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i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
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Tell him you support him fully and you still want to be friends (if you do)
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Oh god that really sucks..but you should just except him for who he is and just tell him that you know he likes guys and you are alright with it but that you cant continue this relationship(thats if you havent broken up yet). but remember when you are telling him this let him talk too and be very open minded about what he has to say
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Ok if he's with you, he's probably not gay. It is possible he's bisexual. Chances are that it was just youthful experimentation and means nothing. Sit down and calmly tell your bf what you found out and your feelings on it. Note I said calmly. He may be as shocked as you to find out, sometimes these things are just malicious rumors.
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Find a new boyfriend. If he is gay he will never be more than a good friend. If he is BI there is to much disease out there to get serious with him. Not to mention that lifestyle is probably not for you. Just be friends. :)
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You shouldn't criticize or hate him for ANY reason. You can still be good friends! Gay guys are the BEST friends a girl can have. They're really fun to hang out with and stuff. He may have been your boyfriend but you should feel important because he told you his deep and dark secret.
He trusted you enough to tell you this and you should really respect that.
Still be friends with him even though you don't feel right because I agree with you... I mean, THAT'S YOUR BOYFRIEND for pete's sake but you HAVE to accept him for him. He respected you (obviously) and you WERE happy with him (obviously).
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
♥ Kay kay
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well sence he is gay he'll understand, so just say well you like guys and i do too, so its not really gonna work out
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i think you are going to break up with him since you are a girl and he likes guys. im sorry!! first confront him about it and if it is true, then the right think to do is split it off.
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umm wow but how could he be gay when he is going out with you??? all you have to do is confront him and be like ok i heard that you were gay? and if that is true then why are we going out? and just be nice about it and if he is you have to break up with him and i know it will be hard but wat else can you do?
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You need to make it clear to him that you'll accept him, but you can't go on being his girlfriend. But you want to be GOOD friend b/c you dont want to lose him.
Hope i helped!
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You should dump him if he has been hiding his sexuality for this long. If he just realized this, forgive him, but find a straight boyfriend. Try not to be weirded out by him because he's gay, just make sure you are both comfortable talking to each other.
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Alright, so you've found yourself in a Will and Grace scenario. Big deal. That is one heck of a shock, but I wouldn't worry that much about it. I think you should break up but stay friends, or grow a dick. However, I like the first one alot better. It's going to be uber hard to deal with but I promise that this is more than likely a one time thing and that there will be pleanty of straight guys waiting for you to grace them with your awesomeness. Don't stress about it though. Whatever you do. Yeah that's quite a conondrum, but don't let it ruin your life. Good luck.
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if you really love him.....just accept him...
if can't accept him....then break up with him...
SIMPLE!!!!!!!
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How do you know he's gay if he hasn't told you? I think you should just be open with him about it because if it's not true he should know things are being said about him. If it is true, he would probably like some support and yeah it's weird that he's your boyfriend, but there's nothing you can do about it. Just be open with him, so he can be open with you. Maybe you two can talk the whole situation through and figure out what needs to be done. Also, you can't ask people how you should react. Only you know your feelings, so react the way that's natural. Not the way other people would react if they were in your situation. Hope I helped.
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First of all are you SURE he's gay? And by that, have you actually heard it from HIM? If the answer is no, please TALK to him and find out the FACTS before you jump to conclusions.
If you are sure, then read on. Don't be hurt. I know...that's probably impossible to do!
In the past I had this whole soap opera about this guy who liked me (and was GOING to ask me out) that was confused and in the end he turned gay. Ugh. It left me confused and hurt. But guess what? It's been two years and I have no feelings for him and I have the best boyfriend now!
Just tell him you're not willing to date him anymore if he's gay (obviously because he only likes guys right? lol). Just tell him how you feel. If I were you I'd tell him how disappointed you are since he didn't tell you anything and you had to find out on your own (Well, at least that's what I'm assuming; unless he did tell you).
Dating is all about gaining new experiences, bonding with someone, and finding out what you need and want. I'm pretty sure you've done just that. If things don't work out you move on and live life. Just hang in there and the perfect guy will come (that's not gay! lol)!
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