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love sucks
im 17/f me and my boyfriend have been dating for 7 months and about a month ago he broke up with me cuz we fight too much. that lasted about 2 hours and we got back together. last night i broke up with him because i never see him....he chooses everything else over me. we both said it wouldnt be a permanent thing but now 12 hours later, i want him back. i told him this and he said its too soon and we should just wait it out but i cant live without him. im not suicidal so dont say anything about that but i love him so much and i dont want to just wait it out...WHAT DO I DO? HOW CAN I GET HIM BACK?
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Mkay.. i would wait it out a little bit before goin back to him b.c it seems like you both need a lil bit of a break from each other. You should talk about your problems like how he chooses everything over you. I really dunno wat to tell you about you guys fighting too much except to talk it out. Hope I helped =]
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Well I know exactly what you are going through. In my last relationship with my (now) ex bf I broke up with him because he kept getting in trouble and we were fighting a lot. We had been dating for 7 months too. After about 3 hours I desperately wanted him back. But I stood strong to what I had decided because I knew that no matter how bad I missed him now, that in the end it wouldn't be the best thing for me. So I suggest you do exactly what he wants. Give him time. Give yourself time. Obviously since you both were fighting alot you have alot of unsolved issues. To get this to work, you guys both need to settle those issues BEFORE you start dating again. That way when you start dating there won't be any lingering issues that can cause your already stressed relationship worse. If you both end up growing apart, which is definently what you don't want, don't give up. It's not the end of the world. Trust me. There will be other guys. I just met my recent bf out of the blue at a fair when I wasn't even looking for a bf. So don't be discouraged. You're only 17 and I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. So if this doesn't work out, there is always a good reason. Maybe your ex isn't the right guy for you, but maybe he is. Either way you need to give him a chance to figure things out for himself and the same for you. I know it will be driving you crazy to be with him but you both need to think things through and decide if you guys being together is worth it. In the end everything should work out. Just give him his space but still be there for him. Give him a week and then call him and try to find a way to ask him what all he thinks went wrong in your guys relationship. Talk with him about it calmly and certainly don't fight. Maybe after a long, good talk you both can figure it out and start dating. Just don't worry about it. Everything will be fine. I hope my advice helps you. If you ever need any advice you can ask me anytime. Let me know how things go. Best of luck!
~Sherah
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I would play hard to get even though you want him back! Start to flirt with other guys when he is around! He'll prolly get jelous and want to get back together with u !!!
hope this helps
LLauren_E_x3
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i say, you just move on damnit! you probably shouldnt be with him by the sounds of it. COME ON. jsut get a little hottie and have a nice little fling and get oVER it. yesssss.
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well you havent lost him you'll most likely get him back it sounds like.. just try not to get mad at him and try to talk to him about your problems and if he continues to choose things over you then just get rid of him hun.. ♥ Dez best of luck! if you need anymore advice leave it in my inbox..
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Try getting to the root of why you fight so much. Since your boyfriend said it's too soon, maybe he's working on how he can correct the problem or simply giving you time to make sure it's not just the post-breakup blues talking.
Take this time apart to see if you can come up with solutions or compromises to your problems as a couple. That way, when your boyfriend says it is time, you have already taken care of the issues that broke you up in the first place.
I know it's hard but you can't push your boyfriend into taking you back if he says it's too soon. Just let him know your love for him is still strong and talk to him about how you can improve the relationship once you get back together.
Good luck. I hope it all works out for you.
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same thing happened to me
you should just wait and everyday tell him that you like him but dont beg to get back together with him and just tell him that you arent yourself without him and when and if you do get back together tell him that you want to do more things together then the last time that you both went out so he understands what is (cant think of a word to use)'expected' of him
hope i helped<3
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This probably isn't what you are wanting to hear, but I think you should accept and respect his decisions for the time being and leave it alone. He KNOWS how you feel, and you've done right by telling him this. Now it's up to him to agree to it, and it he feels he needs more time.. I certainly wouldn't rush that. And who knows... maybe this break will turn out to be a better thing than you might realize. I guess I've always thought that there is a reason for everything. And if you can not FIND that reason.. there is a reason for THAT too. i'm not shore if any of this HELPS you, but hopefully it will at least get you thinking. I wish you the best, hopefully everything works out. =]
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In my opinion, not being together in this situation might be for the best. You are only 17, so of course you are going to feel like you need him, and he's the only one for you. But think about it, if you both weren't getting what you wanted out of the relationship, and you were fighting, or arguing a lot..maybe it's better to have ended it. It is gonna feel like you want to be with him for a long time. Especially since you weren't just together for a week or a month like a lot of high school relationships. But believe me, they don't last forever. You are only 17, you have your whole life ahead of you. If you don't want another b/f, or don't think you could get another one..STAY SINGLE! You don't need to be tied down when you are so young. I mean yeah you might almost be 18, an "adult", but that is still young. You have other things that you could be thinking about to get your mind off of him. Hang out with your friends! For now just worry about finishing school, going to college, getting a good job! Don't worry about not being with him, because if he is really who you are meant to be with, you will end of with him one way or another! And if he really loves you, he'll come back. Don't chase him though, it isn't worth it..Good Luck!
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Im sorry that he says its to soon to get back together with ya. And i know you really want to get back together with him but if he doesnt want to them just make him Regret not getting back together with ya. Make him want you. I am not really sure what you will hafto do but i hope i helped! Good Luck
<3 Sam
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