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Being friends with someone like this...
I'm really..lost.
In the short 1 1/2 years that we were "best friends", she had this "habit", that at first, only slightly irked me. Now, it's the reason we're no longer friends. Except, she doesn't even know that she does it (and she won't listen to me), and she thinks I'm a complete fool, and a liar, etc.
She always has to be right, and she is always picking a fight with anyone who isn't willing to back down.
(example of conversation we had today)
Other Girl (her "new best friend): This guy I know, named Jim is pretty hot.
Me: He's in weight training, which is in the same classroom as me.
Her: Weight training isn't in the same classroom! (she does not even HAVE weight training). Weight training is in the morning!!
Me: What?
Her: For weight training, you have to come in the morning too.
Me: Okay, cool.
Other Girl: I wonder if he has a 6-pack or something.
Me: He doesn't. We were in the weight room together, and he took off his shirt. he doesn't have very many muscles.
Her: Just because you can't see them, doesn't mean he doesn't have muscles.
Me: I know..that part was sort of implied. He doesn't have any, you know, BIG muscles.
Her: What? Now you're contradicting yourself (meanwhile, rolling her eyes. The Other Girl says "Calm down, don't waste your time") Then she gets up in a flurry, and leaves.
Every time I don't see something exactly her way, she gets angry. Was it really necessary to argue over the technicalities of the human body?
Because of stuff like this, they now have notes about me in this "Note Book", where they continually write horrible things about me. I've been mean to them in the past (as a result of fights we've had), but I apologized, and for the past 6 months, I've done nothing to them, and pretty much stayed away from them.
What the heck is her problem? Another example. I said "I think nachos are the best food in the world!" She goes "Just because you like them, doesn't mean everyone does" (talking to me like I'm 5). Then I go "I'm not saying that, I'm just saying that I like them. Then she rolls her eyes, etc.
I've seen her do it with other people, too.
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Well, im sure shes not just doing that to you, as you said. That's probably just the way she is. Have you ever brought it to her attention that it hurts you? You might want to think about talking to her about it. If she says she'll change, then wait to see what she does. If she doesnt, and you know that for a fact, it may just be time to move on and start hanging out with your other friends. While shes making those changes, hang out with your other friends too. She'll realize what a good friend she'll be loosing if she doesnt lay off.
Hope that helps =]
-dee.
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she sounds completely ridiculous to me. you shouldn't even waste your time with her if she's writing all these nasty things about you and is an asshole to you. it's not right. maybe you should just stay away. or confront her on the subject. i think her problem is that she really feels the need to be a jerk to people, is she conceited at all? or maybe she just loves to fight and maybe your her favorite person too?. seriously confront her because she shouldn't be yelling at your for stupid stuff. but if you don't wanna do that, i suggest just staying away
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