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break up or make uP?
heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..
ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!!
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If your guy is gonna choose his friends over you ALL THE TIME then he's probaly not ready for a serious relationship. Secondly no one should have a split personality no matter what the situation. If he acts differently around you when he's with his friends then he's just a phony in my opinion. You need to break up with him and move on in your life.
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I would be finding myself someone who treated me as if I was his number one priority. Friends are good to have and shouldn't be ignored but, you should be number one. The decision is yours :)
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The guy you are with hasn't quite matured yet. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't be with him, but hes just not very grown up with the dating world, and how to treat a girlfriend nicely. But, if I were you, I'd probably let him go and have the exact same tempt to just break up with him. Hes at an age where only his guys matter to him. Its really hard being with someone who spends a lot of time with friends, in other words, its hard to be with someone when they are really immature. And, about the whole making out thing, your boyfriends' friend is also very immature, too. You and your boyfriends' doing things are between you, not your friends or his friends. But, at this point, you shouldn't even be kissiung this guy if hes suddenly in a sexy mood because his friends want to see that.
-TheTeenGirl
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If your gut is telling you to move on - then move on and don't look back. First rule of thumb - if there was good enough reason to break up the first time - don't go back. If he really liked you and respected you then he wouldn't be trying to get you to make out in front of his friends. Sounds like he wants to show off...but before you dump him - maybe let him know how you feel. Have you done that? Don't expect him to know automatically what's going on. He is probably figuring stuff out too, ya know? So give him a chance to compose himself and be who he really is. Let him know what's going on with you and how you feel. I wouldn't ask him to ditch his friends becasue the bottom line is that he won't. And you really don't want him to! Friends are good for him and for you. You guys do need 'your time' but he's gonna be into his friends to - it's just a guy thing - it doesn't mean he doesn't care =) So let him know how you feel.
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hey, dont worry about it i know where youre comming from a lot of girls have this problems cause so many guys do this. Some of them always bring friends for sercurity cause there woont be a dull moment or akward silences if his friend is there, and also him acting different around you then he does when hes with his friends almost every guy in the world does that but mostly they do that because they don't want there friends making fun of him or teasing him for saying your beautiful or something and he probably just wants to be one of the guys and not be different than his friends.. and yea i know he shouldn't care about his friends if he really loves you but thats just hows guys minds work i hope it helped
<33~ alisha ~
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hey alright lets get down to bussness lol listen if i were you id tell him how you feel and id dump in a sec cause hun you dont need a man you trys to act like such a big shot in front of his friends your much better then that you need a man you acts the same way he does when your alone as he does with his friends around like holding hands and stuff it took y a while but i finally found a guy who acts tha same all the time around me you will to give it time. good luck -Ashlee-
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Okay. Well it seems like he is a little "friend obssesed!" what you need to do is sit him down and talk to him!
talk about the following--
--how he needs to pay a little more attention to you or you guys need to break up
--how he needs to include you while hanging out with his friends
--how he needs to spend some individual time with you at least 1 every two days
--how he needs to act more like your BOYFRIEND! Tell me how everything works out...I hope it does!
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talk to him tell him that if he doesnt change and wise up your gone .. so he better think if he wants you and his friends or just them. just let him kno your gone for good if he dont change
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