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Hey. What's up?
I Have an amazing boyfriend. I love him. We have been together since Feb. 2nd, 2004 (for the people trying to figure that out, its been 1 year,6months and 9 days) I Love Him, like I said. However, sometimes I think that I may like other guys. Where I work there are 2 guys who I
"like" but I wouldn't go out with them if they asked me. I want to stay with my boyfriend. I think about these other guys sometimes tho.
Any ways or tips to stop these thoughts?
I am more then sure that I am going to stay with my boyfriend. I wouldn't ever date these other guys.
How can I deal with the thoughts?
Is this normal?
(Sophmore, Female)
-Kels-
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Its perfectly normal. Thats what tests your love for your boyfriend. If you really love him and your meant to be with each other, all it will ever be is like. Just because you like them, doesnt mean you have to date them, and most likely it will subside. You dont even have to tell your boyfriend about these thoughts, because theres no sense getting things all stirred up when you know your heart is with him.
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yeah its perfectly normal, nothing wrong with thoughts, as long as you dont pounce on the guys its all good
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It's normal to wonder "what if?" while in a relationship. Since right now your thoughts are only thoughts, I don't see where there is a problem. Since you've been together for over a year, I'm assuming this is probably your first really serious relationship. You're probably just wondering "what if?" because you haven't had the chance to seriously date anyone else.
Since you asked about tips for helping, I would suggest simply thinking of your boyfriend or something nice that he's done for you whenever thoughts of these other guys cross your mind. It will remind you of your love for your boyfriend and keep you from thinking of the other guys.
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It's so normal!!Sometimes I have that kinda thoughts too..Hmm..You might 'like' those guys, but the one you 'love' is your boyfriend.Remember, 'like' and 'love' are different.Just ignore those thoughts!!Hope I helped!
-ViTaChaN-
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Well first of all it's great that you were able to maintain a relationship for that long. It is normal that you start to like other guys because you're growing up and in a way finding that person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. There's really no way to stop these feelings except just let them happen and hopefully they'll go away. Seriously always consider if you still love your boyfriend because theres no point pushing yourself to like him just because you've been together for so long (not saying you are but just in case) Ok, hope i helped
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It's very normal. You may not want to hear this but your boyfriend probably thinks about other chicks just as much as you think about other guys. I have been together with my boyfriend for a year and like 4 days and I sometimes think about other guys but I know I would never break up with my boyfriend because I can't picture my life without him and him not being there and you probably think that about your boyfriend too that you couldn't picture you being in someone elses arms. Sometimes I feel guilty about it (it's not like I think about having sex with these guys just think about like hanging out with them). Sorry to say this but I don't think there really is a way to get over those thoughts they will go in time. But yeah hope I helped. Sorry if I didn't.
Buh Bye,
ShanN*
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ok this is soo normal its not even funny. This has happened to all my friends.Its just the fact that your a sophmore with ragging hormones which makes it hard to commit to a guy for a long time. What one friend did was think about what makes her bf so special and did the other guys have that special quality too? Really it all came down to talking to her boyfriend and they talked it out and realzed they needed to become a whole lot closer bcause they wee becoming bored of their relationship.Sad to say though one of my friends ended up breaking up with ther bf and now their best of friens b/c after a while that intial spark isnt there anymore./So talk to your bf and see if mayb u nedd to speed up ur relationship of maybe end it!
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ok well i have been with my boyfriend for a while, and i too have thoughts about other guys, its completly normal and they won't go away just do some stuff with you boyfriend and spice up ur relationship and the thoughts of these other guys will fade less and less then they will be gone...lots of luck!<33
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Hey i can understand you on this completely.. well like sometimes i **think** also that i like other guys and i know that i wouldnt throw what i have with my boyfriend away to have something with them but sometimes i think about them.. but like when i get around my boyfriend im like what the heck is wrong with me and i feel real dumb for ever thinking it.. i dont think there is anything you can really do i mean its a natural and normal thing to look and be a lil attracted to another male.. so i suggest just keep in mind how you love this guy and how you know he cant ever be replaced.. sorry i didnt help much.. ♥ Dez
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ok, here is wat i did when i was in that situation. i just thought about what my life would be like if i didnt have my bf and it worked. think about the good things your bf has to give. thats so cute...your i LOVE! ADORABLE! ok im done lol. i know this is going to sound SO STUPID but here it goes. just amagin your bf is always with you. like talk to him in your head. thats all i got. so sorry if it doesnt work.
♥ leah
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its pretty normal to "like" er think other guys are "attractive" as long as you KNOW you wont go out with them. its pretty much human nature, but i think you should be honest and keep an open relationship w/ him and tell him about it. tell him its nothing serious and its minor compared to your love for him.
good luck!
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Yes its normal. You have been with your boyfriend so long, and there is no doubt that you love him, you are just wondering about other guys. Curiosity is all it is. You are obviously in a great place with your bf so you have nothing to worry about, Im sure it will pass.
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Hey.Listen your boyfriend is so great that you just might be headed for marrige!But let me not get ahead of my self.If you brake up with your boyfriend and head out with these other guys then they might not be as great as your boyfriend and it wont work out as well so if that ever happens your going to beat yourself up for breaking up with a great guy you might have a future with.So just think about what you would be losing if you broke up with him.
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you cannot control on who you like. i was in the same situation as you are in right now, not too long ago. my feelings went away with time. a few weeks or so. i think it's normal. good luck hunn ♥
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