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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."
What do i do?!?
Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?
Should I wait to see if she does it again?
I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.
-Thank you so much!-
No. If she's done it twice before, chances are she'll do it again. I def. wouldn't consider my best friends because friends don't do that to each other. Tell her that you feel what she did was wrong. And next time, don't tell her who you like.
heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..
ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!!
If your guy is gonna choose his friends over you ALL THE TIME then he's probaly not ready for a serious relationship. Secondly no one should have a split personality no matter what the situation. If he acts differently around you when he's with his friends then he's just a phony in my opinion. You need to break up with him and move on in your life.
ok i have a friend and i recently found out that hes gay i was really suprised at first but things got better and we talked more but now hes just been so bitchy lately everyone thinks im dating him bc hes not open yet and i think that may be one of the reason for my failed attempts at relationships hes a really good person at heart and i know that but lately i dunno hes been so moody almost like a girl you know? i just cant stand it hes getting on my last nerve! what can i do to get him to be the person i used to know even after i found out he was gay??? sorry this is so long!
Maybe the way he's acting presently is really his personality. It's possible that your friend could ahve suppressed his moody real personality so he could appear more straight. Ask him why he's so moody around you, he's probaly not aware that he acts any differently around you. If that doesn't work then you guys probaly need to take a break from each other temporarily.
Are romantic fantasies a bad thing? In the 6th grade, (I'm going to 7th I just turned 13 in late may.) kids were "going out." I thought it was silly and immature, (and absolutely hilarious to watch) especially because they took their relationships so seriously and thought they were "in love". But the worst part of it is that I (in my most private of thoughts) sometimes get romantic fantasies that are equally if not more ridiculous! And I acually enjoy them. I try to avoid them because they're so ludicrous, but I can't. omg I'm soooooooooooo embarassed. Am I equally as silly as them? Am I judging them unfairly? Is this normal for 13-year-old? It would be really nice if someone could give me some info!!!
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Yes it is normal for a 13 yr. old to think about being in love or w/e. I think you are judning them a little bit too unfairly but otherwise you are right. Your friends are crazy if they think they're actually gonna marry their present boyfriend. They should just be having fun and enjoying themselves. They have all of highschool to have boyfriends.
hey guys...im really scared!! ok...i used to be really good friends with this guy and then we didnt really talk for a while, and in the past few months we have been talking alot and become really close again, well about 45 minutes ago i found out that his dad killed himself...what do i say to him? i mean HE doesnt even know yet...his mom called me before she told him...i used to be pretty close to his dad too...he didnt seem the type to do something like that...i have been crying my eyes out since i found out and when this guy does find out, what do i say to him? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You should let his mom be the one to break the news to him. But after that just try to console him the best you can and say that you'll be there if he ever needs anyhing.
About a week ago, I told my mom and my sister that we should go see the movie "Bewitched" since we used to watch 70's version of this late at night on TV together. When I said this I meant for us to "set a date" to go see a movie. My mom called me earlier and said she wanted to watch this movie now. I am 31 years old and have a family of my own. I also have other plans to do tonight although my plans aren't that important. Anyways, I told her that I have a headache and that they should just go ahead and watch without me. I felt bad because I was the one who originally asked them to see this movie...It's just that I didn't expect it to be today....It's a long weekend...I just went out and watch a movie with my kids, went to a baby shower and I'm kind of tired and wanted to rest and then maybe do some grocery shopping later tonight. Was I wrong for saying no?...I really feel bad and my guts says I should've just gone with them....
Absolutely not. Even though you feel bad you had valid reasons for not going. I'm sure your mother and your sister will understand if you just explain about your busy schedule and they will more than likely understand why you weren't in the mood to go.
well im 13 and my sister is 15 but for some reason, evertime a guy likes her or she goes out with someone, i get really pissed off and scare the guy away. ( I even gave a guy a black eye) I know that shes gonna go out with guys, but i dont want anybody to hurt her or take advantage of her. last summer, we went to the same summer camp, and a guy liked her and thats where i punched a kid. we tell each other everything so she knows about the gfs ive had (only 2) and she didnt like my gfs either. should i give a guy a chance, and am i being too overprotective?
It's nice that you care about your sister so much but yes you are being too overprotective. You should give your sister's new bf a chance and if you have a good reason not to like him then you should talk to your sister about it and tell her how you feel.
ok i have a big jewish nose lol brown eyes light brown hair and a long face and not really an upper lip a tan and a slim bathing suit body. should i wear colored contacts what color. should i dye my hair blond. also what styles should i do my hair and clothes and makeup
If I were you I wouldn't do anything. Do you really wanna look like everyone else who's trying to go blonde? Just be yourself!!! If anything you should probally just change your makeup to enhance your good features and to conceal your least favorite ones. You should try to embrace who you are and to stop trying to look like everyone else. No one can tell you what style of clothing to wear because no one knows you as well as you do. Just wear clothes that you feel comfortable in and that you look good in.
ok well my best friend set me up on a blind date with her boyfriends best friend. well we hugged and we cuddled in the movie and i gave him a hug at the end of the date and i thought everything was fine but his friends didnt think so and hes saying im prude because i didnt kiss him. should i have done more i mean i would have but i mean i didnt want to take it to far on a blind date and i always wanted the guy to make the move i was never to (btw i have never hadeout before)so i wasnt sure if it would go there i was worried i would mess up! please help!
If he isn't man enough to tell you how he feels then i don't think you should waste anymore of your time with him. I agree with you about not going to far on a first base, and i honestly think you can do better than him. If he's gonna talk about how prude you are now, then when you really start to do stuff with him, he'll probaly talk about how much of a slut you are.
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ummmm...like the subject says, i've never been kissed. and it gets to me. everytime i think about it, i get all depressed and start to think that i'm ugly and that no one will ever like me and i'll never be loved. how do i stop thinking about this?! i don't wanna feel like this anymore....
thx in advance
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You shouldn't judge your self worth on how many times you've been kissed. You are most likely not an ugly girl and you shouldn't beat yourself up over this. The reason why boys dont' really ask u out so much is probaly becasue they can sense your low self-esteem. Have a little confidence and don't be afraid to approach a boy yourself. Trust me, there are many girls that are you age and haven't been kissed yet either. Don't give up and don't become depressed about just cheer up have a little confidence and the boys will be sure to notice.
i have no idea what im going to do with her. do you have any ideas what we could do? also how am i supposed to get her in bed? i have only babysat once..and that was with my sister. im going to babysit from 7 to 11. what time do you think she should go to bed? i just really need some ideas on what we could do. and do you have any tips? also...how much do you think ill get payed for 4 hours?
Ask her parents about her regular bedtime so that you can be sure she's going to bed at the right time. Take her to the park for an hour before it gets dark so she can play because 4 yr olds have a lot of energy. Bring her back to your house and feed her a snack if she's hungry, and before she goes to bed maybe have her color in a coloring book or have her paint( if that's alright with you) or something. If you have any games suitable for 4 yr. olds play those games with her. Also, maybe you could play with dolls or something. If you can't think of anything, ask her parents what she likes to do for fun. Hope i helped.
My guy friend (who I kind of like) & I are going to see Star Wars. I'm thinking this'll be the night when I admit to having feelings for him. Is this a good movie for that? It sounds crazy but is there anything I can do during the movie to hint I like him? Are there any romantic scenes in the movie that might turn him on or get his mind on relationships?
I don't think this is the right movie for it. The movie is very action packed and there are very few romantic scenes. But there are some parts where you might get a little scared so maybe you should kind of hide your face in his shirt or something. Also, you should plan to get something to eat after the movies at a nice restaraunt or something so that you can tell him how you feel in a romantic setting.
ok, i have this friend, actually she is my girl friend, her name is kelly, and kelly is really good friends with amy. but amy is one of those people that her mom babies the HELL out of. and my mom keeps tellin me to try to stay away from those types of people cause in highschool and colage they are the ones who end up doing drugs-sex-alchohal (sp) ect... and i really want to keep kelly away from all that. But like i said, they are really good friends. i feel really bad for trying to break up their freindship, but i am affraid if kelly is exposed to all that, then she will too...im just really worried about her. should i go through with my plan to break them up (both friend wise and im posotive amy is atleast bi-if not completly a lesbien) or should i just try to ignore it and nothing will prolly happen. please help!
I don't think you should try to break them up. Your girlfriend will only end up resenting you for it even though you have good intentions. You have to trust that your girlfriend is smart enough not to get into drugs and alcohol. If you're really concerned about it you should talk to your girlfriend and let her know that you don't really trust amy and that she should be careful around amy.
i am so upset righyt now. i told my friend some really personal things about my life. she promised she wouldnt tell anyone. it was mostly about this guy that i liked a lot. a real lot. we were firghtin the ohter day and she told him all my personal things and now she wants me to forgive her. i dont think i should because she doesnt deserve it. it was really personal and it wasnt his business. what should i do?
Eventually you should forgive her but definetly don't forget what she did. You guys can still be friends again but if i were you I def. wouldn't trust her with any personal info. anymore.
My mom won't let my peirce my belly, and i have wanted it for two years now. I have tryed to convince her that i want it done but she still says no! Any ideas? Please help asap!!!!!
Convince her that you are responsible enough to have a belly piercing. Start doing extra chores, improve your grades( if you need to), and just be more trustworthy. Maybe she'll notice your good behavior and realize that you're responsible to have a belly piercing
Is there a site on the internet (like cdzinc.com) that provides free listening music to everyone? I don't mean one of those illegal downloading sites, just a site where you can listen to the music but not download it.
Try launch.yahoo.com. It's a website that allows you to view music videos.
Hmm, okey..
I was just wondering which one of these is best:
WinMx
Bearshare
Kazzaa
Imesh
e.t.c
I've heard some of them give you viruses?
So which one is cheap and doesnt give your computer any viruses?
I appreciate any answers =D
Sorry about the spelling mistakes, just that im in a hurry :P
Have a nice day ;)
I like LimeWire best. It's free, fast, and i haven't recieved any viruses from it.
... i love my boyfriend and never want to leave him .... its just sometimes ... i dont and i want to kill myself because he never seems happy with me ... he get irritated and even slaps me sometimes. But i dont want to break up! Please help ... I dont know what else to do
~ Hurtin' on the outside
You def. need to break up with him. Love isn't supposed to hurt. He has no right to put his hands on you and you should def. leave him. Your relationship isn't healthy and you need to find a guy who CAN appreciate you and respect you.
ok well i have been best friends with illy,cassie for at least 4-3 years each.. latley now that were in high school and everything they always group up.. and i feel like ok .. should i walk away or just go with them... im never a follower.. i cant stand that, but illy has a boyfriend and her boyfriend obviously like cassie better than me.. the reason is i have no idea ! i mean her boyfriend doesnt bother me, but at times he does.. i dont know how to explain it.. any ways all last week i was dealing with alot of family problems, and both of them knew that.. so i wasnt all in a very good mood to talk even though i still did.. friday comes along and cassie and illy have planned to go to this dance recital at our high school, they didnt even invite me to go.. but i wanted to go any ways so i asked my good friend brittany if she wanted to go... so me and her went ! we got there and brittanys friend steven had already had our seats saved and about 3 others that if any of our friends showed up could sit there.. well i saw illy , cassie 2 rows in front of me.. i called illy to ask her something and cassie picked up the phone.. i said if they had plans to hang out with eachother afterwards and if we should all do something tonight.. cassie said no then hung up pretty much right away before i could ask if they wanted to come sit by me and britt.. cassie texted me saying ' why didnt u sit by us ' and i explained that steven had me, brittanys seats saved and that i wasnt really invited by them to go any ways.. she kept saying ' whatever ' so i finally said ' you know wut cass, this whole week you've been really bitchy towards me, not illy '.. and she just replyed thats pretty sweet.. and im like are you mad at me and she just said ' id rather not answer that ' so i was pretty much like forget it.. later that night through text i said i was sorry for whatever i did but it wasnt a good week for me until today but then u had to go ruin it by being a bitch to me for no reason..
... so now she said last night she wasnt mad @ me.. but she ingorned me completly today and when she was by me and illy she just talked to her..
i have no idea what to do, should i just ingore her ? or what ? please help.. ill rate !
It seems that you need to cut her out of your life. For whatever reason she seems to have issues with you and your relationship with her just doesn't seem healthy. You should possibly hang out with Brittany more because she seems like she's a better friend than Cassie. Remember friends are supposed to make your life more enjoyable not more stressful
My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input?
I agree with you. They BOTH should go shopping together and get two completely different dresses. That way they'll solve their problem and they'll be able to spend some together to kind of repair their friendship