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so confused
So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help
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If he only wants to see you when it is good for him then he is probably just using you for affection and maybe hoping for more.
If you can deal with that by all means keep cuddling him. But give up hoping for more, he isn't a romantic (Very few highschool jocks are in my experience). This is not a relationship were you will get the fufilment you want.
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if hes only wanting to hang out on HIS scheduale then you shouldnt waste your time with him you know...even if he is popular he shouldnt lead you on when your alone then treat you like crap when ppl are around you know what i mean...
Good Luck and I hope this helps!
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trust me honey, big boobs are not an easy thing. i hate mine too. and it seems that he is only kissing you and cuddling with you to go all the way with you. my advice is to back off. i mean if you two aren't dating, you really shouldn't be doin all that stuff anyway because you know it's not real. if it was he wouldv'e asked you out already. and i don't think he truly likes you at all. because if he did he would be proud of you and show you off to his friends instead of refusing to hang out with you with friends around. just don't get caught up with him. i'm a sucker for sweetness too, but you have to learn to know if its real or not. and this guy doesn't seem real at all. i hope this helps you.
-Linh
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What the hell do you want help with?
You know a guy.
You like this guy.
The feelings aren't mutual.
Yet you still are being hopelessly sucked into this obviously unideal relationship.
You are talking like you don't like him anymore - yet you continue to reiterate the fact that you do like him.
Get over it.
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try talking to him again and if he doesnt understand then hes not good enough for u.
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You sound like a beautiful girl and if he cant repect you as a person and covers his heart with pride and popularity dont you waste one more minute with him. if he isnt willing to express his love for you infront of people then you need to find someone who has the balls to do it.
you ask, ill answer Irishdude405
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Well if he doens't want to be with you all the time then i think you shouldn't take things further, unless he says he wants to be with you and says he wants to be with you then i think you should take things further. I think i am confusing myself i hope i'm not confusing you but anyways i hope i helped!!!
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Ok here is what i say stay where you are with him in your relationship and dont move foward, wait for him for a while i mean he does like u, he snuck out for you and kissed you and cuddled with you! Like him but dont fall into love with him bc ur not sure if he likes you ok? Hope I helped!
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First of all, don't hate your boobs or any other part of your body. I had the same problem growing up - don't let it get to you honey. There are girls out there who would pay for them!!! On to the guy thing. Well, if it's working the way it is then do you really need him to say it? It's obvious he likes you. People make to much of this "I don't want him to use me" thing. Let it go. Have fun with him as long as it's fun for you and let the rest take it's course. Someone can only use you if you are looking for something in return for something you do. If you go into the situation saying, 'Okay, I'm gonna have fun right now and when that stops working for me I'll have fun somewhere else'. Don't make it too dramatic. That is part of the problem. Don't look for him to give you the same signs that he likes you as you give him. Just be laid back and carefree. Hang with the girls and let him call you for a while. If you run into him - hang out - but if you are came with other people then don't just leave them to be with him. Show him you are independant and have a life - he can either get right or get 'left' =)
By the way, don't make excuses for why he's not sweet - like because he's popular. He's either kind to you or he's not and if he's not - I don't care how popular he is, ditch him!!!
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If you REALLY like him and THINK you can trust him, tell him that you like him and ask him if he likes you. See what he says. Guys try to avoid things when they like you so if he tries to change the subject or say "I gotta go." pull him down and tell him to stay there until you're done talking. LOL. That's what I do. Ask him the questrion again and he surely will respond. If he says, "Kinda", don't bother because he's asking for trouble. If he says "No."... you know what to do... slap him. LOL. "If he says "Yes."... self-explanatory. I don't want to burst your bubble or anything... but this COULD be a possibilty... he COULD just like because of your breats size... Be careful with him because he COULD hurt you. I'm serious.
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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If you like and turst him so much than you should approach him with your problems. Tell him how you feel. Make sure he understands, so that there is no miss understanding. That would be a desaster! Ask him if he has a problem with getting close, and don't rush it if he decides to get together. Rushing is a real turn of for guys. But all in all, relasionships can only work out if both sides comunicate. I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. Please rate!
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:( i feel what your saying
hes either
-unsure of what he wants
-doesnt want a gf ..doesnt wanna be tied down..that kind of thing
u cant make someone like you like that...someone once helped me out when i was in this kind of situation
a good friend told me to think back to a guy who i didnt really like and turned down ..and he liked me a lot and all...i had one so i thought of it and now i understand when people dont like me the way i like them...its just a natural thing that they dont like you and i had to accept that
he could be with you just for fun, i dont know but you seem like a nice girl and you could probably find a guy who likes you, will brag about how he likes you, and will be yours..so if you want someone to settle down with, maybe move on from this guy
if your ok with the fact of having some fun..then continue ...if not then thats ok..there are other guys out there! :)
-melissa-
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talk to him...tell him exactly how you feel, if he gives you the right answer you'll know its right..but if its wrong you'll know its wrong...tell me how it goes -->taylorbug234<-- my aim sn
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