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Fantasies?????
Are romantic fantasies a bad thing? In the 6th grade, (I'm going to 7th I just turned 13 in late may.) kids were "going out." I thought it was silly and immature, (and absolutely hilarious to watch) especially because they took their relationships so seriously and thought they were "in love". But the worst part of it is that I (in my most private of thoughts) sometimes get romantic fantasies that are equally if not more ridiculous! And I acually enjoy them. I try to avoid them because they're so ludicrous, but I can't. omg I'm soooooooooooo embarassed. Am I equally as silly as them? Am I judging them unfairly? Is this normal for 13-year-old? It would be really nice if someone could give me some info!!!
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♥ Anneliese ♥
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Yes it is normal for a 13 yr. old to think about being in love or w/e. I think you are judning them a little bit too unfairly but otherwise you are right. Your friends are crazy if they think they're actually gonna marry their present boyfriend. They should just be having fun and enjoying themselves. They have all of highschool to have boyfriends.
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take it from a 13 yr old that has had many boyfriends. look the only reason why kids our age have boyfriends & girlfriends is really because it's part of being a 16 yr old, and what we are trying to do is grow up as fast as possible so we act like we are grown up! its silly but whatever your not alone!
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It's human nature to want love and companionship. For you to have "romantic fantasies" is completely normal and nothing for
you to be embarassed about. You are to the age that you will be looking for romance. Quit worrying and enjoy the fact that you're growing emotionally.
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You are a realist. That is good. You are way ahead of most people your age.
As for the romantic fantasies, you are completely normal. Everyone (at least everyone without a penis) does it. It is in our genetic make-up.
You have a good head on your shoulders. Don't stress over silly fantasies. You are bright enough to separate fantasy and reality and if you slip up, you are no worse than the rest of us.
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All your romantic fantasies are perfectly normal. You are not silly at all. :)
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Perfectly normal! I used to dream about my "perfect boyfriend" until I finally found him ;) So don't feel embarrassed at all. At least you know what you will want in a guy/girl, right?
It's true a lot of people take the word "love" for granted and I really did think relationships before college were stupid, ESPECIALLY middle school love and below. I'm not sure about middle school, but I do believe you can find love at a young age. Although people take it for granted, it doesn't mean true love isn't possible.
This is my opinion on love:
No one can ever describe love "correctly" or "incorrectly". This is because every person has a different definition of "love". "Love" has many different degrees. It depends on how strong you believe in the word.
Loving someone can mean ANYTHING. You can love someone romantically, or you can love someone as a friend, or as a role model, or as a family member, etc. When you're "in love" it does depend on how you're using it. If you say you love your mom, or family members, of course you're "in love". But most commonly, "in love" is only used for a "lover" or someone you're having a "relationship" with.
Love is when you love that person no matter what. You can't suddenly "fall out of love" with that person. You shouldn't just like this person just because of their looks or something superficial.
This person does NOT make you insecure or self-conscious, they should make you LESS insecure and self-conscious. They should make you feel GOOD about yourself. Not only this, but you should do the SAME for them as well. It's a you-get- and you-give- relationship.
Think about WHY you love this person. Are they good reasons? It helps to look into the future. Is this guy HUSBAND material? If the answer is no, don't bother wasting your time on someone you can't see yourself with.
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