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heyy everyone. My names Deanna, but everyone calls me dee =].I'm 13 years old, but im pretty mature for my age. A lot of people come to me at school and confide in me with huge secrets, and i never tell anyone. Tons of people also ask for advice, and i help alot of people out with their problems. I really want to help people, as I want to be a child psycologist when i'm older. So, giving simple advice to teens like me would probably help =]. So, feel free to ask a question, I will respond ASAP!Byeeeeeee
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heyy, i was wondering if anyone knew the song where it goes
hey yeah yeah...( hey yeah yeah )
ow whoa, ( ow whoa)
hey yeah yeah, owoha ( awoha)
if anyone knows the artist or title could you please lemme know :] thanks soo muchh!!
it might be
and she said
by lucas prada
i have really big hips, big boobs, a big butt, and big arms. my stomach isnt even that big, i have been exercising alot lately. and well it doesnt seem to improve.
do you recommend anything to make my self esteem a little higher?
oo dont worry! i wish i was alittle bigger in tha chest and butt area!! alot of girls wuld kill to have that. Im sure alot of guys think youre rele hot b/f od tht. just keep excersizing and you'll be fine.
as for your arms, lift weights. it will turn into muscle, but don't start lifing 20's. just lift lik 8's or 10's, so u dont become muscle woman
hope that helped =]
when i was bout 6-8 i was molested by an older boy we moved and i never saw him again then fast forward bout 7 years im living life happy and then i saw him again at the mall and i broke down in the mall bathroom my mom knows bout this and she thinks i need conseling and need to confront him but im rele dont want to
it scared
wat should i do i now have nighmares bout it
This is serious. Im not sure confronting him immediately is the right way to go, but if youre mom really thinks thats what you should do, don't let me stop you.
I do think you should go to some counseling to get the fear you have away from you.
Maybe after you're a little more secure about it you can approach him
I really hope everything works out OK.
-dee
Lately I've been feeling.. not perfect. I have had a stomach ache and I sometimes feel like I'm going to throw up. It only happens after I ate... maybe is it that I over-eat? I am lucky in that I can eat what I want and not really gain a lot of weight... so I do eat a lot. Right now I have a head ache (third this week) and I feel sick to my stomach. Last night the upper part of my stomach hurt when I breathed? Anyone know what's wrong with me or something I can do that could cure this? I have felt like this during the evenings of this week and I can't be sick tomorrow because I have lacrosse and a soccer party to go to. Please help!
Maybe you are overeating...or it could be this
[yeah i kno its kinda gross]
but you may be constipated. Try drinking prune juice and get more fiber in your diet.
You should also see your doctor immediately.
Hope i helped =]
-dee
Ok so my mother has been really really weird lately. About two years ago next week we lost my brother. She took it really hard but who wouldn't. So anyways she has been acting really rude to me and everyone else. She is sick a lot. She always has lots of advil and tylonel and ibeprofen in her purse. She is always wanting one and she's always always tired. We just went to the doctor and the doctor called our appointment off and when she found out she called the doctor as quick as she could and told them she needed her zanex and some other medicine for her depression. I don't doubt she needs those, but she is always taking something. Is she on drugs? Is she addicted? She is so irretable too. I can't talk to her because she won't listen anyways. She is constantly ignoring me. She acts like she hates me at times. I don't know what to do. She used to be great, but since my brother died it seems like she doesn't love me or care about me anymore. Questions:
*Is she crazy?
*Is she addicted to drugs?
*Do you think one bad accident like what we expeirenced will kill off my old mom forever?
Maybe youre mom is acting this way because she sees alot of her son in you. Was the way he died violent? She might be still shocked about that. Some people handle pain differently. You're mom needs to lay off the drugs, get fresh air, excercise and do fun things to clear her mind. She should maybe see a physcologist too. If she won't listen to you, if you tell her..then try telling her doctor that you really are worried. He will prob. take your opinion into concideration and tell your mom she should do that.
I hope that helped =]
-dee
P.s Im very sorry about your brother. I've had two loved ones of mine, but not as close as a brother pass away. If you ever need to talk bout that im here
okay so im on my period and its really bad and like when i wear a tampon sometimes it leaks and it doesn't always like stay so i have to wear a pad too and i use regulars and im afraid to use a super. any ideas what i should do? oh and like how to not have as many cramps/gassy cramps?
Well first of all, tampons arent the best for you. You might just want to go for a bigger pad and drop the tampon. But thats your choice.
As for your cramps, take midol. Fruit and anything light refreshing, like water, apples, grapes, etc. will make you feel better. Also, get some fresh air! Go for a walk. You'll be moving around a bit and gettin some air which is good.
I am HORRIBLE when it comes to my period, sometimes i have to stay home from school a few days. I've been doing that recently, and it helped ALOT.
Hope I helped =]
-dee
My boyfriend of a year and a half complains that I get angry too easily. I admit that I do, to some extent; but I always have an actual reason. For example, one of our friends (who has a boyfriend) was, (well in my eyes) flirting with my boyfriend right in front of me, and it pissed me off. By the way, it's not the best time of month right now, so that's causing me to be a bit moody and more bitchy about things. But anyway, so I confronted him about it and he got really pissed off and said he can't take me getting pissed about everything anymore. I almost lost him today and it really has hit me that should change, but I don't really know how. I really don't know how to be able not to get so mad about things. Can anyone give me some tips, if there is any?
Thanks so much.
I have the SAME problem. Me and my b/f got in a fight today and he said i get mad too easily. I'm trying to change also. A way to do it is to take a deep breath, close your eyes and count to ten. Then, look at the other person's position and what they might be feeling. I'm sure you're boyfriend doesnt want to fight with you. So, just realize people make mistakes and they should be forgiven.
If youre really mad, then say to him, "I'll call you back because right now I'm kinda mad and I don't want to say anything I don't mean." When you're really cooled off, call him back. If he wants to talk about the fight, go ahead. But do it calmly. There mightve been some mistakes you made, so own up to them.
Hope that helped =]
-dee
Ok so theres this guy i really really like and my friends think he likes me but i just found out from someone that my friend and the guy i like went out in 6th grade we are in 8th grade now and it jsut kind of upsets me and i dont know why it does and it's really weird why am i feeling this way i'm really confused at this point
Well, you're probably feeling this way because you don't want you're friend to be upset or hurt if you guys go out. You don't want to risk loosing her as a friend. You should sit her down, alone and ask her if she still likes him, and if she would mind you going out with him. Tell her to answer honestly because its girls before guys. If she really doesn't mind, find out why they broke up. If it was something really really stupid he did, you might want to re-think you're decission of going out with him. But then again, people change. Use your best judgement, and make sure your friend is OK with it.
Good Luck!!
i know this is disgusting, but is there a good way to get rid of dandruff?
i agree, go with the head and shoulders. Also, just a general way of washing hair that no one really knows about...
1st brush and untangle every bit of your hair.
then rinse it in warm water and all shampoo on the top of your scalp and rinse it off. Then put more shampoo on and let it sit there for a minute then wash it off.
Then, put the conditioner on your hair, but NOT on your scalp, more towards the end and middle of your hair, and then wash it off.
When its all out, rinse it in cold water, which will help your scalp, and the dandruff, and it makes your hair shiny.
hope tht helped =]
ok so my friends ex boyfriend likes me. and i like him. we never met. its along story not going into detail. well were meeting sometime this week. and well i was just wondering what do i do? like what should we talk about? where should we go? and i hope my friend doesnt leave. because im gonna be so lost. what do i do? and my friend is cool with me going out with him because well i mean just in case we get to that point. so dont say i shouldnt.
I know you're prob. annoyed with me saying this...but youre def. sure she's ok with it?
If she told u she is she prob. is, cuz thats wut happened with me and my friend and everything was fine.
Anyway, why don't you guys qo catch a movie? A movie is the best thing because you don't necessarily have to talk. But some things you could talk about are things he would be interested. Its a fact that people LOVE to talk about themselves, so ask him questions. Like if he's into any sports, play any instruments, what kind of music he listens to, and if he's in any after school clubs. Conversation is sure to start, and he'll probably ask what youre into too. Don't just say, "Oh, i dont kno. everything i gess". Without sounding concieted tell him everything you're into. But make sure both of you get fair amount of talking time.
If you guys are really having a good time, go to get something to eat after the movie.
Hope you guys have fun =]
-dee
how can i stay more relaxed at school? usually i feel kinda tense, unless for like when classes start/end, in gym, lunch... er... yea like that. like even in homeroom when i walk in sometimes i feel like theres attention on me, especially if i was late. like today i was late because of my bus so it wasnt really my fault and i couldnt have prevented it. so i try to get there early when like nobodys there when i feel comfy. but then sometimes i start to feel kinda twitchy, especially when nobody is talking and its like quiet.. and maybe like the teacher is just talking, and i may not be around my friends in the class. ughh i'd like to be more comfy.. im not exactly sure why i feel like.. i guess it would be anxious.
I used to be anxious like that alot. I was always worried if people were looking at me, what someone would say if i walked in late and stuff like that. Like, I was afraid to get up and get a tissue thats how bad it was.
You can feel that way b/c you're nervous if the teacher calls on you and you get the question wrong. So, just pay attention alot and know what youre doing.
Chewing gum might help too. Also, just remember that everyone else in your class are kids too and they all probably think you're cool.
So just sit back, relax, pay attention, and give it your all and you'll be fine.
Ohh and also, if you concentrate more on the work and less on the anxiety it would prob. help.
If theres a silence in the room, and you're not doing anything review the notes you just took.
Hope that helped =]
-dee
13/f.my really close friend is pretty, smart, has a boyfriend for 8 months and everyone loves her. i love her too and im in one of her classes. she tells me that she never studies, and she gets perfect grades. her lowest grade EVER was an 89. alot of the time shes always bragging about things, thats just an example. shes basically a teachers pet in every class and sometimes its annoying. i just wanna go right up to her and say how she really isnt perfect, and its ok to make mistakes.
what can i do to calm myself down or possibly tell her(i'd rather not). UGH SO FRUSTRATEDD! help is appreciated.
Write it all down, or confide in another friend that you know wont tell. if she really is your close friend, then she wont mind you talking to her. but do it nicely. Dont b lik ur not perfect u brag too much, etc...
When you talk to her say, sometimes i feel low about myself when you talk about your boyfriend, friends, grades, etc. You're my best friend and I love you, but I just want you to know how i feel.
If she really is the friend you say she is, then she won't get mad.
If you decide not to tell her(even though it would be good), then start doing stuff for you. Start by going for walks around a park, or riding your bike. If you like to draw , pick up a canvas at A.C Moore and get to it! If you're into dance, stretch everyday and really put all you got into it when you go to lessons. Try picking up an instrument like the piano. You could also try writing.
There are tons of things to do to make you feel better about your self. Keep a diary to record all your thoughts.
I hope i helped =]
-dee
I'm really..lost.
In the short 1 1/2 years that we were "best friends", she had this "habit", that at first, only slightly irked me. Now, it's the reason we're no longer friends. Except, she doesn't even know that she does it (and she won't listen to me), and she thinks I'm a complete fool, and a liar, etc.
She always has to be right, and she is always picking a fight with anyone who isn't willing to back down.
(example of conversation we had today)
Other Girl (her "new best friend): This guy I know, named Jim is pretty hot.
Me: He's in weight training, which is in the same classroom as me.
Her: Weight training isn't in the same classroom! (she does not even HAVE weight training). Weight training is in the morning!!
Me: What?
Her: For weight training, you have to come in the morning too.
Me: Okay, cool.
Other Girl: I wonder if he has a 6-pack or something.
Me: He doesn't. We were in the weight room together, and he took off his shirt. he doesn't have very many muscles.
Her: Just because you can't see them, doesn't mean he doesn't have muscles.
Me: I know..that part was sort of implied. He doesn't have any, you know, BIG muscles.
Her: What? Now you're contradicting yourself (meanwhile, rolling her eyes. The Other Girl says "Calm down, don't waste your time") Then she gets up in a flurry, and leaves.
Every time I don't see something exactly her way, she gets angry. Was it really necessary to argue over the technicalities of the human body?
Because of stuff like this, they now have notes about me in this "Note Book", where they continually write horrible things about me. I've been mean to them in the past (as a result of fights we've had), but I apologized, and for the past 6 months, I've done nothing to them, and pretty much stayed away from them.
What the heck is her problem? Another example. I said "I think nachos are the best food in the world!" She goes "Just because you like them, doesn't mean everyone does" (talking to me like I'm 5). Then I go "I'm not saying that, I'm just saying that I like them. Then she rolls her eyes, etc.
I've seen her do it with other people, too.
Well, im sure shes not just doing that to you, as you said. That's probably just the way she is. Have you ever brought it to her attention that it hurts you? You might want to think about talking to her about it. If she says she'll change, then wait to see what she does. If she doesnt, and you know that for a fact, it may just be time to move on and start hanging out with your other friends. While shes making those changes, hang out with your other friends too. She'll realize what a good friend she'll be loosing if she doesnt lay off.
Hope that helps =]
-dee.
my boyfriend said he had to go and that he loved me and i didn't want him to leave and i told him if he left i would dump him. he still signed off, and i dumped him on the phone. and then i called him again and he hung up on me.
who did the wrong thing? me or him? did i over react because he had to go? or was it him?
=/ i feel like crap. i think i overeacted
how can i tell him how much he means to me?
Well, sorry but you did overreact. Maybe you were threatning to break up with him because you wanted some more of his love and attention? I think that might've been it. So, I think you should either (a) write him a note saying you are sorry and it wasn't the right thing to do. Also include that he means so much to him, and you miss him. Also let him know that u want some more of his attention(if thats the reason) and if he loves you, then he will definatly show you more attention. (b) talk to him on tha fone, and say the same thing.
Some people just find it easier to write out what theyre feeling instead of saying something stupid in an argument by accident.
However, if he doesn't accept your apology, let him get over it and cool down. Once you think hes over it, mayb IM him just to talk about whatever. If you feel that the connection is still there, try talking to him again.
I hope that helped.
-dee.
ok theres a guy in my class. he's soooooo annoying and stupid and obnoxious and I think he might like me! EEW! i have absolutely NO affection for him not even in a friend way. so if he tries to ask me out how should i let him down?? like some phrases or whatever to reject him.
I know how you feel, i've been in the same position before. It would be best to just let him down gently, and don't get other people involved. When he asks you out very gently say,"Well, I dont see us as a couple so I'm going to have to say no. Sorry."
Don't feel bad saying it because going out with him pretending to like him and then eventually breaking up with him would be worse. Thats what my friend did and well, ill just say it turned out BAD.
So just let him down gently and don't lie to him sayin " I see us more as frends" if you really dont see him as a frend at all.
Hope that helped =]
-Dee
Ok, so I have two best friends that I have known since about third grade. I love them both to death. The only problem is when we are together, I feel like I get picked on/made fun of. I try not to be sensitive and take it seriously, but sometimes they go too far. They have names for each other (call each other twins) and I feel so left out. But I feel like if I talk to them then I'll look stupid and jealous. I have talked to one of them and she understands how I feel and said that she is going to try and avoid that so I wouldn't feel that way. Also, when I am alone with one of them, it is so great, we could not be closer, its just when we are all together. Any suggestions on help? Don't say talk to them because I have and the situation only has changed a little bit.
Also, I feel like I'm what's keeping us together. One of my friends has other really close friends I feel like she likes more than us. And the other has a guy she really is into. Anyway, I feel like I'm the one always keeping the plans between us three. What happens when I don't take the responsibitlies and stop? Will we lose touch? Will it be my fault? I love these friends and I don't know what my life would be without them. Thanks
Well, make them realize what a good friend you are. Stop making the plans for a while, and see what they do. Maybe hang out with your other friends.
This is happenening with me and my friends and i just talked to my friend about it. Well, she also feels left out and shes sensative about the topic too.
So, i think you should just make them realize what a good friend you are, and sooner or later they'll come crawling back to you.
However, if you do stop making the plans and nothings really going on between you three. It may be time to all get together at someones house having a real heart to heart. The issue may be deeper. I know you said not to try talking to them, but it may help when you're all together.
After your talk, watch one of your favorite movies make some popcorn and have a good time!
Hope i helped=]
-dee
okay, i never had a boyfriend before up until last week. he's coming over sometime in the next few days. i think we're watching a movie but anyways. there's a few problems.
1. my dad doesn't like the fact that i'm dating guys and he'll probably say no. how can i convince him to get to know him? my boyfriend is probably one of the sweetest guys in the world..i just don't know how to get my dad too give it a chance.
2. how can i make this night, not so boring? like, i've never been kissed before or anything, and i don't know what he's expecting of me. so we watch a movie, and then what? board games?
3. does everyone feel so insecure when they start dating? or is just me?
please help.
Thats what i felt lik a few months ago! I got my first real boyfriend and my dad really didnt like me dating him. But, at the time i had no cell so he had to call my house and my dad would answer. He was very polite and made general conversation such as, how are you? and then kindly asked to speak with me. So have him try that and it may win your dad over.
Don't be in a rush to kiss him. After you watch the movie, put on some music and just hang out like you would do with your friends, but like different. You guys will start to talk and im sure you'll have a good time. If you're still insecure about it. For the first couple of times ask your friends(boys and girls) to come over, and it will weaken the stress. But, after a while you two will be totally comftorable with eachother.
Of course everyone feels insecure, it mite be a tad awkward at first, as it is for a lot of people, but don't worry time will pass and you guys will be totally comftorable with eachother.
Hope that Helped!!
-dee
On March 31, (that's my deadline) I have a dance competition, and WE ARE GOING SWIMMING! I would like to lose a little because I understand the consequences of losing like 10 pounds when I weigh 115. I just want to be very in shape and skinny, at the same time if you know what I mean. If there is a diet plan and an excercise plan somewhere out there and you could give it to me, that would be great! Again, deadline is March 31!
Well, going on a crash diet would help but its not the best for your body if you juss wanna loose a few pounds and get in shape
For now on, just eat healthy, no more junk food, drink alot of water, and have a couple of fruits or veggies a day.
As for excercizing, your already doing that in dance, but doing a couple of crunches and going for a walk(or a jog which eva you prefer) would help. My mom walks everynight with a few of her friends that live on the block and she lost ALOT of weight because of it and she looks really good.
Another thing that will help you is feeling fresh and clean. After you shower, wash your face again and use something that will help your skin. use lotion and brush your teeth 3 times a day. Try to get to bed a little on the early side. You should be in bed by 10 30 the latest if your excersizing. All of that will make you feel good about your self and your apperance and will get you in the work-out mood and you will feel better in general.
So, in summary, just watch what you eat, and excersize a little everyday, and pamper yourself. I hope that helped =]
-dee