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too perfect of a friend
13/f.my really close friend is pretty, smart, has a boyfriend for 8 months and everyone loves her. i love her too and im in one of her classes. she tells me that she never studies, and she gets perfect grades. her lowest grade EVER was an 89. alot of the time shes always bragging about things, thats just an example. shes basically a teachers pet in every class and sometimes its annoying. i just wanna go right up to her and say how she really isnt perfect, and its ok to make mistakes.
what can i do to calm myself down or possibly tell her(i'd rather not). UGH SO FRUSTRATEDD! help is appreciated.
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you sound a lot like my friend rosie. she felt sort of like this about me, and when she explained it to me i completely saw her side. the thing was i felt like i needed to be perfect, and i had to PROVE that i was perfect to be loved but even though so many people where around me i still kind of felt hallow. and its because i was trying to hard. you need to tell this girl how you feel. tell her that the bragging is driving you insane.
she will either:
1. accept it and change
OR
2. say your being jelous
if she says your jelous her "perfectness" is really just hidden insecurity and your going to need to build up her self esteem.
good luck!
oxo
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Everybody makes mistakes. She's just good at hiding them. I've had friends like this before and eventually they WILL make a mistake and it will most likely be a big one. And about her grades, what grade are you in 7th? 7th grade is easy compared to most. Don't worry. You are actually preparing yourself for life better than her because you know how to react to mistakes unlike her.
Hope I helped.
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Write it all down, or confide in another friend that you know wont tell. if she really is your close friend, then she wont mind you talking to her. but do it nicely. Dont b lik ur not perfect u brag too much, etc...
When you talk to her say, sometimes i feel low about myself when you talk about your boyfriend, friends, grades, etc. You're my best friend and I love you, but I just want you to know how i feel.
If she really is the friend you say she is, then she won't get mad.
If you decide not to tell her(even though it would be good), then start doing stuff for you. Start by going for walks around a park, or riding your bike. If you like to draw , pick up a canvas at A.C Moore and get to it! If you're into dance, stretch everyday and really put all you got into it when you go to lessons. Try picking up an instrument like the piano. You could also try writing.
There are tons of things to do to make you feel better about your self. Keep a diary to record all your thoughts.
I hope i helped =]
-dee
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Write a letter to her, but don't send it. You vent all of your feelings & get them off your chest. Or you could just talk to her about it calmly like she'd probably want you to do.
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