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the only response I get is "ok"
Ok I work with a guy who is super smart and would like to "pick his brain" about stuff, He has initally said "I ask ALOT of questions" to his "best friend who is a woman. When I ask him questions about something job related all he says is ok. I know they said he is shy to other people or warms up slowly, but come on when do try to talk to him its just OK. OR he has his "entourage" of women around. He is polite to me, and I am him as well. When do ask his BF questions she just laughs, told her am not trying to hit on him. Just want to ask work related questions and get a better response. Now to her and other women he is an open book. What the heck? I dont over load him with questions or anything. And if do talk to him prefer to do when he's alone. Just tonight heard him and her laughing and whispering cause know she told him what I said. Just want better working enviroment, not trying to flirt with him.
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Try to use open-ended questions. Don't ask: "Have I done this right?"
Instead ask: "How could I do this better?" or "How would you do this?" etc basically ask him questions he can't give one word answers to.
Also make sure that you aren't annoying him too much. Having an enthusiastic new person at work can be a real pain - especially if you don't enjoy your job!
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Yeah, like, Im really sure his brain is what you want to pick. You said he has an entourage of women around him, are you sure he isnt secretly an advice columnist who goes by the name Dink the Shrink, because that sounds just like someone I know; a drink in one hand, a Cuban in the other, and a fine cigar close by. This crush of yours, oh I mean smart guy at work as you tell it, makes me proud to be a man. However, it does sound like you are being made out to be a fool by his girlfriends.
He himself is probably a good guy, and you seem to think he is smart and worthy of giving opinions. The problem may be that you are NOT trying to flirt with him.
What do ya say, should we fix those hussies up for good or what? You can start by wearing some very skimpy clothing to work, I mean skimpy. If you dont think you will get his attention think again. He is a guy and it wont take much, but the skimpier the better just to stay on the safe side. In fact, if you would like to send some pictures along my way just to make sure you are on the right track that would be…no better not, I dont think Mrs. Dink would appreciate that very much even if it is in the name of helping others.
Now when you know you have his attention with your wardrobe, some revealing poses will help get his FULL attention. You know, bend over to pick something up in front of him, and lean over his desk and pick something up, gosh darn it, Im daydreaming again..........okay, Im done, and now back to your PRECIOUS question. The point is to make his girlfriend, and his whole entourage of women as you put it, jealous as all hell. You can try running your fingers through his hair while you talk to him. Rub his.......back a little bit at lunch time (and get your mind out of the gutter).
When you start to do these things, you wont be hearing any snarky laughs from his lady friends anymore, thats a guarantee. Those little bitches will probably be waiting for you at the flagpole after work, so be careful and keep your head up, and maybe leave through the back door from now on.
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It sounds like he's a bit of an A-hole for lack of a nicer term. The least he could do is answer your questions even if what seems simple to him isn't to you.
I agree with the poster below that professionalism in the workplace dictates he do as much. Also, he may just dislike you or is weary of talking as he erroneously thinks you are in to him.
I would talk to your supervisor and explain that you are always professional but so-and-so treats you in a nasty attitude for any question work related you ask or in explanation of something he understands but you don't.
Tell them straight up that you don't like the guy at all beyond trying to learn about things he has expertise in. It's best you do it like this rather than a confrontation because your boss can tell him to curb his attitude and monitor it.
I did however, notice that he stated you ask a ton of questions. It's okay to ask questions so long as you aren't interfering with his work or taking up time needed to complete it. By the sounds of your letter that isn't at all the case and he couldn't argue as such with your supervisor.
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I think the best way to approach it is to talk to him politely yet firmly about it. Make it short and simple. Such as: "look, I didn't take this job to make friends or anything, but to keep our job as easy as possible, maybe you could give me a better answer than "OK."
There's no excuse for acting at all unprofessional at your place if employment and you have every right to put him in his place...just as long as its nicely :)
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