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My older brother is mean to me
My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do?
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Getting bullied by a brother just comes with the territory of having a brother. My brother used to pick on me all the time when I was little and beat me up countless times. He told me once that oreos cause cancer so I wouldn't eat them and he could have them all, he tipped me over in a shopping cart and I fell out and banged my head on the ground, he taught me to put my cathching mitt in the wrong area and threw me a baseball and intentionally hit me in the mouth. He is 22 now and I am 19 and he is my absolute best friend.
I am telling you, him being mean is just a phase and it will pass, I promise! You guys will grow together, become more mature and learn to not be able to tell your guardians things so you trust each other with things and you will become so much closer. I don't know what I would do without my brother and soon you'll feel the same.
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Don’t react. “Bullies want to know that they’ve succeeded in making you feel bad about yourself,” says a young woman named Kylie. “If you don’t react, they lose interest.” The Bible says: “He that is wise keeps it calm to the last.”—Proverbs 29:11.
Don’t retaliate. Revenge will add to the problem, not solve it. The Bible says: “Return evil for evil to no one.”—Romans 12:17; Proverbs 24:19.
Don’t walk into trouble. To the extent possible, avoid people and situations where bullying may occur.—Proverbs 22:3.
Try an unexpected response. The Bible says: “An answer, when mild, turns away rage.”—Proverbs 15:1.
Use humor. For example, if a bully asserts that you’re overweight, you could simply shrug your shoulders and say, “I guess I could lose a few pounds!”
Walk away. “Silence shows that you are mature and that you are stronger than the person harassing you,” says 19-year-old Nora. “It demonstrates self-control—something the bully doesn’t have.”
Work on your self-confidence. “Bullies notice when you aren’t relaxed,” says a girl named Rita, “and they might use that to destroy whatever self-confidence you have.”
Tell someone. According to one survey, more than half of all victims who are bullied online don’t report what’s going on, possibly because of shame (especially for boys) or fear of retaliation. But remember, bullies thrive on secrecy. Speaking up can be the first step to ending the nightmare.
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Don't yell back. In fact, come up with the most descriptive, excellent insults you can and next time he yells, smirk, mutter them under your breath.
When he's like "What was that?"
You can say "Maybe if you didn't yell so much you'd have heard it the first time."
Then walk away, and do nothing more.
If you let him get to you, you'll be unhappy. Stop caring about him being mean and you'll feel better. If you're not provoking, its his problem not yours.
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Wait till he's not looking and do something fendish to him to at least warrant being shouted out. Or you could the sensible thing and find out why he does, ask him not to, or tell your parents.
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Depending on the situations/ or lack of them, that are present when he tends to yell there may be things that cause him to yell. It may be something you are doing but unaware of. It could be that he is extremely stressed and doesnt know any good ways for stress relief. Unfortunately even some adults will do this too, yell at the handiest or closest family member they can find as a source to offload their stress and dump on by yelling, even tho the reciever of the yelling is not to blame for anything. Who knows, he may even have an anger problem.
If you do not know why he picks on you, ask him. Then you will know if there is something you can do to improve your relationship with him. Now if your brother is not just yelling at you but seems short tempered in other situations too, the best thing to do would be to bring it up to mom or dad, whomever you're more comfortable talking to about it. Let them know it is bothering and worrying you and ask them for their ideas on what to do about it. He's also their child and they may have some constructive ideas for you on how to handle him or realize he's the one with issues and work with him to realize and deal with it or see a counselor for help.
Good luck.
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..Is this a serious question?
1. Figure out why he is yelling at you
2. Do something about it or have the 'rents handle it
3. Buy a boat and profit
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introduce him to this trap life
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Either A. ask him calmly why he is yelling. B. Ignore him until he asks you calmly. or C. Tell him you will not do or respond to anything he says until he asks you nicely and calmly.
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I'd advise ignoring him for a short while. Perhaps when he realises you're not listening or reacting to his behaviour, he'll wonder, and ask why. That'd your chance to ask him why he keeps yelling at you. Explain that his yelling is off-putting and unnecessary. If he wants to talk to you, about something, he should be polite and respectful towards you, just as you should be to him.
Possibly, he's seen, heard or experienced someone else yelling and believes its the way to get himself heard. Maybe he has a roblem with his hearing and doesn't realise that he's shouting so loudly? When you get his attention, ask him why he's shouting all the time.
If none of this works, see if you can ask a friendly adult to help, siting with both of you during the conversation; they may have more effect on his behaviour than just you alone.
Hope this helps, let me know what happens?
Best wishes x.
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ive been through this before i have an older brother. To what degree yours yells are YOU i dont know, but what you DONT wanna do is provoke him MORE. just let him get it all out or you can try walking away and giving him some space (unless hes coming into yours) go in your room and shut the door. (maybe lock it if hes the type to come after you.
If hes really pissed, give him about an hour at least to calm down.
no one here can give you much advice because you havnt given us enough detail for us to work with, like what he yelled at you about or how the whole thing got started.
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Tell him that he needs to grow up and then if that doesn't work then make him a cake and ask for a truce
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The older siblings are always doing that. I'm the same way to my younger brother when he's aggravating me. But if he's doing it constantly and you're really starting to get your feelings hurt then you need to say something. Stand Up To him and tell him that you don't like it and suggest him go tali it out instead of taking whatever is bothering him out on you. don't let him keep disrespecting you or he'll keep doing it.
Good luck.
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