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When is the right time to lose my virginity?
when is the right time to lose my virginity, im 14 and I know that im young to think about this, but I realy ned an answer. Thanks :) and im male and dont think that im just a horny kid please!
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I will say when you married. that is the best time
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Well I don't know if youre the religious type or not, but for me I want to wait until I am married. thats when, not for all people, but thats when you have made a commitment to love and cherish someone for the rest of your life and thats when it would probably a good time to lose your virginity. Its probably the sweetest time too because the sex would be so much better because you waited for the right person, the one you love and who loves you. Sex shouldnt just be a physical thing, but connected your body and soul to someone elses and it feeling just right. Maybe thats just me though, old fashioned, although I'm only a 16 year old girl. I guess you dont have to wait till marriage because it seems that no one else does, but who gives a fuck what everyone else does, right? Doing it out of lust and just fulfilling a sexual need can come with some pain..the girl could get hurt cause they thought it was real, you become addicted to fulfilling that sexual need and that could take over your life..and well when youre in love and the love is real and true and youre committed...I think thats the ideal time. but you do you I guess. Anyway hope this helped!
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No I do not think you are just a horny teenager. The question you asked is actually a very good question. Unfortunately there is no one perfect answer as each of us are different and have different values.
There are as many reasons to have sex as there is not to have sex. I am not going to be a hypocrite and tell you that you must wait until you are married to have sex. Most adults, about 90% go to their wedding bed non-virgins. What differs is just when they had their first sexual experience.
Some boys will tell you that you are not a man until you have sex. This is not true, sex does not make you a man. When you become a man differs from culture to culture; religion to religion. In old Indian culture you became a man when you killed your first Buffalo. This could happen long before you could get an erection.
The best answer is you will know when the time is right and it will be with the right girl. It should not be just because your friends say they did the dirty deed; for most of them will be lying.
I will tell you this though. The older you are, the longer you wait the more satisfying it will be. The younger you are the more you will do so just to get it done and it will not be as good as when you masturbate.
This probably not the answer you are looking for but it is the truth. There is no one day on the calendar that any one can point to and say this is the day you will lose your virginity. It should just happen without any beginning or coercion of the girl on your part. When it does happen make sure you have a condom ready so as not to get the girl pregnant.
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Honestly? No two people are the same with this.
Most people on here will tell you 'When you're ready'. But what does this mean?
it means that you feel old enough to take responsibility for your actions. Ready to cope with the emotional aspect of it e.g. 'becoming a man' or reaching a whole new level of maturity.
There's no time you 'should' lose it-but I'd say typical these days is 15-18. Don't worry though there's no pressure to do so!
People may also tell you it should be done with someone you care about and you trust etc etc. To be honest, this is abit unrealistic. Because when you get old enough to go clubbing and drink and things-you'll see sex is everywhere. The first time I went to a club? Lost it.
Your first time isn't such the big emotional barrier as most people make it out to be. In my (and other people's) experience its just like. Right I did it. Could've been better. Now time to catch up with Netflix. Not such a big deal.
So the best advice I can give you is actually to make sure you're legal (always best) and to make sure you feel totally comfortable in yourself about it. (e.g: not being forced)
Don't worry too much about the 'right' person or the 'right' place. Just get out there and have fun. Life's too short to have regrets anyways!
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The right time to lose your virginity is when you feel you are ready and prepared, and your partner is too. Some folks lose it at 13, some people wait until college, some only do it just before or after marriage.
Its probably best both you and your CONSENTING partner have worked your way through all the "bases" first so that its not too much of a shock to your system or theirs. Get familiar with each other first at least.
Sex is one thing (and the first time is famous for being awkward, short and embarrassing, But NOT ALL the time)
But theres the emotions and risks that come with it.
Your first time may or may not be with someone you are emotionally attached too. It may be with someone you think you love, who may not think the same way about you-- or vise versa so just be prepared for any girls (or guys, who knows these days) who may give you a little drama afterwards. Or you may feel different about them afterwards and give them drama- who knows! Just be prepared for FEELINGS. And lots of hormones. Remember to be respectful to them. And don't have sex just "to get it out of the way" that's the worst.
My friends dad said once "You are ready when you can walk into a drugstore and not get embarrassed at buying condoms."
Yes, there are risks, don't go around getting people pregnant, especially at your young age ! So make sure you're sensible and think about protection.
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