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I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much. (link)
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So first off, it's great that you've waited until you're 25 to have sex. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I'm 21 and I'm a virgin as well so you've resisted temptation as well. :)
Second, Sex is sex. It doesn't matter what kind of logic that anyone tries to put behind it, you had sex.
Third, bumps on the vagina doesn't necessarily mean that you have an STD and I highly doubt you do. Some STD's like AIDS has 6 months to show. PERIOD.
When you go see your OBGYN, he or she will most likely give you a pap smear and/or an examination. You should go regularly just for a check up. Nowadays though, you can go to a drugstore and get a swab test for that kind of STD.
As long as the bumps are not HARD, then I HIGHLY doubt it's anything. You'll be fine. They won't tell anyone if you do have anything also. They have a STRICT patient confidentiality agreement that they must abide by to be in healthcare. You have rights as a patient that they only give YOU and ONLY you the information.
Feel free to message me for any other info you may have. I'm good with questions like these. I'm going for the healthcare field myself and LOVE it.
Don't be scared though. You've already done what you should which is make an appointment. And most importantly, if he DOESN'T have an STD, you will NOT get one either.
Also, one thing to JUST TO KNOW, is that a person can have an STD and you may still not get it unless they are having an outbreak.
Don't drive yourself crazy about it though. Relax.
Good Luck!
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My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do? (link)
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The older siblings are always doing that. I\'m the same way to my younger brother when he\'s aggravating me. But if he\'s doing it constantly and you\'re really starting to get your feelings hurt then you need to say something. Stand Up To him and tell him that you don\'t like it and suggest him go tali it out instead of taking whatever is bothering him out on you. don\'t let him keep disrespecting you or he\'ll keep doing it.
Good luck.
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL! (link)
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I know a few friends of mine use babycenter.com You can try that.
Good Luck.
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I just moved from Pennsylvania to New Jersey. I had to switch schools obviously big I hate my new school. I don't fit in, I have no friends because no one wants to talk to the weird new girl, and it's just not my home. I've gone here for a few days and everyday after school I do my homework, eat dinner, and cry myself to sleep. It's an endless cycle. I'm really depressed and I just can't do it anymore. To top it all off, my family moves every two years usually so it's not really worth making friends, but I want to go back to Pennsylvania because we ended up staying there for 4 yrs and I made some amazing friends. We can't go back because the reason we came up here is my dad's job. What do I do????? I'm so depressed!!!! (link)
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I think you and I would be great friends if I was there.
Honestly, I\'ve gone through this so many times. Since I was 8, I\'ve moved to a new state and a new city twice. I always was asked if a parent was in the military. We moved so much because when my mom searched for a new job, it was in another state. I\'m now 20 and after reading this, I can tell you that it\'s only temporary that you\'re feeling this way.
If I didn\'t like it a school, it was because I really wasn\'t giving it a chance and when I got used it and we had to move again, I ended up being so upset because I loved it there.
At 13, I was already in my 2nd middle school in IN which wasn\'t far my the school I just came from in KY. At 12, I had moved in the middle of the year and became the new girl. It was very frustrating to see people know each other so well and I was just an observer. It\'s not fun I know. You have to attempt to meet the kids in the school. From what I\'m reading, you\'re actually separating yourself. That\'s the worst thing you can do.
Being 13, I\'m sure you want a lot of friends to just talk to about anything and everything. The next day you go to school, Take just a quick moment and come out of your comfort zone. Find that one person that you think you can be really good friends with and just go with it. Don\'t think about it. JUST DO IT. It was weird at first, but it\'s totally worth it. The school that I moved to in the middle of the year, I\'m still friends with that one girl that I spoke up to when I was new. Since then, I\'ve moved to NC and started high school there my Junior year and then went to college on my own while my mom moved to WI. You\'re going to have to learn to just speak to anyone. Don\'t be scared to do it. When you get used it, honestly, it will just be second nature to you to speak to random people.
I\'m now temporarily in WI and possibly moving to NJ myself. I don\'t like it, but just like you, I have no choice in the matter and I will have to adjust.
You\'ll get there I promise you. I\'m sure you WILL fit in, you\'re just still adjusting and shy.
And you\'re not weird. It\'s perfectly fine. Starting new schools suck. But you have to do what you can. You can always message me if you want to reach out more.
Work it girl!! lol.
Good Luck.
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My boyfriend and I are in our mid-twenties. We have been together for about a year and a half and I've never had a reason to feel like I can't trust him. Yesterday evening, he went to bed and left his phone laying out on the counter. Now, looking into each other's phones is something we promised we'd never do. Neither of us get jealous easily and we've always gotten along SO well because we're both laid back.
Well, what I found hurt me a lot. There were two different girls that he had been texting from time to time over the course of the past few months. With one girl, he would text her randomly and tell her that she looked beautiful in her new Facebook photo, and then a few weeks later he would say that he wished he could come see her. The other girl, he'd call her sweet names and he said he'd be off work for a few days and thought that they should meet up. From what I could tell, he never met up with either of them. But seeing him flirt and sweet talk other girls hurts so bad and I don't accept that. Plus, if he's willing to say those things, what else has he done that I wouldn't find in his phone?
I don't know what to do. I don't put up with cheating but if it IS just words in a message, it is different from physical cheating but still is a betrayal of my trust. What I don't understand is that our whole relationship has felt like it's in that "honeymoon" stage. I've never felt like he's been unhappy at any point. We constantly have so much fun together and have rarely had even the smallest of arguments. He brags about me to all of his friends, his family loves me, we've made plans for our future... and then I discover he texts random girls every once in a while. They're never ongoing conversations but still very inappropriate.
I left him while he was sleeping and went back to my own house. Since then we've briefly discussed the situation but I really don't want to talk to him because there's nothing he can say to justify what he's done. He keeps apologizing and saying how bad he feels, and that he'd never actually cheat on me, the texts are just an ego boost for him and he only sends them when he's drunk, that's why he quits replying. It makes sense, but at the same time, I will not tolerate cheating and I'm just hurt so bad that I feel like I will always have doubts in the back of my mind.. but beside this situation, we are SOOOO good together and I don't want to throw that away. (link)
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I\'m actually going through this myself.
If you feel like he will change then you can give him the second chance. But you have to be willing to let it go and throw it back at him later. Trust is separate. You can set boundaries to him and let him know that you will still be skeptical of him for a while. But it\'s totally up to you.
But don\'t be so forgiving. He messed up and the excuses that you listed are not convincing. Flirting is cheating. Telling another girl that\'s beautiful and telling another girl that you want to meet up is not okay. It would only be okay if you were going as well.
You need to do what you what you feel will let him understand where you\'re coming from. I understand completely. It will be in the back of your mind and he needs to know that actions like that are not tolerated.
You don\'t want to throw the relationship away and honestly I don\'t feel like it worth completely ruining the relationship if he hasn\'t actually done anything and I\'m ONLY saying that because of the length that you two have been together, it\'s not easy to just throw away. You say that you have just briefly discussed the situation, but you need to do more than that and then make up your mind when you get to what made him do that.
Good Luck.
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Im 16. My boyfriend is 17. We've been together on and off for a year and 2 months. His ex girlfriend asked him to prom because shes a senior and needs a date. They dated abt 2 or 3 years ago and he claims they want to be on a friend level. Im not sure how to take them going to prom together. I wanted to be his only prom date. He understands where im coming from but he said hes thinking about going. I don't feel comfortable with it. What should I do?? (link)
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Ok. You\'re the girlfriend and your boyfriend\'s ex has decided to ask your boyfriend to prom. Regardless of how may years they dated, she clearly knows that you two are dating. He has assured you that they are only friends. You\'re upset about it. He says that he understands but is still thinking about going? Correct?
You are the girlfriend and this is your relationship. If you don\'t like it, you need to stand up and say that you don\'t like it and if he\'s committed to you, then him just having to think about going is not okay. You\'ve talked to him about him possibly going and that should be enough.
Since it\'s not. One thing that you can do, is go to his ex woman to woman and explain to her that you don\'t like it. I don\'t think that it\'s something that you should end your relationship over because it could be innocent, but it\'s just off that an ex girlfriend is asking her ex-boyfriend that has a new girlfriend to prom. If she was really a friend, she wouldn\'t be asking him.
Let\'s be honest, YOUR boyfriend is not the only guy that she can ask. She can get another guy to go if she really wanted to. Don\'t be afraid to speak your mind. If your relationship is worth fighting for and see your relationship going further, then by all means, SPEAK UP.
Good Luck.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and it was an amazing 3 years. We always know how to make each other laugh and each other happy. We love and care for each other very much. About a few days ago, he came to me and wanted to talk. He told me he was re-evaluating his life and wanted to take a break from the relationship so he could "find" himself. He said also he needed some change. I know this break is meant to help us be able to go out and enjoy life without worrying about the other but it really hurts and it's really hard on me. He said that the spark between us was there still but it just wasn't kindling like it should. What makes me more upset about this "break" is he wanted this beautiful necklace back that he gave me for Christmas last year. I'm not sure what to do and honestly this break hurts me more than it is helping. I don't want to seem desperate but I really miss my best friend and I wish he knew that. (link)
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It\'s totally normal to feel this way. And you have every right to want to know what\'s going on. \"Breaks\" in relationships can be good or bad.
If you\'ve been dating for 3 years and you both feel like it\'s been great then i\'m sure it was for a good reason.
After this long period of time, sometimes it\'s best for both parties to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship and see if you both want to possibly take the next step. But if you\'re saying that he wants to be able to just go out and enjoy his life, then you might just want to ask him point blank what he really wants. Because with that statement, it seems like he wants to look into his other options.
Believe me, it\'s not you. Sometimes, this can happen in a relationship and one partner doesn\'t notice it. Maybe you two do need some alone time.
I really do understand where you\'re coming from. But maybe you need to just go out and not be worried about this situation. But just know that there is a difference in a \"break\" and a \"break-up\" surely he would have made this clear on which one he wanted to do.
Go out and have some fun and just relax. When he\'s ready, he\'ll call you and maybe by that time you\'ll want the same thing or you\'ll see that there\'s something else out there for you.
Good Luck.
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So me and my bf are wanting to have sex. We've tried plenty of times using a condom but failed-both of us struggle to put it on.
So I suggested instead of using a condom to use other methods of birth control such as pills.
I live in the UK, and I wanted to know what options are available for me and how can I access pills? Or is the onky solution to visit a doctor? (link)
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I\'m not sure about what the UK has but there is a birth control other than the pills called \"implanon\" it goes in your arm and is effective for up to 3 years. Don\'t just look into pills. Beginners can be confused on what do to and there are a few things that will counteract the pill.
But if your just stuck on taking the pill. You can go to any clinic or whatever you have available to you, Hospital or clinic, and your doctor can give you the pill and go over in detail how to do it appropriately. But just know that just because you get on the pill, if you decide, it doesn\'t work automatically and clear you of pregnancy. It can take up to a month for your body to get use to the pill. You can only get those with doctors. Any birth control really and depending your age you may need parental consent.
You can also use the Plan B pill (Morning after pill). It\'s available in the stores and can be used if you don\'t want to get the pill. But it\'s not be used in the long run or it can ruin your fertility.
My advice is to research your options and in the meantime be careful with having sex.
Good Luck.
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is it bad that I'm horny 24/7 like its hard as fuck being a virgin man.. should i save tip college or when i get married or if i lost my v card in high school would it be wrong/trashy (link)
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It\'s not bad at all.
I\'m a virgin female, 20 y/o. There is a reason why you are still a virgin. Whether you know it or not. You are who decides when to lose it. You\'re not looked at any different no matter when you do.
You just need to be ready when you do it and make sure that it\'s with someone that you really see a future with. Don\'t worry about what other people think. It\'s all up to you.
Good Luck.
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