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stuck in a relationship
i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.
i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.
i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/
15/f
how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend?
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a nice way to break up with him would be to say that you care about him so much and that youll always be there for him but you cant be with him annymore because time has changed things to the point where you like him only as a friend. if you want to take a less honest approch, you could tell him that you dont want a relationship right now or that you are dealing with a lot of pressure lately and you dont feel like you can deal with having a boyfriend. if you do the deed nicly, your friend shouldnt be upset or feel like she has to choose.
hope i helped
luv emi ;)
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Tell him that you only see him as a friend, and that you'd like to remain that way. If you didn't like him, you shouldn't have said yes when he asked you to be his girlfriend. But I'm sure he'll understand.
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just tell him honestly why you need to break up with him. yes he will be upset but in the end he will thank you for it. it will free you both from what is currently a lie, and you can move on. it would cause him more pain if in the end he found out you had led him on.
when my last boyfriend broke up with me he wasn't straight with me. i knew there was something wrong, you can sense it, but he never told me. in the end i asked him, and it hurt so much (and still does) that he didn't care enough to tell me.
the truth may hurt, but to save the most grief to both of you, end it as soon as possible, face to face. but remember, be kind, this will be one of the memories of you that remain with him, don't say anything that will keep hurting him.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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ok heres the thing I understand that you are worried about breaking up with him but in reference to your title "stuck in a relationship " is exactly what you are and you have to "unstick" youself so to speak. What you need to do is sit him down and explain your true feelings otherwise you will end up regreting it because the guilt you feel now is nothing compared to the guilt you will feel a few weeks or even months down the line when he starts to notice that you are acting a little wierd when he touches you etc. Dont think of how your friends gonna react just concentrate on your boyfriend for now and you can worry about your friend later otherwise you will just keep putting it off.
Hope I helped good luck either way.
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The best way to break up with him is to tell him your honest reasons why you want to break up with him. To stay with him as it is now is you living a lie and leading him by the nose. You have to be fair to him, and you have to be fair to yourself. The only way is to part ways.
If your best friend is REALLY a best friend, your friendship won't be in jeopardy over this. Your feelings and your honesty will be respected.
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