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Is there anything I can do?
Female / 17
My boyfriend and I tried to have sex a few days ago. ( I'm a virgin, he is not.) He couldn't get it fully in because I couldn't stand the pain. What could help me to stand the pain?
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You just need to relax, the pain is because its your first time but all the times after that will be amazing, not to worry you but you may also get spots of blood but its nothing to worry about, its your first time and happends to most people
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There is nothing that you can do other than to relax as much as possible and bear with the pain. I'm sorry!
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Not everyone has the same 'threshold' or tolerance to pain by any means (some people say having tattoos done for instance hurts like mad, some say it's hardly noticeable). But if you were hurting so much that you couldn't have sex I'd bet the problem is that your the muscles 'down there' are tensing-up too much to let him in. Now that's a natural physical response to stress and anxiety ('panic' if you prefer a simple term). So you've got to relax mentally, when you do the muscles will behave themselves and it won't be anything like as painful. I know, easier said than done when you're having sex first time eh?? The semi-failed attempt last time will pile on the pressure next time you try too, making things even tighter. Intuitively you probably know the answer, remove the worries. Are you ready, not being pressured into it? Do you trust him to treat your body with respect? Have you sorted-out birth-control arrangements to remove unwanted pregnancy worries? Ticking these boxes should remove plenty of anxieties for a start. There's nearly always some discomfort when you start having sex, and often a little vaginal bleeding. Now pain & bleeding equals damage normally with our bodies doesn't it? More worry! Well, they DON'T signal damage when it comes to 'losing your cherry', they're perfectly natural and harmless responses and once they're over, they're over and done with for good, letting you relax and have fun in future. Obviously, you want to make sure your chap spends plenty of time getting you FULLY and properly aroused before he enters your. By all means use extra lubricant if you feel the need. Wow...that was the longest way of saying 'RELAX' in the world I bet!! You'll be OK.
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You could maybe try lube, it would help moisten the vagina and make it easier for the penis to slide in although tbh it will still be painful!! I hope you get there!!
Good Luck!!
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