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im the freak in no clique
13/f im starting to really hate life.im not going to a physicatrist.im more baggy clothes all my ~girl~ friends are more girly but in all mixed groups and my ~guy~ friend is more of a unique person he goesin all stlyes too.every1 is in a group or clique. all but me.it drives me crazy.yes i cuss alot yes i love black and i LOVE jewelry. i have my own style.i can go in any group but its uncomfortable but id rather be with my bff thats a guy but he goes to 2 schools so hes only here half the time and when he is here hes usually w/ me but mainly doin tests and work he missed. im alone in a school death trap. i am myself i dont change for anyone and i have my own style.but im not happy at all i dont have friends tht would always go w/ me most ignore me when their w/ their group but they still call me their 'friend'.my only true friend is my bff thats a guy.ppl think of me as a freak.yea so i never cared but now i do.~~~can u answer this question first then the next~~~now we like eachother as bf gf but people who date end up hating eachother.hes all i have.if we would break up sayin still friends is like sayin your dog died but you can still keep it.people also say o the two freaks dating. i never cared befor but now i do. ~help mee o please~ what do i do ~can u answer them sepratly please
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okie....[1]About the cliques....I am just like you....Last year i used to bump from clique to clique because i had too many friends and then i got tired from goin to table to table cause i never thought any one was mi true friend. Alot of mi close friends have moved. The best thing i think to do to solve your clique problems is to find one clique and sit with them. My bro likes black alot and he is called a freak but once you get to know him he is a pretty cool dude. Find people who like you and your attitude no matter how you dress. Then if u sit with them more and more then they will start to accept you and invite you over and stuff.
[2] This is a familiar problem. It is difficult dating your bff and then if you guys break up its hard stayin friends. But i think if you dont give it a try then you dont know what your missing out on. I know it may not mean anything but if you guys break up then you should hang out like tht same week and act normal. Talk about it if it helps and if not just act like you were if you were only friends. Trust me the more and more you hang out the more and more you start being yourselves again.
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Okay- welcome to my life. In 8th grade I got vote most unique as my superlative. I am just like you. Just be yourself. Just open up to others. Dont change to fit in. Maybe have a sleepover with a few people... they will start to see a good side of you. Girls alot of times have more friends that are guys rather than girls. Its normal.
And your boyfriend- whatever is meant to be will happen. Just do whatever you did before with him. He is a very lucky guy. Dont pay attention to what other people say. People make fun of
people because it makes them feel better about themselves. The people who are making fun of you probably have a hard time dating. Everything will fall into place. Dont worry!
edit- sorry. I got confused. Not everyone who dates ends up hating eachother. I would not date him, just keep things normal between you. sorry about the confusion
and i was just warning you, because the moderators will delete it or ask you to retype it. no offense.
good luck &+ hope I helped
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The cliques... You should not worry about this, you are unique like you said. If you want to be in a clique do something like a sport. Art club, drama club, a rock band. Something that involves others that you would like to do.
I know that feeling of thinking about going out with your best friend, and if he is your BFF, then you shouldn't because you might mess up your FRIEND relationship.
ALSO, you should talk to your guy friend, tell him that you want to spend more time with him. OR, you could suggest to go to the movies one day, the park, the MALL!
Anyway, good luck, and remember, you are your own person, you don't need others to complete your life BUT... they do make up a piece of the piem just don't rely entirely on them.
-AJ
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Okay first off I will tell you what I was told when I was your age and had the same problem as you, that you're only 13.
You're right, you don't need a physciatrist because you're just going through what a lot of teenagers go through. You don't HATE life, hate is a very strong word, you're just feeling insecure and uncomfortable in your own skin because all these hormones are rushing through your body and making you think and feel all sorts of things. I'm not going to sit here and pretend that I'm any different, I'm only 15, I still feel like I don't fit in half the time and it's totally normal.
My group of friends is a complete mismatch of people, sure we have a few things in common music/clothes-wise but we differ in a lot of ways. So what if you like to wear black and jewellery? I like to wear whatever's fashionable and I own a lot of clothes but my best friend sticks to the same style and doesn't care so much about appearance, it doesn't mean we can't be friends. You say you can go into any group but don't feel comfortable but you have to accept that your best friend can't be there all the time, so really try to get on with these people, show them you're not a 'freak' - you might surprise yourself.
You won't feel like this forever, it's all just a normal part of growing up and entering adulthood.
As for dating your best friend, ignore other people's opinions. You have to do what you want and what is right for both of you, I suggest you talk to him about it. I've managed to date friends and we've broken up and stayed friends, but it depends on the situation and the people involved, I can't tell you it'll work out because I don't know either of you. You have to talk about it between yourselves.
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