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is my mom crazy?
Ok so my mother has been really really weird lately. About two years ago next week we lost my brother. She took it really hard but who wouldn't. So anyways she has been acting really rude to me and everyone else. She is sick a lot. She always has lots of advil and tylonel and ibeprofen in her purse. She is always wanting one and she's always always tired. We just went to the doctor and the doctor called our appointment off and when she found out she called the doctor as quick as she could and told them she needed her zanex and some other medicine for her depression. I don't doubt she needs those, but she is always taking something. Is she on drugs? Is she addicted? She is so irretable too. I can't talk to her because she won't listen anyways. She is constantly ignoring me. She acts like she hates me at times. I don't know what to do. She used to be great, but since my brother died it seems like she doesn't love me or care about me anymore. Questions:
*Is she crazy?
*Is she addicted to drugs?
*Do you think one bad accident like what we expeirenced will kill off my old mom forever?
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hi what i think it is that maybe your mum is addicted to the drugs, and she is probably taking them bacuse she is still affected by your brothers death. What I suggest you do is maybe get counselling for her, or tell some of your close relatives what it happening with her, Because if your mum carries on then worse may happen, and am sure you don't want that so just do what i have told you to do.
hope i helped
xx
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i, along with many other people i know, have faced depression. it's very difficult to handle alone.
no matter how irritable she may be at the moment, you need to try & talk to her. try to get you both involved in an activity -- you can always try yoga. it may sound weird depending on your age, but it can do wonders if someone is under alot of stress. see if you can get her to go outside as much as possible -- maybe go for a walk every day when you get home from school. now i know, she may say, "oh, i don't feel like it." when people are depressed, they feel tired all the time & never have a whole lot of energy. no matter what she says, you need to get her out & get some exercise & sunlight. start going to church even if your mom says she doesn't think it's a good idea. often, when someone close to you or a family member dies, they often feel like it is God's fault & they become angry at God. please, try & get both of you in a church & go whenever you can.
as for your first question, no, i personally do not think she is crazy.
for the second question, i'm not too sure. people can become dependent on one or more of the types of drug that they give you for depression though. so it actually is possible.
as for the third question, people can make amazing come backs with things like this. so i don't believe it will kill off her forever.
i'll keep you two in my prayers. =]
good luck!
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Here are some things which might help me answer your question. How old was your brother? How did he die; accident, suicide, natural causes? Does your mother have a partner?
We lost my sister almost 5 years ago now. It's been tough. She died at age 30 of natural causes (sudden blood clot). We were 13 months apart. We were best friends/worst enemies.
My daughter was less than a year old when my sister died. I know, being a mother, that it would be extremely hard for me to keep living if my only child died. It's possible that your mother, for all she isn't doing, is doing all she can.
My own mother has hidden away every year on both my sister's birthday and the aniversary of her death. For a couple of weeks both before and after, she is a freak. She hides in her darkened room with a ton of romance novels and doesn't talk to anyone (only my father a little bit). She turns off the phone. She takes a few days off of work. When she goes back to work, she starts gradually to come out of it. I presume that this year, being number 5, will hit her harder as what would have been my sister's 35th birthday did.
I think your mother is likely still depressed, clinically, and that she is just surviving. She may not have any energy for anything else. There are a couple of things you can do - be sensitive around this time and ask her whether she'd like her space or whether she would like company. Ask her whether she'd like to talk about your brother, go to the cemetery, or whatever.
I don't know whether you can make this happen, but
can you get someone, like your grandmother, your father, etc., to suggest family counseling?
Yes, the death of a loved one (and possibly worse, depending on circumstances) can permanently destroy someone if she lets it. I don't think your mom is likely crazy, just depressed. Is she addicted to drugs? Likely she'd dependent on drugs because they treat a real problem, like someone who needs insulin (we don't say they're addicted). You can't get addicted to Tylenol, Ibuprofen, or other over-the-counter pain relievers. Depression hurts us physically. There's a drug to take care of that, also, called Cymbalta, which she can discuss with her doctor.
I hope you can get your mom to pull out of this. If you can't, please just make sure she doesn't pull you down with her. You still have so much of life to experience. Some of it's going to be difficult (especially without your mother being active in your life), but life *is* worthwhile. Keep being strong.
Sabine
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Maybe youre mom is acting this way because she sees alot of her son in you. Was the way he died violent? She might be still shocked about that. Some people handle pain differently. You're mom needs to lay off the drugs, get fresh air, excercise and do fun things to clear her mind. She should maybe see a physcologist too. If she won't listen to you, if you tell her..then try telling her doctor that you really are worried. He will prob. take your opinion into concideration and tell your mom she should do that.
I hope that helped =]
-dee
P.s Im very sorry about your brother. I've had two loved ones of mine, but not as close as a brother pass away. If you ever need to talk bout that im here <3.
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your mom might be just be feeling down because of your brother just watch what shes taking b/c she could get really sick
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