Hey everyone, I have been giving advice on this site since I was 16 and have always been honest with the askee. I just feel that there is no point in lying as I would hate to be lied too and thats why I always tell it like it is. I also feel that when people lie - it causes more hurt than good. Anyone after honest advice - feel free to send me a question!!
Also if you EVER need additional advice just send me an email and I will get back to you :)
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hi! my grandma had bone problems and i don't know how to spell what she had but you probably know what i mean right? in school they were talking about the same thing in health class and she said that if we ate calcium rich foods we would not get that disiease. great but how much milk and cheese can you eat?! are there any other foods that have calcium but maybe don't make you so fat? (link)
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http://www.rd.com/slideshows/11-calcium-rich-foods-that-are-natural-fat-burners/
above are calcium enriched foods which are natural fat burners hope this helps :)!!
Also I believe you were asking ways which you yourself can avoid the calcium deficiency not your Gran as you seem to understand that your gran has these bone problems already - osteoporosis?? my gran has this too. If you need any further advice you can find me via my email address on my page or through this.
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I dont know what to say ,i want to know whats the purpose of my life,like what am i made to do.ive been cheated on ,ive been bullied .i doubt any one would answer so just hear me out,i dont know what to do,how do i find my purpose ,and i also need to make new friends!! (link)
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How to find your purpose, admittedly this is a toughie, From personal experience this is something you learn as you go. Usually found out by looking at what makes you tick, what are your interests and what would you like to change about the world that you are in today? what do you want to be part of? For me I have just recently found what I believe to be my purpose and I am 24, but when I look back I realise this was always what I wanted I just didnt realise. Sometimes a purpose can be realised through personal experiences. From what you have said you have had a tough time of it so perhaps your purpose is staring in the face of the hardships you have went through.
Ask yourself - where do I want to be in 10 years? what do I want to do? - dont hold back on the answer - no matter how insane it may seem or far-fetched I highly doubt half the world leaders or celebs knew instantly they would get their dream.
Where making new friends is concerned - I made mines through college and university, pen friends is another good idea, joining an activity group aswell - its good for meeting new people and also for gaining confidence (incase you need some :) ).
I hope I have helped - Good luck, let me know how you get on and if you need help you can message me.
Yours
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL! (link)
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It depends where you are from, websites that send these out are:
UK:
Babyfreebie.co.uk
http://babysamples.co.uk/
http://www.emmasdiary.co.uk/baby-offers/free-baby-samples.aspx
http://www.all4freeuk.co.uk/mother-baby.html
USA:
http://www.freebielist.com/free-samples/
http://www.freesamples.info/samples-by-mail/baby-samples/
http://www.ofree.net/usa-free-stuff.html
http://www.huggies.com/en-US/rewards
Hope I helped, when in doubt I always google :D !!
Good luck with everything!!
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I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft? (link)
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Magic is not recognised by the church as being real so I suppose in this respect it is \"unholy\". However for those that believe in magic such as witchcraft and magic spells yes it is viewed that white magic using such spells / witchcraft for good and black magic is using them for bad. If your intentions are good then you wont be sent to hell!! I have just researched Jay\'s journal and in his case he it seems to me he after taking part in what they believed to be occult rituals i.e. devils magic I am guessing he became paranoid and believed he was plagued by a demonic figure. This book it is believed is a work of some fiction at a time where the exorcist was famous:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jay%27s_Journal
If you worship the devil I suppose this would be seen as unholy but if you worship God then this would be seen as holy to an extent and yes spells are witchcraft.
However for the most part Magic as in witchcraft has yet to be proven true, not to say it isnt just making it clear that it has yet to be proven.
I hope I helped answer your question and if you have anymore I am here!!
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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http://www.bhf.org.uk/heart-health/conditions/coronary-heart-disease.aspx
I will firstly say that your heart doing wierd stuff can be caused by many things and so the best thing to always do is see a doctor as only they can 100% determine whats wrong with tests etc. Its basically in simplest of terms where your heart is over time getting starved of oxygen leading to the arteries within your heart getting clogged up but again a doctor is always best as the internet can make things seem worse than they actually are.
Hope everythings okay and you get what you need!!
Good luck, hope I helped!!
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I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in? (link)
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https://fafsa.ed.gov/deadlines.htm
This should take you to the link which after saying your state and school year should on pressing enter take you to the right date
Good Luck!!
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I've been using Triphasil now for month I thought my period is gona come back to normal but not yet what should I try or must I contineu using it? I want to try for a baby wil it help me to fel pregnent (link)
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I have never used this however on looking it up Triphasil is a contraceptive i.e. its to be used when you dont want to get pregnant. Therefore if you are wanting to have a baby and I assume that you are of legal age then you should stop taking it otherwise you wont have a chance to fall pregnant unless you do. I will also say my current experience is it can take time after using the pill to fall pregnant as I have been off it for some time and have yet to fall pregnant and this can be caused due to the pill doing its job and stopping ovulation for some time after. But then again this isnt the case for everyone some people can come off the pill and fall pregnant a month or so later. I will also add that the pill is used to regulate periods usually every three weeks once your body is used to it, but again it does stop your chances of getting pregnant by around 99% when taking it.
I hope this helped, Feel free to ask anything else!!
Good luck with the trying for a baby!!
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Like title says, any household items that can enhance my experience? hand is getting old (link)
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KY Jelly or any lubricant? you can buy at any supermarket/ chemist xx
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I've been throwing around the idea of watching Veronica Mars for about a month now. I know it got cancelled, but was in cancelled abruptly? Like did it leave off with some big cliffhangers or anything like that? I can deal with 1 or 2 small things being left out but nothing big, you know? I just don't wanna start watching it if it ended with huge info gaps. (link)
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There was a couple small things if I remember correctly but nothing Major!!
Enjoy!!
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Am 19years old, am a female and am still a virgin but my boyfriend tried to have sex with me last week thursday bt he tried puttin his manhood on my virgina but it could not so i left for my home, days later i started havin some symptoms like trowin off, spiting and always weak so i dnt knw what to do because dis my first time (link)
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The only way you can be pregnant is if his penis inserted inside you and he came/ his sperm entered also, or if he had some pre-cum that went inside you. However if you are still terming yourself as a virgin I would say that it is very doubtful that you are pregnant. You could take a test just to ease your fears or go to doctors and get them to test you. The symtoms you describe could be down to worry or you may have a simple viral infection.
Hope I helped and that you feel better!!
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This is going to be quite long... My very good friend introduced me toher boyfriend's friend via blackberry,she's been trying to hook me up with a lot of guys but I'm so scared of getting hurt bcos of my ex boyfriend.. I hadn't seen this guy, except thru d pictures we send to eachother we chat often and he tells me that he enjoys the conversations and he really likes me.. Well somedays ago, he told me he was coming to my school, in my school there are 2 campuses the law campus and the main campus which is for other courses, and these campuses are far away from eachother, I receive lectures on the law campus but I reside on the main campus. he told me he was coming to my school 5minutes to a lecture I had by 4pm, I told him that my lecture would start at 4pm and end by 6pm, so it would be late to see me but unfortunately the lecturer said we wont have a class but just a test, while I was having this test he was calling me and texting, I couldn't answer the calls or the text bcos of the test... When I was done with my test, I replied his text that I would see him on the other campus which his familiar with and I ran to another friends room in a hurry to freshen up bcos I was looking messy, while I was doing that he was calling me and I didn't know because my phone was beneath my bag... So I just ran out of the hostel in a hurry to make it to the main campus and behold he was approaching the hostel of the law campus, I was suprised I greeted his friend which I was familiar with (my friends boyfriend) and I entered the car, the next thing this guy started insulting me he didn't even allow me explain why I wasn't picking up his calls he lashed at me and finally told me to get out of his car, and he drove off... I felt so useless, I felt like the floor could swallow me , and finally he deleted me off his blackberry contact going back to the other campus which I reside in I was in tears... I don't know what to do and I was already starting to like him until this happened.. (link)
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To be honest honey I dont know if this is the advice you want, but I will say what I am getting from this scenario. This guy seems like a major idiot, if he cannot understand that whilst you are in a lecture you may not be able to text back and if he wont even give you the time to explain then what you should ask yourself is what if.... If you guys did go out and you had to cram for an exam or do an all nighter last minute for an essay would he again lash out due to selfishness. You need a guy that will give you time to explain yourself if your late, a guy that understands the pressures that you are going through with your studies and a guy that wont fly off the handle and block you due to nothing. You can do so much better than this BOY and you should not feel embarrassed.
I hope I helped and that you find someone that appreciates a gd thing when he has it!!
Sorry if you felt I was harsh!!
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This coming week is my last week on earth. I have decided that next week by this same time, I would be dead. I'm not asking for an answer or any kind of empathy for my person. Life sucks and it not going to suck any less next year or tomorrow.
Something hard changes your life, you tried to make your life go back to the way it was, but you do not succeed. Then you've lived so LNG in the situation that ou got used to it, then surprise, something even worse happens. Again you tried to get used to it and again and again and again you get hit every time you get up. (if that makes any sense to anyone, then you surely understand me).
I have tried to make it more like I would like it, I have tried very hard but I'm still miserable everyday even more. I guess this is my final note because I assume no one will read this until it's done and I'm gone.
My life is like a sand at the beach, no matter how different it is, it's still a piece of sand and one less would definitely not even be remembered for a long time and it won't even do any thing to anyone. Us humans don't care about something unless it actually affect us personally or someone in our entourage.
If this is true, then The sun will continue to shine and everything else will be the same for all of you who don't know me.
Whoever read this, please tell my parents that I'm so so so sorry and they were good to me.
To the rest of the family I love you. I love you all but I can't take it anymore I'm sorry I just can't. Please forgive me and try to make your lives matter and I hope that you guys live for a long time.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO (link)
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Sometimes life sucks majorly and sometimes this can last a very long time. Fair enough you say that it keeps getting worse and that your gonna take your life but all i'm asking is that before you do what you cant take back is think about what your leaving behind. Think about your parents - I highly doubt theyd b happy without you, your friends, siblings. You havent stated whats up exactly and I am taking it theres no one to help you get through this or you feel you would be burdoning them if you do - tbh all youd be doing if you take your own life is leaving a dark hole where someone used to be. I disagree with your summation that all US humans DONT care unless it affects us and I get the feeling you know thats true, cause if people didnt why would we try and help someone annonymously that was hurting such as yourself. I do hope you reconsider I was in a bad state a few years ago and spoke 2 my mum about it and she helped after blaming herself as did my grandparents. Think about it, put it off and TRY to get past this feeling please, trust me killing yourself is NOT the answer!! PM me if you need to talk, its annonymous so it should be easier!!
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Female / 17
My boyfriend and I tried to have sex a few days ago. ( I'm a virgin, he is not.) He couldn't get it fully in because I couldn't stand the pain. What could help me to stand the pain?
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You could maybe try lube, it would help moisten the vagina and make it easier for the penis to slide in although tbh it will still be painful!! I hope you get there!!
Good Luck!!
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I never thought I would be saying this... but I just started dating this guy 3 weeks ago and I cant stop thinking about him. I've known him for 2 years now, so I pretty much know him. This is my first real relationship and its scary. It's so weird that I miss him all the time and want to spend all day with him. We just have this connection - we get along so well. So, is it love? Is it too soon? 20-female. (link)
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I would say that this is the falling part of love, btw its never 2 soon my friend told her current bf after a week and he the same. My fiance told me on the 3rd date and my dad told his current wife and she agreed after a couple weeks. My point is no-one can tell you when your in love you just know and I think your definetly on your way 2 there now wether you tell him thats up 2 you. In my case it took a bit longer but I wouldnt change it for the world. I know its scary trust me - I am still pertrified 8months on but its worth it in the end!! Enjoy this feeling and when you finally fall deeply in love you'll know and wanna tell him straight away, like I did about a month into my relationship at around 2 in the morning when we were trying to sleep!!
Good Luck and I hope all goes well with you both!! If you could private message me and let me know how it goes!!
All the best, hope I helped!!
Yours,
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My stomach has hurt all day and I got home from school and went to the bathroom when I wiped there was blood on the toilet paper am I starting my period? (link)
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This seems like the likely answer to be honest, before I started mines officially I had some blood showing just spots about a week before so this will either mean that you will soon start or it will be the start of your period. I would speak to your mum or female guardian and they will help you with obtaining sanitary towels/ tampons and talk you through using them and also give you pain-killers for your stomach.
Hope the pain subsides!!
Good luck, hope I helped!!
Yours,
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I don't know if im pregnant.But it looks like I am.when I breath in there is like an outline of a circle on my stomach.and it is hard.am I ? (link)
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Trust me I have had like twenty million pregnancy scares this year but every time I have taken a test and sometimes 2 to be sure that I am not. Now this would be the first thing I would recommend, take a test occasionally you can get a two pack for cheap enough and if you feel you need to use both to be sure then at least the options there. If they come back negative then its safe to say your not however if they come back positive then the first thing I would do is make an appointment with your doctor and they can let you know your options and where to go from there. Gd luck for whatever you wish the outcome to be!!
Hope I helped!!
Yours!!
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Hi, 24/f here. My guy's the same age.
Bear with me here, this is a really weird question to ask since it's not really negative, but I'm starting to think I've officially lost my mind.
I've been with other guys for longer and never actually started working out wedding details in my head. I was even LIVING with a guy and didn't do this. I'm also a very independent, strong woman, so this is very... girly for me:
With this guy, we haven't even had our official anniversary, and we've already discussed and planned little things, like our reception favors, the theme, the colors, our "first dance" song, I've started learning the piano accompaniment to a song I want to sing to him at the ceremony, and he's apparently already picked his groomsmen. He's told me once he gets his career going and comes back from training in about a year, he wants to get me a ring and get engaged, so he's even got a timeline in mind.
As a psychologist and a survivor of domestic violence, I'd think that if he's already thinking these things he must have an ulterior motive of control, or that everything is very premature in general - who starts planning this shit after less than a year together? (Granted, we knew one another in high school and have remained in contact since then, but we didn't start dating until last year) - but I haven't seen any red flags, and believe me, I've been looking.
I know it's normal for girls to look at wedding dresses and daydream about all that stuff and whatnot, but the daydreams and emotions I have connected with all that and him are SO vivid. I've even had vivid, almost lucid dreams about our future. I've seen him in it, and I've seen our little girl in it, and when I woke up, for a minute I could feel the weight of her head on my shoulder.
Have I lost my mind, has my biological clock started ticking, or is this how everyone feels when they find their soul mate?
He's my best friend, we know everything about one another, our friends like us (together and individually), his parents have effectively adopted me as their daughter, and mine have finally started treating him as their son...
I don't know... I just feel like everything is too perfect. We've had little fights. We live about an hour apart right now. I've yelled at him, he's hurt my feelings, I've hurt his, etc., and we've talked it all out as it comes up. Am I feeling this because I'm used to being abused? I just worry that I'm missing something.
Thoughts?
Thanks to everyone who reads my babble and has a response. (link)
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I think what is happening is you are officially head over heels and it is a great feeling, me and my guy were 2gether 2 months before we were engaged and are now getting married next year. I have had a tough run different to yours but heartbreak non the less in my personal life and keep waiting on the other shoe to drop and it doesnt thankfully seem to be happening. So try and I know its hard but try to stop waiting and just go with it. You say about the arguements these will happen all the time but as long as you talk through them as they happen and resolve them then that sets everything back. Things wont always be perfect but I guess what am saying is we can have a version of the fairy tale, may not be perfect but its there! I hope you guys do get that little girl and that you live happy together for as long you live!!
Sorry if I havent helped much, I hope I have though!!
Yours,
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I hate to bring you all down but I need help figuring out what to do. I don't have a long time to live and nobody in my family knows yet. I want to make all the arrangements before telling anyone so that the burden will be less after the shock hits them. I am at a complete loss to figure out what I should do or who I contact to make arrangements for this and pre-pay everything.
Can you just tell me who I call? Will my insurance cover this? Do I call them first and see?
Thank you for anyone that has time to help me. (link)
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I considered this a while myself, where arrangements are concerned you just contact the funeral home yourself and they can help you with all the details. Where insurance is concerned they will cover it after the fact however I don't know if they will before therefore you'd need to contact them yourself and they will I am sure be able to help you. Can I also just say that I hope what time you have left is filled with good times (for what its worth)!!
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I am virgin.My boyfriend fingered me with dry hands on the 23rd day of my menstrual cycle. He was not that deep . neither was there any kind of bleeding. 1 Week have passed since my period date. it is quite normal for me. please tell me if theres any kind of possibilty i am pregnant. Or its just because of stress my periods is delayed.. ?? please advice. (link)
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Hey!!
Ok firstly you are not pregnant, you can only get pregnant if his penis is inserted into you and either he has no protection or if he wears a condom and it snaps this would also be the only ways you could maybe get pregnant. Stress can cause your period 2 be delayed and well thinking yourself 2 be pregnant must cause a ton of extra stress. So relax!! and in time your lovely gift all us women get :P will be back 2 its normal cycle in no time!!
Hope I helped!!
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if me and my girlfriend had sex and it felt like the condom broke but when i checked it didnt what can happen?? (link)
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This is a problem my Boyfriend and I commonly run in 2 but trust me when the condom did break it makes a snap noise which u can hear!! He sometimes feels like it has but when he checks its just stretched out of shape, therefore its still safe and intact so nothing will happen by way of pregnancy etc!!
Kudos on the safe sex btw!!
Hope this helped!!
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