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My boyfriend told me I don’t know how you got into me, don’t know how you got my attention the other day as we’ve only been together for few weeks. He’s a nice boy. We get along well. He also told me , he liked me from day one and he said to himself I will make her mine. Guys, what do I understand here? Explain please? He’s 23 and I’m 21. Many thanks
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YOu might have to bring it back up and ask him, because my guesses based simply on the words you shared, may not reflect what he was thinking when he spoke to you.
If you decide to ask this much later, the easy way to bring it up is to say, "I have been thinking still about what you said the other day when you said ...... and I am wondering exactly how it is I got your attention.
The best is to ask at the time of conversation but I have failed in the past to ask too or didn't think of it until later. So asking after the fact is still good, it shows you were really paying attention and listening to him which is important.
My best guess here might be that he doesn't understand how you could so easily "get under his skin "as the saying goes, in such a short time. Getting under one's skin basically means " to fill someone's mind in a compelling and persistent way, constantly in his thoughts. And being in his thoughts in a positive way, being intrigued, captivated, and charmed by you.
Since he mentioned the few weeks time of being with you, he is definitely as a male surprised at how fast you have become so special to him. Most men do not progress so quickly to feeling a women is the right one for him. I dated a guy who didn't mention it at first and freaked out and asked if we could have a week of no visits or even phone calls/texts. I honored that. Before the end of the week he called and asked me to come by his place and said he hoped I wasn't mad at him, he had just needed some time and would explain when I Got there. He told me that because everything went so well and progress so fast and it was only 2 weeks for us, that it scared him that it might not be for real, thus the separating himself from me to see if he could do fine without me or if he'd miss me. Your guy didn't freak out but if I am interpreting his words correctly, he may be just as surprised but not scared of it and so he thought he was sharing that fact with you. If it was me who heard a guy say this, I would ask, when you say that it makes me think that you are surprised to find you have such feelings for me in such a short time, so much that you wonder if what you're feeling is genuine. Am I understanding you correctly?
That is reflecting back at a person what you thought you heard them say in different words. I have guessed right with guys most often and sometimes I've been wrong and told, "no that's not what I was saying, What I meant was ....."
If you can't think of different words to say the same thing, the easiest thing is to repeat back to a guy what he said exactly, word for word making it sound like a question. Sometimes when hearing ones own words coming back at them, a person can see they might not be clear enough and will automatically explain. If he's not picking up that you didn't get it by now, then you simply ask, can you explain what you mean by that? And if it was important enough to him to tell you in the first place, he will try to put it in different words to explain what he meant.
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