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hi
i am 16/f/uk
i used to cut last yr then i stopped cos things got a bit better in my life
but since about feb this yr i ave bn really depressed i cry my self to sleep every nite i ave started to cut again over the most stupid things. i cant find another way to let it all out. its like an addiction, when i get angry or upset i have an urge to cut.
my parents ave split up n i wanna be with my best boy mate hu is leavin to live in aussie and i wanna tell him how i feel i also hate the way i look i am over weight i have spots and i am just so low at the moment i dont want to see any doctors i just want some one to listen and not judge me
can some one tell me why im feeling and doing these things?
sorry its so long
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writing helps A LOT. really it does. And someone mentioned something about rubber bands, those help too. Sometimes "wrist banging" (hitting your wrist on a wall or something) helps me too when I have the urge (I don't suggest you do this for a long time though, it's still a form of self injury).
I hope things turn out all right. good luck. :)
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Its completely normal to cut, one of my siblings use to do it, all you have to do is use rubber bands, put a few on your wrist and when u wanna cut just pull the rubber band, and let go IT helps alot, and get rid of the things you cut yourself with, for you wont have a temptaion to cut.
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you should talk to a friend or counselor, and you could get help. also, when you feel the urge to cut, snap a rubber band on your wrist HARD.
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you are probly feeling rather lonely rite now. probly you believe cutting is the only pain you can control? you see, you may believe that you are controlling the pain but he pain is controlling you. next time you feel like cutting, think of the positive and negative side of what you are doing.
positive side- you can controll how you feel about something, you get to forget about what is happining in your life for a few min.
negative- you could get an infection, you could be labled the rest of your life, you could end up hurting yourself in a far worse way then just bleeding, maby even something that could kill you, you could get caought then put in a phyke ward, you could make your life even worse.
after you go over these, ask your self, is it really worth it?
oh and about the doctor thing, they wont judge you. they will listen and provide you with ways to make your life better. maby a school counseler is a good place to start. hope i helped and good luck!
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Ok sweetie, you might not believe it but you are astrong person, the strength is somewhere inside you because you stopped cutting yourself before. you just need to find the courage to do that again.
If you go to college, they should have councellors or therapists there, and they are free, i know you might not want to go and see them but i highly reccomend that you do because they will help you. i had counceeling at college and they boosted my confidence and made me feel so much better about myself. just try it sweetie.
Also, you really need to stop hurting yourself, you'll be left with ugly scars...pysical and mantal scars. if its the blood that makes you feel better then use red paint on your wrist or even fake blood. i used this cream that had strawberry extracts in that looked like cuts when you put it on, it really helped me and psycholgists reccomend you do the red paint thing too.
I hope you start to get help and feel better soon x
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well, im not sure what to say right now
but i_M me im one of those people who dont judge and ill listen im always here to talk
xx brittymarie <-- my s/n
im if you need me!
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I can't tell you why you cut yourself, because everybody cuts for a different reason. However, I can help you stop, by replacing the cutting with other things.
Instead of cutting you can....
*read
*draw a picture
*Write about your feelings;keeping a journal can be rather helpfu
*Squeeze ice in your hand
*Call a friend
Etc, etc, etc
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I have to say that my heart goes out to you because I cannot imagine how bad it must be for you to resort to cutting your own skin! I personally think you are putting too much emphasis on the wrong things. Who cares if you are a bit overweight - lots of people are - and it truly matters what's inside (as lame as that sounds it's true). And spots? Not sure what that means - but nothing is worth mutilating your body. Have you talked to your parents? Is there someone you can talk to that will listen without judgement? I know your parents must love you, right? I can tell you that the reason you feel the way you do is because you are looking at all the things that are wrong with you - instead of what's right. What are you good at? What is an asset to your personality? Are you funny? Can you do a cool trick? Are you loyal, sensitive, honest...you know, sit down every day and write a list of 10 things that went right that day - I don't care if it's as simple as having the toilet paper by the toilet - anything you can find! Make yourself think of them and then see how you feel. Start trying to find the silver lining - see the cup as half full - not half empty. Look for what's working and focus on it.
Just try it and email me and tell me if it worked k?
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Hello
It's sounds like you are definitely depressed. Age 16 is a very hard time.Things seem so desperate sometimes.I suffer from depression and I can only tell you my experience.
I use to be so moody,angry and sad all the time.I didn't know what was wrong with me but I knew I couldn't carry on like that. When I went to my doctor ,she just told me "you got to get out more". Very frustrating! I was so desperate (and I don't want to sound like I'm a church goer,because I'm not)But I prayed to the good ol' Lord above and told him I can't go on this way and to please help me! Well,you know a few months later I tried to see my Doctor again(the same one) Figuring she'd just say the same ol' thing and to my surprise she was more interested in what I had to say and gave me a perscription for Prozac. This medication gave me my life back!Seriously! I went back to my happy self. The bad thoughts I use to get while washing dishes ,dissapeared.I was more relaxed and could think much straighter. I am still on Prozac 'til this day.I wouldn't go without it.(don't want to go back to being the Wicked Witch of the West :))
Maybe it's not for everyone,but I would surely give it a try.Talk to your doctor,it's worth it!
Thanks for listening and I won't judge you.
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