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Q: My parents would not care, and i would be smart about how i did it. No boys around, with close friends that i trust, and no driving!
But so many people know that i am a christian and that is bad way to be an example, not that id tell people. I would feel like i couldnt tell anyone and by hidin g it i would be fake. But in the same sense i wnt to have fun nd stop bieng the good girl always.

No! Drinking is Bad! There is nothing good about Drinking!

Have Friends! Create a beautiful life for You! Live!

Q: i came up with loves not a maybe thing,you know when you love someone

I like it! A lot!

Q: where can i listen to the song online its the new remix of crazy train by lil john not the original ozzy ozbourne one ?

Yahoo music or youtube =]

Q: 15/f. a few years ago I got caught[by parents] with cutting & depression. Between then and now I've struggled with S.I & eating disorders..but Ive managed to have 99.999% of people convinced I'm COMPLETELY over everything and am totally healed. but I'm more depressed than ever..just got too good at hiding it. Everyone sees me as the Jesus Freak..and I was. until recently, idk I just started to fall away from religion =\ anyway.
theres a guy my dad works with that has a daughter my age thats been cutting a lot and everything like I was. I agreed to talk to her if she wants. my mom suggested that i introcude her to religion and tell her my 'success story'
but I dont know how to go about this since I'm not better and i confused about God right now.[obviously i cant tell my mom that.]
helpp?

Be honest. I think you guys should go through this together. Talk with her. let her know you arrect completely heald and you too need help and that maybe together you could work through this and find god again. god isnt the answer to everything you guys have problems you need to get help with. Im not going to tell you to go see a psychologist or go to rehab because ive been there and done that and that didnt save me. god saved me and i saved me. You have to make the choice for yourself not let god make it for you, god will guide you through it and give you strength but its up to you...

tell her you arent better and you need her help as much as you need hers. i believe you guys can see eachother through this.. I have high hopes and your in my prayers.

Q: 16F

I usually get my jeans at PacSun, and they've been pretty good but lately they kindof bother me, like i'll have a bunch of the same size and some of them will be too tight, and some might fit ok, and then like all of them sortof like ripple in the zipper area whenever i sit and it's annoying and weird looking. What stores have good jeans that fit well and are pretty comfortable? that includes regular fitted jeans and the skinny jeans that are in style now.

A fiew suggestions..

Dont get the same size pants && always try on your cloths before you by them or you'll be stuck with a bunch of cloths you dont want..

Also it depends on your size to where you would like to shop. All stores pants sizes are different so you may be a certain size at one store and a complete different at the other..

I have a very hard time shopping because of my size. I can only fit into pants at like 3 stores...

If you dont mind me asking whats your size && i might be able to re-direct you. If you dont want to answer thats alright Its just hard to tell you without knowing your size...

Q: I just bought a curling iron and when I used it, I wasn't very happy with the results, but I couldn't return the iron, so is there any way to create loose waves with a 33 mm barrel curling iron?
Thanks!

Heres a fiew suggestions that work for me && also this is what my hair stylest does with my hair.

1) Take a strand of hair (not to larger) run a comb threw it and light spray it with hair spray. Then while its rapped around the curling iron curl it again.

After you have finisher curling your hair your curls have had time to sit and harden. Gently pull the curls apart to form smaller curls it makes your hair apear more of a wave look then an actualy curl look..

it takes alooooot of hairspray to get your hair to hold all day. If you dont spray it the curls will undo within an hour or so and it will not look good.. Don't worry your hair isnt going to look hard its gooing to look beautiful and well heald together.. Hope i helpd a bit =]

Q: what is the cheapest and easiest way to tell if me or my fiance are sterile?

We've been having unprotected sex for 3 years, not trying to intentionally have a baby, but we want to eventually. we thinks its wierd that after 3 years im still not pregnant

Im pretty sure if yu went to planned parenthood they could help you do that for free. && if you have insurance call your doctor and ask them if it covers it

Q: What doyou collect or cherish the most?

I collect a fiew things. I collect coins from different countrys, I collect heals if that counts =]. I also collect all my creative writing ive done over time. I know thats not something you buy but its the most important thing to me cause it shows everything ive ever thought down on paper in my own words..

I cherish my memorys. About a year ago I broke my nose and when I did this i got a severe concusion and had lost a bit of my memory. Even tho many of my memorys are horable I cherish being able to remember my cousin leslie who was murderd when i was in 6th grade and my father who died from being shot when i was in 8th. Id be lost if I couldnt remember them.

Q: alright i was fine on monday and tuesday of this week. But I gained weight from winter break, so right on monday i started dieting and exercising for 30min, until wednesday. I think I overdid my exersice on tuesday, i did a bunch of cardio moves. Tuesday night, about two hours after my exercising I remember not feeling to well, so I decided to go to bed. And I didnt go to bed late, i went at 10:30 reading a book. Well I couldnt sleep that night. My body ached EVERYWHERE. My head hurt so badly. I peed three times that night, but I dont remember drinking anything before I went to bed. And when I tried to walk I felt like passing out, I couldnt walk straight, it was dizzy. I was up every hour, I even cried because it hurt so badly. So I stayed home from school that day. Next day, I felt ok, so i decided to go to school. Right before 1st period, I was sweating like a dog, and the temperature outside was -2. My friend took me to the nurse and I had a fever, so my dad came and picked me up. By the end of the day I felt better. Today, I actually slept for 8 straight. But my throat hurts sooooooooo badly!!! And my nose is so stuffed up! I have been taking tylonel severe cold pills which seem to be working a little bit. And ive had diareheea like twice, during this whole sick incident. I know I have been under ALOT of strees lately. Parents are considering a divorce soon, and alot of other things have been happening that I cannot really explain. I want to get better. Help me at least get my throat and nose feeling better. im 15/f/oh
thankssssssssss =]

Did yu know that if yu excersice every day its actualy harder to lose weight and to gain muscle? If yur going to do upper body do it one day and then skip a day and then do it again. Go hard on yur stomach for a day then the next day not so much and same w/ the legs. i dont work otu every day i work out every other day and it does great wonders for me

Q: so my dad has a bunch of medications for different things (heart, lungs, and blood pressure...etc) and i want to know if they clash with each other... he is pretty old so its easy for him to mess up the medications and i just want to double check (i also called the doc hence "double") and see what shouldn't be taken with what.. is there a site where i could type in the med (all of them) to see??

thank you

Thank You. I must say after reading both what You and I said I must say my answer was not correct. Doctors could make a mistake and it would have been very bad, and saddening if they had. I realize that prescriptions are in fact a drug and any drug could cause harm if used incorrectly.

I think it is very brave and caring of You to make sure everything is going well for Your father. You are a very Smart and caring Daughter.

I Thank You for Your time. I hope You have been able to comply with this situation. I hope everything is more relaxing for You and Your Father now!

Thank You Again!
Truly, Madeline Jane

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Not trying to point the finger what so ever but usualy when i come apon a qquestion like this it makes me think the person wants to know so they can figure out what they can take to get high.

doctors arent dumb they wouldnt ever perscribe a medication if it could interact badly with another medication. they make sure of this

Q: what is something that you would stay in a hospital for one week, without it being TOO serious. to be quiet honest my friend allie wants to fake an injury to even see if this boy cares about her, its cruel but she has the right intentions. and she wants to have ppl tell him that shes in the hospital (he doesnt live close so she wont even really be in a hospital) and i was wondering if you do answer this question, to give me good details. like something a car accident? what would have happend, what injuries. or a sickness? what sickness and how serious. you know what i mean? PLEASE HELP! ASAP.

There is no injury yu can fake that will keep you in there for a week. the doctors run tests and they will know if shes faking. even people who are SEVERELY ill dont get to stay in the hospital for a weak they get turned away with a perscription and thats it.

Q: I have severe joint and muscle pain all over my body, what is this?
No other symptoms of a cold or anything else.

Most likely yur bodys just out of wack and yu need to go see a khyropractor. they specialize in fixing this problem

Q: well i know i have a sleeping dissorder but i dont know how to help myself, if you know what i mean. im 14 and cannot sleep when i need to. im a total night owl and do not sleep at night only during the day. this has affected my life big time, im failing in school, i have so many absences, i am a bitch to everyone around me. its also effecting me physically, i have these weird lines under my eyes that are so ugly. as of now it is 2 am and i have school in 4 hours. i usually go to bed at 5 or 6? and sleep throughout classes and sleep right when i get home. ive tried waiting till the right time to go to bed but its physicaly imposible. i dont know what to do and its ruining my life, help!

I too have it. its called insomnia yu need to go see a psychologist and they can perscibe yu to sleeping medication...

meanwhile benadryl will help you sleep and an over the counter pill called melatonin will also help a bit. melatonin is an all natural vitamin pill so it wont hurt yu

Q: i needed to lose 15 pounds andfor the last 2 weeks ive been working out and eating very healthy and have lost 7 pounds so far! but yesterday was my sisters birthday so we went out to lunch, then dinner later and then had LOTS of cake and ice cream. i mean lotssssss! but this morning it said i had gained 4 pounds?!!!? is this possible? i feel horrible like ive been working so hard to lose this weight did i really gain that 4 pounds back? is it just food thats still in my stomach?! ugh im so pissed??!

ofcoarse its possible yur body hadnt yet finished digesting the food and getting it out of your body. Pluss its very easy to gain back what yu've kept off. Also dont be mad if yu gain before yu lose because body muscle weighs more then fat

Q: what do i do when my body odor is unbearably acrid, even to me? sometimes when im in class and i raise my hand, i catch of whiff of my pits, and its not pleasant. i wear deodorant in the morning, but it wears off. i know i can reapply, and i do, but what should i do when the smell leaks out of my armpits? should i pretend like i dont smell it? should i confess and say its my body odor? or should i blame it on my best friend? please help! im tired of making up excuses for my stench!

ps-- what do i do about sweat marks on my tee shirts? when i perspire a lot, which isnt too often but it happens, i'll put a hoody over my sweaty tee shirt, but the sweat marks seep through the hoody material! help!!

what yu need to do is go to a doctor there the onle people that can help yu. sometimes theres a problem which is why it causes yu to perspire so much if yu go to a doctor they can perscribe yu a medication or a type of deoderant.

Q: i got high with a few friends recently, and got caught. my parents never thought id be this bad of a screwup, so they dont really know how to handle it. they just said im grounded until they decide otherwise. i can use my phone and my computer, but i cant see anyone.

they said they were going to start drug testing me to make sure im not smoking anymore.

but i dont want to stop smoking weed! i know thats kind of stupid, but oh well.

is there any loophole to the test? is there something i can do to make sure i get a positive on the test, besides not smoking at all? any tricks? thanks.

also, if i smoke cigarettes or drink, will that show up on the test? again, thanks.

Im going to be bold and speak my mind. Yu may rate me as low as yu wish but this needs to be said. I myself am in recovery from addiction. I started smoking pot at 13 after my dad died. I never believe it when people told me this but yes pot ALWAYS leads to other drugs. It frustrates me now looking back on my past and seeing what our adolescence is coming to. I no not one single person that doesnt drink smoke or do drugs. Yur making a very pore choice. Yur young and should be finding who yu truly are and what yu wish to do with yourself. I was an addict for years and i too never saw anything wrong with it until it was almost to late. You dont want to one day feel the pain yu get when yur body hasnt gotten the drug or the alchohal its begging for. its very painful so painful yu almost cant move but yu do because yu need to find the drug! yur bodys consumed with this addiction yur mind not being able to see how very wrong it is. I know you are most likely reading this thinking she doesnt know what shes talking about im not addicted i just like how the pot feels and how it feels to be drunk. I to liked that feeling which is why it was so addicting but it isnt worth it. I didnt realize my life had completely stopped. all that matterd when i woke in the mornign was how i was going to get my high. I am now 17 years old. I luckaly enough broke the addiction just 2 months before my 18th birthday if not i would most likely end up in jail. Im asking you to make a wise decision for yourself. Help me stop the ripple affect that is going on with our teens. Your clearly to young for this dont like this be your path please i beg of you.

Your in my prayers..

Q: Ok, So, I've always wonedered,..where do guys put their penis when they take a dump?!?!

Like the girl bellow me side. Without an errection guys penises arent long so it doesnt get in the way of there pooo.

Q: so i straighten my hair alot because it's curly, does anyone know anything that can make my ends from not splitting and frying so easily?
whether it's a certain straightener, type of shampoo or anything! i'm in desperate need of it. help! :(

first things first. Make sure yu dont shower and straighten yur hair daily. The more yu shower the more yur natural oils that protect yur hair get washed away. second, if yur going to straighten dont blow dry! the more yu fry yur hair the worse it looks. and third, try a chi. Its a great but somewhat pricey hair straightener but it is ceramic and lessons the split end affect.

But i suggest yu learn to embrace yur natural curly hair. many girls would die for your hair!

Q: I used to have thick, nice hair. UNTIL I CHOPPED IT OFF ALL THREE YEARS AGO. Biggest mistake I've ever made...I cringe when I think about it.

I got it short and thinned out. now, three years later, my hair is medium length at best and so damaged.

I refuse to cut it. seriously. I won't even trim it. I haven't gotten it cut in over a year.

It's so thin and ugly ugh. it's just past my shoulders. I want it past my boobs.

HOW CAN I MAKE THIS HAPPEN. Over the summer, I'm going to condition it every day and not use any heat tools. but until then, what the hell can I do?

does damaged hair even grow?

ugh.

Hun i hate to say it but yu have to get it trimmed every 3 months or it wont grow. The split ends will just contine up the strand of hair until its completely damaged and very hard to recover. keep in mind that getting yur hair trimmed and keeping it healthy helps the hair grow faster. so go get a trim! lol

Q: Okay so do you think my twin and I should wear our hair straight ? or our natural beach wavy and curly to the ANTM (America's Next Top Model) open casting call? Thanks =)

I hope i can help. I myself am i model and I also work at the worlds largest modeling school where we train girls to be models and look like them.

First things first. When going to a casting they are looking for yur natural look. They dont want to see what YOU can do to yourself they want to see what THEY can do to you. So go for the natural or a tied back tight bun. Also dont wear tons of makeup. Here are yur 4 musts that yu should ALWAYS where but never where more if going to a casting.

Foundation, blush, mascara, and a light lipgloss.

Hope i helped and good luck girls =]

bio

I'm 17 years old and in the few years i've lived upon this earth I have been throug many and most things that are possible to happen. I wish to ilve my life helping others, this truly brings me happiness. Feel free to ask whatever you wish and ill do my best to satisfy yu with a decent answer.