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i dont know how to handle jealousy...
How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone?
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my boyfriend always got jelous of me, and everyonce in a while i would get mad or jelous at him and try to make him even more jelous by saying something stupid. jelousy sortof wrecks relationships if it gets really extream. people often mistake the jelosy for not being able to trust them, and that actually does have at least a little to do with it, but when someone thinks they cant be trusted they sortof end up feeling a little crappy. sometimes you have to accept that your boyfriend has other female friends and that he likes other people, but it really helps when you tell your guy to not talk about other girls or talk to them a lot when you are around. thats what worked for us, annyway.
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Jealousy is the green monster no one likes.
If your with a guy, you have to be confident that the guy likes YOU and you only. He wouldn't be putting effort into a relationship with you if he did not. Just remember, he chose you, not some other girl.
If it really bothers you, calmly talk to your boyfriend. Make it clear your not over obsessive, just worried and a little hurt. He'll assure you that he's yours and no one else's.
But don't blame it on him or become to tempered, because that hurts many relationships.
Learn to trust your guy and harbor your inhibitions. Writing in journals and listening to music is a good way to vent, or sometimes just screaming into a pillow relieves anger.
Good luck!
-DearAbby92
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Jealousy can come from two sources: Lack of trust and/or insecurity. So, the only way to get rid of jealousy is to get rid of those two.
Has your boyfriend ever done anything to betray your trust, such as cheating or lying about where he was? If so, your jealousy is somewhat justified. However, if he hasn't, other girls can be sparking your jealousy. Do other girls flirt with him? If so, remember that it takes two to tango; Meaning, that no matter how much another girl likes him, or flirts with him, it doesn't mean that the feelings will be returned by your boyfriend.
Insecurity, like I said, can also play a role in jealousy. Remember this: If your boyfriend is with you now, then he must have feelings for you, right?
You need to believe that you're worthy of him. This is the reason that people always say that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself.
Confidence involves a change in attitude. Believe that you're beautiful and wonderful and be positive in your abilities.
He obviously thinks that you're special if he's with you; Have faith in that, in him, and most of all, have faith in yourself.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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hey, well just think of it like this. he likes you. no matter how many other girls that flirt with him he picks you. so you must be special and all those girls must be jealus of you.
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Usually you get jealous over boyfriends because you are insecure. You need to remind yourself that he is with YOU for a reason and not the other girl.
If you're still feeling jealous, voice your concerns to your boyfriend. You don't have to say anything extreme like, "You can't hang out with them anymore because I'm jealous." But you could say something like, "It's not that big of a deal, but sometimes I get a little jealous when you're with other girls just because I care about you so much. Can I be included next time?" If you hang out with the same friends that your boyfriend does, I'm sure you'll feel a lot better about the whole situation.
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first- You need confidence tell your self are buetiful and have no reason to worry
second- Trust if your guy loves you so much then trust him he wont break your heart if it is true love
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If other girls flirt with him, & that's the jealousy you're talking about, then look at it this way: If he wanted to be with them, then he'd have left you already. He obviously wants to be with you, so you shouldn't worry so much. You're with him, they're not. If anything, they're jealous.
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