What are some signs of breast development?

When it hurts. When your boobs hurt when you touch them, they're definitly growing. My boobs always hurt when they grow. That's a GOOD thing... unless you want them small. LOL
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: will drinking a lot of water help you lose weight?

Water is good for you but if ALL you drink is water, it can be a bad thing. Eat things like fruits and vegetables and drink something like slim fast or another diet drink. Also, you can try non-fattening cereals with the G on it. Those work good! They make you lose weight, trust me. I mean, it worked for me.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: Hmm do you think guys are more attracted to girls with Straight hair or Curly ??

It depends on the guy... That's stereotype if you say that ALL guys like straight hair OR ALL guys like curly hair. Whatever guy you're going to make an impression on, you have to know him to know if HE likes straight or curly hair. Personally, I like straight hair because you can do more styles with it but if YOU like curly, it's up to you. But in my oppinion, defintitly straight.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: my parents are so over protective. im 13 and they wont even let me jog aroung my block or go to the mall with a friend it gets on my nerves cause my dad always bring up these stories of about these 25 yr olds who get kidnapped raped and killed i told him to sign me up 4 self defense if hes so paranoied but he just gets mad he wont listen. Please help @ this rate i will be a prisoner without freedom and locked away in a tower at age 45.

thanks ill rate high!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My parents were the samer way but as I got older, I realized that they were only doing that because they cared about me and even though you THINK you won't get kidnapped, raped, and/or killed, you never know when these things are going to happen. They just do. You can never tell. Well, they just care about you and I don't want you hurt either but maybe you should just respect their rules and one day, you'll realize how important they are and how important it is to respect them.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: I've never been in a relationship before & I'm 13 years old. I've liked guys & they've liked me back but I've never really gone the extra step. Well now, my guy friend likes me & I like him too. We want to be more than friends but what should I expect from a relationship? Will things be weird at first?

Of course, it's going to be weird at first. All relationships are like that. It's not because you don't like that person anymore. It's because you like that person A LOT and you're shy. Even if you have known him for a while, you still get shy because you have never been this way before with him. I had a friend named Jackie and she wanted to go out with this guy, Pete. Well, she felt the same way as you and you know what she did? She broke up with the guy! Trust me! That's not the right thing to do because you'll just feel bad about it later. You'll get used to the person once you start hanging around him more and you'll feel shy less and less as you prgress into the friendship. If you want to talk or need more advice on ANYTHING, I'm here for you and my email address is kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!

Dang, this is a long question but I read it! Whew! LOL. Anyways, this guy seems like a player to me. If he still loves you, he would want to spend time with YOU, right? Not her! He probably has feelings for you but... he probably still has feelings for her too! I know it seems crazy but that's a typical guy. They think they can get away from us by cheating and playing us but you know what? We ALWAYS catch him. He's probably lieing to you. See, what I don't understand is... why would he get all pissed off at you for writing an "I love you." message on his xanga website but when she writes "I can't wait till tomorrow night, bah blah blah." I don't get that. He's definitly not worth it. When guys like a girl and she likes him back, his cover-up to you will always be "Oh, don't worry. We're just friends and I love you." That's obviously a sign of cheating or FUTURE cheating because you know that if you guys went back out, he would still hang around with Melissa. I mean, they went to a dance together and tomorrow, they're watching fireworks. I mean, if he love you, truly and sincerely, he would be wanting to do that with you, right? I'm sorry that you have to go through this but I'm ALWAYS here for you if you want to talk or anything! If you want, you can even email me at a private address at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K? Remember you can talk to me at any time of the day and I'm always here. LOL. Well,
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: i really like him and i cant stop thinkin about him. i dream about him everynight and sometimes i call him under private number just so i can hear his voice. his best friend and me went out for 2 months, and i thought i loved him but then he cheated on me. josh wouldnt tell me that he cheated, but his best friend (anton) told me. and to tell me a secret that his best friend told him NOT to tell me, but to tell me anyways, i thought that was sweet. i dont know what to do. i dont even know if he likes me or not. if you dont think i should go out wtih him, how do i get over him? and if i might should take a chance, what should i do to get him?

Well,
I personally think you should date outside that box because every single one of your boyfriends knows your exboyfriend and so on and you want to date someone that might make your ex jealous. To get over him, you should try doing something fun with another guy and one or two or three of your closest friends. Have a great time and you'll soon start to like this boy and guess what?... There ya go! LOL. I know it doesn't SEEM like it will work but trust me, it does. Go to like... Astroworld or Splashtown or Schlitterbahn or the movies or something else. Just forget about the other boy because he's probably going to do you wrong and you don't want to get hurt. If you want to talk about something totally off topic or need more advice, just ask. I'm always here for you. If you want, you can email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla

Q: sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!

ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!!

I, personally, wouldn't go out with the fella. I mean, he's NOT a virgin, which means he could, possibly, try to have sex with you. See, guys like him aren't interested in a relationship. They want sex and nothing else. I would not only fear for my feelings but for my life as well because you have no idea what he could do. For all you know, he could rape you unexpectedly. You don't want that to happen, do you? I mean, he practically has "player" written on his forehead and if you're ready to get serious with a guy, it shouldn't be him. He's not what you want and you'll regret it later if you get hurt!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla