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I'm a new young mom who has a lot of things to say to whomever is willing to listen :). I promise not to judge you no matter how crazy you may think your questions are and I will give the best answer I possibly can!

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How long does it last because i want it to stay for about 2 months.

Sometimes it depends on why color your original hair is and what color your dying it. For example if you're blonde it will stay in a lot longer. However any color on any kind of hair should stay in for at least two months

18/F

I'm afraid to drive. I fully admit that. The thought of handling this huge car terrifies me. Plus things like parallel parking and backing up? Forget it.
I don't even have my permit yet but I'm working on that since I don't need to actually get behind the wheel for that. I'm not really afraid as a passenger. I do notice that I usually constantly hold on to something while in the car with someone and I tense up when a car even remotely looks like it has a chance of hitting us.

Anyway, I can't live my life not knowing how to drive. I don't wanna be THAT person or THAT friend that always needs to be picked up and driven around. I can't work without being able to drive also.
I live in a small town out in the country, there are no taxis or buses. I NEED to drive but my fear keeps stopping me every time I get even a little bit motivated. How can I overcome this?

Also don't suggest a driving school. I nor my parents definitely don't have the money for that and I'm uncomfortable with the thought of other people that aren't my parents trying to teach me.

I had the SAME problem for a long long time. Unfortunately for us, the best way to get over it is to drive more and more.

Start small!! Find a parking lot or a large open space and drive around aimlessly. Practice parking in a spot that doesn't have any cars around it then practice backing up.

Also, simply remember to breathe and that the more you drive the better you'll get :)

Hope this helps and good luck!

So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 10 months now.

We hangout alot and we use to talk on the phone every night but now the last couple of months the talking on the phone has stopped. We still hangout alot.

but when we don't hangout we barely talk. We use to text alot and use to text to eachothe very good. But now it's like she isn't interested in talking to me. We are both 17, she pretty much just one words me or says 2 words but doesn't participate in the convo.

The other day she said our conversations get old, because i always ask the same thing. She never tries to start a conversation with me and she never asks questions or anything. But when I do see her other messages to other people she is more involved with them and participates better. I

What can i do to improve our texting?

It makes me feel bad and makes me feel unwanted. She has the attitude of she gets what she wants and she doesn't care. If it doesn't go her way she usually just ignores me which just hurts me more.

I don't think your problem is being "bad" at texting. I think your girlfriend is just starting to get bored which happens a lot in relationships that have lasted as long as yours. Doesn't mean she likes you any less.

However, you do have a right to feel the way you do. The best thing you can do to help both parties is to simply talk to her about it.

Start with: "I realize that we have been together a long time and I sometimes overuse topics, but sometimes it's nice just to hear from you when I'm not with you because I think about you a lot when I'm away." That way she feels special because you miss her and you will more than likely get more texts :)

thought I'd ask this question since the front page said "Ask cookierat"

so I have this gym teacher in high school who is young, (younger than 30 I think) really pretty and good looking and red headed, and she teaches physical education and Health and so we are doing the swimming unit and while in the pool she was walking around and she then said to me and some of my friends later when we were walking back to the locker room to change that she likes the swimming unit the most because she likes to look at all the male students without their shirts on in the water and it gives her lots to look at and she can see how fit they all are she hopes you work hard so they all look nice for her. While it is kind of surprising to me since I would assume a teacher would usually have more prudish thoughts, the actual comment doesn't bother me in the slightest , but if some kid who was around me decides to go cry about it, will she get in trouble?

More than likely, if someone were to blab, there would be some sort of consequence for her. To me, it doesn't seem like something she would lose her job over or anything, but she would definitely get a swat on the hand so to speak.

I'm a 13 year old girl and I have naturally wavy hair but it straightens really well and I have an oval face and I have long, brown hair with sandy highlights and I have blue eyes. Should I get bangs(I was wanting straight across) but I'm not an expert at hair and fashion stuff so if I should what kind?

Kind of strange, but you pretty much just described how I looked at 13! :)

Anyway, I got side bangs and couldn't be more happy with them!! I've never tried growing them out once I got them, and they are very easily attainable.

Bangs straight across can be tricky, especially with wavy hair. But, since you said your hair straightens nicely, then it shouldn't be too big of a problem.

However, I will say, about 50% of my friends who have gotten bangs straight across don't like the outcome. It's risky, but if you don't like them, you can always grow them out :) It's just hair, right??

In short, I think you should get side bangs, but if you're brave enough, go with your gut and get the straight across ones :)

I have always been selfconcious with my body. When I tell my grandparents that I want to go on a diet they always say I won't make it and stuff like that.. I've tried everything..

I'm 15, wheigh 270 lbs. Exersize when I'm not busy with school, and really do anything I can to get to a normal weight.

I am never hungry in the morning and usually have something small to eat between 2-4, then eat dinner when I'm hungry then snack on somrthing if I do get hungry.

Do you have anything I can do to get to a normal weight for my age?

I can't do many exersizes because I have multiple joint problems throught my body.

Please, if you have any tips, advice, eating habbits, and other things you may want to add please do so!

Thank you! :)

I have also been trying to shed some extra pounds so I understand your frustration.

I got this app called MyFitnessPal on New Years and I've lost ten pounds so far by using it. Basically, it counts ALL your calories for you and tells you how much you can eat in a day. It's incredible! It's exactly like weightwatchers, but it's free.

I believe they also have a program online if you don't have an ipod touch or smart phone.

Simple walking a couple miles every day can do wonders as well! It may seem too simple and easy, but it adds up!

Also, many people with joint problems take a water aerobics class! It's easy on your joints and a surprisingly good workout :)

Hope this helps!

I have hazel-colored eyes and I was wondering what colors would make them look more green?

You have two options here.

1. You could do earthy tones. Such as browns, tans, golds, etc.

OR

2. Purples and pinky-purples make the color green stand out (hence the reason Barney is green and PURPLE) :)

Hope this helps!

hello,
i am seema sharma. i am 26. i have skin problem. actually i am getting a lot of pimple on my face and i have taken many treatment from skin clinic. but there is no use of them. and because of this problem nobody is liking me so what to do. if u can advice me then plzzzzzzzzzzz give me good advice.

thanks
seema sharma
seemashrm107@gmail.com

Sometimes, a simple washing your face at LEAST two times a day can do wonders. But other times, you need to be on prescription meds to get over acne. Ask your dermatologist about Acutane. It's a pill that you take everyday and gets rid of your acne for basically the rest of your life! You could also find a different dermatologist if the one you have isn't working well with you.

Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms?

Nope! You can buy condoms at any age

does it self lubricate

No! Don't try it without a lottt of lube.

Okay so I have had a thing with this guy for about 4 months now and he just recently asked me out. We are an official couple and all now but Valentine's day is next week and I don't know what to get him!! I was thinking like a basket full of chocolates with a card? Also, I know he likes music so I can get him an itunes giftcard with it too? Idk what is too much or too little at this point?

He was gonna get me something for christmas but he said its "really nice" and wants to give it to me later in the future so it might be now! ahhh Idk what to do! Help :S

I think the chocolate idea is a really cute one!! Also if you can cook, you could always make him a dinner! OR if you look at the Groupon website, they have a ton of cute ideas-for cheap-for valentines day that will ship on time and everything :)

I was wondering what SWAG means. I read allot of articles on what it could mean and almost all of them were different.
I am from Bulgaria.

Basically, it means "the way one presents themselves." If someone dresses nicely, is good with the opposite sex or is cool, you would say "that guy has so much swag!"

Hey im hunter im 14 and im in 8th grade
And i need to ask a question
Every time im kissing my Girl friend i get an erection but thats not what im asking about
When kissing her i get so "excited" it drives me crazy intil i pick her up and sit her in my lap while i have a erection im worried that it bothers her she said it does not but i think it does..........

It sounds to me like it really doesn't bother her. Honestly, most girls find it really flattering that they can make you that "excited." What guys have to remember is that girls are desires too and she's probably just as "excited" as you are, you just can't tell on a girl like you can on a guy. Hope this helped

Okay so I just found out the theme for prom (which is in May), and the theme is Paris. I really don't wanna go over $200 for everything (dress, shoes, accessories, hair/makeup),so do any of you know any dress that is like less than $100 or so that would relate to the Paris theme? Something to keep in mind is that I don't like ordering online, so I have to find it in like a department store or something like that. If you also have hair/makeup/shoes/accessories ideas, please let me know!

Also, im really self conscious of saying this, but im plus size but im trying my best to loose as much weight as possible.

Thanks, this really means a lot to me! (:

Being that Paris is the fashion capital of the world, anything fashionable and modern will fit your theme! My advice to you is to spend the majority of your budget on your dress and get cheap asseccories at Forever 21(most if their stuff is under five dollars!) and either wear shoes you already have(especially if you have a floor length dress since you won't see them anyway!) or get cheap ones at Wet Seal! They have really cute ones for cheap and have sales on them close to Prom.

That'll give you a lot more options dress wise, but if you still want a cheap but cute dress the least expensive ones I've come across are at Debs and Sears. Both of which are surprisingly cute if you really look. Hope this helps and have fun at prom!

Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl in the 8th grade. I have blue eyes, freckles, pale skin, an oval face and my natural hair color is brown. I got sandy highlights in my hair last spring, and I have long hair. I just want something different, something that's easy to fix in the morning and a hair color that would go well with my pale skin and blue eyes.

I really like the Emma stone look for you. You should get darkish brown hair with a slight tint of red in it! Also if you don't already have them, you should consider side bangs. They fall right into place every morning which makes it so much easier to get ready in the morning! If you don't want to go FULLY dark, you could always get dark hair on bottom and blonde hair on top :)

Had my period Jan 12th to 15th had sex on 29th to 31st of Jan is it possible to get pregnant? And is it also possible to see the next period on the 12th of Feb ?

According to when you had your last period, the days you were most fertile were jan 24 to the 28th of jan. so if you had in protected sex on the 29 there is a chance you could be pregnant, but remember that you have about a 20% chance of getting pregnant each month you don't use protection so it's not a for sure thing. Also, you should expect your period to start anywhere from feb 9 to feb 12. Hope this helps!

13/F

Hi! So my birthday is in late July and I can't go to the gym until 14. So... I count my calories and I weigh inbetween 100 to 130 pounds, I believe. I'm 5 foot.

Well, I want to know what I should do until then. I'm really looking forward to the gym, but I won't be able to go until July. What should I do until then?

There are some really fun workout videos out there that you could try! Dancing ones, intense ones, and ones for specific parts of your body! You could also YouTube some workout ideas you could do at home. You could also run outside or if its too cold you could run up and down steps(which burns more calories than any other exercise by the way!)

If you want a good app for counting calories, you should try MyFitnessPal or LoseIt. Both are great and make losing weight really easy!

Ok I work with a guy who is super smart and would like to "pick his brain" about stuff, He has initally said "I ask ALOT of questions" to his "best friend who is a woman. When I ask him questions about something job related all he says is ok. I know they said he is shy to other people or warms up slowly, but come on when do try to talk to him its just OK. OR he has his "entourage" of women around. He is polite to me, and I am him as well. When do ask his BF questions she just laughs, told her am not trying to hit on him. Just want to ask work related questions and get a better response. Now to her and other women he is an open book. What the heck? I dont over load him with questions or anything. And if do talk to him prefer to do when he's alone. Just tonight heard him and her laughing and whispering cause know she told him what I said. Just want better working enviroment, not trying to flirt with him.

I think the best way to approach it is to talk to him politely yet firmly about it. Make it short and simple. Such as: "look, I didn't take this job to make friends or anything, but to keep our job as easy as possible, maybe you could give me a better answer than "OK."

There's no excuse for acting at all unprofessional at your place if employment and you have every right to put him in his place...just as long as its nicely :)

Te last day of my period was friday and takes 21 days till the next one comes. my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex on wednesday and again today friday? am i pregnant and when exactly are my fertile days?

The days that you're ovulating(your fertile days) are VERY rarely days close to before or after your period, so the likelihood of you being pregnant is slim. If you want to know when you ovulate exactly, here is a link that you can use to calculate it.

http://www.pregnology.com/ovulating.php

My boyfriend and I are both in our early twenties, and I am looking for a great gift for him. The two of us have been together for almost two years, and this is the first year that I am getting anything for this specific day. Usually I get him really cool sports-related gifts, since that, Magic: The Gathering, and World of Warcraft are his main interests; for example for his birthday last July I purchased him Yankee tickets and we saw them play on Labor Day... he absolutely loved it.

I am extremely nervous right now since all I got J (my boyfriend) a white-and-pink teddy bear for Valentines Day, so far. The main reason is because I wanted to see my man's reaction when he saw that his girlfriend got him a very girly teddy bear, since I know that he has higher expectations from me... it is meant to be a gag gift. I was thinking of something sexy, like condoms – since he always says that he wants to use them and we never do... the two of us cannot afford a baby right now. But at the same time, I do not want for J to be like, “So first of all, she got me a girly teddy bear... now she buys me condoms... and what's this, a coupon book?” (I really like that idea for him, since as a young couple we are both highly sexual.)

Either way, I would really like to get my boyfriend a very hot and naughty gift. When I was looking at cosmopolitans list of sexy gifts, one of the suggestions was a panty-gram. I would really like to do something like that... but I keep thinking, women's underwear (even if there is a naughty message from me inside) and a pink and white teddy bear – what is he going to think? In my opinion, my J is very masculine and I just want to make him laugh... I do not want to make him feel insecure about my opinion of him.

Another issue is that I do not have much money, I am a college student and the only income that I have right now is from work study (and peer mentoring, which I will not have many hours for this semester). What are some suggestions for me to make up for the pink and white teddy bear gag gift?

While I sincerely do appreciate everyone's advice, I would really like it if a man between the ages of 21-30 responded to this question.

I think condoms are an awesome idea! If you REALLY wanna get freaky, you should buy something that will spice things up in the bedroom. Such as: a vibrator(most men would kill to see their woman pleasure herself, plus it's a nice gift for you!), flavored lube(can you say "yummy BJs?"), fuzzy hand cuffs/blindfold, porn, etc. None of these things are over 20 dollars :).

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