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hey. yeah. i keep it real, and i'll try to help out annyway with annythin i can. im Em, and im a pretty smart chick. im a preddy good person, you know the type you would let babysit ur kids. dont take me for granted. i k how to rock it and keep it kool. w/o all the drugs and tequila. go ahead, ask me. ill anser. cuz u k im good lik that ;)

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Hey, I'm going to a show for one of my favorite bands and I'm hoping that I'll get to meet the lead singer (many people have met him and have claimed it's very easy to meet him).

I recall reading about a girl who goes to every John Mayer concert, and each time she meets him, she takes a photo of them while holding a picture of the two of them taken from an earlier show. She does this everytime she meets him, holding up a picture from a previous show.

I wanna do something as creative as that, but at the same time I don't want to steal her idea.

If you have any suggestions, it would be appreciated :]

Thanks.

well, everytime you see them, give them something a little wierd. like if you gave them glittery lime-green fingernail polish every time you saw them, they might remember you and be like, "hey yeah i remember you" they might think youre a little koo-koo, but it would work. this is sortof illegal, but like i read about this chicka broke a beer bodle into a celeb's hand so that he wouldnt forget about her. he didnt.
well, hope i helped, good lucck
much luv, emi ;)

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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.

i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.

i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/


15/f


how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend?

a nice way to break up with him would be to say that you care about him so much and that youll always be there for him but you cant be with him annymore because time has changed things to the point where you like him only as a friend. if you want to take a less honest approch, you could tell him that you dont want a relationship right now or that you are dealing with a lot of pressure lately and you dont feel like you can deal with having a boyfriend. if you do the deed nicly, your friend shouldnt be upset or feel like she has to choose.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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ok down there it's really itchy and it smells different and it's so itchy that i guess i rubbed it raw and i havve a small cut now. i'm 15/female and i'm good and haven't done anything yet. so what's the deal?

see a doctor, because thats really the only thing you can do. you probly have a yeast infection or maby a different kind of infection. dont be imbarrised or annything it happenes to a lot of people. your doctor can gice you medicen stuf that maked the itching go away. its a good idea to talk to your mom about it asap
hope i helped
luv emi

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ok well by looking at this picture can you tell me do i have kankles????(sp?)
http://s158.photobucket.com/albums/t93/mmm_cookies123/th_100_4689.jpg

i dont think you do... it isnt really something people notice annyway, so i wouldnt worry about it if i were you. your ancles look fine to me, but im not egsactly a 'kankle' expert
hope i helped
luv emi

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why are knees so dry and gray all the time? i use moisturizer alot, but my knees are still gross all the time. whats up with that?

well, they might just be dirty
or maby its just a lot of dead skin that has built up
either way, try using an exfloiator
it hopfully will get rid of some of the dead skin cells and anny possible grime
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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Is it sad that I am 16 and never had a boyfriend? I feel stupid walking through the halls seeing all the couples and knowing that I have yet to experience that. Please let me know if I'm pathetic.

nah ofcoarse not!
what makes you think that your pathetic?
it might be a good idea to start looking around for guys in your playing field so that you can have that kind of a relationship, but just because you dont have a boyfriend doesnt stamp annything on your forehead that sais 'loser'.
start talking to some of your friends to see if they cant hook you up. nobody ever got annywhere by sitting still. no, you arent a loser, but being in a realationship IS really fun and sad to miss out on.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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13/F

O.K. so I really like this one guy. Hes really sweet & cute. The only thing is he is like so quiet! I mean, he will talk to people and all, but hes not the type to talk out in class or anything, && I am. Im really loud & outgoing & stuff. I mean, he will talk to other kids if they talk to him first, and he will always talk to me and he flirts with me, but I cant tell if he likes me.

Well the real question is do quiet guys make good boyfriends? I mean he has never had a gf before (or atleast this year) and I dont know if he would know how to treat one. Like if he would hold my hand or anything.

just becuse a guy is quiet, doesnt mean that he wont know what to do. sometimes quiet guys are more faithful/sensitive/not completely cluless than loud ones. it could be kindof hard for him to talk to you at first when you are around other people, so its a good idea to start talking to him a lot on msn or aim or myspace, just because its easier to talk to people in person if the ice has already been broken(i would know, im a shy female) it is also really easy for me to talk to people on the phone before i talk to them more in person, but thats because i dont like walking up and talking to people i dont really know. ive gone out with both shy guys and loud ones, and there really isnt too big of a difference.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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well alot of my friends come to me for advice and help with their problems. i usually dont mind helping other people out because im good at it, but it seems like no one ever asksme or cares about wahts going on with me. like today i was in such a bad (sad) mood and all these people kept asking me for advice and it was just hard to deal. and so i would not talk as much as usual, then they'd ask if i were mad at them, i'd say no i'm just in a bad mood, and they'd continue to talk about themselves and not even ask why or care. and then there's this guy and i used to kinda like him but now i dont and all he ever does is ask me for advice with this one girl and it still kinda hurts. i just dont know what to do,

well, they come up to you and talk about their problums, dont they? maby you could get a better reaction if you just told them (one at a time) that you are going through something instead of waiting for them to ask. they most likly just arent used to you having problums, so maby they dont know what to look for to see if theres annything rong. just remember it is ALWAYS better to be upfront with someone instead of trying to get them to guess.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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something wierd has been going on for the last 3 days...
i cant stoop shakeing!! im like shivering! but im NOT cold or anyhting, acually i turn off my air conderner, fan, and get under alot of covers, and i will be sweating hot, and i still start like shakeing!!

its like my whole body it starts and is mostly my legs but then like my body starts

im really worried
im not sick
no fevers
feeling fine
not cold
shakeing uncontrobly
--ashley (grayrainbow)

well there could be a lot of different reasons.
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1. you could be dehydrated
2. you could not be getting enough sleep
3. too much stress
4. you somehow are getting too much caffene
5. you arent getting the right vitamins
6. also, some people shake uncontrolobly if they are adicted to something and suddny stop using it
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or maby it could be a combonation of one or more.
it probly isnt as serious as it sounds, but its best to get it checked out by a doctor annyway. if that is too big of a hassle, it could also be a good idea to talk to your school nurse and see what he/she thinks.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)

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i have my sophmore dance on the 23rd and i still have to get my dress. i am 15 and i am pretty much light skin tone with brown hair and blue eyes. i weighh about 125 pds. and was wondering what color dress would go good for me? any suggestions

white and creamy-ish colors make people look more tan, and it makes there skin tone look sortof warm. reds, blacks, and dark blues make you stand out more, but they make you look really pale, so if you go with that remember to add some color to your face. it would be a good idea for it to be about knee length, unless you have nice legs, then if you wanted to you could go a little higher. strapless dresses get a little annoying, so i personally like little spegetti straps. if you are going with a guy, he might get a little annoyed if your dress is really glittery, but i dont normally think about it when im getting a dress. try to make sure that it isnt sheer or see-through annywhere or it might come off as a little slutty. and as for shoes, try to make the colors match as good as you can.
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hope i helpedxoxo

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How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone?

my boyfriend always got jelous of me, and everyonce in a while i would get mad or jelous at him and try to make him even more jelous by saying something stupid. jelousy sortof wrecks relationships if it gets really extream. people often mistake the jelosy for not being able to trust them, and that actually does have at least a little to do with it, but when someone thinks they cant be trusted they sortof end up feeling a little crappy. sometimes you have to accept that your boyfriend has other female friends and that he likes other people, but it really helps when you tell your guy to not talk about other girls or talk to them a lot when you are around. thats what worked for us, annyway.
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hope i helpedxoxo

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im 14 i lost my fist born over the summer and im pregnant again it broke my heart when my daughter died i refuse to get an abortion what can i do

well i am sorry that your baby died, but you are way to young to be having babies. give the baby up, or have an abortion. and no offence, but you need to get your life together. mayb you should get a counclar or something. most people havent have had sex yet by your age. and if they have, they only have once. you need to learn what a condom is. you are probly a good person, but it is selfish to bring people into the world just because you want to be loved by a child or because you want to have fun with guys. i am sorry if you find this offencive.

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so me and my boyfriend have had sex twice. the first time we did it i don't think he broke/tore the hymen even though it hurt really bad, basically i kept pushing him off me on reflex. anyway, the second time was yesterday and it also hurt really bad but i still don't know if he tore the hymen, it still hurt and i understand it will hurt the first few times but how do i make sure he fully "popped my cherry"?(i got tired of using the words broke/tore)

well, if you bled at all than it probly meens he did. even if he didnt, you are not virgen annyway, sence you have had sex now. if it hurts really bad, tell him. complain a little. tell him to be nice.
hope i helped
luv emi

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k so i have oily skin and i get the random zit, it usually hurts and it lasts about 5 days. what kinda ointment do u suggest i use? something cheaper that u can buy from like zellers or shoppers, k thx.

well, it is a good idea to wash your face.
some people also pop there zits then put salt water on it.
it normally works for me, and it doesnt sting at all.
hope i helped
luv emi

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I love hollister. Torn mini skirts with uggs and leg warmers and a cute sweater is my fave outfit. But a lot of people I dont pull off the "prep" look? Is that even possible? Ugh, and why do people even CARE what I wear..is it really their business to tell me what I should and should not wear.

well- what kind of advice are you looking for?
mayb the next time someone calls you a poser- just tell them they're stupid.
if you think your music selection should have annything to do with what you wear- mayb there is some truth to that?

if you honestly WANT to look prep, or if you like how preps dress, mayb you should hang out with them instead

hope i helped
luv emi

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Okay, I'm not having a miscarriage or anything. So chillax. Haha but I do want to know what exactly are miscarriages? What are the cause of them and how do you know if you have one and what happens after or during a miscarriage? What happens to the baby..fetus, whatever? Does it hurt or something?

well- if you have a misscarage, you normally bleed a lot out of you pussy and people try to get to the hospital a.s.a.p. to save it. i dont know what happens to the fetus, but the docotrs probly get the dead baby out of you so you dont get some kind of infection.
im not sure.
hope i helped?
luv, emi

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Does water really help your skin? I have really bad skin so I started to dirnk 8 glasses of water a day but as soon as I'm done I have to go to the washroom right away and all the water just comes right out! =S

well- mayb you should try other solutions to bad skin- like washing your face and stuf instead of just drinking water, because like you said, you just end up peeing it back out annyway.
someone once said-
"life feels pretty worthless when you drink water and pee at the same time."
hope i helped
luv emi

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ive been talking to this one guy for about a month now and he asked me out the other day.. the only problem is is that hes shy! i dont know what to say or do to make this work because i really like the boy but it just gets so annoying! any ideas?

well if he really is as shy as you say he is, you are probly going to get bored. if it is really going to bug you that much, it is probly a good idea to avoid a bad situation
hope i helped
luv, emi

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Oh my godd. My boyfriends mom saw his hickie that I gave him!! When he gave me my 1st one my mom found out and wasnt so mad, but his mom was upset when she saw it!! I have no idea wat to do. Now wat if his mom hates me. I already thought she did even though i was very polite and try and act normal around her and she caught us making out today too!! Oh my godd!! What should I do im gonna be so humiliated next time I see her!!! What woudl you do if you were in my place?

well it night be a good idea to not make out with him by his mom. it also might be a good idea to not give him hickys if he thinks his mom will freak. either you 2 are too young to extange hikies or his mom is living in a stone age. ask him to have a talk with her explaining that you two are having fun and not doing annything dangerous. just try to act natural around his mom like it never happened.
hope i helped
luv, emi

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My mum says I have big breast...! I think I have pretty normal sized ones but she says mine is too big for my age and that it will keep growing until im 18 (im 14) and when i have kids..it will get bigger and hang. I have 36B...sometimes (different brands) a 36c fits too. Is this huge for my age? ALSO I'm kinda fat...so I suppose there is fat that's making my booobs huge!
PLUs my mum didn't relly hve huge ones and she was thin...and I'm half asian...and asians don't relly hve 'boobs'! Is it too big? What can I do to stop it from growing?

well, you could use packing tape or something when you sleep- also maby a really tight bra migh keep them from growing? i don really know-
tape might be kind of painfull to take off.
maby putting it on sticky side out?
i dont know- hope i helped
luv, emi

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