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Q: This is weird, but Im TERRIFIED of sex. Im 14. But, I hate to think about which is weird because I masturbate all the time..but to think of something actually going in there is scary to me. Ive tried to put tampons in before and even that KILLS..I only get half way and I stop. Can anyone tell me if sex really hurts? On a scale of 1-10? Is there any pain sex compares to? Is it worth it?
for mee sex only hurt about 4-5. but fingering hurt me like 7-8.
just make sure when you do it, you trust the guy that you are with. and for me it was worth it

Q: When you have sex for the first time on a scale of 1-10 how much did it hurt for you and was it really that pain ful ?
For me it was about a 5-6 just because I really trusted my partner and he went slow and didn't rush into it. But fingering for me the first time was about 8-9 just because I wasn't like wet.

Q: My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I don't think I'm ready... see he's not pressuring me, but he wants me to... I can tell. It's gunna be my first time (if i do do it) could anyone give me any tips (gross i know, sorry) on what to do?


*Thank you
I may not be the right person to help you with this question because I lost my virginity when I was 13 years old, yeah I know really early. But I don't regret it. I wasn't pressured and if you don't want to have sex then tell him he will respect that and if he doesn't then he was just using you. If you do have sex, have protected sex because I learned the head way. Good Luck!

Q: hey about at what age/grade are people until they get their first kiss?

and do you just like do a peck or actually french kiss, or do you open your mouth a little and sort of like suck on their lips or whatever lol.

please give me a lot of detail and I'll rate high!!!
I got my first kiss when I was in 6th grade and it was a peck..very very short kiss. But my first makeout with in the summer of 7th grade. It's really easy to do all I had to do was lean in and there he was. But my kiss was very pathetic and I regret it.

Q: ok my dad wasnt home so i snuck a reeses peanut butter cup, even though i wasnt supposed to have one and i dropped it and my dog ate it...is he going to die? please help me i am so scared right now...hes a wire fox terrior, 1 year old and weighs about 18-20 pounds if that helps...please help me danielle
no way hes fine once my dog had a half pound of fudge and was fine. it will be ok

Q: I was just "dumped" by my girlfriend of 4mnths. I feel rotten about the whole thing. I mean we were close. We were in love. My heart is shattered. I feel hurt. How does she feel. I know its an awkward question. But how do women feel after breaking up with a guy. And how do I win her back.

When I dumped my boyfriend of nine months I felt completely terrible. The only reason why I dumped him was because I didn't feel like I was being fair to him by dancing and everything with other guys, weird situation. Anyway him and I were over in October but he was sooo nice to me and we now at the moment still love each other greatly. So maybe she still likes you, you should ask her why she dumped you, then work from that. Hope it helped. Good luck!

Q: I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance!
When I got my first kiss I was 12 and my boyfriend and I kissed at the back of our school, trashy? Yes. I was pressured into it and it wasn't all that great, but I ended going out with him for 2 more years and it was greattt. But don't be pressured into doing it because it might not be good.

Q: okay, soo, i'm a female 13, and i'm an asian, but i'm kinda goodlooking, and i don't know how to be popular? so if anyone can tell me how to be very populer i'll luv ya'll, and rate u high!
ok well im popular and um you cant to anything besides being smart and very pretty

Q: Im 14 yrs. old and i dont think i need that many minutes on my cell phone so what is like the avgrage mintues you need?
well i usually use over 500 so id get 1000 with rollover so youll be all good

Q: how do you know when your in love?
if your in love you can tell....if your asking this bc you think your in love obviously your not

Q: how do i get a link for my advice column on my AIM website and not copy the html address at the top so on my aim profile it'll just say ask me for some adice or advice thanks!
OK well if your thinking to add it to your profile on AIM then go to (on your AIM) 'My AIM'
edit profile click next twice....now go on to you advicenators colum and get the http adress and copy it...now go back to your profile and click the 'link' that is in blue it will ask you for the hyperlink url and add the http from your colum then under it add whatever you want such as what you said ask me for some advice

please rate me

Q: Hey. What's up?

I Have an amazing boyfriend. I love him. We have been together since Feb. 2nd, 2004 (for the people trying to figure that out, its been 1 year,6months and 9 days) I Love Him, like I said. However, sometimes I think that I may like other guys. Where I work there are 2 guys who I
"like" but I wouldn't go out with them if they asked me. I want to stay with my boyfriend. I think about these other guys sometimes tho.

Any ways or tips to stop these thoughts?

I am more then sure that I am going to stay with my boyfriend. I wouldn't ever date these other guys.

How can I deal with the thoughts?

Is this normal?

(Sophmore, Female)

-Kels-
ok well i have been with my boyfriend for a while, and i too have thoughts about other guys, its completly normal and they won't go away just do some stuff with you boyfriend and spice up ur relationship and the thoughts of these other guys will fade less and less then they will be gone...lots of luck!

Q: okay well i really like this one guy.. and i mean hes like soo soo perfect... and i know hes noticed me and i think we might have a chance of going out cuz were already friends and i just dont know what to do.. i mean i no i cant ask him out soo please help me please hes soo important to me but he just doesnt know that..
signed so so confused..
*I RATE* please answer me soon*
ok well, hmm this is kind of hard...
1) You can ask him out...some guys like it, others just think its weird so i would wait for him to ask you out
2)Tell him how you feel be like, "You mean the world to me, i jjust wanted to tell you and im not expecting a responce, so yeah and i hope that we can still act the same around each other as we did before"...BUT if he is going to say something let him say it before like say you mean the world to me and im not waiting for a respoce then have a pause so if he is going to say something he can and you will know if not then just go on saying that you hope that you can still be good friends as you were before this


i hope i helped

Q: when you buy a mini ipod do you have to charge it?? does the charger come with it or do u have to but it seperatly??
ok well yeah you have to charge it...duh and it does come with it but if i were you i would charge it alot bc that is how i broke mine and get ipod insureance..it helps

Q: everything is goin great between us or atleast it seems like it...lately he hasnt been tlkin to me as much and stuff like that...i have a feeling sumthing is goin on but i need someone elses opinion

thx
omg the same thing is happening to me and my bf well hes actually at the shore and everything so he 'cant' talk to me...everything will be just fine. if i were you just call him and tell him that you havent been talking as much lately and you miss him

good luck

Q: can somebody give me some good country songs please? :)
This is a really really good song: When the Sand Runs Out by Rascal Flatts
and Save a Horse (Ride a Cowboy) by Big & Rich those are the only good songs that i know of


Q: im 17/f me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and about a month ago he broke up with me cuz we fight too much. that lasted about 2 hours and we got back together. last night i broke up with him because i never see him....he chooses everything else over me. we both said it wouldnt be a permanent thing but now 12 hours later, i want him back. i told him this and he said its too soon and we should just wait it out but i cant live without him. im not suicidal so dont say anything about that but i love him so much and i dont want to just wait it out...WHAT DO I DO? HOW CAN I GET HIM BACK?
same thing happened to me
you should just wait and everyday tell him that you like him but dont beg to get back together with him and just tell him that you arent yourself without him and when and if you do get back together tell him that you want to do more things together then the last time that you both went out so he understands what is (cant think of a word to use)'expected' of him


hope i helped

Q: basically this guy moved here a couple years ago and ive liked him ever since then. he lives right across the street from me so we became brother and sister type friends. he's had a lot of girlfriends here so we never went out, but he has liked me before. so now he's in an 8 month relationship with another girl and im happy for them. now heres the hard for me part, they've gone to 3rd within 3 months...and now they're talking about having sex within a few weeks. he talks to me about this (he doesnt know that i like him still because i dont want to create drama), but if he actually goes through with it i dont think i could ever look at him the same. we're all 15 by the way. i don't know... i've been thinking about it so much and im really upset. please help
ok well...you should tell him that this WILL prolly change things between the two of you guys, and it will change his whole like so he should think about it---thenn you should tell him that you still like him but dont be like, "no dont have sex with her...i still like you" just be like you who when the moment is right..."i dont know what is happening but i think im starting to like you as more then a friend" just like casually say that then say, "im sorry i said that but i just had to tell you how i feel and im not expecting you to respond to it" then just carry on with your conversation
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thats all that i can think of but you should DEFITANLY tell him that it WILL change between the two of you and his life will be different....hope i helped...good luck

Q: when u get n ipod can u load music from a cd on it?


thanks
Yes and to do so bring up the iTunes thing and then stick the CD in and then it will come up and click import and if you dont want all the songs then click where there is a check mark and they wont be there anymore
hope i helped

Q: im only 13/f and i have had 3 boyfriends but never done anything more than hold hands and hug?? i havent even gotten my first kiss! is there some way i can get it soon or do i just have to wait?? i rate high!
tell them you want to kiss them its as simple as that just be like "hey i really think your hott..do you think we will ever kiss?" thats all you have to say thats what i said my first time and it worked



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