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Hi. I am a 31 year old life coach and professional writer and the mother of a beautiful 6 year old little boy. I believe in the kids and teens out there today and I want to be of service in any way I can. I know what it's like to be young and not want to talk to parents about problems. I specialize in relationships of all kinds and parenting. I also am very well versed in health and beauty. I will always respond with sincerity and to the best of my ability. I will always be honest, even if that means I may tell you something you don't want to hear but need to. I am all about inspiring the best from people I come in contact with so that's the approach I take with everyone.
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Ok, I was just wondering what color eye liner you thought would go well with me. I have blue eyes most of the time (they change) And brown hair but not really dark. And also blonde high lights. Plz help
I have the same features and I use a soft brown. If you want to be funky - purple looks great with blue and green eyes.
heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..
ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!!
If your gut is telling you to move on - then move on and don't look back. First rule of thumb - if there was good enough reason to break up the first time - don't go back. If he really liked you and respected you then he wouldn't be trying to get you to make out in front of his friends. Sounds like he wants to show off...but before you dump him - maybe let him know how you feel. Have you done that? Don't expect him to know automatically what's going on. He is probably figuring stuff out too, ya know? So give him a chance to compose himself and be who he really is. Let him know what's going on with you and how you feel. I wouldn't ask him to ditch his friends becasue the bottom line is that he won't. And you really don't want him to! Friends are good for him and for you. You guys do need 'your time' but he's gonna be into his friends to - it's just a guy thing - it doesn't mean he doesn't care =) So let him know how you feel.
Okay so i`m 17 and i was goin out with this 20 yr old boy for about 7 months..but we've been hookin up for almost a year. Then he cheated on me with his ex. so we seperated. Lets pretend this boys name is Bob. So while me and bob were broken up, we still talked and hooked up every once in a while. but not much. So i had a lot of free time for once. Durin the free time i met this other 20 yr old boy. he was so sweet and everything. so we started talkin. We`ll call this boy Joe. So later on, i come to find out that Bob and Joe are like worst enemies. they`ve been beefin` with eachother for YEARS! So then they find out about eachother, which isnt that big of a deal bc im not goin out with either one. but still they were mad and wanted to fight eachother. so Joe got locked up almost 2 weeks ago. And everyone wants me to help get him out. But i currently go out with Bob again, so he doesnt want me to. I mean some times i think i love bob, but i find myself constantly thinkin about Joe. and i miss him a lot. I dont know who would be a better choice for me? and i dont wanna make the wrong one.. I really need help. I dont wanna be lyin to them, so i just want one... plzzzz help .. thanxx
These are both thugs if they are always fighting and 'beefin' as you say and what's up with that? I mean you are desperately wanting a guy in jail? Come on - Bob already cheated on you and the other one is in jail - they probably just fought over you because of who the other guy was - not because of you. So let them both go and call it a day! You can do much better than that - I'm sure! I do wonder how you didn't know this guy was 'bob's worst enemy' and you two dated for 7 months...no mention of that huh? Well, what I can tell you is that the future with these two looks grim.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months. His ex-wife was always calling and telling him that she missed him and wanted him back. She doesn't respect our relationship at all. Now she wants to pretend to be nice and he doesn't understand why I question her sencereity. I have a lot of anger towards her and I don't like feeling the way I do when I hear her voice or her name mentioned. I was never aloud to say anything to her or he would of been upset with me. How can In deal with the feeling I have for her. I don't like that she gets to me. Please help I'm at the end of my rope and I'm trying really hard to make this relationship work.
Basically, the more you think of the things you don't like about her - the more she will show them to you. Instead of automatically deciding she has bad intentions by being nice, even though she may - give her the benefit of the doubt. He will not want to be with someone who is full of anger -no one does. Even though it's true the things you think about her and you may have facts to back it up - at the end of the day you feel horrible so you are not doing yourself or your relationship any good. Be supportive of him. Remember the things you like about him and why you are in this relationship to begin with. Make a list of his positive aspects - what's great about him. Then make a list of what things you can remember about your relationship - things that have happened that you really loved. Good memories. You will have to work to release the anger towards her - but if you can begin by giving her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she does really love him - what if you were in that situation...etc. It doesn't mean he loves her - but I can absolutely gaurantee you the more you push against this woman and his relationship with her the more it will be in your face.
Let me know how you are in 2 weeks after doing this. Don't focus on what is - becasue that is changable, right? Focus on what you want and what you like and pull yourself up emotionally. If you need more ways to do this, just email me.
Okay me n my boyfriend has been dating for almost 4 months and everything has been going good we have a couple of disagreements but who doesnt.. well a couple of weeks ago he got me a cell phone but i payed for it but its in his name and everyday he goes through it. people tell him that im messing around with other guys but how could i when im with him 24/7 well last nite my bestfriend who is a girl texted me stuff she didnt want anyone else knowing and he went to go through my phone and i took it from him. i knwo it looked as if i was hiding something but im not. now he thinks that im hiding stuff and im cheating so he doesnt want to tell me he loves me anymore intill i can change and get my priorities straight or however u spell it. and he doesnt knwo right now if we are gonna work things out he just always tells me i dont know i dont know.Please help me try to get my boyfriend not to break up with me im sorry its long.
First of all, your cell phone is your business - not his!! If he is that insecure - it really is not your problem. He can't have a healthy relationship with you feeling that way...I would just let him go before he starts accusing you and beating you up!!! I know it seems cute - but really it's to control you and it's not cute. It's the beginings of a miserable relationship. Trust me.
I got my hair highlighted & it was WAY to bright, it makes my skin look pail & everthing, & it was supposed 2 b in streeks, but the lady made it look more, everywhere...
anyway, is there a way I can dim it down afew shades without having 2 go back & dye it again?
thanks
14/M
Trust me - call the hairdresser tomorrow and go back to see her. The problem is if you try to fix it yourself you could come out worse. She will fix it for FREE!!! Just call her and tell her. Invest in a cap if you hate it that much until you can get in to her. They will probably get you in quick. Now, if you did this at home and I'm just not reading it right - give it 24 hours and buy some more dye and just go over it. You will still have lighter hair where the streaks are now - but it will probably work.
So me & this guy were going out.. it had been going great and all but his ex girlfriends were real bitches!! but anyways.. so we ended up braking up because he got suspended and got grounded for the whole summer. He's usually aloud to go to his best friends house (dont ask me why) even if hes grounded but he couldnt even go there.. so we decided to brake up. but see the thing is that about a week into summer (we broke up about a week before school ended) he was able to go to his friends house again. and about three days after that he wasnt grounded anymore.. i saw him at the carnival all over his ex girlfriend (the bitchy one) but he calls me once and a while(we were friends before we went out) but it just seems like i was someone to try and get over his ex and not someone who he really cared about. is he a jerk.. or what?
Yeah, I'd call him a jerk. And luckily you found out now and now later! He probably did like you -so give yourself the benefit of the doubt there - but things change and when you guys broke up maybe the other chic sweated him really hard and he took her back. Or maybe he just a good 'ole player that likes lots of options. Either way - count it as a blessing becasue you don't need to deal with that kinda stuff anyway. I wouldn't give him the time of day - let him miss what he had. All the other girls probably take him back -you will set yourself apart and rock his little world if you don't sweat him and don't take him back....don't fall for the bullsh*@ lines when he's begging either - let him sweat and love it girl!!!
hi
i am 16/f/uk
i used to cut last yr then i stopped cos things got a bit better in my life
but since about feb this yr i ave bn really depressed i cry my self to sleep every nite i ave started to cut again over the most stupid things. i cant find another way to let it all out. its like an addiction, when i get angry or upset i have an urge to cut.
my parents ave split up n i wanna be with my best boy mate hu is leavin to live in aussie and i wanna tell him how i feel i also hate the way i look i am over weight i have spots and i am just so low at the moment i dont want to see any doctors i just want some one to listen and not judge me
can some one tell me why im feeling and doing these things?
sorry its so long
I have to say that my heart goes out to you because I cannot imagine how bad it must be for you to resort to cutting your own skin! I personally think you are putting too much emphasis on the wrong things. Who cares if you are a bit overweight - lots of people are - and it truly matters what's inside (as lame as that sounds it's true). And spots? Not sure what that means - but nothing is worth mutilating your body. Have you talked to your parents? Is there someone you can talk to that will listen without judgement? I know your parents must love you, right? I can tell you that the reason you feel the way you do is because you are looking at all the things that are wrong with you - instead of what's right. What are you good at? What is an asset to your personality? Are you funny? Can you do a cool trick? Are you loyal, sensitive, honest...you know, sit down every day and write a list of 10 things that went right that day - I don't care if it's as simple as having the toilet paper by the toilet - anything you can find! Make yourself think of them and then see how you feel. Start trying to find the silver lining - see the cup as half full - not half empty. Look for what's working and focus on it.
Just try it and email me and tell me if it worked k?
Ok, well i know i already asked a question kinda like this, but i dont think i expained it well enough. heres the whole story. well there's this one guy who i went out with last year, he was everything you would want in a boyfriend, sweet, sensitive, treated you really good, i mean in school once he had to write a paper on his favorite thing, he wrote it on me! aw, right? well, kinda. Every guy has his down side, his was he wasnt the "hottest" guy, well not even close. but that didnt really matter to me because looks dont really mean THAT much to me. everyone used to say how good i was for him, and how they wanted me to dump him. well we went out twice that year, he asked me out both times. but i ended up breaking up with him both times. i didnt break up with him because of what other people were saying though and not because he wasnt hott. i broke up with him the first time because everything was really messed up and it was the best thing to do, he understood. so we broke up. we go to differenent schools so it didnt work out all that great anyways. but he asked me out again. i said yeah. but i ended up breaking up with him because i guess a lot of his friends were telling him i was a whore and he would never stick up for me..kinda messed up right? well a lot of time has passed..almost a year..and he hates me now..for pretty much no reason. i mean we were ok after we broke up the second time but now..we're not. he HATES me. he calls me a cutter whenever i see him (i used to cut. but it really hurts when he says that.and he knows that. thats why he says it) he even hates anyone who hangs out with me..i think he changed. well my friends agree with me..because hes mean now. not sweet. i tried talking to him..friendly.but it just makes it worce..i wanna be friends with him though..he likes someone else though..i might kidna like him still..i REALLY dont know though. i just found out he may have been smoking pot. im really worried about him..what do i do?
Baby let this one go. It sounds like you broke his little puppy love heart and now he's got no love for you. I mean if he's calling you names and being mean- why would you want him back? It is nice when someone likes you and you know they are always there - and then when they just totally freak and hate you - well that feels really bad and you want it back the way it was - but you didn't want him then. It's just the rejection button he's pushing that makes you think you might kinda like him now. Remember - the opposite of love is not hate - it's not caring either way - so if he hates you - well you have a hold on him. And aren't you glad you don't have to be miserable like that? And if he's smoking pot - there is really nothing you can do about it. He's gotta go this road. And why are you cutting yourself? What is up with teenage girls today? You are going to have scars that you will so regret later. Talk to someone - anyone - email me - do anything before you hurt your own body....please!!!
But back to him - leave him alone. Just ignore it. He probably likes that he gets the attention from hating you - or supposedly hating you. Just let it go. Trust me - you don't like him - you just don't like to be rejected and by someone who obviously had a big 'thing' for you in the past. It was like a past relationship I had. I was ready to break up with this guy and then he did it first!!! I was like what the hell just happened? And then, the rejection button was pushed and all the sudden I just wanted him back - and all I did was dump him in the end anyway.
Don't be fooled! Move on baby.
I just moved in 10 months ago [[beginging of school]] Yeah,i made friends...but now at the end of the year they all turned against me! And its all because if this one girl hates me,they all hate me.I hate being a follower and i love to be original,so simpely,i dont follow her like my friends did. Now shes convincing everyone to hate me! She was once my friend and i never did anything wrong ][[i know this because we werent that good of friends we just sat next to each other in one subject..never called eachother and stuff..]] So she makes everyone hate me for no reason. And im so sad i cry so hard. Im not the same im just miserable. Im trying to get my mom to move back to my old city. Its takeing some effect. I would be over joyed to move back to my city. People like me and i have friends there. But my question is how can i deal with all this pressure and stress on me?
Im becomeing depressed and hateing my life. I dont want to be that kind of person seeing as i always try to look up...even down looks up to me.
Well, I'm not sure what happened with your friends or exactly why they all turned thier backs on you - but if all it took was for some girl to tell them to - and you not do anything to them - well then they may not have been the friends you thought they were. It may be a blessing they are gone! What do you love to do??? Figure out what you love to do and find a class or something that you can take to do it! There you will meet people and make new friends. Also, a new school year is coming and you may not even have to deal much with those other girls. The bottom line is your mom will probably not pick up everything and move back because your stressed - unfortunately. So it's up to you to figure out how you can feel good right where you are. Get involved in a sport. do things to keep your mind off of these silly girls and how miserable you think they've made your life. You've given them all your power baby girl. TAKE IT BACK!!! Don't give anyone the power to make you miserable! This may seem like the end and so horrible - but in 6 months you will be looking back thinking - 'that wasn't so bad - it turned out for the best'. Just do some things to pamper yourself - and forget them!!!
So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help
First of all, don't hate your boobs or any other part of your body. I had the same problem growing up - don't let it get to you honey. There are girls out there who would pay for them!!! On to the guy thing. Well, if it's working the way it is then do you really need him to say it? It's obvious he likes you. People make to much of this "I don't want him to use me" thing. Let it go. Have fun with him as long as it's fun for you and let the rest take it's course. Someone can only use you if you are looking for something in return for something you do. If you go into the situation saying, 'Okay, I'm gonna have fun right now and when that stops working for me I'll have fun somewhere else'. Don't make it too dramatic. That is part of the problem. Don't look for him to give you the same signs that he likes you as you give him. Just be laid back and carefree. Hang with the girls and let him call you for a while. If you run into him - hang out - but if you are came with other people then don't just leave them to be with him. Show him you are independant and have a life - he can either get right or get 'left' =)
By the way, don't make excuses for why he's not sweet - like because he's popular. He's either kind to you or he's not and if he's not - I don't care how popular he is, ditch him!!!
my gf is always demanding me to do things if i don't she tells people about the things we do
and my family belives her evevn if its not true
and it makes me out to be the bad person
16/f
DUMP HER!!! Leave her alone! Don't let anyone control you. That is the beginings of a miserable relationship! If she threatens you to tell your fam stuff if you break up - tell her you don't care - then you take your power back because she can't control you if you don't care!!!!
hey all my friends have made out and i am just really shy around my boyfriend (when i have one) everytime he gets close i kinda just abck off because i am scared i have never made out andi dont kno how all my friend ever say is it just comes natural ! i am complety feeling left out ! some off my guy friend would be like hey if you wanna make out just tell me and like there for real they will be all who cares and stuff and one of my guy friend has done every thing but sex and i kinda like him and he said if you can make out wiff me just to say you have and my mom loves him and she thinks he is the sweetes biy ever but she doesnt kno anything he has done! and she would totally not aprove if she heard !
question A: give me tips on making out! thx!
B:should i go out wiff him or is he using me !
C:should i make out wiff him just to say i have!
A: When it's right - you won't need tips on making out - when the person really likes you - the two of you will muttle through the first time and get better and better.
B: If you really like him, i think you should go for it. If he only says he wants to go out to make out - I would take making out - out of the relationship and see if he still wants to go out.
C: NO NO NO NO NO!!! Huge mistake! Don't try to keep up with your friends. Just because they are ready doesn't mean you are. Listen to your heart baby and follow it. If you are backing off - it says pretty loud and clear you are not ready. Later on - guys will really like the fact that you didn't make out a lot or any of that. Only do it if it feels right - not to impress or keep up with anyone.
What does loose morals mean?
It means that you do not have high standards for yourself or you sway from your standards a lot.
ok well i have a really hard time getting a tan..so i bout the SPRAY on tan not the stuff u rub and now its darker in places and i want it off
does anyone know how to get it off by tomorrow bc i have to wear a bathing suit and it look really stupid
thanks in advance
Exfoliate! It's really your only hope!! Those tanning products are very hard to get off. Take a hot, hot bath and exfoliate. Get a wash clothe to get the parts even. You probably won't get it all off, but you could get it even and that would be better than splotchy!!!
Hope that helps!
I really want to lose 3-4 pounds fast. Are there any good plans you could tell me?? ... thanks
Low carb - eat no carbs for 3+ days and you will drop all your water weight. Stick to salad, meat, cheese and eggs - then watch the pounds melt away!!
Has anyone tried, I think Jergen's makes that lotion that gives you some color just by using their lotion? Its not really a self-tanner since its supposed to moisturize the skin but also give you a glow after a week of use.
I was just wondering if anyone has tried it & if they have, did it work for you? I have very fair skin & I try anything to get some color. Thanks!
Yep, Jergens makes a lotion called Natural Glow that gives color and doesn't leave streaks like a normal tanner. This will not give you a tan - tan but it will give you healthy color. I've used it and it does work. If you are looking for a self tanning product I definatley recommend Coppertone's Endless Summer Foam. It leaves a great tan - as dark as you want - and you can correct any lines or streaks continuously. It's great for a natural looking tan. They also make a gradual tanner like Jergens that has the same effect - but gets you a bit tanner. The gradual tanners can just be applied after a bath or shower like regular lotion - then vua-la you have a tan!!
My husband has smoked for years...35 to be exact. We have been married for 30 years. He is slim, but not very healthy, I think. He almost quit just recently and I was so proud of him and told everyone that I was. He was down to about one cigarette a day. I feel like garbage when he smokes because he does it in the house, car, whatever. It makes me feel like a smoker myself. I feel that if I wanted to smoke, I would have kept it up in college, so you see, I know what it is like to be a smoker, but not what it's like to be a non-smoker, even though I don't smoke. I am sorry this sounds bitter. I am mad. Tell me what to do. I am ready to move out. We have a great marriage, but I don't want to feel crappy anymore because of someone else's vice. He refuses to go outside to smoke.
Chanon
Can you compromise? I think you have a right to your feelings. You have a right to be mad. I smoke myself but would never smoke in someone else's presence without asking them first. I ALWAYS go outside to smoke - even in my own house!!! My only thought is if you can compromise. If it's bad enough for you to leave - then it's definately time to do something about it! The question becomes - what can you do about his actions? The answer is NOTHING!! So what do you do? First of all, as hard as this sounds, stop focusing on it and for now don't say anything to him about it. Just take a piece of paper and write a list of what you appreciate about your husband and your home when it is smoke free every day. Right now the energy around that subject is so mixed up that a good result can't come. It's obvious that he won't stop doing it even on your request - so you'll have to do the work on you to get the results you want. So, try for 1 week (day by day) to not say one word about the smoke - try to just focus on what you like. I know it may sound airy fairy - but the truth is you get what you think about - and you are getting what you are thinking about which is smoke in the house. Do that for a week and then email me back and we'll see how it's going. Don't assume this will fail because I have seen this work on situations much more intense than this!! Just try it. Give it a chance. Relax. Stop talking about it to your friends. Stop thinking about it as you lay in bed at night. Just find something else to think about.
ok im really confused and i REALLLLY like matt ((hes this guy that i goes to the place where i dance and hes always my partner))...but i kinda like Max and MarC ((which are like my BESTEST guy friends)) and like they all like me and i like dunno what to do..if enyone has adive PLEASE HELP..cuz i dont wanna hurt enyones feelings!
Go for the one who is not your best friends. You will have lots of boyfriends - and good friends last a lot longer than boyfriends in middle and high school. Do a gut check and see which one you REALLY like - and if it is one of your best friends - tell them. Just be sure before you put a twist in a relationship.
OK, brace your self, a while ago this guy trent ased me out and he was 2 years older. I said know cus i just got out of a bad relation ship. Now hes reallllly good friends with one of my good friends James. James is going out with alexa and trent is going out with alexas friend ashlyn. well me ash and alexa are all 14 ( im not good friends woth them) and james and trent just turned 16. WELL ANY WAY... I have these to other real good friends Morie (girl) and briana. and one day we (james trent bri morie me) were all hangin out at night and out of absoluty no where briana goes Oh My Gosh I LIKE TRENT!!! ...ALOT!!!! A WHOLE LOT!!!!! .. I WANT TO MAKE OUT WITH HIM!!! and i was all confused , she suddenly likes this guy and just goes to atempt to make out with him (BTW bri just turned 13 last week) Well after she triend to and failed at making out with him she told MOrie to do it. Morie said she didnt want to chus this was the first night she ever met him. well bri said if she didnt so wuold kill herself ( she "cuts") so morie talked to trent about it ( mo turned 12 last month) and they went in the back and made out. well over the night trent began to really like her. They made out like 5 time and he followed her EVERY WHERE!! and they flirted alll night. SO me and james were like "trent arnt you going out with ashlyn???" He said " im taking a break" But later ashlyn called james saying "trent isnt anserwing his fone if u see him tell him to call." James asked if they were still going out and ashlyn said yes. So trent is baisicly cheating on her with morie, but Mo and trent arnt actually going out cus mo likes his little brother(14) who likes Alexas cusin mandy and also because trent is almost 5 years older then morie. And latly he is flirting a lot with me to and i keep telling him hes taken and i dont mess with taken guys. but i do like him a little. And I am just soooo lost! what do i do, what should MO do, Should we tell aslyn, or what should we tell trent... or just help!!
sorry its so long. If you actually read this and anserwed you get an auto 5 ( unless your response just SUCKED!)
That just sounds like a totally tangled web that has been woven. I would say, if you are not in the middle of it - don't put yourself there! The problem is that if you tell then people will get hurt and mad. I would stay way out of it! If this guy likes you and he has a girlfriend, tell him that if he's serious about it - to let you know when he breaks up with his girl and if you are available then you guys can hook up. Don't be 'the other girl' especially knowing that he has a girl. As for MO - well she's already into him now so let her see where it goes. I would recommend the same thing though - tell trent to dump the girl or leave MO alone - but remember - that is for MO to do - you keep to the side. The less you can be in the drama - the better. And tell your friend who cuts herself to get some help. That is just awful and I hate to hear that because life does not have to be so bad that you cut yourself. She should try to figure out what is going on in her life and get it straitened out before she grows up with lots of scars and regrets it!!!
Hope any or all of it helped!
Rebecca