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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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I feel very sad the holidays are over. All the decorations are being taken down and my family who were visiting are leaving. Any ways I can make myself feel happier?

Oh dont we all?

Look forward to the next holidays!
Spring, summer, etc. etc.!
Remember, they come back annually.
If they happened everyday, they wouldnt be special would they? Unfortunatley that means they must end.

Its january, so embrace the tradition of the new year! Get a new hobby, a resolution etc. etc. Working on that may make you feel happier.

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22/f
my bf is great,but when it comes to making out he doesnt know how to. i try to take control and guide him but it doesnt seem to work. i dont want to tell him because i dont want to be rude but how can i work on this with him?

Tell him bluntly.

And suggest that you will teach him how.
With practical excersises.
...

...
How can he refuse?

;)

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Thank you for reading and advising!

When I was a child, too young to remember, I hit a golf ball with a hammer and it hit my sister in the tooth.

Now we are both around 40 years old and that tooth developed some problems and requires surgery. I'm not sure how much guilt/financial responsibility I should be feeling. I would appreiate some 3rd party advise. Thanks!

You do not need to worry so much if you are too young to remember!

As long as you did not do it intentionally, I wouldnt worry at all!

Tooth problems can stem from diet, health and all sorts of factors, not necessarily getting hit by a golf ball 30 or so years ago.

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When I was 9, almost 10, I wrote a horror/sci fi story. It was 200+ pages, but not very good. Two years later, I have now decided to start writing again, after a long period of procrastinating and wasting time.

I want to write a horror story, but I need ideas.. What would you want to read about? Any ideas? Also, if you have any tips on writing (especially horror), that would be great too. Note: This would probably be a novel, not just a short story.

Thanks (:

Adding to what dragonfly said~

When it comes to horror the main thing is it has to be scary. It HAS to be interesting and really terrify the reader to be successful.
Learn how to create tension and sudden jumps in your writing. Read horror, learn how to really paint gruesome, scary pictures in the readers mind. If there is gore, we want every single detail to gross us out.
If there is suspense, keep us waiting (but not too long) for the monsters to jump out... or slowly slither around our feet.
Whilst writing, think about whether or not YOU are scared- read ghost stories and scary stories late at night and set your imagination running. Whatever scares you, whatever feeling you get, try to write it down and describe it and why. Dont try to act big- everyone gets scared, and good writing pinpoints those emotions well so people recognise them, and feel and empathise with your characters.

Watch a few horror movies. You may be a little young though...
also, When it comes to horror, everyone is scared by different things. For example, the film "Silence of the Lambs"---I can handle seeing a gutted man being hung up by his neck and intestines, but someone losing an entire fingernail? aaaaah!!!! *shivers*

Try to pick a general theme and stick to it.
Some people are terrified of jumpy ghost stories, and can handle detailed gore when others are the opposite. Some people dont care about things that arent real- they are terrified of "reality" horrors about murders and messed up physcopaths- the idea that it could happen for real.

There are also different genres of horror- physcological is in the depths of the imagination and the mind (e.g. your main character can see things others can't and it scares them) , whereas a thriller will be more of a fantasy, suspenseful adventure (think loads of near death experiences).
If you want to do horror/sci fi, maybe think of a possible future reality that would scare people! Eg a "distopia"

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Hi, I'm female, fifteen, and I've been in band for four years now. When I was younger, I used to be able to fall asleep to music, especially classical, but since I've gained a deeper understanding of what I'm hearing, I can't anymore. I'm tangled up in the sound, picking the music, chords, apart. It's an exciting thing for me. Lots of the time, I'll hear something that totally enthralls me, I get super excited. I tense up, clench and unclench my fists, and take in a really sharp breath, sometimes it's a sharp gasp. And I feel like I can Physically feel the music. It's the most amazing feeling ever. I started trying to figure out what it was and I think It's almost like sexual excitement, but without the "lusty" feeling. What is this and why do I experience this? And, would anyone know if it's normal to hear music you've never heard before in your dreams? Thanks in advance! :D

I dont know about that feeling but my advice is USE IT, it sounds special.
If you are that passionate about music, use it to practice and master it. It'd do you good, and not many people can be that passionate- use it to learn as much and play as much as you can.

Not sure if it is normal, but i like these other people, play an intstument...and I dream music i've never heard before quite often. Waking up is weird becuase everything is too quiet!

Dont worry about these feelings, just go with them- they sound important~
:D
Have fun with music! Its a lifelong skill and you in paticular sound like you could really make something from it.

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I am going on a date to the beach with a girl. I am looking for some suggestions of food to bring since I wont be able to heat it up. Something surprising! She doesn't yet know I am planning a picnic for dinner. Please and thanks!

Hey I'm from the UK and omg picnics are like our thing when the sun comes out annually for ten minutes-- http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/0/22515044
If you scroll down this webpage, on the side by pictures are recipies and "styles" of picnic you could try like meditarianian, "romantic" and middle eastern.

If you want vegetarian healthy and delicious:

Cheese and lettuce and tomato sandwiches (Beautiful ,really)
Tuna mayo sandwich ( ou may like it)
Crisps. (potato chips?)

Cold pasta salad is always a win.

SCONES. SCONES SCONES SCONES. Jam, cream and SCONES. (Google their recipie, they are amazing and simple to make)
Oh and complete with Ice tea. So posh and girly, i know.

As was suggested below, watermelon. Fruit salad. Grapes, tomatos. Actually, a salad in general- you can make some really exotic ones.

Dont forget quiche.
Or pies- apple, etc.

Orange juice, Pimms, or vodka, what the hey.

Stay away from meat unless its cooked ham. Or cold chicken.
And other than tuna mayo, stay away from fish and sea food. Thats dangerous for food poisoning when its not absoulutley fresh.


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I have these marks on my thighs. They're right where my private part is (Tmi, I know haha sorry). There's about 4 on my left thigh and 3 on my right. At first I thought they were stretch marks, but they're red/pink. They're not bruises or cuts, because they don't hurt. When I touch them, I just feel the mark where it's at. What is this? I'm starting to freak out a little bit. That's the only place where these marks are. Also, I'm a female if it matters.

They probably are stretch marks.
But thats alright because girls at your age (including me) can often get them because their thighs and hips are changing rapidly with puberty.

They'll fade away eventually, but there are creams and oils you can buy at the pharmacist to help.

Its fine, really. Girls have bigger thighs and wider hips. Just how it is.
The muscles and fat often gather around there too- girls ussually need strong legs ect for child-bearing and stuff. Its all natures way.

But it means you're getting that curvy woman shape~
So thats a good thing right?

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Hi! I'm 13 and my boobs have developed, I have tits but no nipples. My nipples pop out only sometimes, but not all the time and when they do pop out its usually the left side.

Is this bad!!! Should I see a doctor!! Is this normal!! When will I get nipples!!! Please help!

What do you mean, no nipples?
Why do you want them to pop out? What visible through your shirt?
I guess some people want that... but where I come from people dont!

Also, youre thirteen.
Your boobs are just about developing. If theyre big or small theyve still got awhile to go yet.
They develop a year before your period starts ussually, and according to my sources (mom is a sex ed teacher) they can take about 5 years to fully grow, and for some girls, 10 years! So even if you started puberty as early as 8, you've still got some way to go.
Dont worry, they will probably sort themselves out.
The time to start worrying is if theyre abnormal when theyve supposedly stopped growing. Thats about 17/18.

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I'm 13 and my friend since we were little toddlers, birthday is coming up. All her friends are probably 14 going on 15. I am already not good with making friends and I don't know how to start a conversation. Especially not with older people. What should I do? How should I try to fit in?

It will be fine, I promise you.

They are only a year older than you. Start a conversation about anything! Listen to what theyre saying and contribute with your own opinion/knowledge ect. They might even ask you! Start by noticing something about them if in doubt- like a shirt or jewellery and ask them where they got it. Let the conversation flow, and one of the worst things you can do is fill any silences. Let silence happen. Try not to be uncomfortable with it, as people will sense that and feel uncomfortable too.
Just because they are a year older probably doesnt mean conversation will be any different. Besides, loads of people have older/younger friends. Sometimes 2-3 years older.
No need to try and fit in, just be yourself. They'll like you I'm sure.

And chances are, if you've never met them before, they wont know you're younger than them at all. A year and a few months is nothing :D

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How can i make my girlfriend make sex with me

Could you give us more information?

And some grammar please?

Thankyou
:D

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Yesterday is really registered to me that I like to burn things/ light things on fire. I wasted my entire brand new lighter the other night on burning different things. Something about watching the flames arise and then die out feels good. Not sure if it's calming good or what, but I feel something. I've read up in pyromania and I don't know if that would apply to me or not

Everyone likes to burn things. Sort of-
Call it natural scientific curiosity, or some biological thing where in caveman times a campfire = warmth, civilisation and sometimes light in darkness, and safety causing relief and calming effect.
A lot of teens go through the "pyromaniac" thing where we like to watch stuff burn.
Where I live there were several incidents involving fires in parks and fireworks.
In fact, having been interested in pyromania and physcology I once read somewhere that its difficult to tell between teen/childhood experimentation and full physiological pyromania because they both involve these feelings of calm or gratification. Pyromania is very very rare in girls as well. So you may have nothing to worry about.

What is interesting is you can't pinpoint these feelings.
(There are also pyrophiles which are a little weirder than pyromaniacs)

However if it is causing really strong feelings- and you feel they are getting stronger, as adviceman rightly said, please see a phyciatrist.
It is not exactly a safe hobby and you may end up losing control of the flames and endangering lives.

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15/f I did burn myself a few times on my wrist and they have healed in a red/pink way. I really want to reduce to colour to a white skin coloured scar that isn't as noticeable. I would love some remedies for this and also to reduce the look of cuttin scars.. I need them to appear less bright in a few weeks

I'd say "don't cut" but that's not what your question is about is it?
Well, whatever floats your goat, (yes, goat) you know the risks, you've probably been told.

I cant spell it but "CA- LEN- DU- LA" or marigold
oil is the stuff.

You can get it probably from those witchy- herb shop- inscense places.
I tried it once, its very good for healing scars a little.

Otherwise SUDOCREM

Sudocrem cream just works for most things I swear.

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when is the right time to lose my virginity, im 14 and I know that im young to think about this, but I realy ned an answer. Thanks :) and im male and dont think that im just a horny kid please!

The right time to lose your virginity is when you feel you are ready and prepared, and your partner is too. Some folks lose it at 13, some people wait until college, some only do it just before or after marriage.

Its probably best both you and your CONSENTING partner have worked your way through all the "bases" first so that its not too much of a shock to your system or theirs. Get familiar with each other first at least.

Sex is one thing (and the first time is famous for being awkward, short and embarrassing, But NOT ALL the time)

But theres the emotions and risks that come with it.

Your first time may or may not be with someone you are emotionally attached too. It may be with someone you think you love, who may not think the same way about you-- or vise versa so just be prepared for any girls (or guys, who knows these days) who may give you a little drama afterwards. Or you may feel different about them afterwards and give them drama- who knows! Just be prepared for FEELINGS. And lots of hormones. Remember to be respectful to them. And don't have sex just "to get it out of the way" that's the worst.

My friends dad said once "You are ready when you can walk into a drugstore and not get embarrassed at buying condoms."

Yes, there are risks, don't go around getting people pregnant, especially at your young age ! So make sure you're sensible and think about protection.

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When I laugh i REALLY laugh. Like at lunch a friend cracked a joke and it made me start choking on my food. And if I even remember something funny, I'll burst out laughing. Sometimes at home,I just laugh out of no where. I don't see things, or hear voices (thank God), I just laugh. If my dream is funny, I smile in my sleep, and giggle in my sleep. The weird thing is, though, I make the lamest jokes I don't even understand, which makes other people laugh. Why do I do this?

"Laughter is the best medicine"

No really, it burns calories, releases endorphins and all that other stuff.
Don't believe me? Theres been scientific research- google it.

So its fine, infact, that's a beautiful way to be.
Go on finding the world funny- because its tough out there and a sense of humour will really help you.
Who cares if its normal? Some people would love to laugh but cant due to all the shit they go through. Its like you have a superpower~

Aaaaccccceeee!

Have a nice day~

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Hello, I am female and 19. I've been talking to this guy I met at college. We started texting on move out day and we haven't really stopped since. He has no problem wearing his heart on his sleeve whereas I'm very introverted and have a hard time with "feelings." We argue a lot and that sucks a lot because we both get kind of pissed off pretty easy but I think that factors into us knowing each other so well that it just kinda happens.
Anyway, I have a lot of guy friends and I talk to him about them quite a bit but they are all only friends and I can promise that's all they ever will be. Well, he gets jealous of me talking about them because he thinks I'm going to hang out with them so much and forget about him. I talked to him about this numerous times that they're only friends and I don't hook up with them and all of that stuff. Whereas, he talks about this girl that's now his best friend but he used to like her a lot and, honestly, I get pretty jealous when he talks about her because I know how much he used to care about her and I told him that and he completely overlooked it. I believe he actually told me "i think you're making it a way bigger deal than it is. She's so cute but she isn't who I like right now." So, that pissed me off. Then today, we were talking about people from school and who we miss and everything and he told me he thought there were a lot of cute girls living in our building so I became very despondent in that conversation which lead him to name all of the cute girls in our building. He put me first in the list, obviously, but it just pisses me off a little when he does that because I am trying so hard to not talk about my guy friends as much to him anymore because I know he doesn't like it but he talks about all these girls to me all the time even after I told him that I'm not the biggest fan of that. What do I do?

To be honest, the fact that he is talking to you about other girls is kinda good.
He trusts you- he's telling you quite personal things.
And would you rather not know, what with your jealousy? Are you having a thing with this guy? I mean, youre not going out are you? So... maybe the jealousy of each other is a sign you should be...?
But otherwise, cool it! Both of you!
You'll always be friends- its possible to have more than one girl/guy friend.

Just tell him you don't like it.
Just, grow the balls, talk about the feelings.
If you're really friends he should be okay with it.

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i have been confused about what i should be, i am a female that is more comfortable dressing in male clothes, i act more masculine then i do feminine however i do have certain female traits that keeping coming out (maternal - from when i was a step mum). i have been reading up and considering going through with a sex change operation. the only thing that is holding me back is i want kids and want to be able to conceive naturally.

I think...personally, that you should not go through with the operation.

If you want kids, do not do it.
You can be perfectly happy dressing in male clothes- men dress as women, so why cant women dress as men? Coco Chanel did it. Probably for different reasons than you, but still!

Its fine. Do not leap into anything. If you want kids and want to get pregnant that is a sign if anything that you are still somewhat a woman inside.

Its okay to be individual- maybe youre classed as "gender fluid".

Don't place yourself in a definite box. And do not undergo s lifechanging operation if you have doubts- you may regret it.

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Can anyone help me find a truly EPIC dog costume for halloween? Now before anyone says it, YES I am WAY early! LOL! I want to see what is out there and if I can, I want to make my own since we have three dogs and this year it has already been decided that the family halloween party is going to be held at our house! Still think I am planing too early? ;) Thanks for any ideas you might have!

EBAY EBAY EBAY

Look on ebay! You can get little outfits of dinosaurs and whales and bunny rabbits and PYJAMAS!

If not, what are your dogs like?
What are their personalities?

Like, what would their jobs be if they were human? Would one of them be a police officer?
It'd be quite funny if one of your dogs has a well known personality and you dress him up just right.

Welp...that's my ideas anyway :D
Have fun!

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My parents have left me in charge at home while they are away of my sister 15 and brother 12.
Yesterday I caught my sister wearing a bikini(sliding triangle top and small side tying bottoms)that she is not supposed to have and taking SELFIES of herself in it, that she was going to send to the guy that bought the bikini for her that is nearly as old as me.

What do I do
1. Give her the bikini back, pretend I know nothing about it and possibly land myself in trouble if my parents find out about the bikini.
2. Keep the bikini give it to my parents on their return and tell them about the SELFIES and the guy, my sister will be in big trouble.
3. Give my sister a chance but insist the bikini is destroyed as part of the deal.

I personally think number 1.

You shouldn't purposely get your sister in trouble. I think its nice you're worried she'll experience something bad from sending bikini selfies to a guy, but if she does, its her problem, not yours (unless she asks for help) and she'll have learnt the lesson.

No need to destroy a perfectly good bikini- she may want to just go buy another for summer anyway.

If you get in trouble for not telling on her, tell them you didn't want to interfere with what is HER business, she's 15! Its a coming of age thing nowadays (though it shouldn't be) She's going to learn that boys will not respect a girl who easily sends pictures. She'll learn. Talk to her, but not the parents You'd better be thankful she had the bikini on! I know girls younger than her who've done worse.

So, tell her you know, warn her, but don't tell on her. You shouldn't be getting in trouble for not saying anything.
Give her a chance...but whats destroying the bikini going to do, really? Not much.

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So what can it possibly mean that my ex keeps checking each and every snapchat story update I have?

1) Theyre just wanting to see how you're getting on.

2) They check everyones story, youre no exception, just to get rid of the notifications.

Please, don't read too much into this, and get hopeful/worried.
I wouldn't say it means anything.

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Alrighty so I'm a junior (17 and a girl) in high school and I previously attended another high school for about 2 and a half years, but recently transferred into this new school. I've been in the school for about 4 months or so and haven't gotten too involved into social circles because I'm a pretty shy person... So, here comes the problem, I have this huge crush on a guy in one of my classes. I don't know too much about him, but from what I've seen he seems like a very laid-back, funny person. I noticed that we make frequent eye contact multiple times throughout the class. I try smiling at him to leave a good impression, but he usually gets flustered and walks away. Occasionally we make off-handed good-humored comments about each other (to each other) and I always find that we usually end up very close together even if we don't talk. We always end up paired up, using each other's equipment, or just general situations where we get stuck together. Now, I'm a bit helpless because I really like him but I don't have the confidence to actually start up conversations. I also have two friends (who are guys) who I'm very friendly with (physically- hugging, etc) in the class as well and I've noticed my crush always looks upset when I'm with them. What should I do?

Gooooo for it!

It seems theres nothing wrong and he's willing to talk to you and there are signs he likes you by the sound of it sooo
GET HIS NUMBER
if you can't do that add him on facebook, twitter or whatever and TALK. Just... strike up a conversation. Open ended questions about his life etc.

Don't forget to flirt a bit and tease him etc.
Subtle signs to let him know you're interested- touchy feely giggly girls BUT not stupid head over heels. Play it cool.
When the time is right, you can ask him out to town or something.
If he doesn't accept you first time don't get upset because that's not attractive.
Act aloof, not desperate. Don't let him think youre waiting for him etc etc.

You can google all these things that cosmo and seventeen will tell you but quite frankly I say GO FOR IT.

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