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would it be wrong/trashy if i lost my v card in high school
is it bad that I'm horny 24/7 like its hard as fuck being a virgin man.. should i save tip college or when i get married or if i lost my v card in high school would it be wrong/trashy
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Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
It's not bad at all.
I'm a virgin female, 20 y/o. There is a reason why you are still a virgin. Whether you know it or not. You are who decides when to lose it. You're not looked at any different no matter when you do.
You just need to be ready when you do it and make sure that it's with someone that you really see a future with. Don't worry about what other people think. It's all up to you.
Good Luck.
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If u want to have sex please do use condoms and do with a man who keeps always as secret
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I wouldn't say it would make you wrong or trashy.
But it would be smart to wait until you are in a serious relationship. Most girls in high school aren't on birth control so even if you use condoms, you could end up getting her pregnant.
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I had my v card taken from me at a young age 13. I wanted to save my self till marriage or until i was in a serious relationship almost 10 years later i find my special someone and as a way to make us special we choose to not have inter courses right now not until we are living together but its something special snd if you want to be able to share that with someone i would wait now you also have to think that girl that you fall for may or is probably not a virgin not many are anymore sadly to say
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There is nothing wrong or trashy about understanding and coming to terms with our sexuality, and enjoying it. Too often, media has painted young men when 'sowing their wild oats', a term for their sexual exploration with females as a normal thing, something they do before deciding to settle down for life with one female.
On the other hand, the female who has sex with the young man is looked at as being trashy, and if she breaks up with a boyfriend after a while and moves on to a new relationship, just as the males are doing, then she is considered a slut or whore. The name calling is wrong. Also wrong is our misconception of the antiquated word "Virginity". The idea of 'virginity' was a concept created by men for the benefit of men during a time that science had not yet found a way to determine paternity as we can now. In ages past, there was no birth control either. So the only way a man could be certain a woman was not carrying another mans baby when he married her was if she was a virgin. These were the dark ages of sexuality. Erroneously, men believed that if a woman bled on her wedding night, that she was a virgin and those who didn't were not. Not all hymen tear the first time with sex. Its more likely that she bled from the male not taking the time to get her wet and ready for him and forced his way in too quickly, tearing the delicate skin of the walls of the vagina. Those who were virgins who did not bleed were often put to death. You would think society was more educated now, and yes we have birth control and paternity tests because of advances in science, but there have been not enough advances in education. In fact, it has in recent years gone greatly backwards with the cutting of funding in schools so that sex education was cut.
The only thing I see wrong with teens beginning to have sex is engaging in it without any education on it, the mechanics of how a female works, or a male, how orgasms are achieved, in what ways a female can get pregnant. Many teens write in asking if a gal can get pregnant from anal sex and that is a sad indication of total lack of education. If the parents and the schools dont teach it, then it is up to the teen to self educate. There are many sites to find on line to study everything you need to know, even about sexual preference. So my advice is that if you are thinking about it, get educated first cus if you dont, there is an increased chanced of pregnancy, disease, self caused infections, un needed worries, etc....
Here's my story. I was a church kid and believed i must be sexually pure, not having had sex by time I married. So I married at 20, and nothing much other than kissing and some petting, I had no experience with sex. My wedding night was a disappointment, there was no chemistry. I did not enjoy it. I discovered over time that though I loved him, I never had orgasms and he didn't like some things like doing oral sex..etc. my idea of how often to have sex was much more than he was content with. OUr libidos were mismatched, our likes and dislikes mismatched, and no sexual chemistry. After having 3 kids and staying with him 30 yrs. I finally woke up and realized it was time to finally find someone that would be as in love with me as I was with him. The first also admitted months before we split that he'd never been in love with me. I wondered why he f*cking married me at all if that was the case, he wanted to be normal and be part of a couple, the security of the feeling of being married he said. After I left him, I told my 3 daughters that it was best to "test drive" the man before deciding to commit to a long term relationship or marriage. I told them to check out what they wanted first. The only way to know is to have sex with more than just one man so that you have several different experiences to make comparisons between. Trust me, no matter if they got the same equipment, are all cute and all seem to know the basics of how to please a lady...it is still different when one guy does it over another.
One warning, if you want to have a sex partner who stays with you for more than once or twice but over time, I suggest you find someone who is interested in you for more than just your looks and sex. Never let the fact that you need and want sex, lower your standards to accept a guy who uses you or abuses you. The statistics of violence against teen girls from their boyfriends is extremely high. Pretty much every other girl has experienced verbal abuse or physical abuse.
If you want suggestions of websites to go to for a particular subject or question on sex, I'd be glad to help. I will give you one you tube channel of a gal in her 20's who talks to the young folk about anything relating to relationships and sexuality in a positive light. Short video's with amazing accurate facts in them. I love her video's and she is funny and entertaining. I hope you check her out.
www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen
Enjoy your sexual debut but do so wisely. A trip to Planned parenthood for birth control is a good idea and make sure you ask questions and understand how its works and under what conditions it doesnt.
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