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argh why is it so difficult?
I just moved in 10 months ago [[beginging of school]] Yeah,i made friends...but now at the end of the year they all turned against me! And its all because if this one girl hates me,they all hate me.I hate being a follower and i love to be original,so simpely,i dont follow her like my friends did. Now shes convincing everyone to hate me! She was once my friend and i never did anything wrong ][[i know this because we werent that good of friends we just sat next to each other in one subject..never called eachother and stuff..]] So she makes everyone hate me for no reason. And im so sad i cry so hard. Im not the same im just miserable. Im trying to get my mom to move back to my old city. Its takeing some effect. I would be over joyed to move back to my city. People like me and i have friends there. But my question is how can i deal with all this pressure and stress on me?
Im becomeing depressed and hateing my life. I dont want to be that kind of person seeing as i always try to look up...even down looks up to me.
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It sound like you passed the toughest part and adjusted to your new school rather well. Things are difficult now, but you should try to run from someone whom is making your life miserable. It's just what she would want, and she'd be winning to as you have given her the power to hurt you. Don't runaway like some criminal, stay and 'fight' it out. Not fight in terms of coming to physical blows, but fight as in don't let effect your choices in life or effect your happiness. If these so called friends are listening to her instead of believing in the truth then they weren't your friends to begin with. Better no friends than ones that stab you in the back. In the end you'll know whom you can a nd can not trust, and given time things will improve. You sound like a strong person but it doens't mean you can be strong all the time. You'll get through this in time, in the meantime Keep your chin up.
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It`s obvious. She`s jealous. Don't even pay attention, and yes I know it's hard to walk the halls alone in school , and feel like nobodies there for you, but wouldn't you rather be by yourself, then with girls who spend their time paying attention to your life because theirs is too boring? I can just picture that girl now. She probably walks around like she owns the school for attention. You deserve better friends. Giving into her sick games, will just drag out more tears. Don't move either, cause that's just letting them win. Be yourself, Be strong, Then all those girls will realize YOU`RE the one who`s fun to be around, and they`ll want to be around you.
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well,,,even though i dont know you i can say people are like that but you have to over come them ,,,,,, you have to show them you inner shelf
and when she relizes what she has lost she can come back to you but you have to let her go for a while and i promise she will come back to you
you can only get to the sunshine..........
if you can wait through the rain!!!!!!
i hope i helped you at least a lil bit
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man this gurl sounds like a b****!!! Look, if your friends cant see what a great person you are then ditch them!!! If they wanna follow some gurl that is obsessed with ruining your life then fine, but if u did nothing wrong i dont see why YOU hav to be the miserable one. Why not make new friends cause it doesnt sound like those "friends" are REAL friends. Just stand up to them or ignore them all together! you dont hav to be stressed if you make a new and genuine friend
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Well, I'm not sure what happened with your friends or exactly why they all turned thier backs on you - but if all it took was for some girl to tell them to - and you not do anything to them - well then they may not have been the friends you thought they were. It may be a blessing they are gone! What do you love to do??? Figure out what you love to do and find a class or something that you can take to do it! There you will meet people and make new friends. Also, a new school year is coming and you may not even have to deal much with those other girls. The bottom line is your mom will probably not pick up everything and move back because your stressed - unfortunately. So it's up to you to figure out how you can feel good right where you are. Get involved in a sport. do things to keep your mind off of these silly girls and how miserable you think they've made your life. You've given them all your power baby girl. TAKE IT BACK!!! Don't give anyone the power to make you miserable! This may seem like the end and so horrible - but in 6 months you will be looking back thinking - 'that wasn't so bad - it turned out for the best'. Just do some things to pamper yourself - and forget them!!!
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Moving back to your old city won't help you. You'd just be ignoring the situation. Why would you want to do that? Wouldn't you rather want to fix it? You'd be more proud of yourself for it.
This girl sounds like such a bitch..and there is plenty of those. But you are a leader and you hate following others. You said so yourself. So just don't follow them. They wanted you to be upset and to get angry. It puts a lot of emotional stress on you, and hunnie, you don't have time for that. You have the chance to pull yourself together and focus on you. I'm guessing it's summer where you live. Go out and get a job. You'll meet tons of people who will be there to support you. Work on what you'd like to accomplish. Example: if your goal is to loose weight, become outgoing, or accomplsih a certain task you have the time to do that now. Try not to listen to them...you're so much better than them. I can tell.
Overall, I think you should meet other people. Why would you want them anyway? Truly they're not capable of being divergent. And it seems as if they don't have the balls to say what they really feel. You should consider finding people who are real and different. They've always been the ones who stayed in my life and as far as the people who were stuck up or bitchy turned out to be unsuccessful. But whatever you want to do is up to you.
In the meantime try calming yourself down. Drink lemonade and sit outside or lay in the sun. Read or swim. Do something you enjoy doing. Or try something new that you always wanted to do. It'll help you cope. Talk to your old friends. Keep in mind talking to them might make you miss them more. But they'll always have your back no matter what. See if you can visit this summer and talk to them about your problems. I'm sure they'll be able to help you or just listen.
Love,
Mandee
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Well first thing you need to do, is realize the positives. Your not stuck around with people that are just wanting to be like other people, also, if they are mad at you just because of one girl, that shows you that they were not your true friends. If you really did like them that much to the point where it makes you miserable and you cry alot, i would try talking to the one girl or some of the friends. I know its hard to do, but its something that would make you feel better. If you decide to talk to the one girl that has started all of this, simply ask her why she is doing it, and why she is trying to make your life hard, if she tries to ignore her, then try to talk to your old friends. Ask them why they dislike you and what is going on. Its very hard to do, but you have to learn to take chances to get something back that you love or want. Moving back to the city is not going to solve much, it might give you your old friends back, but running away from you problems never solves anything. If your old friends decide to not talk to you, try making new friends.
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hey sweetie its fine! i was in the exact.. and i mean exact pisition you are in!! i came back form new-york and veeryone turned on me. for no reason! they just decided to be bitches and drop me. yea it hurt like hell at first and i wanted to apologize..even though i did NOTHING WRONG. my mom stopped me and made me realize its them not me. here arte some things that helped me.
1. religeon. god helped me through everything. do you have a religeon? if not maybe you should try one like catholic or christain. if not..just remeber suicide is NEVER the answer. which brings us to #2.
2. why kill yourself? why hurt your loved ones and family...and for what? suicde is the most selfish thing anyone can do. i think..why kill yourself? i want to see what happens in the end..the real end. plus it would be painfull and its never pleasent. its horrifying.
3. music. the one song that helped me get by was "yesterday" by The Beatles. just listen to it. it is exactly your emotions and thoguhts. it helped! try it and try more music.
4. focus on everyting good in your life. be satisfied with yourself. be like "hey i rock and i know it" screw everyone who is sour. yea!!
aww sweets it will get better i promise.
love yoou
xoxo Chirstine
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