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He talks about other girls to me.
Hello, I am female and 19. I've been talking to this guy I met at college. We started texting on move out day and we haven't really stopped since. He has no problem wearing his heart on his sleeve whereas I'm very introverted and have a hard time with "feelings." We argue a lot and that sucks a lot because we both get kind of pissed off pretty easy but I think that factors into us knowing each other so well that it just kinda happens.
Anyway, I have a lot of guy friends and I talk to him about them quite a bit but they are all only friends and I can promise that's all they ever will be. Well, he gets jealous of me talking about them because he thinks I'm going to hang out with them so much and forget about him. I talked to him about this numerous times that they're only friends and I don't hook up with them and all of that stuff. Whereas, he talks about this girl that's now his best friend but he used to like her a lot and, honestly, I get pretty jealous when he talks about her because I know how much he used to care about her and I told him that and he completely overlooked it. I believe he actually told me "i think you're making it a way bigger deal than it is. She's so cute but she isn't who I like right now." So, that pissed me off. Then today, we were talking about people from school and who we miss and everything and he told me he thought there were a lot of cute girls living in our building so I became very despondent in that conversation which lead him to name all of the cute girls in our building. He put me first in the list, obviously, but it just pisses me off a little when he does that because I am trying so hard to not talk about my guy friends as much to him anymore because I know he doesn't like it but he talks about all these girls to me all the time even after I told him that I'm not the biggest fan of that. What do I do?
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He told you how he felt talking about your guy friends. But you're not rambling on about how cute they are and even you took that into consideration.
He doesn't really seem to care about how you feel about this. Especially since you told him, and he brushed it off saying you were the one making it a big deal.
So I think when he does it again, just tell him you don't really like it when he talks about how cute other girls are. If he cares, he'll stop.
If he keeps doing it, just stop talking to it. He'll realize it actually means something.
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To be honest, the fact that he is talking to you about other girls is kinda good.
He trusts you- he's telling you quite personal things.
And would you rather not know, what with your jealousy? Are you having a thing with this guy? I mean, youre not going out are you? So... maybe the jealousy of each other is a sign you should be...?
But otherwise, cool it! Both of you!
You'll always be friends- its possible to have more than one girl/guy friend.
Just tell him you don't like it.
Just, grow the balls, talk about the feelings.
If you're really friends he should be okay with it.
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Tell him you do not like to hear about other girls and make an effort not to talk about your guy friends either. The two of you need to really make an agreement and stick to it!
From Moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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