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Angry! Frustrated! What's wrong with me?
I'm really really pissed! This relationship is long distance.
The man I ''Love'' I have to use it loosely,seems to not want to talk to me,and also there's a few other things I just dont like!
First off,he never calls me,we dont talk much!
He spends time going out to party,watching movies,hanging out with friends,going here,going there. And he barely pays any attention to me.
Its breaking my heart more and more and more.I don't know how much longer I can do this baloney!
Second.He is always liking sexy photos of models and women on his Instagram! I'm pretty too.I take sexy shots also.I give him enough attention.
I try my best........I give him all that I can.Im doing the best that I can.But it hurts me. Whedre am I in his life??
Am I some kind of virus that I dont count? What about me?? I should count! I should fucking matter! But I dont. I try to talk to him about him about it.No dice.But hey,I love you honey.I love you baby. Baloney! All of it is just a lie! And I hate him for that!
Here is what I look like.
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Am I so darn hideous or watever that Im not worth a phone call?? Hmmm??
Please my heart is breaking.Its become too much for me..........
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Coming from an older female, you are very beautiful. You have what I'd call an exotic look. Your eyes seem large lidded and deep set, very expressive eyes. Reminds me of an actress from the past called Sophia Loren.
Hmm, I have a question for you. If there were two identical twin sisters who were raving beauties and they met a nice guy. What would make the guy fall in love with one over the other if they look the same? Can't base how he treats her over the looks. Have you guessed yet? It's her personality and her character and all that she is inside. You have a guy who has not learned to look past skin deep yet with girls. The attraction for him is most likely purely sexual at this point whether he's actually having sex with girls or not is not what I'm saying, it's how aroused he gets from seeing their pics or talking to them. It's all about lust not love. there's a difference. What you are looking for is a guy who can appreciate the whole package, being attracted to you sexually as well as the you inside. And it's the guy who you find who is so deeply in love with your mind, your heart, and with your soul and spirit who is most likely to never be tempted by another pretty face, even if she throws herself at him, because she is not what you are inside. thats the husband I have and I know I am loved and beautiful and he treats me well because since he is in love with me, he cant bear the thought of me hurting in any way, whether he caused it unintentionally or its from something else. Thats what you are looking for and it sounds like he is not it.
I came across this survey online how to gauge if a guy loves you, you may want to read this next. good luck dear.
7 Questions to know if he really loves you
1. Does he say I love you. For some, it's a hard thing to say but they show it to you in other ways. When he says “I love you”, he is viewing that as a commitment to you. It is not a flippant phrase.
Saying I love you too early like during first couple dates is a warning about the guy. Its a very good chance he is needy and wanting a woman to be his mom. Other phrases from a guy count too, like you're awesome, I adore you. You're the woman I always dreamed of.
2. Does he make you a priority in his life? Guys have more than one priority...things very important to him but you should be one of top 3.
What he does for you or how he acts can't be faked easily because it's hard to lie with your body. Things he does without having to be asked, making dinner, picking up something for a collection you have, making time for you, even if it's a walk or a long phone chat. If the guy likes you, he'll make time for you at least a quarter of the time.
3 Does he tell friends about you and like to show you off? Have you been introduced to his family and friends? If he keeps you separate, he's hiding something or ashamed or fearful of something
4. Does he care about your pleasure during sex? Is he only into seeking his own pleasure or your's too. Does he open his eyes and want to have both your eyes connect while making love?
5. Does he respect and encourage you? Respect means, does he value your opinion, do you share decisions and treats you as a partner. Are you encouraged by him to have your own friends and hobbies outside the relationship and encourage you to seek your dreams and uphold you in that.
Jealousy is not love, it's control. It's okay to be protective, but jealousy shouldn't be what prompts the protectiveness
6. Do your friends and family like how he treats you? Others make a great gauge for judging a guys character.
7. Does he look at you with lust and passion in his eyes, with a hunger and thirst for you? Does he give you admiring looks, does he still want to sneak peeks down your shirt. What he sees is Very important since guys are visually stimulated. If he isn't looking anymore, he has lost his interest. All men because of this natural trait, will also view other women but do so discreetly, without being an ass about it. Don't expect a man to look at only you. If he doesn't look at other women at all, it may be a sign that he is gay. You do want a man who is visually stimulated by women.
How many points are true for you with your guy?
7 true He treats you as a Queen and he is an exceptional man
5-6 true He loves you. Just don't focus on what is lacking.
3-4 true He loves you enough to make the relationship work for him. If it's enough for you, then be content. If you feel like you're settling for less, let him go and look for something better.
1-2 true He's a douche-bag, a user or controller. Leave immediately.
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Being in a long distance relationship is hard enough but it becomes way much harder when only one of you is trying to make it work.
I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes we just don't get the attention that we want and we wonder is something wrong with us? Are we not pretty or hot enough?
Over the years I learned that it has absolutely nothing to do with a girls looks (your very pretty btw). Your looks are not gonna keep a guy from cheating on you and they are not gonna change the way he feels about you and how much time he wants to spend with you. So bottom line is, if this guy likes you and WANTS to talk to you he will call you! Men are very simple and it is that simple.
My advice is, your young and attractive. You could have someone else in your bed in a heartbeat. Let him know that. He better work harder to make you happy.
Good luck.
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Oh boy, long distance relationships are so darn hard. I feel for you. My bf and I are also like this. Me dedicating every spare second I have to just sit by the computer screen hoping he'll message but he hardly ever does. He's always with friends, or working. It's really hard to deal with. Most of the time guys don't see the effort girls go to, or how attached we are to them. I don't know him, or how he feels about you, but honestly, if he doesn't make time for you, that's probably because he doesn't want to, simple as that. Sorry if I'm being harsh. You are very beautiful, I wish I looked like you :) Has it been like this your entire relationship or has he just started distancing himself from you? As for the Instagram pics he's liking, if you've told him you don't like it, and he keeps doing it, then something is clearly wrong, for him to take the time to like other girls pictures, when he wont even spend that time with you.(Not trying to be harsh) I really hope things get better between you two, :)
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