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He's so perfect for me, but I don't know if he likes me back! Help please
Hey everyone! I'm 16/female.
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So there's a boy in my history class who I really like. He is just perfect for me. He's taller than me, has a loving family, is athletic, has a life outside of his sport, he's gentle, a good son, a good brother, quiet, soft spoken, has a really deep voice, has a lot of patience, very mature, I can go on and on.
My point is, he's a gentleman. VERY rare at our age. And I like him. I've always looked for boys like him to get to know. I didn't even notice he was in my class until he stood up to present a project one day. And then on a class field trip a while later, we had a gorgeous conversation on the bus, followed by an in sync nap. Also he accepted this girls flirting all day, and she walked with him when I was trying to talk to him. But either way all negativity aside, since that day, I just couldn't get enough. Months later, there were days when my history teacher was absent, and I somehow spent both periods talking to him. Then I started talking to him on Facebook, a few weeks later. Eventually, he answered more frequently & a little over two weeks ago, he asked for my number since it was easier for him to answer me there than on Facebook. (I was crying I was so happy) & that wholeeeee time we were talking all day every day, him texting me first, & throughout that time texting, he was flirting a lot, but it could have been taken as something else most of the time.
For example, he would give me really cute nicknames as he said good morning & good night, he would ask me questions like "describe your perfect relationship" (says aww to my description, then says everything I missed), he basically described me when I asked him what type of girls he likes & he comforted me one day when I was mad, saying "I'm always here" afterwords. He was just so sweet the whole time. He never suggested anything that had to do with sex, unless I asked him about it ( I asked what his favorite body parts were and what type of legs he liked and again, he described my legs) & he wouldn't object to changing the subject back to normal afterwords, unlike other boys I've talked to. I told him once that I haven't found a mutual liking with someone & he mentioned that maybe he already had, then he said "maybe one day we'll find it" (what does that mean?) & it had my head spinning every time he said something like that. He would call me "awesome" and said that he would miss me if I moved, use witty little lines on me, never tried too hard but still he was very subtle.
We agreed that he would tell me a story about the girl that he used to go out with & he insisted on telling me this as soon as possible for some reason. When I was going to go meet him so he could tell me, the same girl from the trip was keeping me from going over there, (I didn't want to ditch her and be rude) & he was asking me "are you coming outside or not" (it sounded like he was eager, but then he goes and does this...) Then I explained to him that I've been there, but I didn't want to be rude. I found a way to position myself and the girl where he could see us, front and center. This girl is also in our class, and he knows her for a while longer than he knows me so when he comes up to us, he starts flirting with her immediately. She flirts back (of course -.-, she's one of those.) She has a boyfriend. I'm not sure if he is aware. So this makes me extremely uncomfortable, considering. We were looking at each other this whole time, so I tried to show him with my face that this might be a bad time, but my face didn't say that, it looked at him as if I was sad and confused that he was paying attention to her & not me (exactly how I was feeling, but not what I meant to do at all) so he stopped & came to me and properly greeted me. I smiled & the girl got the idea & started walking farther in front of us, and soon we were alone and she was getting her face sucked. He tells me the story as normal, we flirt and giggle and I admire him as he talks. I notice he's a bit nervous... But he never gets to finish, so we plan another day later, & he asks me if he could call me to tell me, but I say no because I want an excuse to stare at him. So when this day comes, I watch him play, (this is outside by the way) and I'm waiting for the bell to ring so he could talk to me. It when the bell rings he's still playing. I get up, a little sad since this time he wasn't texting me, he was absorbed in the game. So as I leave, I feel a hand on my shoulder, it's him of course. I give a huge smile (can't help myself) and he continues where he left off. I can't help but notice he's a little antsy and nervous as he talks this time too. He tells me about this teddy bear that he gave that ex, and he says he has it now because her parents didn't like him so she had to give it back (don't understand why) So he's talking, and a bunch of people notice us in the halls walking together, and a handful of my stupid friends make things very awkward. Pointing and giggling at us, saying "ohhhhhhhhhhhh that's him" quietly but obviously, staring at him, & one friend even went as far as to say "hey, I know you like her because she's beautiful and everything, but you'll never get that" and I wouldn't dare to look at him so I couldn't tell you his reaction, all I know is he kept talking, while I struggled to listen and respond.(I swear, I want to listen to what he's saying with my FULL attention, but he's just so gorgeous sometimes I can't believe he's talking to me.) anyway, when we said goodbye, I think I caught a glimpse of him leaning closer to hug me, but I quickly turned away. I'm not ready for all of those eyes looking at us yet. Then again I'm not sure he did.
If you don't understand what my question is, which most likely you don't (sorry) it's that I don't know if this kid likes me back! He's so confusing, he flirts in my face with that girl (which is really nothing by the way, it's just a little confusing that's all) and then texts me when we get home and treats me like a princess.
*by the way, if it sounds like I'm jealous of that one girl, I'm really not. I used to be, but I got my brain back. I just wanted to illustrate my frustration with her cockblocking.*
I want to thank anyone who got this far in advance. If you think I don't want to read extremely long answers, you're wrong lol :) you reap what you sow, or so I've heard ^_^
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He sounds like an absolutely wonderful guy. Rare indeed to find someone like him at your age.
You are going to be kicking yourself for the rest of your life if you loose the chance to be his girl.
You wrote: "I told him once that I haven't found a mutual liking with someone & he mentioned that maybe he already had," When he said that, he was talking about you, dropping a hint which you didn't get.
Then he said "maybe one day we'll find it" followed by complimenting you calling you awesome. He would not be complimenting you like that if he was hoping to find that kind of connection with a girl other than you. Its you he's interested in. He's just not totally sure of how you feel about him because you aren't giving a lot of definite signs in return.
he asks me if he could call me to tell me, but I say no because I want an excuse to stare at him
No, no, no....don't be saying no unless you have a really good excuse like you'll be visiting grandma in the hospital that day/night. Say yes and encourage him.
Pay him compliments like, "I'd love to hear from you because hearing from you brightens my day. I enjoy talking with you and I love your stories. a guy who is complimented by the girl he is interested in is going to want to spend more time around her and with her.
Dont let the kids pointing and giggling keep you from being yourself with him, if that includes hugs, don't turn away from him. He could take that to mean you are not interested in him that way. He can't read your mind. And at your age, it's still hard to be sure what you are seeing when trying to read someone's face. Some adults never get that down very well either.
He may be the shy quiet type until he's gotten to know someone. That's what is called a person who is slow to warm up to others in public. But they can act very outgoing and friendly with those they know well...like this other girl for instance. Unless you have heard stories that he plays around with several girls at the same time, just by your descriptions of questions he asks and how he answers, those are not words a player would be speaking especially something like "describe your perfect relationship". A guy just wanting to have sex isn't going to give a crap what you think your perfect relationship is going to be.
I can't say for sure if this guy is anything like my husband but I have a guy who showers me with the kind of attention you are getting. There's no doubt in my mind that he Loves me. However, my husband would not be the mate he is to me if it weren't for his raw core values deep inside him. He feels his role as a male is to uphold and support me, but also to be of service to any female we come into contact with who may need his service or attention. Not to the point it distracts from me. With his psychology training and ability to pick up vibes from people, he has an uncanny ability to know when a female like the clerk at checkout needs a person to notice she exists, pay her perhaps the only compliment she's received that month. He commented on the stones of one older womans necklace. She cast a quick nervous glance at me which I easily could read. She was wondering how this man could pay her a compliment in front of me. I gave her a reassuring smile, to let her know I am not jealous. This husband of mine also has friends from his past, his best friends older sister for one, whom he used to flirt with, without serious intent behind it cus she was quite a bit older and had a boyfriend. But he kept that up through all the years so that he still does that if they happen to chat briefly on facebook. It's not a constant thing. Dont get me wrong. Very occasional and I know most of his old girlfriends and ex and have them as facebook friends too.
There is no competition. So maybe I could say that the complimenting or flirting part is unnecessary? Maybe. But not really, it's a part of how he expresses himself and helps any person feel good about themselves. This is something you will pick up on over time if you both are dating and seeing each other more often.
I am betting he is very much like my husband. My husband after sometime told me stories not only about any women he dated as your friend is doing, but he told me stories of his adventures as a youth, the troubles he and his pals got into. He didn't want to have any secrets in his past and wanted me to know, partly because he felt he could trust me to not get jealous. I have on many an occasion asked him specific questions about past relationships. It is good that your male friend doesnt feel he has anything to hide from you. I will say again that if he is everything I find my husband to be, that this friend is yours is rare indeed. If you have any other questions you come up with, just write me. As you can see, I dont mind long letters. Just be more open with him and say things to give him more clear hints like he did when he said he probably couldnt bear it if you ever moved away. In fact you could bring that convo up and tell him you've been thinking about that too. Since no one knows what might come up in the future, you'd like to enjoy time with him as fully as you can right now. So how about spending more time together away from school in person, not just on the phone.
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It definitely sounds like he likes you. Most guys won't text a girl that often unless they liked you, believe me. Because I'm pretty sure he doesn't talk to his guy friends that often.
There are just so many signs that point to him being interested in you.
As for him flirting with the other girl, who knows. Maybe he's naturally flirty and doesn't realize he does it? Maybe he was trying to make you jealous for some reason? Maybe he is interested in both of you?
Who knows, but it's pretty obvious he likes you so I'd go for it!
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Oh sweetie I love to read this kind if teenage mushiness. It reminds me of someone I used to love. Anyways, Since you are eager to know the answer, I will tell you directly. Well, it's pretty obvious that he LIKES you back! As you've said that he flirts you, call you awesome, treat you like a princess and give you hints of his expression, well that are his amazing ways of expressing his like for you and later on it could develop into a deeper emotion.
As you've said that he is obviously flirting with other girl in front of you that has a boyfriend already, well that is a great sign of his like for you. Why? It's because it was just his defense mechanism of his emotion for him to figure out how you would react in that situation and how would you feel just for him to figure out if you truly cares about him. It was just like he was trying to make you jealous but in a gentle way. But you know I find him so smart for that way because he did it in front of your face plus that girl has a boyfriend already so he thought that you would never think something bad at him.
And also you already know he likes you but you are just unsure. He still doesn't confess his feelings for you yet he is already expressing it in a subtle way. He might afraid of rejection or he is still shy and wants to know you more. Just be honest to him and express yourself alot. Why not ask him if he likes you? That would be very awkward but try to tell it in a joking manner.
All you need to be is be patient because the right will come when he'll confess you feelings, you need to nice and honest to. And most of all be georgeous to make him stun at your inside and out beauty.
I hope this will help. Goodluck and feel free to ask me.
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