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It hurts me when he does it
Everytime me and my boyfriend be making out , he fingers me & it hurts .. He did it twice and each time hurts . I don't know if maybe I'm tensing up or something . But it really hurts . And I don't know why .
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talk to him about it, tell him to go slower or to take it easy. If his nails are long tell him to trim them. If after talking to him it still hurts then you should go see a doctor
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There are a couple medical conditions in which a females hymen has a very small opening or two small ones with a wide strip of hymen between too large to be just stretched out or torn to have a larger access. Its called 'hymen bifenestradus
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and another with a smaller strip of hymen between two larger entries but not large enough for a finger or tampon to get in without pain let alone a penis which is larger.
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I would advise a trip to the gynecologist to get a check up and make sure that this is not the issue. Your parents don't have to know. You can see the family doctor or Planned parenthood can help or recommend a doctor. You need to be honest with the doctor that you are having sex and have this difficulty. Professional staff are non judgemental on this regards and you have the privacy of the hippa law that nothing of your visit or medical records can be shared with anyone, even parents as you have right of privacy regarding your sexual organs or anything of a sexual nature.
If there is no such problem, it would be good to rule it out. Perhaps using more lube and being more relaxed might helps. First time or two one can be anxious cus its a new experience and it feel uncomfortable.
Unless you have always had an extremely low tolerance to pain, it's more likely that this is no mere discomfort and hurts a little, but a major pain. Any major pain is something that needs to be seen by a doctor.
BTW, the solution to hymen problems is an easy quick fix. Doctors will numb the area and snip away the un-needed extra hymen and from reports I've read, the teens have no pain after the experience and heal quickly.
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Your hymen probably didnt break yet..itll be painful for a while but the more he pushes in, the sooner he'll probably end up breaking your hymen and then it wont feel painful after that. But be careful cause sometimes when your hymen breaks, theres a lot of blood..its normal, but just make sure you do it somewhere where you can clean it up easily and then have pads to wear for afterwards so you dont leak in your pants. Good luck!
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IF you are a virgin and are not able to use Tampons because you cannot insert them without it being painful. Then when your boyfriend tries to but his finger in you the pain you feel is the same.
Why is this happening. Why is this happening is hard to say. You may be too young to have anything inserted in your vagina, which would include having sex as having a penis inserted would be very painful. The reason being is as girls go through puberty their outer body changes faster than their sexual organs do. Yes you look like a woman and you may be getting your period. What has not happened or may not have happened yet is the hormones puberty release necessary to unlock your vaginal muscles which allows your vagina to stretch has not happened yet
Remember what comes out of your vagina. The pain of childbirth is not solely caused by your vagina stretching to accommodate the baby exiting as it is doing what it is designed to do. To allow something to enter or exit more painlessly the mussels need to release and this is done when the receive the proper hormones to do so.
Another reason may be that your Hymen is still intact and his fingers are pushing against it causing you pain.
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