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So I got invited to this girls dinner party, the problem is I I only know her and she invited over 30 people. I’m very introverted and I don’t do well in social situations especially something as intimate as a dinner party so I was wondering if you had any tips on how I can survive this. I don’t want to sit beside her cause I’m pretty sure she probably has an idea of the seating arrangements. She even told me I could bring a friend but none of my friends want to go. I’ve been in social situations where I didn’t know anybody like my university orientation week but it is different than this because everyone there didn’t know each other so it was easier to socialize but this dinner party majority of the people knew each other from high school. Please help I’m 18 btw
First, I would like to congratulate you for wanting to go. Taking the plunge and going when you already know that you will only know one person is a big step. I am very introverted and if I only knew one person at a gathering, I can honestly say that I'm not sure I would be so willing to go so that is so completely awesome to me that you still want to go and are anticipating it being a good time. I aspire to be more like that as I get older.
I too had gone through college orientation, which was even a sleep over in the dorms the night of the orientation so that was a huge thing for me to do but it was mandatory. Anyway, at my college orientation is where I found my college roommate, it's pretty funny how that works out and we have been best friends ever since and it all just started with one random conversation at orientation - my telling her that I liked the dress she was wearing and it turned into us talking for so long about what major we were going into and what classes we were excited to take and then about the party that the campus was throwing for everyone that night and how introverted we both were and how we didn't want to go to the party at all so we decided to ditch and go get some food from sheetz instead, which is when we conversed about not having room mates yet.
So, that whole story being that I, being as completely introverted as I am, met my best friend just by giving her one small compliment. I really like this tactic and have since used it where I continued making friends throughout college, doing exactly that. I'm not saying it would always work but you said you're pretty sure that there will be assigned seats and you will be by someone that you don't know unless the hostess made sure that you were at her table with her. Even if she did do that, I'm sure she will be up mingling and doing other things so try the compliment tactic out. "Hi, I just really wanted to tell you that I love your dress!" or "wow, your hair is so pretty, my name is ___." Sometimes it could be a short thanks and that's it but when seated with someone for a longer period of time, people will tend to want to make conversation so there could easily be a compliment thrown back at you, then you could just take the ball and run with it "thank you, I really love your shoes" "oh, thank you! I got them at _____! Have you ever been there?"
I know inserting yourself into a group of people that already know each other and are already talking, could seem daunting so you could try to catch another person that is alone. Maybe there will be a place that you need to get up to get a drink or somewhere that everyone will put their coat so you can catch someone doing something like that and just mingle a little - "it's so pretty in here, ___ did a really good job planning this!"
Or honestly, I like to ask people questions in social situations. I know it sounds kind of silly but a question is a sure fire way of ensuring at least a few minutes of conversation. "How do you know the hostess?" "We had a class together. How do you know her?" I just like to make sure that I leave what I am saying as kind of open ended or vague so it leaves room for the other person to want to know more. My brother's girlfriend and I became good friends because of this tactic. They were not dating at the time but she would ask me about him and I distinctly remember telling her "Yeah, I remember the one time he ate dog food." I left it at that and she started cracking up and asked me to tell more because she simply was so curious after that so I proceeded to tell her that it was a dare and he was really young when it happened and that he almost threw up after it. So, try to make sure that what you are saying is exciting or wanting the person you are speaking to wanting more!
And just remember, have fun. You said it was easier socializing at orientation for a reason, find a common reason to make socializing at this event seem easy for you. The more you think about it and stress over it, the less fun it will end up being.
Hi, been dating for a few months but known for more than a year. In our late 20’s. But I feel and he feels as well we’re getting deeper in our relationship. However, when we first started dating he said, ‘it’s like you’re my soulmate.’ He loves me and I love him. He says he adores me. But when he mentioned soulmate what did he mean by that? Thanks all!
My mom loves to tell me this story and I can't ever say I don't like hearing it because I just love how it ends, even though I've heard it a million times before.
My mom was dating this boy in eighth grade. Crazy, right? She thought so too, never thought much of it until one day, this boy told my mom that she was his soul mate. She got freaked out because like I said, she was dating him but not really thinking much of it being a forever thing. Eighth grade turned into ninth grade and they continued dating through going to each other's junior and senior proms so in all, they went to four proms together. They graduated high school, my mom went on to take college accounting courses for a certificate to start her own business and her boyfriend went on to join the Navy. They stayed together through it - the boot camp, being sent away, not being able to spend the time together, not even being able to text or anything in that time, not even being able to talk on the phones since each person was allowed to make one call and typically he would call his mom or one of his 5 siblings. He was away for two Christmases and he finally returned in early December to propose to my mom, bringing back what he said all those years ago in eighth grade "I knew you were my soul mate then and today, I'm proving it." They have been married for 29 years and have been together in total of 40 years.
Of course that won't be everyone's story but soul mate is a big word, not to be thrown around lightly. I think when he told you that you were his soul mate, I think he really meant that he loves being with you and sees himself being with you for the rest of his life. Soul mates are two people that were meant to be together, they are each other's other half, they didn't find each other by luck or karma, they were brought together because that was nature's plan for them. He does not see himself with anybody else in the world, you are the one for him and the only one that he desires. I sincerely hope that you can say you feel the same way for him because that would be so magical if you do, the best feeling.
ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice.
Hello there!
My first nugget of advice would be to tell someone what you are going through. There is nothing worse than drowning in your own thoughts thinking that there is no way out because you have nobody to talk to. Tell someone. They will be able to talk to you and even if they can't give advice because maybe they weren't ever in your shoes, at least they will listen to you and there is no greater feeling than knowing that someone will be there for you despite your flaws.
A friend of mine from work just told me yesterday that he had a pretty big secret, he said he did not want to tell me because he did not want me to change my views on him or look at him any differently but after me telling him that no matter what, I'll still always be around, he finally told me that he has tried to commit suicide 25 times since being on leave from the Navy. Now, why did I tell you that story? I told you that story because I'm still his friend and I'm still there for him. I told him that when he feels like he lost all hope and wants to leave this world, that instead of overdosing on pills or harming himself in any way with a weapon to end his life, he calls me first. He asked me why. I told him it's because I want to be there for him and if he tried to leave this earth 25 times and he's still here, then he has a reason to still be here. He said he never had anyone care for him the way that I have in the few short weeks we knew each other but he told me that I am exactly what he needed.
So, my dear, a friend to be there for you may be exactly what you need. I know you put in your question that you lost some friends because your friends started fighting, so if you need a friend, I can 100% be that friend for you, I will talk you off of that ledge every time-all you have to do is ask, send me another question and I will answer with my email address and we can talk that way if you are up for that.. if not, that is totally okay as well.
My second little nugget for you is that if you feel it's getting too bad for you to handle, when you tell someone (which you should!!) tell them that you need professional help. Now, I may be biased here as I am in college studying the exact problems that you're going through, in hopes to be a professional one day where I can help kids just like you. But maybe if it gets too bad, you should seek professional help where they can find out what it is in your brain that's making you feel the way you are and they will prescribe you medicine that will best suit your problem and you won't feel sad anymore.
One thing that I like to tell my friends when they tell me they are having a panic attack or that they are feeling sad, I know it's silly, but I make them write down every single little thing that made them smile that day. Once you realize that there are better things than the one that is making you sad, you'll start to smile.
I'll do my day for example: I had lunch with a friend that I haven't seen in a while, I got a good grade on a test, my older brother asked me for help on his homework so that made me feel pretty smart, it's beautiful outside and the sun is shining.
Another thing you can do is take a shower. Get in, turn the water on, sit down and let the water rain on you, think about everything and you can even feel sad and bad for yourself, if you want to cry you definitely can... but when you shut that water off and you get out, forget everything that happened in the shower and begin your clean slate and smile, smile, smile.
Lastly, I often forget how hard it is to be a kid. It must be so sad to lose multiple friends at one time and I'm very sorry that happened to you. But instead of being sad about it, you can give yourself that extra push to make new friends. You can join an activity at school, you can sit with new people at lunch and introduce yourself, you can even sit down with your old friends and talk to them about how hard it is for you to lose them and see if they can all work out their differences with one another and maybe you guys can all be friends again.
In summary:
1. tell someone, anyone, what you are going through
-one person is all it takes to make a world of difference
-send me another question if you want to talk and I'll give you my email address
2. seek professional help (if your thoughts get to the darker side)
3. happiness activities
4. do something you wouldn't normally do, talk to new people, make new friends
Always remember: You are so beautiful and lovely. Your body has a lot more years ahead of it and it does not deserve to be cut and harmed and neither does your sparkling spirit!
Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you.
Listen, my ex boyfriend and I were long distance. We both went to the same college together so we were only apart on breaks and during the summer but it sucked when we were apart.
Now, my family owns a cabin and we tend to go there on my winter break from college, it's in a quiet place in the mountains with no cell phone service. So he and I could not talk for three days. I had no worries that anything was going to happen while I was away, since we were long distance at that point, I figured there wasn't really anything that could go wrong that didn't already. So, I left for my cabin, he said he couldn't wait til I got back, I told him I'll miss him and love him and he said he loved me and that was it.
The last day of my trip, on the drive home when I reached cell service, I texted him and I knew something was up. He wasn't acting the same, kind of answering very shortly and just not being his normal self but he assured me he was okay so I brushed it off until his weird mood carried on into the next couple days. I asked him time and time again why he was acting so differently, why three days had altered the atmosphere surrounding our entire relationship.
Then he finally told me, it's because he cheated on me while I was away. I was devastated. Here was this incredible guy that I truly loved that had made long distance relationships worth it for me and he ruined it all in the course of one weekend trip. I ended it, and rightfully so.
Nobody deserves to be cheated on. I know people make mistakes, I get that, I truly do, I've made some pretty questionable mistakes in my twenty years. But nothing hurts more than finding out the person you loved, had been with someone else in their most vulnerable state, in the state that only your significant other should see you in.
You're right; he deserves to know, you need to tell him.
My best friend cheated on her current boyfriend, with her ex-boyfriend and they are still together because her current boyfriend said that only means that he is allowed one "get out of jail free card" and she agreed and that's how they made it work.
Every single person is different, just like every single relationship is different. I couldn't bear the thought of my boyfriend being with someone else and I had to end it, to ease my mind. However, my best friend's boyfriend dealt with the news in his own way as well. Your boyfriend may take it lightly, he may not, that's the price you have to pay for cheating on him.
Personally, I would wait til you are together to sit him down and talk to him about it. Do not wait. The sooner the better.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. But relationships revolve around love and honesty and if you love him, you need to be honest with him.
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No. Do not buy accutane online. This Easter will be my two year anniversary of ending my four months on accutane. I had cystic acne, which meant that when it looked like there was one pimple, there was really three or four or five underneath. I had them everywhere. My friends and family couldn't touch my face without me crying that it hurt. I went through three different doctors before I had one dermatologist that told me there was no way my acne would go away by putting things on top of it, I had to take something so my acne can get cured from the inside out so he prescribed me to accutane. Now, I know accutane is expensive, I was on it for four months, I know. My insurance covered a measly portion of it as well so most of the money I had to pay was out of pocket. But it works. I have never been happier with my skin. Currently, I have one pimple. One. Accutane is a miracle drug and it will do everything you hope for but you need to consult a doctor. See a dermatologist. Talk to a professional. Do not get it online.
My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do?
Getting bullied by a brother just comes with the territory of having a brother. My brother used to pick on me all the time when I was little and beat me up countless times. He told me once that oreos cause cancer so I wouldn\'t eat them and he could have them all, he tipped me over in a shopping cart and I fell out and banged my head on the ground, he taught me to put my cathching mitt in the wrong area and threw me a baseball and intentionally hit me in the mouth. He is 22 now and I am 19 and he is my absolute best friend.
I am telling you, him being mean is just a phase and it will pass, I promise! You guys will grow together, become more mature and learn to not be able to tell your guardians things so you trust each other with things and you will become so much closer. I don\'t know what I would do without my brother and soon you\'ll feel the same.
I dont know what to say ,i want to know whats the purpose of my life,like what am i made to do.ive been cheated on ,ive been bullied .i doubt any one would answer so just hear me out,i dont know what to do,how do i find my purpose ,and i also need to make new friends!!
I believe the purpose to everyone\'s life is to do what they love. By finding what you love, join clubs in school or around your community. Joining these clubs will enhance your ability to know what you like and what you don\'t like. By doing this, you will also be able to meet new people and talk to them and become friends with them. So, go try out for a musical or join an art program or a shop class and talk to the people in these areas and get to know them and the act you\'re partaking in! Good luck!
Please help me on how I can lose weight. I'm tired of being fat and I need to lose it NOW. I don't need gestures on how I can just "not eat desserts" or anything like that. Just please tell me how I can lose weight. Please name the excersize and how many calories burned (I don't play sports. Just excersizing please). I can't go to a doctor or my PE teacher or my mom or anything like that. I don't want my mom to think even more that i'm fat. And my mom will have to go with me to the doctor. And my PE teacher hates me. So please help me before I starve myself (I don't need a gesture on that. If I can't find any excersize, that's what i'm going to do no matter what)...
Hello there, I used to be in the marching band of my senior high which was relentless work in the blistering heat for five hours everyday of the sumer. That used to be my main workout but now that I've graduated and am at college not participating in band, I needed to find my own means of exercise to not gain that Freshman 15! I cannot tell you how many calories burned because everybody is different and it depends how hard one is willing to work. First, I walk for a half hour straight on a treadmill every weekday. Second, I follow thinspo blogs on tumblr to keep me motivated and inspire me, plus they give quick exercises to do right when you wake up or right before bed or even if you only have 5 minutes of free time to really get your heart rate up. On the weekend, I look up exercises on youtube, I know it sounds silly but I am a visual learner so I pick up how to do the exercises quicker when I watch somebody else do them. My favorite workout guru on youtube if blogilates, she puts workouts to her favorite songs so the workout only lasts as long as the song, usually about 4 minutes but it is hard work for that little bit of time. I like the Call Me Maybe Mighty Squat Challenge, for the first time two weeks ago I finally could go through the whole thing without stopping. It's good work and if you work at it for a while, it gives you a "thigh gap."
If you are looking for something to start off easier, I used to do aerobic exercises sitting down on a chair (which I, again, found on youtube) it got my heart rate up so I knew I was losing calories but it wasn't too strenuous for a beginner. Youtube is your friend, you can find anything on there and the videos I use involve nothing but me and things I have at home already, not some crazy gym contraptions!
Remember, anything pays off with a little hard work so do just that and don't give up until you see results!
And nevertheless, never forget this: nothing is without reason, not even nothing.
14/f
ok i used to cut and asked yall for help and yall suggested the rubberband but today i remembered something and i snaped the rubberband on my wrist and its not workin i want to cut more even. please give me something else that will work. please!
I follow this advice column on tumblr. Somebody told her the exact same problem you have. This is what the advice column on tumblr told the girl: draw something beautiful on your wrist, a butterfly or a heart and name the butterfly after somebody you love or somebody you admire. If you drew a heart, put a person's name inside the heart. Whenever you feel like cutting, you will see the butterfly or the name of that person and maybe you won't want to anymore. If that doesn't help, find a pillow and go nuts. Punch it, kick it, scream into it, pretend that the pillow is all the problems in your life that are causing you to self harm and just beat them up.
I just got a new MacBook Air for graduation this year and I love it. Except i don't like having to buy all my songs. I tried downloading torrents on uTorrent but they won't go into my iTunes. So could some one suggest a way of downloading music for free and getting it into my iTunes. The simplest way if possible I used to use Kazaa and Limewire but there illegal now and don't work. Please and Thank you!
-Sleepiesheep
Hey, I download straight from youtube and it's legal!
1. open up youtube
2. open another tab (command + t) and go to google
3. type into google "youtube to mp3" I use the first link that shows up.
4. find a song on youtube
5. Copy the link (command + x) of the video on youtube you want to download and then paste it (command + v) into the search bar on the youtube to mp3 converter.
It will convert it for you, then you click download, then it will download straight into your iTunes! Easy as that!
Im really into music so im always looking for more. Im pretty much into stuff like evanescence, lilly allen, atmosphere, the band perry, skrillex, bruno mars, dev, drake, duffy just to name a few. so please post any music that you think i may enjoy and thank you so much for your time.
My favorite band of all time is Mumford and Sons. Their music has a different flare but to me, it's real music with real instruments and very real talent. They are folky so they have banjos and harmonicas and accordions. Their inspirations are Kings of Leon. I also love All Time Low, their inspiration is Third Eye Blind. Ace Enders is a great band with very slow and meaningful songs. Good Old War is different but catchy. I like the Summer Set as well, they always put me in the dancing mood. Dispatch, all I like from them is Two Coins. Jack Johnson is AMAZING. My friend had gotten signed a little bit ago and he is really trying to expand his fan base with different styles, it would mean the world to me and him if you give him a try; his name is dUSTIN tAVELLA. Yellowcard's newest album is phenomenal. One Direction-What Makes You Beautiful.
Hope that helped in the slightest, I love music as well ranging from all over the place (:
Sorry i wrote emo at the top but pretty much every time i get mad and don't know where to put my anger i will slice my wrist and cut off chunks of skin until i bleed. Now i already did this question but you probably couldn't understand it because i was in a rush but now i will explain. So yesterday i was at this carnival and i wore quarter sleeves because it was really hot and my mom wouldn't let me wear long sleeves and i didn't have any bracelets to put on over the cuts so i just left it and hoped no one saw it. So my dad saw it and started asking questions i told him that i fell and then ran away. And now him and my mom are asking me questions and they want to put me in a place where i will get help but i dont want to tell people how i feel! its how i feel i dont want to change it! so pretty much i just need help explaining my self to all of the people asking questions! thank you anwser A.S.A.P!
You have to understand that your parents love you and want what's best for you. There will be other people there going through the same struggles you are so you can meet new people similar to you and bond over some things. Maybe there is a void you need to fill and maybe meeting new people like you will help. Please trust your parents, they love you and you love them. So, do this for them. (:
Are there any painless ways to commit suicide? I have given up on life and pretty much want it to end since nothing seems to go right anymore. If you want some back story then I will be breif. I am 22 and have attempted suicide two times and they were obviously failed attempts. The first time I shot myself in the chest and survived, the second was overdosing but again failed. I have tried changing my life around but to no success. I have no parents to turn to and I have no siblings. My friendlist is zero and well...I think this can only be fate I suppose. Can anyone recommend a simple method?
Listen to me right now. You survived a shot in the chest. I don't know if you are a believer but to me, that sounds like Jesus really doesn't want you to die yet. He has a big plan for you! Just think about everything you can do while alive, travel the world, skydive, get married, start a family. Do you really want to go through a possibly slow death where you're laying on the floor screaming out in pain because you could have done something wrong with however method you choose next? NO! Stay alive and do all the incredible things that God has in store for you. As for friends, in my town there are fun classes you can take at our local rec center, art and hockey and basketball and swimming and many more. Do something you love to do and you will meet so many friends who share the same interest you do! Do not give up on yourself because you are beautiful.
i've always wanted to get married in a beautiful cathedral. i found a great church, but i'm not catholic and neither is my fiance. my question is, are we allowed to get married in the catholic church anyway? i don't have to use the priest there, i can use my own pastor if that's the case. i just pretty much want to rent out the cathedral for the day, i'm not looking to have a sacramental catholic wedding. thanks!
I just want to share a situation that had actually just occurred in my family. My mother's cousin is Mennonite and her fiance is Catholic. They were going to marry in his church with his pastor, the pastor had recently found out she is not Catholic and he turned them away and they are not able to use the Catholic church either. That might have just been that pastor's preference but she was turned away and in a house of God because she was not Catholic. Like the other answer, I would go and see for myself but just going through that exact situation, I felt that I should share that with you. Congratulations on getting married, it will be a day you will never forget.
I just got done with 8th grade, and it's summer. I decided to join the marching band. It is a very good marching band, so my parents had to pay a lot for me to go in it, and it goes from 1-8 pm every Wednesday, plus practicing on my own for like an hour a day. The point is that I can't get out of it. I think it's cool, and think i enjoy it, but their is always that constant reminder that I have too wake up early on Wednesday to play my instrument and march. I feel like It's ruining my summer even though it's pretty fun. What helps you when you are feeling like your in such a tight situation?
Alright, I am going to be a senior in high school and I, too, am in my school's marching band. I have got to tell you, our practices are grueling. 5 pm to 9 pm every Wednesday in July, 8 in the morning to 2 in the afternoon, every single day in August, outside in the heat, with our conductor telling us that we are terrible musicians and he will be willing to pull us out of every competition because he's disgraced and every Tuesday and Thursday during the school year from 3 pm to 5 pm. I hate the practices but to let you in on my secret, since this is your first year in the big band, the competitions and football games are incredibly fun. That's what gets me through the practices, knowing that they are paying off to get me to experience something more fun in the long run. Plus the fact that you make A LOT of new friends. I've been in the marching band for 7 years and in the High School marching band for 3. Every year I've been in the High School marching band, we all got so close, we didn't want the season to end. One last thing you can look forward to, the Championships. The feeling of exhilaration when you walk onto the field in front of 20 different school's family and friends is something you will never forget.
Yes, the practices suck, I will be the first to tell you, but you want to go through the practices to get to the more fun stuff! I promise, you won't regret it.
i lost my viginity at 13, and since then i havent been able to stop, im now 15 and have sucked over 50 differnt boys, and i have had sex with over 30 differnt guys, i also done anal with 10 differnt guys. i really cant stop even though i feel so ashamed its like a thing that im so used to it feels very normal , im only 15 and all the guys have been 16 -35 years old... iv done threesums and all sorts, am i addicted or just a dirty slut?
Oh my. You are not a slut, you just have a problem. Self control, I don't believe in programs to help people with their problems, especially if they don't want to get fixed up. Just take a step back and look at yourself. Is this the way you want to think of yourself? Is this the way you want others to look at you in this information (if not already) later comes out? This is not a good thing especially for a minor. Those older guys could get into a lot of trouble if that gets out. You say you're ashamed and you can't stop, is it because you aren't trying? Next time a situation you are put into anything sexually related, do something else. I know it's easier said than done but will power is such a good thing every woman should have. When you grow up, find your perfect man and get married, would you really feel good about yourself telling him this? No, I don't think so. This needs to be stopped. Don't put yourself in situations to do that kind of stuff because in the end, it will lower your self confidence, your moral values and everything you've ever thought and in the future, you won't know who you are anymore.
Again, read these words carefully.. you are NOT a slut. You, inside are a beautiful human being that just has a flaw that needs to be worked out.
so im 15/f i know wiith all the hormones and what not im gonna get pimples but is there ANY way to stop them i dont eat that much chocolate and i hate peanuts i dont get SUPER pimples but occasional whiteheads and once in a blue moon a black head i hate getting pimples cause i just cant keep myselp from poping them but uggh it just drives me insane to have them there and after i end up with a huge scab on my face its embarressing
so any home remediies? how can i keep my face clean & soft :P? any advice would be awsome? please help me
~thanks
No home remedies work, they irritate the skin more. Believe me, I am 16 and my acne was TERRIBLE! If anyone should connect with you over acne, it will be me. However, one day I was watching juicystar on youtube and she did a review on the clarisonic and I just had to have it. It is a little pricey but I have been so incredibly happy with my skin since I got it. It is a little machine with a brush that rotates at I believe 600x per second, it's timed for a minute and then it shuts off and what is does is exfoliates the skin and brings the impurities up so they can come out with more ease. Definately look into it, I have the clarisonic mia but there is also a clarisonic pro which has 5 speeds as opposed to the mia's 1.
Hope I helped. God Bless
I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
This is a definite red flag. You need to break up with this boy this instant. He clearly knows that what he is doing is wrong, therefore he hid it from you. If he thought his actions were right, he would have told you about it. He is lying and being deceitful and that is not okay. Especially if he is making you cry. I know that if you are with him and have been for a while, you might love him or have very strong feelings for him but what he is doing is not good at all. You need to tell him that you know what he has been up to, that you read it, that you know he has made this now private and that you have been crying over his crude acts. Make him feel like the scum he is! Good luck, hun. If you need anything, anything at all, you know where to reach me (:
15/m im about to have sex for the first time this sarurday what should i do not to embarrass myself :/
You probably shouldn't have asked this because all of the answers are going to be "don't you think you're a little to young to be having sex?" or "you should wait until your older"
Both of these statements I do agree with, you probably should wait until you're mentally mature enough to handle this and to know that whom you are doing this with is really "the one". But I know that won't stop you if you really have your mind set on doing this.
I would say, just go with the flow, it will all come natural. If you do something goofy or something that your partner won't like, heck, you're in love. You'll be forgiven. Just calm down. If you're worried about it and keep thinking about it, odds are you'll be a nervous wreck and everything will go wrong. So, just calm down and don't over think it.
does anyone know emotional songs for personal stories?
like it's only life by kate voegele
car crash by mat nathanson
just about getting through hard times and stuff
thanks!
Lullabies by All Time Low. Alex wrote this song about his older brother who commit suicide because Alex was getting famous and getting more attention. I love this song sooo much, makes me cry every time.