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what can i do besides get an abortion
im 14 i lost my fist born over the summer and im pregnant again it broke my heart when my daughter died i refuse to get an abortion what can i do
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Im 23 and have 2 kids my first I had at 17. I did not have supporting family. But I know how one thing leads to another. With my first I was in high school trying to decide what to do. I knew I wan't going to have an abortion. I had the two decisions.... adoption or rasing. I chose rasing because if you think about it farther down the line in your life you are going to want to know that baby, see that baby grow. I would not have it any other way! THat is me but if you are in certain situations then you probally should put the baby up for adoption. I would also think that you need to be open with every one around. When I was 17 and my mom found out that I was preganant she said if you keep that baby then you are not living here. So there I was in high school pregnant and no place to go. I ended up living with my aunt in another state. But it all worked out in the end. I am now engaged to my babys daddy. When he found out I was moving out of state he freaked. But then we went to the same college together so we stayed together. Then now we just had another one together and he is 4 months old. But there are alot of things to parenting that you don't relize until you have one of your own. I know it can be an emotional roller coaster but hopefully you have a supporting mom and dad to the fact! IBut if you are refusing to have an abortion the best thing for you to do is have that baby and keep it and watch it grow! It is one of the best things in life to see. If you need to talk please feel free to come and talk to me! If you need help with anything ever talk to me please! I know how hard it is to go threw at a young age, but not as young as you but. Keep in the low stress areas and don't freake over little things either!
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I am so sorry you lost your baby. How far along were you? I lost my first two in the beginning of my pregnancies. Now I have a five year old lil girl, and three year old twin boys. I am with you on the abortion point, I could never do that. I come from an inpovershied part of Philadelphia and see young girls having babies all the time. I'm 27 btw. I do not think it is impossible for a girl your age to have and raise a baby as long as you have your head together, and have lots of support from family. While I think 14 is a lil young to be having sex, that's not the point, you did it and now your pregnant. Have you spoken to your mom about this? Will she support you? If not, do you have any other close family or family friends to support you and help you through this? You do need to understand that your life as you know it is over if you keep this child. You cannot be out all night with your friends when you have a baby at home. You MUST stay in school and graduate from high school. Have you talked to the baby's father? How does he feel about this situation? I am in no way judging you. Everything happens for a reason. Feel free to contact me if you need to talk, and stay strong :-)
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wow, my heart is breking for you, lossing a baby must be so hard, i lost my baby brother but losing your own child would be imaginable, i recently had a baby nearly two months agao, and im 19 years of age, i found my situation hard to deal with at that age, how did you do it at 14?
the other options i guess would be adoptin, but be certain this is what you want, cos in years to come it may not be.
im not sure if you can offer gardianship to a relative or not, but if you could this would be good if you wanted to stay in the babies life.
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Believe that you are doing what is right for you. I agree that you really are very young to be having a child, but you are pregnant and must now deal with the consequences.
It is really difficult to relax during pregnancy when you have already suffered a miscarriage. You just have to hope that all will be well this time. If it happens again, then there is nothing you can do about it. It will be awful, I know I lost two babies, but I went on to have two beautiful daughters. Life does work itself out eventually.
You need to take care of yourself and the best way to do that is trust the medical profession to help you. Listen to their advice and make sure you attend every check up.
I hope that your pregnancy progresses well this time. Take care.
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well i am sorry that your baby died, but you are way to young to be having babies. give the baby up, or have an abortion. and no offence, but you need to get your life together. mayb you should get a counclar or something. most people havent have had sex yet by your age. and if they have, they only have once. you need to learn what a condom is. you are probly a good person, but it is selfish to bring people into the world just because you want to be loved by a child or because you want to have fun with guys. i am sorry if you find this offencive.
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first of all, i praise you for not having and abortion. you should give the baby up for adoption.
sorry for your loss
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Where do you live and who are your parents? Why in the world are you pregnant at 14 for the second time???? You are not even old enough to have a job. You need to have an abortion and get a future intact, a stable one with a job and an education before you bring a child into the world!! Welfare is not as easy to collect as it used to be. Sorry to be so blunt but love yourself first. take care of you before a baby.
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See a doctor and get good prenatal care. That's the best way to insure a healthy pregnancy. Doctors can sometimes detect problems before they get here to keep your unborn baby safe.
A doctor can also give you information and tell you who to talk to should you decide you want to put your baby up for adoption.
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1.you can always keep the baby.
2.give it to an adoption agency.
3.give it to a older close relative to watch over it.
4.leave it in front of hospital in car seat and they will send it to a adoption agency.
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Just hope everything will be fine. That`s all you can do. Why do you refuse to have an abortion? You`re 14, I don`t think you`re capable of making a decision like that. Haha.
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Just be strong and believe your baby will fine.
Did you know most women lose their first borns?
It's really sad.. but you usually have a miscarriage for your first.
You'll be okay. Just be careful and don't do anything that would hurt your baby.
You could always ask for a C-section?
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