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Two best friends. I feel left out.
Ok, so I have two best friends that I have known since about third grade. I love them both to death. The only problem is when we are together, I feel like I get picked on/made fun of. I try not to be sensitive and take it seriously, but sometimes they go too far. They have names for each other (call each other twins) and I feel so left out. But I feel like if I talk to them then I'll look stupid and jealous. I have talked to one of them and she understands how I feel and said that she is going to try and avoid that so I wouldn't feel that way. Also, when I am alone with one of them, it is so great, we could not be closer, its just when we are all together. Any suggestions on help? Don't say talk to them because I have and the situation only has changed a little bit.
Also, I feel like I'm what's keeping us together. One of my friends has other really close friends I feel like she likes more than us. And the other has a guy she really is into. Anyway, I feel like I'm the one always keeping the plans between us three. What happens when I don't take the responsibitlies and stop? Will we lose touch? Will it be my fault? I love these friends and I don't know what my life would be without them. Thanks
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Well, make them realize what a good friend you are. Stop making the plans for a while, and see what they do. Maybe hang out with your other friends.
This is happenening with me and my friends and i just talked to my friend about it. Well, she also feels left out and shes sensative about the topic too.
So, i think you should just make them realize what a good friend you are, and sooner or later they'll come crawling back to you.
However, if you do stop making the plans and nothings really going on between you three. It may be time to all get together at someones house having a real heart to heart. The issue may be deeper. I know you said not to try talking to them, but it may help when you're all together.
After your talk, watch one of your favorite movies make some popcorn and have a good time!
Hope i helped=]
-dee
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I've been through the same situation. It's pretty rough. =
It seems like whenever there's 3 in a group, there's always one that gets left out. It may not mean to be that way, it isn't always the people in the relationship's fault, it's just the way things happen.
I know, you may not want to do this, but try to see what else is out there. You may have been too close to these people to realize that there are better and more trustworthy people out there that won't let you down and leave you out.
Try the silent treatment. You said you've talked to one of the friends, but the situation only changed slightly. It really works, at least in my situation. Pretend like you already have plans..and your friends will come crawling back to you. :)
I wish the best for you!
Let me know how everything goes. :)
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If you stop makeing the effort and things do change it wouldnt be your fault.Sometimes friends just go there seperate ways with other friends and guys. Or mabye yall just need a break from each other and hang out with your other friends for a couple days. And about how you feel like your getting picked on Im sure there not being serious so just tell yourself there just jokeing around. Mabye make some jokes about them back or even about yourself. But make sure you dont go to far with it. Hope I helped.
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