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How do I find the purpose for my life?
I dont know what to say ,i want to know whats the purpose of my life,like what am i made to do.ive been cheated on ,ive been bullied .i doubt any one would answer so just hear me out,i dont know what to do,how do i find my purpose ,and i also need to make new friends!!
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aww, I am sorry to hear about this! Let me tell you, I will be thinking about you! I feel listening to music makes me feel better! I would recommend listening to Invisible by Hunter Hayes ;)
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First of all you have to find out what work do you enjoy the most...once you find that out indulge into it completely..once you work on what you enjoy you will become a much happier person.. so what are you waiting for? run for yourself..enjoy the journey ,face challenges..other things will come in place..and this is not a one time thing...keep in contact.. i need to know more about you like whats your age...are you a student or in some job...what are your problems..we need a detailed and continuous discussion..
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How to find your purpose, admittedly this is a toughie, From personal experience this is something you learn as you go. Usually found out by looking at what makes you tick, what are your interests and what would you like to change about the world that you are in today? what do you want to be part of? For me I have just recently found what I believe to be my purpose and I am 24, but when I look back I realise this was always what I wanted I just didnt realise. Sometimes a purpose can be realised through personal experiences. From what you have said you have had a tough time of it so perhaps your purpose is staring in the face of the hardships you have went through.
Ask yourself - where do I want to be in 10 years? what do I want to do? - dont hold back on the answer - no matter how insane it may seem or far-fetched I highly doubt half the world leaders or celebs knew instantly they would get their dream.
Where making new friends is concerned - I made mines through college and university, pen friends is another good idea, joining an activity group aswell - its good for meeting new people and also for gaining confidence (incase you need some :) ).
I hope I have helped - Good luck, let me know how you get on and if you need help you can message me.
Yours
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I believe the purpose to everyone's life is to do what they love. By finding what you love, join clubs in school or around your community. Joining these clubs will enhance your ability to know what you like and what you don't like. By doing this, you will also be able to meet new people and talk to them and become friends with them. So, go try out for a musical or join an art program or a shop class and talk to the people in these areas and get to know them and the act you're partaking in! Good luck!
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I think everybody has asked themselves, "why am I here?" before. At least, I know I have! And the truth is, everyone will find out their true reason for living-their purpose-in due time. I know that right now, in the suckish situation you're in, it can feel like the whole world is spinning out of control. But please believe me when I tell you that everyone has a purpose in life. My senior english teacher in High School studied international politics and foreign affairs, worked with the government, was the head director of dozens of museums and historical societies, and spent six years teaching young children in Scotland. He even operates our town's ferry service and bartends for celebrities over the summer! Despite his epic life, however, he always said that the most fufilled he's ever felt was when he was teaching, not when he was going all those other crazy things. He spent years trying to find the purpose in his life, when all along it was staring him in the face!
So, you see, it's okay not to know your purpose in life right now. No one knows for sure where life will take them! You just have to be patient and optimistic, and one day you'll realize what it is that makes you feel the happy.
And as for the whole "cheated on" and "making friends" thing, take heart in the fact that-even though it doesn't seem quite possible sometimes-there are good, kind-hearted people in the world, people who would have the decency to be loyal and to commit. The same goes for making friends: you just have to get out into the world and shine. And who knows? Maybe one of the people you become friends with will help you on your road to fufillment!
Sorry this is sooo long and good luck!!
:) :) :)
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This question is asked by a lot of teenagers especially young teenagers in your situation.
You can put a stop to the bullying by telling teachers and principals about who is bullying you. There is a great deal of emphasis on bulling right now because of what has been happening in schools as a result of it. You do not have to sit back and take it. If you’re being bullied outside of school tell your parents. A visit from the police department and a possible conference with a judge or court master should change the bully’s ways. Many states have enacted some tough new laws concerning bullying and they are directed directly at the ages of people who are bullying you.
As far as the cheating goes; boys your age are, pardon the expression, stupid when it comes to girls and relationships. Like you they are going through puberty and puberty effects them differently than you. When it comes to love your definition and theirs is quite different. Their definitions are almost the same as lust for they need sex to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the new hormones hence the term "Horny".
There is a famous line boy’s use that is older than I am and I am old enough to be your grandfather. The line is; "If you love me you will have sex with me." You do not have sex with someone to prove your love. Sex is the natural outcome of a long term loving relationship. If you ever hear this line or something like it; tell the boy to take a hike, he doesn't love you he lusts for you.
As for the meaning of life; that is a question most everyone asks and the answer is different for everyone. Sometimes there is no answer as life is constantly changing which is good.
A long time ago I decided that for me the meaning of life meant that all I had to be was the best me I could be. That is I was a better man tomorrow than I was today that was all I had to be. I did not have to be better than anyone else just better than who I was yesterday.
When I adopted this philosophy my entire life changed. I no longer worked to be better than my peers but I became equal or better any way. I stymied my employers for as a sale rep they felt money was the prime motivator, it wasn't mine. I knew I could make money for them and me. I concentrated on my motto which was to learn something new every day and to be better tomorrow than I was to day. My manager didn't understand but he didn't question either as he liked the results. I liked the fact that he didn't question and I confused him for he stayed away and let me do my thing.
I'm retired now and my meaning of life has greatly changed because of the reason I have retired. I was injured in an auto accident and I am now disabled. There are a great many things I can no longer do. I have had to find different things to give me fulfilment and allow me to at the very least stay even with who I am. I still try to learn something new each day and is one of the reasons I advise on this sight as there are questions that require me to do research before I answer.
This is my purpose in life your will be different and it will change. Right now I would say your purpose in life is school and taking advantage of everything school has to offer. Being a teenager is a wonderful time of our lives and we only go through these years once. Make the best of these years.
When you finish with your schooling you meaning or purpose in life will change. You may call this goal setting and part of it is. Goal setting is part of the purpose of life as it is through your goals that you get to achieve your purpose in life.
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Thats a good question and I hope you find at least a little comfort in knowing that a great majority of people are still trying to figure that out for their lives. Knowing ones life purpose is something you kinda figure out with the experiences you go through in life or you accidently stumble across them. Those people you know who say they know exactly what they want to do in their life, what they want to accomplish, what degree they're going after and such, may seem like they have figured out their life purpose. I know many people like that personally and a good majority ran into dead ends, something that happened to cause them to question the path they took and try another one now. We don't have enough life experience to run into such dead ends on our path and come to the point of questioning where to go from there.
I could also take a spiritual twist on this. I have read books that say each soul born onto this planet comes here already with certain goals it wants to accomplish while here, big things it wants to learn and obstacles to conquer, and some smaller ones too. Sometimes a souls life purpose can be as uncomplicated as growing up with an absent father and learning how to be a good father despite no example in your own life. Other times ones life contains abuse or ill treatment by others as a way to learn something...maybe how to face harsh treatment and yet still turn out to be a loving trusting loyal friend to all instead of being jaded, hostile, reclusive, or lash out at all. I personally have found that having found some form of communication with the Devine, I may not get a clear picture of what is coming up (cus I might try to avoid it or run from it) but when I am in the midst of it, I find in prayer I can get confirmation on how to continue through it successfully and come out all the stronger, a better person.
I am sharing the only guideline I can think that may help a little along the way by focusing on yourself and your feelings and actions. Here it is:
12 Steps to Self Care
1. If it feels wrong, don't do it.
2. Say exactly what you mean.
3. Don't be a people pleaser.
4. Trust your instincts.
5. Never speak bad about yourself.
6. Never give up on your dreams.
7. Don't be afraid to say "No."
8. Don't be afraid to say "Yes."
9. Be kind to yourself.
10. Let go of what you can't control.
11. Stay away from drama and negativity.
12. LOVE
If you can do all these things for yourself, even if you never figure out the purpose of your life, you will have lived a positive, productive life , grown as a person and affected the lives of others in positive ways and that is a good place to be.
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