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Boyfriend said you’re my soulmate?!
Hi, been dating for a few months but known for more than a year. In our late 20’s. But I feel and he feels as well we’re getting deeper in our relationship. However, when we first started dating he said, ‘it’s like you’re my soulmate.’ He loves me and I love him. He says he adores me. But when he mentioned soulmate what did he mean by that? Thanks all!
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My mom loves to tell me this story and I can't ever say I don't like hearing it because I just love how it ends, even though I've heard it a million times before.
My mom was dating this boy in eighth grade. Crazy, right? She thought so too, never thought much of it until one day, this boy told my mom that she was his soul mate. She got freaked out because like I said, she was dating him but not really thinking much of it being a forever thing. Eighth grade turned into ninth grade and they continued dating through going to each other's junior and senior proms so in all, they went to four proms together. They graduated high school, my mom went on to take college accounting courses for a certificate to start her own business and her boyfriend went on to join the Navy. They stayed together through it - the boot camp, being sent away, not being able to spend the time together, not even being able to text or anything in that time, not even being able to talk on the phones since each person was allowed to make one call and typically he would call his mom or one of his 5 siblings. He was away for two Christmases and he finally returned in early December to propose to my mom, bringing back what he said all those years ago in eighth grade "I knew you were my soul mate then and today, I'm proving it." They have been married for 29 years and have been together in total of 40 years.
Of course that won't be everyone's story but soul mate is a big word, not to be thrown around lightly. I think when he told you that you were his soul mate, I think he really meant that he loves being with you and sees himself being with you for the rest of his life. Soul mates are two people that were meant to be together, they are each other's other half, they didn't find each other by luck or karma, they were brought together because that was nature's plan for them. He does not see himself with anybody else in the world, you are the one for him and the only one that he desires. I sincerely hope that you can say you feel the same way for him because that would be so magical if you do, the best feeling.
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The definition of soulmate as found in Merriam Webster dictionary is 1 : a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament
2 : a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs
That just doesn't share enough detail to even give you a good clue what it means and whether you have that with your partner.
I can say my 2nd husband is my soulmate. And I can also verify that the 10 items listed for soulmate couples does ring true for me. Here is that article and list:
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So if he is using this to describe what he feels with you, it may not be as in depth as the list in the link but most people at least understand that it means something like the most perfect match for you. And that is probably what your boyfriend is thinking. This is part statement part complement because its voicing what you see and feel that currently is,and that's the statement and sharing that you have all the right traits, beliefs, personality to match him, the compliment.
Keep hold of the list and see if any of those qualities in a soulmate relationship ring true for you now or develop to more fully represent all of those points.
I will be honest and say We do not call flashbacks of being together in past lives. But the others, strange as some may seem do ring true for us. For example in 4. You fall in love with his (or her) flaws. I'd have to say its not so much that I love his flaws, but I understand it is part of the package deal and in comparison to all the things I really do love about him, I find the flaws don't bother or irritate me, I am more of the tendency to be forgiving of them and not hold grudges. Part of why it is so easy to overlook and not pounce on each wrong is the fact he treats me the same and isn't bothered by my flaws. There is some kind of unearthly patience with each other. Then on the point of 'You’re mentally inseparable' They mention it being like twins and finishing each others sentences. I have that happen all the time but there's another. I may not have even starting speaking a thought for him to finish when he picks up on what I was thinking about saying but hadn't yet. Like the day I thought I'd like to go out for Thai food for dinner. I am about to ask when he says, Hey hon, I've been thinking, we haven't been to our favorite restaurant in a while, lets go tonight. And I reply, I was just about to say the same. And we go. Its not like it happens every day all day long but it'll happen a few times each week.
The last on the list of tending to look each other in the eye more often when speaking than other couples, wasn't something that occurred to me that soulmates do but I would have to say that is true now that I think of it. It probably doesn't occur to others much either. For one thing, because we both have such deep seated confidence and trust in each other, we will look into each others eyes quite a lot knowing we don't have to fear seeing anger, ridicule or something else negative there. All we see is love and support and understanding.
It also seems to go beyond the limits of two separate bodies and when hugging or cuddling, most the times we feel each others energy like a live thing between us. Think of the energy of a squirming playful little puppy and thats what we feel between our bodies or sometimes it feels like a trading or blending of energies, like the blending of two paints, blue and yellow to make green. You might show your boyfriend the list and ask if this is what he is feeling to clarify what it is he really meant but its safe to say it was a compliment no matter what.
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