I am a person who believes that negative criticism never does anything right and only demoralizes... I have been through a lot... but everytime I have fought back...There should be a certain way for making someone show the correct path...and I believe that it should be unbiased and free from personal grudges...this is what i am trying to do...where they will see me not as another columnist just trying to give advices rather see me as a friend whom they can rely upon blindly and be a support when they need a true friend...
But its a request not to use any abusive languages...
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I currently have a bf and we are doing long distance. I'm still in school and he's working back home to save up for our future (we've talked about marriage). However over the past year of us being apart it has made me question if he is the right guy for me.
My dilemma is that he is and has been the best bf I could ever ask for. He loves me unconditionally, supports me, seen me at my worst and yet still loves and worships me. He would literally do anything to the best of his abilities to make me happy. He is completely different from any of the exes I've been with and that's what drew me to him. On the flip side the one thing that I find lacking in him and our relationship is the sense where I feel like he inspires me to grow to be the best version of myself. Although he's comfortable and makes me feel safe, I don't feel that he motivates me to grow. On his days off, he usually stays in bed and plays games, watches anime and stuff like that... Which is fine to a certain extent but I sometimes I just wish he would do something more proactive. In the past, the kind of guys that I normally date and have been attracted to have always been "go getters" which always kept me on my toes and made me want to be better just like them. However every single guy that I dated that were go getters would end up being selfish and not care enough about me. Now that I've gotten a taste of both kinds of characteristics I just don't know what to do with my current relationship..
In the span of 6 months I have developed two crushes with guys who are go getters and make me feel inspired.. I find myself really attracted to them which makes me fantasize what it would be like to date them instead. I feel horrible for thinking this way because my bf is working hard to save up for our future but he keeps telling me that he feels neglected (I've slowly kind of distanced myself away from from him because I was starting to feel confused with my feelings) .. on top of that his family literally treats me as if I'm their daughter in law already and so in a way I feel obligated to be in this relationship and see it through. I don't know if this is just a phase I'm feeling because of the distance. In your opinion, is it better to be with someone in the long run who's supportive, loyal, loves unconditionally, and safe or is it better to be with someone who inspires me to be the best version of myself and ultimately helps me reach my full potential? I'm scared that if I leave, and I go for someone who's a go getter that it will end up biting me in the butt again (they will end up being way to selfish)...I'm so conflicted I don't know what to do (link)
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See, no one is perfect. The characteristics you are telling about him are very hard to find in anyone for long term as most people are very selfish.
As for motivation and activities, for a change, why don't you motivate yourself and him as well? Maybe you can be the inspirator yourself and help him grow? You can get inspiration from people, doesn't seem necessary that the motivation should come from one person only. Practically, a single person cannot have and be everything.
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My 63 year old dad was recently diagnosed with early on-set Alzheimer’s. My family dynamic is not exactly easy to mobilize to help with the long haul we’re in for. I don’t live in the same state & my sister (who does) hasn’t been much help (outside of directions ive tried to put in place from time-time).
Making matters worse is my dads 20 year girlfriend. They own a house together and are technically in a legal “domestic partnership”). She has never been very supportive in any matter, let alone something like this. She still works and travels almost half the month for business leaving him at home for 2-3 days at a clip. All the while interacting with every man on social media when out of town. If you saw her FB, you wouldn’t even know he she is with anyone. No pictures of them. No check-ins, likes. They’re barely friends.
They have never really been too in love...more like convenient partners after each of their first divorces. We’ve begged him to leave her several times (prior to the his health concerns) to no avail. Even when we see the frustration & depression sinking in through the years. He does not want to be alone (which i fully understand).
My sister has always said they’d take care of him, have him live with them if ever needed but he has always been a stubborn one & would never agree.
Neither my sister or my dad’s gf have helped with the doctors, appointments, paperwork...
My father is getting worse. Is on medication (when he remembers to take it) and conversations are slowly becoming harder and harder with everyone.
I don’t know what to do.
I feel like I’m the only one that can diffuse the situation & lead things on the right path. It’s pretty impossible for me to move back home & every time i start the ball rolling with everyone, it always gets dropped and nothing progresses. It pretty much digresses every time and i have to start all over. My dad has alienated his friends and family over the years. Mostly because of the girlfriend. She always finds a way to piss them off one-by-one until they eventually stopped coming around completely.
He is on disability (gets something each month to live), has an ok (not exceptional) amount of money in savings, retirement plans that he can use (but hasn’t drawn from).
The main problem is the girlfriend. If we forced her out, it would lead a path for destruction. First, my father would be devastated if she ever left. They own a house together. Believes that he is and has always been in love with her. I’ve tried talking to the girlfriend, leveling with her, but she plays doe-eyed deer every time. Promising to help & take the lead, but never does. I’ve asked if nothing else if she could make sure medication is being taken & i still have no confirmation ever. She wouldn’t even take a morning off of work to drive him to a doctors appt & is completely manipulative. To her and pretty much everyone.
By not helping at all, she’s endangering my father every day. I’m trying to stay positive as much as possible, but the appearance is that she’s content with things this way. Uses it to her advantage some times, manipulating him by claiming she said or done things that i know 100% are inaccurate. She’s always been like this. And now it’s frightening to think she could be using it to her advantage every waking minute of the day because he won’t be remember most of it anyhow.
Should i be taking any preliminary legal actions at the moment (he refuses to sign a will by the way) in order to prepare for a fall-out with the girlfriend?
Should i hire a private detective to watch the girlfriend in case there is a domestic partnership battle over anything?
Has anyone had an experience like this with a difficult loved one & a manipulative spouse/partner?
Any advice at all would be sincerely appreciated! Thank you. (link)
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Its not always possible to make people act exactly like the way you want to, neither your sister not his girlfriend. The only way, you can look after your father is to take all his responsibility upon yourself, Seeing your father's mental and physical condition, it wont be a wise decision to give him any shock. As for the girlfriend, you can hire a detective and collect proofs against her, in case she does anything visibly harmful you can use those proofs to warn her.
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well i been heartbroken over this guy named josiah for 4-5 years, we were close and almost dated. he led me on and used me til didnt need me anymore, and is my first love, kiss who lost virginity to etc. we ent from talking alot flirting etc to all sudden it stopped. idk why still, and foundout from someone that is married now. i tried sending a friend request on facebook, playing it off as dont have these feelings still, but denied request but didnt block. want talk to him so badly, as did have a miscarriage of his child and never griefed properly as kept it from my family cause they lecture me about having feelings for him tho thats not something i can help , tried everything i could think of to move on, and now in a relationship with lance, who treats me like queen do care for just not as much as do josiah. he knows had thing for him in past, as told him how he hurted me badly emotionally dont think it was intentional tho cuase he's best guy i ever knew before lance. what should i do? and want make my current relationship work though im just settling for lance since cannot have josiah like we were... (link)
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Why ponder over a married guy? why ponder over a cheater? You are lucky to presently have someone who treats you like a queen. He is the right one.
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I'm in the process of wanting to commit suicide as I want to be with my son, I haven't got anyone at all, my partner ignores me blames me for what our son did, he wrote me a letter blameing me and how much he hates me and he wished I was dead instead, I'm having nightmares and dreaming of being with my son so so much, iv tryd to get help and I cant get any at all, I'm on medications and it makes me feel even worse, I sit up each and every night now as iv planned my suicide to the end, as I vet left at him on my own quite alot and i know I wouldn't be found till.i am dead, I need help and I cant get it so what's the point, I wouldn't be missed at all as I'm always on my own anyway, I tryd it last year and it felt so good as it took the pain away what I was feeling, cant believe I am still here, please help me or vive me son advice to help me please, next time I'm going to go somewhere very spe ial so I has to be right I do t want to wake.yp I'm done and fed up, iv found homes for my pets tht iv raised and they don't need me now, thank you for reading (link)
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You need to change your living conditions and leave your partner for God's sake.I am really sorry for your son, but its not the end. I donot think, your parents brought you up, for someday you would commit suicide. Engage yourself in activities you love. And I dont know your age, but you might be a potential mother for other little ones to come.But only if you give your life a second chance.
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Okay, so how it all started.
A close friend has a tendency to ignore me when he gets upset. I hate being ignored, it hurts. He always has excuses to ignore me for days!
So the last time he did it I don't know what got into me but I just decided to cut. To my surprise, it actually helps! Not the pain but the blood. I don't know but seeing the blood makes me feel way better. I feel less bad. So after that I cut every time I get angry, frustrated or when I just feel bad. Well, my life isn't exactly great, I have other better reasons for cutting besides my dumbass friend.
I do not cut deep so I do not think its any dangerous but should I still stop? I cut my thighs and hips not my wrists so no one finds out. If I have to stop how do I stop? Its really addicting. (link)
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Yes, you should stop, because I dont think you want to live handicapped , like lose any body part through gangrene?? I think its worse than dying. Probably you dont take anti-tetanus after every cut, so even, if you dont cut deep, only two things may happen: You die a very very painful death due to tetanus, or you become handicapped thorough gangrene.If you think,you cant live without cutting, but can live handicapped... choice is yours. Addiction is very addictive, but its not impossible to leave it.
Next time, you feel like cutting, start crying. Its way better way to make feel good after the whole crying session is over.
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I went to the doctor a while ago for terrible stomach pains and constant constipation or diarreah. He said i have a lazy colon and ibs and gave me medicine. Its started again recently and the pains are really bad. I have no appetite, whenever i eat i feel like vomitting because im too full. Everyday im either constipated or have diareah and my mom wont take me back to the doctor because they will say the dame thing. Does anyone have any advice or what else it could be? Thanks (link)
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You are just in the same condition, I was about seven years ago.I was devasted mentally and physically and lost all hope, but gradually I bounced back to normal life, apart from medication, there are some things which help in IBS.
1. Avoid lactose, you may have lactose intolerance.
2. Eat a lot of probiotics, specially curd or yogurt and any other.
3. 90% cause of IBS is stress. You need a stress free life, a relaxation, more appropriately a change of place, may be change of workplace. Once I managed to control stress, joined a new place, tried to lead a relaxed and happy life, IBS vanished away like magic.
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Hello, we're good friends and known for a few months. But I've realised he teases me a lot in a fun way like I like your smile as I don't smile much. He says he's bantering because we're friends and I say no, you're flirting. He's always smiling but not shy. So, my question is do male and female friends flirt? I do fancy him a bit and I do have a feelings that's fancies me too but he says we're friends and bantering. Help guys! Thank you! (link)
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Friends do flirt. I too flirt with some of my male friends and they too flirt with me. Its just harmless until and unless, you try to find emotions in them or read too much into them. In most cases, these dont turn into real love for guys (Some may fake that they have fallen). So do not expect anything. Women in general are different. They find feelings associated with flirting and physical intimacy, in the end process, they hurt themselves and a harmless friendship suffers.
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So I pretty much want to forget about my dad he hurt me a lot and I even searched the internet for help but nothing helped me My dad was abusive and he cheated on my mom a lot. He also sexually assaulted me when I was little. Pretty much my mother had me at a young age around 15. And my 'father' was fine and all as I can recall. But when my mother left to work he would bring me with him and he would pick up a woman and bring them over to our house and well you know have sex with them. What was worse is that I had to be in the room with them when they were doing that, I remember when he did that and he turned all the lights off cuz u suppose he didn't want me to see I dont know and when he did I would cry silenty. He left me when I was 5 and I never knew he was abusive towards my mother till the day he hit her in front of me and my brother and I tried defending her and when she called the police he left and I heard he is in mexico now I always try forgetting him but its hard and he pretty much affected my life. Please give me some advice...... (link)
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Forgetting someone needs will power. There is no magic potion for this purpose. There are two things which you can do at present.
1. If you have a fire burning inside you, against your dad, fight against him and put him behind the bars.. sometimes, this is the only way, you can get mental peace.
2. Else, think he is dead. In others words,think about other things. Immerse yourself in your work/ studies and one day, you will see the pangs of pain has diminished by the healing power of time. Try engaging in some yoga classes. It has miraculous powers for self healing.
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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him,why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,and also today is his birthday, should i wish him happy birthday even i removed him from my friends??..thanks for help :) (link)
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You can be friends with him only if you have no more feelings left for him, if you still have feelings for him, then its better not to be friends again. otherwise in the end you will be the one who will be hurt tremendously. Its clear that he has no feelings for you.
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I am a 27 year old female and I am 5'2 and I weigh 185 pounds my doctor says that I need to lose 60 pounds to be at the correct weight for height and I need to know what's the healthiest way to do this. I need to get to 130 pounds to be healthy. (link)
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Start the morning with a cup of lukeworm lemon water and after 2 hrs take a cup of green tea.. Eat in small amounts at small intervals.. Fasting or gulping big amounts at a time will increase weight.. Look for complex carbs like starch and protein. Avoid fats and simple sugars like glucose.. Also include fibrous foods in the diet so that your bowel functions smoothly. Regularly do free hand excercise. (Please do your own research on which food contain complex carbs, least fat, more fibre and protein; the internet is filled with these type of food sources). But most importantly, tell yourself constantly that I am losing weight...every singly day..
Personally, I am also a 27 year old female and I had to lose weight too.. The above regime really worked for me.. and I ended up losing a lot of weight.. feeling more light and active.. and gaining a lot of health minus fat.
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Hello, I'm freaking out and don't know what to do. I'm completely out of money and overdrafted by -$10 in my account.
I'm a college student who just moved off to college less than a month ago and found a new job three weeks ago. It turned out though that in the first two weeks my job didn't give me very many hours as I was training so I only wound up with about $110 for the first week and haven't been paid yet for this last week and won't be paid for this week until next Thursday or later.
My issue is that I have a car payment and car insurance which totals about $425 together and my car insurance was taken out this morning, which is what overdrafted me.
I even sold a watch that I loved to make money ($80) but I sold it online and now I won't get paid for it until the buyer gets it and accepts it, but who knows when that will be when I just shipped it today.
My car payment ($316) is due on the 26th and though I have a grace period I have no idea how I'm going to be able to make this!!!
Fortunately, because I am a college student I at least have a meal plan so I can depend on that for food during the week. However, I have no money for food on the weekends or anything else I might need. I'm also 100 miles behind on an oil change in my car so I don't even feel safe driving it and it needs a synthetic change which is $60! I don't know what to do, I feel like everything is a giant disaster right now!
I can't ask my mom or dad for money because they don't have any to spare and I'm stuck on campus without any friends since I'm new here.
Please help me with some ideas!
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Have patience till you get the money from your employer
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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What type of support do yiu need and whats your problem?
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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Its better that you tell your parents as soon as possible. As for your future, you are just 13.. its better you opt for medical termination of the baby.
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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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There's nothing to feel depressed about. Treat yourself with proper medications after consulting witha doctor.. and you will get well soon.. As for this guy , he is sure a big liar... nothing more than that... get rid off him as soon as possible as he is more dangerous than the herpes
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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Dear...Give him some time.. He needs some time..
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My husband and I's one year anniversary is coming up in a few months, and so is a very close friend's wedding, her wedding date: our one year anniversary. I'm at a loss of what to do. My husband wouldn't be able to come with me to her wedding, and my friend would be extremely hurt if I didn't go. What makes the situation awkward is I knew when picking my wedding date that my friend would be getting married that same day. I had no choice however (my husband is military). I reassured and promised her since she got engaged that I would be there at her wedding. In fact, as soon as I got the wedding invite, I texted her and let her know I would be there and how excited I was. My husband always knew I'd be going, but I guess it just clicked for him I'd be missing or first anniversary. He's very upset, anniversaries are very important to him. I tried reasoning with him that we could celebrate another day, but he's not having it. What do I do? I will always pick my husband over anything, but shouldn't he be more understanding? Should I be present for the most important day of my close friend's life and hurt my husband? Or be there with my husband for our one year anniversary and risk losing my friend? (And I have very few true good friends) (link)
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You can celebrate a part of the day as anniversary and a part of the day for the wedding.try to explain it to your husband.. Even if then he is upset, then dedicate the whole day to him... close friend's wedding is important,but more important is your anniversary. donot sacrifice it.You can make up for ur close friend's wedding later by any other means.
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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There is nothing wrong in flirting with a guy if he likes you and you like him.
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I raped someone I want to turn myself in immediately. Tell me what I need to do. I need to be punished. I will not say how it happen and why. I can't make up any excuses. I was drunk but it doesn't change anything. The person who was hurt doesn't want to do anything and prefers to just forget and move on, but I can't . I need to be punished and I want to turn myself in. The person wouldn't have to worry about trial or publicity. I just need to know what I have to prepare for. (link)
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Surrender yourself to police or cut off your rape weapon.
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I have lied to my boyfriend his car handle fell off so I try to fix it with some super glue he came to my house that evening and asked me if I tried to fix his hand on his car with super glue and I stood in front of him face to face and I said no so he said well I'm going to call my son and see if he done it so you got a hold of his son and his son said no I didn't do it look at the cameras that you have at your house and it will tell who did it. So the next day when he left for work I text him that I did ithe forgive me for that stupid lie but he still broke up with me because I did it face to face if you truly love somebody you shouldn't have to lie to him you should tell them the truth what should I do I asked him for a second chance but he's not listening or even talking to me (link)
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Give him some time, and then contact him again.. may be a week or two
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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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This bloke is just an inhuman cheater and all his showoff of care is fake.He is just keeping you as a steady option by neither being serious nor cut-off from you completely..Its better that you throw him out of your life as soon as possible or things may turn out really ugly.. This guy is not trustworthy at all.
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