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My alcoholic mother neglected my education from age 5 by "unschooling" me (it's code for lazy parents who are too prideful to admit their failure in homeschooling) I'm going to be 18 next year and I've never been so depressed and hopeless.
I tried to motivate myself to catch up academically years ago, but it just made me too upset to even open a text book.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have no future. (link)
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First off, theres always hope! Many uneducated people have done magnificent things in their lives. There are many ways you can informally educate yourself. Such as reading a variety of books, fiction non fiction. Watching history, science or any educational shows. Theres a billion ways to learn that do not require going to school and you can be just as or even more knowlegable s those who go to school. As for formal education you can try getting your GED! And from there you can pursue a college degree, taking remedial classes or getting a tutor if you need extra help. There are people who go to college years after being in hs who have forgotten or havent even learned half the stuff in high school thats in college. But they are still able to learn and complete their degrees and go on to do great things and get good jobs. Also maybe you have a passion youve been considering. Such as writing, photography, or anything that might not necessarily require a formal education. You could teach yourself the basics and practice practice practice until you get better. And then you can go and get yourself out there selling books or taking pictures or whatever it might be. Dont be hopeless. Life is full of possibilities and anything is possible. You can do anything, dont let your unschooling hold you back. I hope this helps and if you need anything ill be here! Good luck!
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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That is a tough one, and I'm very sorry you have to go through that. Well first off, you need major communication with your boyfriend. You need to let him know that this is what you're going through and that you do not know how to explain what's going on with you and sometimes you really need your space. And that you really need him there to support you through the tough times because none of this is going to be easy and you both need to work with one another to understand and fulfill one another's needs. You tell him what you need from him, and then you listen to what he needs from you and talk it out so that you both ca give the reassurance, attention, understanding, etc that each of you needs. If he does not want to work things out, or if you dont want to work things out, then maybe you should just end it. You are going through something very difficult and you need to help take care of yourself and you need someone who will support you and love you through all your difficulties and bad moments. If you feel this new guy can give you the support you need while youre going through all this and you are starting to get feelings for him, then you either need to break up with your boyfriend or stop talking to this new guy. Either you and your boyfriend step up and try to work something out or you make the decision to leave and move on if you are having feelings for someone else. It would not be right to date someone youre not even sure you want to be with and then like someone else on top of that. And if you decide to leave your boyfriend and want to be with this new guy, take it slow. Get to know him really well, tell him what youre going through. Make sure he can understand and support you and that you can do the same for him. Depression is difficult and someone youre in a relationship might be willing to take a lot for you, but you have to also make the effort to fulfill their needs and help explain what youre going through and why you act the way you do sometimes. If they do not know they could just think youre being cold and mean and that you dont care about them. But you have to help reassure them that its not that, its your depression and youre going through a really difficult time. And above all, before getting into any serious relationship, make sure its something you want. And make sure that youre taking care of yourself first because you need all the love, support and help you can get from yourself and do not allow yourself to go into or stay in any relationships that do not help you and your wellbeing. Do not be with someone who cannot understand you or is not willing to try to and with someone who will only make you feel even shittier. I hope this helped! If you need anymore help or for me to maybe make what im saying more clear cause I probably just went all over the place then im just a message away! Good luck!
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Well if he is the one for you, your soulmate, then love will always find a way. Maybe this was not supposed to work out so that you could meet who is really your soulmate. But you said you want to get your life back together before being in a serious relationship. Maybe you have to do that before you are able to be with the one you are meant to be with. I say that you focus on you. You get your life together, you grow and build yourself for you, you love and learn and do all the things you want to do. And you apologize to him, you tell him what you were thinking and how you need someone and that you just made the wrong decision but you never meant to hurt him. And then if its too hard to be friends with him, maybe you should cut him off for a bit. How I see it is that if you break up with someone with no intention of getting back together and it still hurts like hell to see them and have them around, then you have to distance yourself from them for a bit so that you can get over them and not feel so negative and down about them. I really hope this helped! I'm so sorry if its all over the place! Good luck!
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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Well okay, how are you feeling?
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Ive done all those things too and I have been told that I am still a virgin. So yeah I think so. You're good! Lol
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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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Honestly someone is going to love you no matter what and as long as you treat the Herpes as it needs to be treated and inform your partner of what you have, then I know one day someone will accept you for who you are and what you have and will work through this with you and this will not stop them. Just in the future be careful to who you come into close contact with and make sure both you get tested beforehand! Youre beautiful, lives beautiful, youre so much more than this and you will get through this. Best of luck!
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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Well this is fabulous! I'm so excited about this question because not many people have that want to be a better Christian or to help others. This is great, I think you are already on the right track and you are so young to and have so much time to do great things and help many people. Okay so first off, you should read the Bible and pray often. Pray for guidance and understanding of what you are reading and what you are supposed to do. Surround yourself with positive people, things, thoughts, quotes, etc. Take yourself away from situations where you might not make the best decisions like partying, drinking, having sex, etc. These things can take away from focusing on what you really need to be doing. And as for what you should do, dont be nervous about it. Pray and ask God about how to fulfill His Will and to have the wisdom and guidance you need in order to do so. God will take you places and to people when you least expect it and youll be lead to them to help them and for them to help you and grow. And God will give you all the right words and will lead you to do all you need to do. You could start sharing what you know with others and help each other learn and grow through your faith. Not everyone will agree with your beliefs tho and you might get resistance but you could also open someone elses eyes to the great things He has done and that would be amazing. You could start bringing it up to friends or family asking what their beliefs are and if they were ever interested in being Christian or being a better Christian. And you could go from there. Or bring up all the great things He has done in your life and someone could be interested in it..but if someone disagrees with you theres not point in fighting about it or trying to force it on them..trust me.but yeah I hope that helped. Theres so much more I could say though ah. If you ever need more help or want to talk about your faith and spirituality then im deff will be here to help or talk. Im a 17/f and a Christian and im trying to grow in my faith as well and better myself and I think what youre doing is great and yeah good luck!
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Wow that is a whole lot for a 10 year old to go through but listen..you are ONLY 10 years old. And I'm not saying that to belittle your problems in any way, but to make you realize that you still have the whole rest of your life to look forward to. I know being in school and having all these things going on can be rough but it will NOT last forever. When I was in middle school I had these 7 close friends who I thought I would be best friends with forever. Well in 8th grade things changed and it felt like they all hated me, I felt like I was not a part of the group anymore and it was very lonely and upsetting. I even found out that they once all went to a party, that they didnt invite me to, and would talk badly about me saying that im annoying, etc etc. And also I was still recovering from a breakup when I was in 7th grade with this guy that I absolutely loved..or so I thought at least. It was a very dark year for me and dark years were still yet to come for me. But you know what? Having those experiences were actually a blessing in disguise. I was able to find out who my true friends were and were able to get rid of the people who werent good/ or meant to be in my life. I never thought id have friends or be liked after that experience but the next year in my freshman year in hs I made some great relationships, had a lot of fun, and am still friends with one of them in my senior year of hs. Things do and WILL get better. Life is one big rollercoaster and youll feel lost and hurt and alone but you have to remember you are beautiful and are love and loved and that everything will be okay in the end. There was a reason all this happened and maybe it is because you need a new start and sometime to yourself to figure things out. Maybe you and your friends will make up and theyll come around again or youll end up making new friends who are going to be even better than the old ones, but in the meantime you need to focus on yourself and your grades. Don't give up on success in your future because things are not so good right now, you have so much potential and you should go out there and shine and work hard because one day all this will pass and youll need to be ready and prepared for all the great things ahead right? As for breaking up with your bf, I know that is hard but you will definetely find someone else one day and they will love you more than anything, but you dont need to be focusing on boys right now because most of them are immature and stupid at this age anyway haha. And if youre cutting and having suicidal thoughts then you should definetely go to a trusted adult either in your family or at your school. And PLEASE feel free to come to me if you EVER need to talk. No one should feel like the way you do. And I wish you all the best, hope this helped!
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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I think you need to have a long talk with your boyfriend and confess to him before things start to become really serious. You cannot have him move in with you and then break it to him. If he wants to leave after you tell him, then he has the right to do so, don't try to trap him. If he really loves you then maybe he will try to understand and realize that you really regret what youve done and you will not do it again. But make sure you explain that to him and give him time to be able to deal with his feelings. He deserves the right to know and if things do not work out then they were not meant to anyway. Youre still young and you have your whole life ahead of you, do not tie down to one person right away because there are so many things you both do not know about yourselves and you are both still growing and learning and what you love about each other now might change in the future. So tell him and just go from there. You will be alright. Good luck!
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Woah hun. You are waaayyy to young for sex. It might be fun and all but thats not how you want to start out. First of all youll probably create a really bad reputation for yourself and guys will only want you for one thing and theyll just see you as a piece of meat. You are way more than that and there are way more important things you can do other than sex. Like be a freaken nine year old! Play tag or other fun games. Maybe you should read the Bible and get some morals in your life yo. Cause sex is for people who are in love with one another and are committed to each other for life. It is supposed to be a beautiful experience, fully connecting with another person. Not just doing it for the sake of doing it. You have plenty of time for that kindof stuff when youre older. Please dont rush, you could get diseases or get pregnant and that will make things extremely more difficult for you for the rest of your life. Focus on your school work and having good, wholesome fun with your friends. Dont try to grow up too fast, okay? I mean im 17 and I still consider myself too young for sex because im not ready yet. One day you will find someone you absolutely love and will want to spend the rest of your life with and youll want your first time to be with them and it will be special. So wait for that okay? Hope I helped, good luck!
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hey, am an 18 years old highschool senior girl, am not confortable with the way i look i mean i know am not ugly and many people told me am beautiful as well but thats not the issue am worried about i am very slim girl. and all my friends are all bigger and curvier than me, they always makes fun of me well they don't mean it in a bad way its just a joke to zem, but it makes me feel bad about my self and the boys as well see me as some skinny girl, so they don't respect me as a girl and i have seen many boys after my friends but not after me ; well i searched on the internet and i found out i need to work out, build muscle,but thats not what i want i don't want to be muscley girl i just want to weight normal, and look normal am just tired of being called the thin and baby face girl always,even 14 years old cousin looks bigger than me i don't really know what to do about it p/s i need help/advice!! (link)
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I am 17 and have always been skinny and people think I look younger than I am as well...but it doesnt matter what they think..learn to laugh at yourself. I always joke about how I have no boobs and whenever they say stuff like oh its so hard to run with my boobs and blahblah im like..yeahhh me too uhh lol. Just laugh it off..someone will love you for who you are and not just what youre body looks like..all those guys getting with your friends who have boobs and curves..are getting with them just because of that..you have an advantage cause you know if someone falls for you it will be for you and not what your body looks like...and if you want to gain more and look fuller you can still work out and eat more and you wont necessarily look all big and muscley..anyway I hope this helped! good luck!
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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Oh I just want to hug you! I know exactly how you are feeling..listen, its going to be really very hard for sometime..but you WILL move on, and you WILL find someone else who will treat you right. Don't think about that loser, he didnt respect or deserve you and dont EVER think you deserved any of that crap he did to you. and dont EVER sacrifice your standards and morals for anyone. What I learned from watching Steve Harvey is that YOU are the prize, guys will chase after you and there will be one who will respect you and accept you and love you for who you are and you are going to have to make them work for it and NEVER settle for anything less than that. You need remove that loser from your life. Get rid of him on fb, your phone, delete things he's sent to you, get rid of things he gave to you if he ever did at all. Don't let him see how much pain he's caused cause unfortunately, he probably doesnt care. But that doesnt mean there will never be someone who cares. There will be and dont beat yourself for letting someone treat you like this..this was a great lesson for you to learn how you dont want to be treated and how you dont want to feel again. Please believe you are so much more than how he treated you and that hes just a loser, he doesnt deserve all you did for him. You seem like a beautiful person for being willing to do all those things for someone you love. You deserve someone who will do all those things for you too. But if someone isnt being honest and loyal and loving you like you should be loved then dont sacrifice everything for them, dont waste your time. In this time being away from him, surround yourself with inspiration and loving friends and family, focus on being yourself and doing what your heart desires and what you want to accomplish in life. and when you least expect it someone amazing will come along and treat you like youve never been treated before. and if you believe in religion and spirituality focus on that too. Forget that loser, youre beautiful and deserve only the best. I hope that helped! Good luck! I'll pray for you tonight !
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You answered my question about making a job change recently. After initially accepting the offer, I recanted and turned it down. Later that day the HR Manager left me a voicemail stating management really liked me and wanted to sweeten the offer. I called this morning. Instead of making an offer, she asked me what it would take to get me to come. I gave her a number that was 6% more than what Iwas offered, but still well within the stated salary range. She later sent an email saying she gave the proposal to management and that they were going to pursue other candidates. They didn't even make a counter offer, and said they really didn't think I wanted the job. I thought it was bizarre. (link)
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Maybe you werent supposed to take that job and are to find something else thatll make you happier...everything happens for a reason
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Ok. I'm 13 and have thought of suicide before but that was before I found God. I want to help other kids that have felt the way I used to everyday. I am going on a week long mission trip in the nearest town but still people all over the world try/commit/think about suicide. It's hard to love God (which is the only thing that keeps me sane) in my house bc my mom isnt a believer and my brothers are too young to know Him and my older sister only pretends to love The Lord. No one but one person knows that I wanted to die. It hurts me to know that people dont know God and want to end their lives. I want to help the world but I live in a small town with a pop of 600 people and it makes me feel powerless. Sorry for it being so long and if anyone has any ideas please tell me. I want so badly to help. (link)
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You sound like a truly beautiful person for wanting to do this and loving God:) I think maybe one thing you could do is share your story with others. How you used to feel and how you found God and how despite your family isnt into it that youre still able to be okay and arent suicidal anymore..that if you can do it having gone through all youve gone through, then anyone can. When you get older you can become a therapist and help people with your problems or maybe you can work for a suicide hotline to help sooth people into not committing suicide. You dont have to save the entire world, you could help save one life and thatd mean the world to them. Help your friends, help those kids at school who seem to have no one..be a friend to them, and those who are suicidal.. even the people who youve least expected it from can be suicidal so just be kind to everyone. Give people hope, give compliments, offer to be there for someone. Those are small things but could really mean everything to someone. Share with people the greatness of finding God and how they can too.. you cant force people to help themselves, but you can help them help themselves while letting them know youll be there along the way.. I think this is a very beautiful thing that youre trying to do by helping others and I believe youll do great things. I hope this helped, good luck!
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when is the right time to lose my virginity, im 14 and I know that im young to think about this, but I realy ned an answer. Thanks :) and im male and dont think that im just a horny kid please! (link)
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Well I don't know if youre the religious type or not, but for me I want to wait until I am married. thats when, not for all people, but thats when you have made a commitment to love and cherish someone for the rest of your life and thats when it would probably a good time to lose your virginity. Its probably the sweetest time too because the sex would be so much better because you waited for the right person, the one you love and who loves you. Sex shouldnt just be a physical thing, but connected your body and soul to someone elses and it feeling just right. Maybe thats just me though, old fashioned, although I'm only a 16 year old girl. I guess you dont have to wait till marriage because it seems that no one else does, but who gives a fuck what everyone else does, right? Doing it out of lust and just fulfilling a sexual need can come with some pain..the girl could get hurt cause they thought it was real, you become addicted to fulfilling that sexual need and that could take over your life..and well when youre in love and the love is real and true and youre committed...I think thats the ideal time. but you do you I guess. Anyway hope this helped!
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Everytime me and my boyfriend be making out , he fingers me & it hurts .. He did it twice and each time hurts . I don't know if maybe I'm tensing up or something . But it really hurts . And I don't know why . (link)
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Your hymen probably didnt break yet..itll be painful for a while but the more he pushes in, the sooner he'll probably end up breaking your hymen and then it wont feel painful after that. But be careful cause sometimes when your hymen breaks, theres a lot of blood..its normal, but just make sure you do it somewhere where you can clean it up easily and then have pads to wear for afterwards so you dont leak in your pants. Good luck!
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hey, am just a girl and am confused,
i hate my family for some reasons,
which is in my family they are so
protective, am from a big family
like i live with my dad, my mom
passed away 6 years ago but really i
can say i live in two house one
where my dad is there, and the
next one is where my grandma,
aunt live. and i have a sister which
is in college who everybody loves,
don't get me wrong i love her
too ,but the problem is when she
come everyone acts like i don't
exist anymore especially my aunt
she always makes me feel bad
about my self when she comes she
forgets me. am uncomfertable
around her, she ignores me even
when i say hi like am the adapted
child or something,i hate her for
that, oh... she see her like a
dimond, care for her but when it
comes to me she is just like do that,
and do this she doesn't even care if
am sick, am so tired of this, its so
stupid am a highschool senior and i
don't think that i deserve this and
the other thing is i don' t have
confidence with my self with my
looks evenso everybody says am
beautiful beacuse everybody sees
me as little for the reason that i am
thin, and have a baby face, i don't
have great hair or my hand is rough
everything about me i hate. and she
have everything that i don't have
and my aunt always tell her she is
beautiful but she never tell me that
i am, so thats not hard to guess how
i feel anyway i don't know how to
feel anymore so please help!!! (link)
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I'm sorry that your family does that to you, thats not right at all. Sometimes family can be disapointing, but that doesnt mean it has to make you feel like shit about yourself. Everyone has beauty, you just need to find yours. It doesnt mean having to be physically attractive or the smartest or wahetever, you just have to be the best you. Be kind and have a loving heart, try to help those in need.. even if its just making someone smile or smiling at a stranger to make themselves feel good. That is beautiful. Try to find your passion, what you want to do in life and focus on that, try a bunch of things to see what you like and dont like ajd what you do like use it as a healthy way to keep yourself productive and try to get better at it.. everyone has a purpose and is important in life, your sister and everyone else are not better or worse than you. And if you dont feel good about your looks, try changing it or trying a new style to help you gain confidence. And yeah dont let your family get to you, find true friends who will believe in you and make you feel good about yourself and do your own thing. Itll be alright. I hope this helped, good luck!
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I am so confused. I dont know what to do anymore. I am depressed all the time. To the point where all I want to do is cry and at times it takes all I have not to. I feel so alone. I have been married for 8 years but we never talk and lately he and I have been sleeping in separate rooms. We dont even argue we just dont talk. I know I am not happy anymore and I havent been for a long time. But we have children together and this is the only serious relationship I have ever had. To top it all he is controlling so I have never had a job and I dont know if I can support myself or my kids without him. I dont want to be miserable forever but I am terrified of life without him. I dont know how to survive without him. And I have absolutly no friends not a single one because my high school friends and I have drifted apart and I am not allowed out to have any. And I have no family I grew up in foster homes. So without him I am completely alone. I have no one to turn to. No one to stay with til I get on my feet. Am I being selfish by wanting a life of my own. What do I do? Where do I go from here? (link)
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You shouldnt have to feel like you need to depend on this man. This is your life..I understand the complications with having kids and that would be hard to deal with if you and your husband were seperated..but this relationship seems very unhealthy. Dont let him control you. If hes abusive or youre afraid of him hurting you or your kids then you need to get help. I'm sure there are support groups and help for women trying to get out of abusive relationships. But if your life is not endanger then you need to stop letting him run things and take charge of your life. Get yourself together, get a job. Go and try to make a steady living, maybe try and even move out when youre financially stable enough to. Being in this relationship isnt making you any less alone, this is just preventing you from going out and finding new people and finding someone who is good for you, who will talk to and love you and who wont control you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and you do not deserve this and remember that no one else should have control over your life. Do whats best for you and your kids. Children growing up in this environment of their mother being miserable and restrained cant be good for them either. Divorce is hard but a tense, unhappy home is even harder. Be strong and get out there. You could also try religion and getting in touch with yourself and your inner voice and spirtuality. It will make you realize youre never alone and God ls always with you..even if you believe or not, its true. And yeahI hope this helped and I wish you the best of luck!
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I live in an apartment complex, and the apartment above mine decided to overload their washer, causing massive leaking from my ceiling. I have come to notice than when my one year old son and I are home, we are very congested, but when we leave, within minutes, our noses are clear and we can breath just fine again. I have spoken to the maintenance man about the possibility of their being mold, but EVERY time I bring this up "Oh you don't know what mold looks like. It ain't mold" I had lived in an apartment before this one, where there was NO ventilation system installed in the restroom, and yes, I dealt with black mold before. I know what it looks like, and what effects it has on me. I was mostly wondering, what organization would I get a hold of to hopefully get this situation properly taken care of? I am worried about my sons health, and speaking with the buildings management seems to do me no good. I can't move out because I can't afford to break the lease and to find a new place to live on my salary. Any and all help is greatly appreciated. For easier references, I live in the state of Indiana, and my apartment is supposedly owned by the IRS, so they say. Thank you for your time. (link)
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Oh my gosh im so sorry you have to go through that. Im not much of an expert on this stuff but you can try looking up mold removal services in your area. I just tried to, I got this number 877-877-9744. You can try that, im sorry im not that much help. But good luck,i live in an apartment complex too and its so much aggravation living here so ik what youre going through, im really sorry. And i hope your son feels better soon!
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Hi! I wanted to thank you for helping me with ideas for my story (the one about Estelle and Irisa). It really helped a lot. :) I hope you can read it too!
Thanks again for your help. :) (link)
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Oh sure no problem:) and I'd love to read it:) just send it to edwardsluv4@gmail.com .. ik thats a stupid name but whatever man I was like 11 when I made that don't judge lol. xD
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