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I'm in love with Neil Patrick Harris.
So I'm a twelve year old girl and I'm literally in love with Neil Patrick Harris. It's so wrong because he's 41, gay, married, and has two children but I just can't help it. He makes me happy and even though I may never meet him I still love him. Help me get rid of these feelings!
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Hon. The feelings you have are real but they need to be put into perspective. At puberty is when girls start noticing males and things they like about them and the same for boys. This is your practice time and learning time regarding dating and relationships. While too young perhaps and parents won't let you date, or too young for sexual with others, even though having a need for release, this is the time when you just start to figure out, how to converse with males, (they think a bit differently than girls but have the same kinds of needs and wants) so learning how to understand them and their priorities is important. Mostly, it is a time at your age to begin watching males of all ages and taking notes on what you like about them. It is also good to take note of bad behavior in guys, learn what it looks like so later when you're older you can avoid those types. It doesnt matter the age of the man, the infatuation, or puppy love, we all get it but never figure out what to do with it. If your girlfriends Dad is seen asking his wife who is seated if he can refill her coffee or tea cup while he's up and you think thats so sweet, make a note of it in a journal. Be specific, break down what it is about the person you experience feelings for. Often it may just be the persons looks at this point. But please consider making a diary/journal of all that happens to you regarding males, between now and when you're in early twenties and you'll have a great list of exactly what you are looking for in a long term relationship partner, or a life long one like marriage. And you won't have to spend too much time wasted in wrong relationships or damaging ones, or hurtful ones because you paid attention when younger and learned. So while it might not be actual true love, the feelings you have are normal but must be directed into something productive as I have suggested.
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It doesn't really matter if he's gay and married. Either way he's a celebrity and forever out if your reach (and also waaaay to old for you). We've all had a crush on a celebrity when we were teenagers. But that's all it is. You really don't have to do anything about it. Just remember that what you feel for him is not real. You might find him attractive and nice, but you don't know what he's really like. He might just be a real douche and doesn't let it show on TV and interviews.
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Okay, how about I tell you that you're infatuated with him, not really in love.
There, problem solved.
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