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what can i do?
hey, am an 18 years old highschool senior girl, am not confortable with the way i look i mean i know am not ugly and many people told me am beautiful as well but thats not the issue am worried about i am very slim girl. and all my friends are all bigger and curvier than me, they always makes fun of me well they don't mean it in a bad way its just a joke to zem, but it makes me feel bad about my self and the boys as well see me as some skinny girl, so they don't respect me as a girl and i have seen many boys after my friends but not after me ; well i searched on the internet and i found out i need to work out, build muscle,but thats not what i want i don't want to be muscley girl i just want to weight normal, and look normal am just tired of being called the thin and baby face girl always,even 14 years old cousin looks bigger than me i don't really know what to do about it p/s i need help/advice!!
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I am 17 and have always been skinny and people think I look younger than I am as well...but it doesnt matter what they think..learn to laugh at yourself. I always joke about how I have no boobs and whenever they say stuff like oh its so hard to run with my boobs and blahblah im like..yeahhh me too uhh lol. Just laugh it off..someone will love you for who you are and not just what youre body looks like..all those guys getting with your friends who have boobs and curves..are getting with them just because of that..you have an advantage cause you know if someone falls for you it will be for you and not what your body looks like...and if you want to gain more and look fuller you can still work out and eat more and you wont necessarily look all big and muscley..anyway I hope this helped! good luck!
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It all comes down to personal taste in people. A few have no preferance at all in looks and will have interest in a person no matter if slim all the way to overweight. But for the most part, every one eventually discovers they have a personal interest. Young males tend to go with where their hormones lead them and even more so by what media pushes at them as what the perfect female is. Girls have more solid ideas of what they find attractive in a guys looks long before guys have figured it out. They're still in the learning curve here as far as dating and relationships go. Eventually they will figure it out as they get older. As time goes on and guys mature, you'll find there are even more guys that like slim willowy girls better than curvy ones. I'm slim and petite. Been so all my life.
Having a baby face at 18 may sound terrible to you but in looking back at portraits, I had a baby face still at age 2O. It wasn't until photos or being nearly 30 that I came into my fully mature female look. Many change and continue to grow in subtle ways over the years so what your face looks like now may change. the same for the body. After having kids a females hips can be a bit wider or lots wider. Many put on weight that they keep after kids. Breasts can grow and shrink in size during your lifetime. Many women end up with large chests if breast feeding, and some find theirs go back to before size or as in my case, even smaller than before kids. And it took a good amount of years for my natural size to come back. It isn't until now in menopause that I have been able to keep on some extra weight and I now have just about the size of chest I had when breast feeding. I have a site for you to look at of photos of what are natural breasts. Photos submited of just chest, no faces with the girls telling a brief bit about themselves. Most are your age group up to nursing ages and the girls with even a flat chest have stories to share of their guy devoted to them and loving their body just as it is because they also love the girl inside the body. Here it is and its a good boost for self confidence no matter your chest size.
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I agree. You are perfect the way you are. There is always someone who you think is more attractive than you and (trust me on this) always someone who thinks your more attractive than them. Being slim is definitely nothing to be ashamed of! There are so many girls out there who would kill to look like you.
Everybody has their own image of a perfect body. So some guys might be more into curvy girls. But there are A LOT OF guys out there who are into slim girls. But what it comes down to in the end is how you see yourself. Nothing makes you more attractive than believing and knowing that you are attractive.
Next time your out with your friends, forget about your insecurities and concentrate on what's going on around you. I'm sure you'll notice that there are many guys out there that are attracted to you!
Feel free to send me a private email if you want (sex_n_candy@outlook.com)
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Your friends get an ''F'' for joking about you! Tsk tsk! They need a time out!
Sweetheart,confidence goes a long long way!
The important thing,is that you dont pretend to be someone you are not.Never change yourself for anyone.Only make changes for you!!
No,stay away from muscles! Who wants to be a lumpy mattress?? Not I said the cat!
Eating healthy,eating lots of greens and drinking plenty of water will be great for your health
Excersise at least an hour day.Start slowly like a 20 minute walk at first,then gradually build up higher.
Also,check out Seventeen magazines or Seventeen.com for excersises that you can do,and also how to be fit and healthy!!
Every body is different,we are all created differently.Every metabolism is different also
Your body as you grow older will make some changes,and these are perfectly normal
You can get clothes that maybe accentuate your figure,you could wear belts really nice,pencil skirts,skinny jeans with boots,or a mini skirt with knee high boots. Youre skinny,so you can pull off anything!!
Also,trendy scarves,and cute socks too! Shop at thrift stores,and get clothes that compliment your figure!!!
Thanks doll for writing!! Be blessed!
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Honey, the way you look is perfect. Don't let anyone tell you it isn't. Hardly anyone likes the way they look, some think they are too big, or too pale, or too tall. Maybe your friends tease you because secretly they wish they looked like you. I know I wish I was slim. Just be yourself, be who you want to be. A guy will come along, trust me. :)
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