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I'm a 13 year old girl. I am straight. I have some acne (not tht bad), I have long brown hair with blonde highlights, I weigh 103 and I am 5'7. People refer me as independent, cute, awkward, funny, shy, sweet, nice, beautiful, smart, optimistic, cool and fun to be around. I have been on the honor roll since 6th grade(in 8th grade right now). I like dance, track, playing guitar, video games, photography and singing. I am not popular but I am certainly not on the bottom of the list. Why won't boys ask me to be their girlfriend, is there something wrong with me? (link)
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What is this? 1913? If you want a boyfriend ask someone out!
Lots of boys are shy and maybe would assume you wouldn't want to go out with them (boys are insecure too). Also if they are 13 they maybe aren't as mature as you yet.
Watching TV and talking to your friends (friends always lie about these things - life lesson!) you would think that everybody had a bf/gf but really at 13, I wouldn't recommend it. Enjoy being single and IF you meet someone you can't imagine not being with then ask them out. If you just want a bf for the sake of appearances then that's rather shallow and not fair on the boy who could have genuine feelings for you.
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I have been married for 25 years and have the sons ages 22,21,and 18, but my husband and I have not 'lived' together for the past ten years. The first five of those ten years my boys and spent living in Amman, Jordan with his family while he stayed here and while I talked to him almost every day he only actually came to see us only four times. Then when we moved back here, we lived together for three months when he decided that he wanted to go take a job in another state because the place he was working at here was closing, and the boys and I should stay here because they had just started school here. During the next three years things between us got really bad. He called me some times threatening to take our kids away from me, that I would never see them again and even that he would kill me and take them away. He came 4 times to visit us during those three years. The first time we had gotten in to big argument about money. The second time he came unexpectedly and our two oldest sons who were 18 and 19 at the time were not home. He accused me of lying to him when I told him I didn't know where they were and he hit me open handed in the middle of my forehead. Third time, our oldest son ran away when he found out he was there and would not come back till he left and went to stay in a hotel. The 4th time, my youngest son and I were at home and the two oldest ones were down stairs at a neighbors house when he decided to show up. He took the phone from me so I would not be able to call my older sons, and when I tried to go was clothes he told me no that he didn't want me to leave the apartment. So, I went back to the kitchen to help my youngest son with his homework. After a short while a neighbor from across the street came and knocked on our door asking for something but I knew my sons had asked her to come check if I was ok. After that I tried again to go wash the clothes again and he still said no. finally I got tired of this and I told him I didn't care what he said and that he couldn't keep me in the apartment and when I opened the door to leave he jumped on me, grabbed me by my hair, knocked me to the ground and dragged me back inside. He told me to go to the bedroom and I told him I didn't have to listen to him and he started coming at me again when my youngest son came between us, and stopped him and took me to the bedroom. After that my foot started hurting me really bad to the point where I could even stand to touch it to the ground and it turned out that he had sprangEd my foot when he knocked me down.
Over the next two years he started to realize what he had done first he asked me if I wanted a divorce and I said that it would most likely be best, but when he sent me the papers to sign I didn't sign them right away. We started talking after that and he said that he wanted to try and work things out. Now ten years later, my two oldest sons are living with him and he wants me and our youngest son to come live with them. He says that he misses me and he wants to make things up to me, but he never calls me,I always have to call him and then he asks me why I don't call him more often. I agreed to come there after our youngest son finishes high school which is this May. He went and rent a big new apartment there in anticipation of us coming there. The problem now is that I have meet some one else. He is a wonderful man and he makes me happy and he wants me to stay here with him. He wants me to get divorced and marry him, but I'm not sure what to do. I worry about going there to live with my husband and he is going to decide that he wants to move back to Jordan or that things don't work out between us. Then I think that if I stay here I am leaving my boys and my family. I am not sure what to do, do I give my 'husband' another chance or do I stay he with the new man who makes me happy now and I am getting closer and closer to every day but this thing with my 'husband' keeps getting between us. (link)
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From what you say, your "husband" has physically and emotionally abused you and should probably be in prison.
Nobody deserves to be treated as you have and I'm sure your sons would not want you to risk your safety and well being for their sake.
Also what kind of message is it to send your sons about domestic violence if you go back to the man that beat you?
I can't tell you whether you should "choose" the new man, but you would have to be insane to go back to a man who treated you as badly as your "husband" did.
If you do decide to go back to your "husband" maybe you could persuade him to go on an anger management course or get some counseling to show he really has changed. After all if you or your son had gone to the police when he assaulted you he would probably be in jail right now - he owes you big time.
I hope things work out for you and your sons whatever you decide.
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during my college days, my aunt was the one who support my studies, every time she gave me a gift, and whenever she will get mad at me, she always wants to get back of what she was given to me, and she didn't explain to me why,,one time she gave a cellphone and then she get's mad because she always doubted to me that i didn't go to school,while she sees my good grades, and then she read all my messages,uncover things that i have,saying unkind words, and spank at me then i felt no privacy at all, degrade, shy and don't want to talk to anybody,that all started my failing grades, and always told me that i am lazy, i didn't understand what's going on to her,? (link)
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It sounds like a tough situation. You could try telling her how she is making you feel, or ask another friend or family member you are both close with to talk to her about it.
Maybe your aunt is unhappy about something, so perhaps you could do something nice for her - cook her a meal, complement her or tell her that you are grateful that she is supporting you. Try talking to her about things kindly and maybe you can help her with what ever is bothering her.
Most important thing for you is to talk to somebody - a friend, family member or maybe get some counseling. Don't feel like you have to deal with things on your own.
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Ok I work with a guy who is super smart and would like to "pick his brain" about stuff, He has initally said "I ask ALOT of questions" to his "best friend who is a woman. When I ask him questions about something job related all he says is ok. I know they said he is shy to other people or warms up slowly, but come on when do try to talk to him its just OK. OR he has his "entourage" of women around. He is polite to me, and I am him as well. When do ask his BF questions she just laughs, told her am not trying to hit on him. Just want to ask work related questions and get a better response. Now to her and other women he is an open book. What the heck? I dont over load him with questions or anything. And if do talk to him prefer to do when he's alone. Just tonight heard him and her laughing and whispering cause know she told him what I said. Just want better working enviroment, not trying to flirt with him. (link)
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Try to use open-ended questions. Don't ask: "Have I done this right?"
Instead ask: "How could I do this better?" or "How would you do this?" etc basically ask him questions he can't give one word answers to.
Also make sure that you aren't annoying him too much. Having an enthusiastic new person at work can be a real pain - especially if you don't enjoy your job!
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I'm an 18/f
The last three nights I've been having these dreams that include this guy that i was together with 3 years ago. We hooked up three months ago and i didn't mind it i didn't have feelings for him or anything ( i like him as a good friend). I'm totally confused about these dreams i never usually have dreams at all. The dreams have been getting more and more sexual.. I really would like to know why this is happening? (link)
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It's happening because you are an adult human. I wouldn't read too much into it. Sex dreams (dreams in general) often include random people and situations. There is no reason to think that this represents some kind of hidden desire for this man or anything else. Random stuff happens in dreams that's all.
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how do I know if I have wifi in my house (link)
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Slightly baffling question!
Assuming you are not the home owner - I would ask the home owner. IF you are the home owner I would assume that there is no wifi as you would know about it and be paying for it.
If for some reason you can't ask the home owner I would look for a router with an aerial attached or just use my laptop/smartphone/ipod etc to look for a wifi signal in close range.
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How can I pretend to be a virgin around my mom and dad?
I am afraid that they will find out
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The advicenators advice above (to not lie) is probably the best advice you can get. But I understand that not all parents are rational when it comes to sex so if you really think you can't talk to them - just don't talk about sex with them. Virgins and non-virgins act the same - there are no outward signs or behaviors - there's no need to pretend at all.
Most parents however would be horrified if they felt their child couldn't talk to them about something so important -so I really think you should consider giving your mom or dad a chance to be there for you.
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There is this school I go to. I have great friends but there are times when I feel out of place, unwanted and down right lonely. My passion that EVERYBODY KNOWS is between writing and drawing. But my secret passions are dancing and singing. In this school they specialize in science and math. I am terrible at math but I really want to stay in the school because of my friends. Today I saw my crush walk up to receive his award for 1st place in one of the categories in the science fair...with a partner. They're "best friends" but a lot of people believe they should be together. I do too...but you know, sometimes you can't help the few stabs you feel in your heart right? Plus most of my friends are brains and are just amazing in so many ways...my problem is...that I honestly don't know my place or what my problem is. I don't know who I am, who I am supposed to be or who I want to be. Just the shy, introverted, innocent and naive girl who likes writing and drawing...or the bubbly, wild, random dancer, singer and writer? (link)
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Trust me on this, nearly all teenagers think that everyone else is confident, happy and well rounded but very few of them actually are. Pretty much everyone feels alienated ("nobody understands me!!!) at some point in their teens too, so don't worry about it too much. If you are really feeling down my best advice is to do some volunteering or just some random good deeds -its the easiest way to feel good about yourself and other people.
As for which direction to pursue - that of an introvert or extrovert - well from a psychological perspective the happiest and most balanced personalities are an equal mix of both - so I think you dilemma shows that you have a great future! Don't "pigeon-hole" yourself, explore everything that interests you and most importantly don't let peer approval play any part in your decisions
Finally I have to say - stop keeping your passions secret from your friends!!! If they don't like it they are not your friends.
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So my "girl friend" says she loves me an all that gooood stuff. But I dont feel the love. ? she gets all mad over certain things like certain names get brought up she gets all defensive. Is there some thing she is hiding (link)
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Usually people only get mad if they have strong (positive) emotions for someone. Otherwise why would they care? Having said that teenage girls can be pretty crazy for hormonal reasons.
Best thing to do is to talk to her during a calmer time. Don't ask her what she's hiding because that would make anyone defensive (we all hide things) instead ask her what's bothering her, why she reacts so dramatically or how you can help her. Be patient, be kind and hopefully things will work out.
In the long run though - you shouldn't have to put up with her getting mad over stupid stuff.
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Hey,
So I only got my new Samsung laptop for christmas, and now it wont work right.
When I press the on button, it says 'due to a recent hardware or software change, your computer failed to start' and then I try out like loads of options, but nothing works-the screen either goes black and stays like that, or it just goes round in circles showing the same screens.
Anyone had this/no how to fix it? (link)
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There's not nearly enough information here to help you specifically but it sounds like it is probably fixable. Try googling the exact error message you get and see if anyone else has the same problem.
If I had to guess I'd say something has become corrupted and maybe reinstalling windows MIGHT help - but that's a stab in the dark.
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Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl in 8th grade. My ex bf and I was together for 10 months or so then I broke up with him but last week I was thinking about it and I realized I was wrong. I wrote him a note asking him if he'd like to get back together and how I felt and I gave it to him but all he said was sorry but no thanks and last Thursday my friend asked him what up about the note and he said she just wasn't normal around me for way too long. I do admit I could be shy around him but I think if we talked more we could work it out. I really like him and miss him alot, how can I get him back? (link)
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Best way is to move on with your life and show him what a great time you are having without him (don't pretend to be having fun and don't be in his face about it - have fun for real and be subtle).
This will also help your confidence and make you less shy about him.
Take up a sport or hobby, do some volunteering, be the best person you can be and if he really likes you... how can he resist?
Under no circumstances try to beg/stalk/seduce him back - either he will be pushed further away or he will comeback for the wrong reasons.
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Well, I look at girls boobs and their bums and like I am really worrid!! I don't want to be lesbian. AM I?? Please please help me out ?? (link)
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Don't worry. The world isn't made up of lesbians and non-lesbians. There's a lot of people in between (bi-sexual). All these terms - gay, straight, bi, bi-curious etc. are just labels. If you are getting aroused looking at other women's bodies then maybe you are gay, or maybe it's just a phase. You are young (I guess) try not to put labels on yourself as all you will do is restrict your growth and become a bitter person. Explore your feelings in an open minded way and see how it goes, if you are a lesbian - it will be better for you to accept it sooner than later (you don't have to tell people - just be honest with yourself).
Most likely though you are just a normal, curious teenager, who will go on to have normal straight relationships.
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